Does having a “hard life” make you tougher?

[DarkTetrad]

On one end it should desensitize you and, if you made it through it, build confidence you can get through hardship.

But on the other end some people seem to cry victim and be a wounded butterfly

Is it just genetics? Environment? The type of “hard life”

Discuss

 

[Deleted member 16275]

Gotta learn to differentiate between constructive and destructive suffering, and avoid the destructive ones

 

[Deleted member 23558]

I’ve experienced being high T. Even if your environment is shit you’ll feel fine

 

[Deleted member 5815]

yeah It depends on your brain chemistry & endoctrine system some men will crumble under pressure while macho men will be successful regardless it's genetics

 

[Deleted member 23157]

No it makes you weaker with all that shitty trauma and anxiety.

 

[Deleted member 21044]

Yes.

 

[IceBreaker0]

everyone who has been in a bad environment or had a bad childhood has anxiety,no matter how hard they try to hide it

They are litterally fucked in that way,and will almost always never function normally again

 

[Deleted member 4209]

hard life with no escape produces weak opioid addled hicks

hard life when u get out of it produces bad bois/hustlers

 

[CrazyFitLover]

It does not necessarily makes you tougher, but it can and/or does if you understand how to use it. I have had multiple burnouts in my twenties, my life was extremely difficult and stressful, close to david goggins level of shit. Once you overcome something like that, you will realize it is all about self talk and awareness responsibility, basically you can influence your mindstate and even control it, if you do it enough, but you have to be willing to withstand the pain that comes with it. After that it is just your decision of how much pain you are willing to endure that equates to your toughness and past experiences alike help you to determine what is your maximum amount, but you have to be willing to go back to that level of pain. When you realize you can do that all the time, that is when it becomes scary, because then you know you can be in pain and discomfort all the time and you kinda don't really want it, even if it can provide success in many areas of life.

 

[RAITEIII]

On one end it should desensitize you and, if you made it through it, build confidence you can get through hardship.

But on the other end some people seem to cry victim and be a wounded butterfly

Is it just genetics? Environment? The type of “hard life”

Discuss

It changes you. Whether you wanna call it being taughter or weaker can be subjective.

The results are dependant on your brain morphogenesis (how it's been developed) and epigenetic changes that are triggered by a feedback loop of enviroment and constantly induced mental state.

As someone with a top notch bad life, I attest that I'm handicapped in certain ways:
- Psychologically, which affects my life and how I deal with people.
- Practically, because there's nobody there. Many times I wished someone was there to help me or back me up when I was a little CHILD. But there was none. There were just "older bad boys".


Nowdays I'd say I have an edge in certain areas, and lack in others. There aren't many things that can affect me. But at the same time not many that can fulfill me either.


What are YOUR thoughts @DarkTetrad

 

[Britmaxxer]

it has some benefits depending on brain chemistry

like some guys here get mindbroken completely by the blackpill and can never recover

others take the blackpill, suffer, but come out stronger.

same for having a tough life. tbh tough covers a lot of things. there are levels too a tough life.

kid who grew up poor with borderline abusive parents (maybe got an occasional whooping or whatever, but not psycho abuse),got bullied a bit, suffered some rejection had some kind of instability or struggle is probably gonna turn out a little fucked but might still have a decent life. might even develop a lot if resilience and mental grit. still a tough life but if they had a few good moments growing up its fine. this situation is pretty common imo and can lead to 50/50 outcome. my story is similae to this and a lot of guys ive met from poor backgrounds like mine are too. but the life outcomes are very varied depending on the individual.


kid who gets disgustingly raped, molested, beaten every day, abandoned to the mercy of state systems, bullied brutally every day for decades, hooked on drugs, trafficked or seen war or other fucked up stuff, not had a single moment of joy in their life. yeah. best they can hope for is that they get so mindfucked they become insanely low inhib and deadly badboy, but more 99% they are just a mute and dysfunctional wreck who works at mcdonalds or walmart and can never mentally progress beyond the idea of just surviving each week. the darkness of life has consumed them utterly. its sad but people like that do not end up on incel or psl sites. maybe 4chan idk.

but the reason i mention brain chemistry is because youve got tall chads from rich loving familes who self harm and cant handle life. imagine taking someone like that and putting them in either of above situations. then theres the rare few who go through the worst life can offer and still somehow function and lead a relatively normal life.

tldr some adversity is beneficial but brain chemistry is so important in determing someones reaction.