Does it get easier after first hookup/gf

[Homunculus]

Does it get easier to find another ONS or GF after you securely bag your first?
At what point does it stop being awkward to try hitting on a girl on ig or even think about cold approaching in a bar?

When does this shit become automatic?

EDIT: I don't mean easier to get laid, I mean will it be easier to hit on, approach, flirt, manage dates (given it will happen) etc.

 

[PrinceLuenLeoncur]

Does it get easier to find another ONS or GF after you securely bag your first?
At what point does it stop being awkward to try hitting on a girl on ig or even think about cold approaching in a bar?

When does this shit become automatic?

No it doesn’t get easier. It remains as hard as it was first time. Most of it is luck, you may fuck one girl from her cold approaching you, and then the next time you may try run game but get rejected by all women

It’s only automated for chad and 6’5 white men and mullatos of any height I’m afraid

 

[Niklaus Mikaelson]

Does it get easier to find another ONS or GF after you securely bag your first?
At what point does it stop being awkward to try hitting on a girl on ig or even think about cold approaching in a bar?

When does this shit become automatic?

I think It comes way more naturally when you've slept with a single girl multiple times or 2-3 ONS, it's a mental thing where you become more confident and don't care about what the other person thinks when you sleep with them as you're confident in your "skills"

 

[zharupodrugu]

First lay dont guarantee you good sexual life and slaying spree. Maybe u got lucky. All u can do to maximise your chances is increase your own sex appeal.
Took me 3 dates to stop being retarted around women and properly escalate. Just do as often as possible with time it will become natural.

 

[Niklaus Mikaelson]

No it doesn’t get easier. It remains as hard as it was first time. Most of it is luck, you may fuck one girl from her cold approaching you, and then the next time you may try run game but get rejected by all women

It’s only automated for chad and 6’5 white men and mullatos of any height I’m afraid

First lay dont guarantee you good sexual life and slaying spree. Maybe u got lucky. All u can do to maximise your chances is increase your own sex appeal.
Took me 3 dates to stop being retarted around women and properly escalate. Just do as often as possible with time it will become natural.

I believe it's just like working out, the weights don't become easier/ligther but it feels easier/ligther the longer you do it/stronger you get, only way to make it easier is to look better or increase smv. But yeah, a lot of sex with one girl or 2-3 ONS is what I'd say will make it FEEL easier

 

[Deleted member 17920]

it becomes easier once u increase ur psl

 

[Homunculus]

No it doesn’t get easier. It remains as hard as it was first time. Most of it is luck, you may fuck one girl from her cold approaching you, and then the next time you may try run game but get rejected by all women

It’s only automated for chad and 6’5 white men and mullatos of any height I’m afraid

I don't mean result-wise. I mean will it be easier and less mentally draining for me to hit on women or go on dates with them etc.

 

[PrinceLuenLeoncur]

I think It comes way more naturally when you've slept with a single girl multiple times or 2-3 ONS, it's a mental thing where you become more confident and don't care about what the other person thinks when you sleep with them as you're confident in your "skills"

I agree if it’s for a LTR, but I feel OP means STR and ONS type things in which case it won’t get better really and if it does it will take years. I myself have PIED with women I’m not comfortable with and every new girl I’m with I have it regardless of what it was like with the last girl.

 

[Deleted member 22093]

First lay dont guarantee you good sexual life and slaying spree. Maybe u got lucky. All u can do to maximise your chances is increase your own sex appeal.
Took me 3 dates to stop being retarted around women and properly escalate. Just do as often as possible with time it will become natural.

Any tips for escalating? Soon I'll be lookmaxed closed to my potential, so I'll be dating again after about a year of rotting. I know it's going to be a rough start.

 

[Niklaus Mikaelson]

I agree if it’s for a LTR, but I feel OP means STR and ONS type things in which case it won’t get better really and if it does it will take years. I myself have PIED with women I’m not comfortable with and every new girl I’m with I have it regardless of what it was like with the last girl.

I mean, I felt weird very on the first tinder date/hookup i had, but it quickly became normal felt easier after 2-3 times, so I think that it still has truth to it, it's just about getting used to it imo, but I'm assuming people also have different experiences on this topic depending on how you view it, so all i can reccomend is that OP just goes out there and sees for himself

 

[PrinceLuenLeoncur]

I mean, I felt weird very on the first tinder date/hookup i had, but it quickly became normal felt easier after 2-3 times, so I think that it still has truth to it, it's just about getting used to it imo, but I'm assuming people also have different experiences on this topic depending on how you view it, so all i can reccomend is that OP just goes out there and sees for himself

Yeah fair point but I doubt OP had SMV to slay like you, he is maybe lucky to get one shag a year of dating apps (I got 0 this year XD) but slay from nightclubs so it works sometimes just UK is a shithole

 

[zharupodrugu]

I don't mean result-wise. I mean will it be easier and less mentally draining for me to hit on women or go on dates with them etc.

yes, just like in any aspect of life. I used to drunkmax just to talk to women. Now i do everything sober.

Any tips for escalating? Soon I'll be lookmaxed closed to my potential, so I'll be dating again after about a year of rotting. I know it's going to be a rough start.

Hard to explain there are a lot of stuff to mention. Watch youtube videos on escalating. First dates will be very awkward anyway. Dont try to be perfect, conversation comes naturally, be assertive and lead her.

 

[Deleted member 14392]

Did you manage to fuck the other girl you mentioned?

 

[Homunculus]

Did you manage to fuck the other girl you mentioned?

Nah I couldn't even make out with her and we don't talk now (2 days). I will try her again after midterms.

 

[AscensionMan98]

Does it get easier to find another ONS or GF after you securely bag your first?
At what point does it stop being awkward to try hitting on a girl on ig or even think about cold approaching in a bar?

When does this shit become automatic?

EDIT: I don't mean easier to get laid, I mean will it be easier to hit on, approach, flirt, manage dates (given it will happen) etc.

Yea after the first lay you become much more lower inhibition when it comes to interacting with foids, but for the other question of when do u feel its not awkward hitting on a girl that can take a lot longer, probably at least a hundred approaches in my opinion , and if the foid has some very negative reaction your brain is gonna be biased and remember that and you might feel less inclined to go out.

Going out in the west at least is a brutal ruthless experience for men unless chad. So its never going to be a consistently great night out unless your a foid, or a chad. And that is if you decide to approach. You can have a night with no rejections if you don't approach but then feel like shit for not doing anything.

I think after the first lay if you do like eve 20-30 approaches its gonna be pretty good in terms of not overthinking the approach, but that feeling will wear off after a few months and you will be very high inhibition again when you cold approach. Cold approach in general feels un-natural. Even in a bar setting its not as friendly now as before due to the me too and. feminism movement. Foids are way more rude now.

So you may never really truly feel comfortable with approaching foids unless your chad as you know the reaction will be consistently good, but if your MTN or HTN your gonna have to deal with blowout sets and snarky rude foids in a bar/club setting ( not really day setting, foids are a lot nicer outside of bars/clubs). If you have thick skin it will be a fairly easy learning process, but if you have a lot of ego and thin skin its over.

Its about a numbers game at the end of the day once you can speak in a confident low inhibition NT manner. Some bitches just won't like you, but some will. Don't waste your time on bitches who show clear dis-interest, spend more time with those showing more interest. And if the foid hasn't left ( and not told you she wants to leave ) she probably likes you. Avoid just buying drinks for foids. Foids just do that to get free drinks from men.