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First time posting on here. A few weeks ago I found out my wife had been having an affair with someone she met on this page. We didn't have a dead bedroom. We had sex 2-3 times a week. She was just unhappy and instead of talking to me she sought out the attention of someone on this page. We have 4 children together and have been married for 17 years. I have have made mistakes in our marriage but nothing like the year long affair she had with this man. He knew that we were married and knew we had 4 children together.
I'm not saying this for sympathy. I just hope that if you chose to cheat on your spouse, "I'm not judging you for that." I just hope you take into consideration the family you are potentially destroying. I have a close relationship with my children and am very involved in their lives. I am now forced to decide between only seeing them half the time or trying to repair a broken marriage.
If you think you can't leave your spouse for whatever reason at least have the decency to consider the life's of the children whose parents relationship you are about to destroy. Cheat with someone who doesn't have children.
Edit for questions:
Lot of repeat questions gonna try to address.
First I wasn't trying to take away from this page. I think this page helps alot of people suffering and I think that is great.
She wasn't posting on here he was. She commented and they started messaging. I don't know if he was a real dead bed or just looking to cheat.
Yes she is ultimately responsible for this more than he or I. However all three played a role. I can talk directly to her about her role but I had no outlet for his role. I talk to her about the hurt she caused but I can't/shouldn't talk to him.
I made this as a way to help me get out the part towards him and also I really do hope that just one person who was thinking about an affair with a married person with kids changes their mind or at the very least realize the full gravity of that choice.
We aren't getting the whole story..... yeah and you won't just because I gave you a peek at my story doesn't mean you are entitled to my entire life story.
We started individual counseling and we are talking more than we have in years. I am working on forgiving her and she is earning it by putting in the work that she hasn't been. Even though it's hard for me right now I'm putting in the work too by giving her the emotional stuff that was missing. Believe it or not sex was the one part of our marriage were their wasn't an issue.
I'm not saying this for sympathy. I just hope that if you chose to cheat on your spouse, "I'm not judging you for that." I just hope you take into consideration the family you are potentially destroying. I have a close relationship with my children and am very involved in their lives. I am now forced to decide between only seeing them half the time or trying to repair a broken marriage.
If you think you can't leave your spouse for whatever reason at least have the decency to consider the life's of the children whose parents relationship you are about to destroy. Cheat with someone who doesn't have children.
Edit for questions:
Lot of repeat questions gonna try to address.
First I wasn't trying to take away from this page. I think this page helps alot of people suffering and I think that is great.
She wasn't posting on here he was. She commented and they started messaging. I don't know if he was a real dead bed or just looking to cheat.
Yes she is ultimately responsible for this more than he or I. However all three played a role. I can talk directly to her about her role but I had no outlet for his role. I talk to her about the hurt she caused but I can't/shouldn't talk to him.
I made this as a way to help me get out the part towards him and also I really do hope that just one person who was thinking about an affair with a married person with kids changes their mind or at the very least realize the full gravity of that choice.
We aren't getting the whole story..... yeah and you won't just because I gave you a peek at my story doesn't mean you are entitled to my entire life story.
We started individual counseling and we are talking more than we have in years. I am working on forgiving her and she is earning it by putting in the work that she hasn't been. Even though it's hard for me right now I'm putting in the work too by giving her the emotional stuff that was missing. Believe it or not sex was the one part of our marriage were their wasn't an issue.
