Don't know if im mid or chopped

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Trying to figure out my current life scenario
Basically, i have never once been approached by a girl besides in early school years and some IOIs in HS. but the only 2 times in my life i actually made a move and approached, it worked, grabbed their ig/numbers, and were both interested til i backed out on both out of insecurity.

Here's another instance, a girl i went to high school with who I was decent friends with and she was pretty good looking in terms of the whole school. i was 2 years out of HS, and she was 1 year out when this happened, and she was literally begging me to come see her at the club, calling me multiple times as she wanted to see me bad to hu and such.

I've also had potential flings with multiple attractive girls that I went to hs with, but again my insecurity or whatever the fuck makes me do that, backed out of every single chance.

So I clearly have the looks to some extent, at least I think, but why do I have zero passive game? I mean, all I really do nowadays is work out, work, and commute to college, ill get stares kinda often but never approached. I've been to a frat party like once, and girls didn't treat me weirdly or anything, actually went pretty smoothly with most of them and had good chemistry.

Been to bars/clubs a handful of times, not much happened there.

I have been taking my looks seriously for the past couple of months, and I finally have a much better physique, but am not close to lean at all and have a wide face, so that doesn't help. (I've also been chubby/skinny fat my whole life, but am making great progress as of now) Do I just look unapproachable or do girls just not approach guys unless you’re an htn or chad?

I've also never really gotten treated badly in the modern world (workplace, college, etc.), I'm about 5'10 so I'm not menacing or anything like that. I've also been told that I look young for my age (22 as of now).

I apologize if this is written super poorly, I've just always been so confused regarding this, because I know my insecurities have held me back regarding relationships with women, but then again, other guys have insecurities and women will still chase.

Appreciate any help/advice regarding this
 
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Um m m ... can you send a pic?
 
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dnr post a photo nigger:p:lul:
 
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Trying to figure out my current life scenario
Basically, i have never once been approached by a girl besides in early school years and some IOIs in HS. but the only 2 times in my life i actually made a move and approached, it worked, grabbed their ig/numbers, and were both interested til i backed out on both out of insecurity.

Here's another instance, a girl i went to high school with who I was decent friends with and she was pretty good looking in terms of the whole school. i was 2 years out of HS, and she was 1 year out when this happened, and she was literally begging me to come see her at the club, calling me multiple times as she wanted to see me bad to hu and such.

I've also had potential flings with multiple attractive girls that I went to hs with, but again my insecurity or whatever the fuck makes me do that, backed out of every single chance.

So I clearly have the looks to some extent, at least I think, but why do I have zero passive game? I mean, all I really do nowadays is work out, work, and commute to college, ill get stares kinda often but never approached. I've been to a frat party like once, and girls didn't treat me weirdly or anything, actually went pretty smoothly with most of them and had good chemistry.

Been to bars/clubs a handful of times, not much happened there.

I have been taking my looks seriously for the past couple of months, and I finally have a much better physique, but am not close to lean at all and have a wide face, so that doesn't help. (I've also been chubby/skinny fat my whole life, but am making great progress as of now) Do I just look unapproachable or do girls just not approach guys unless you’re an htn or chad?

I've also never really gotten treated badly in the modern world (workplace, college, etc.), I'm about 5'10 so I'm not menacing or anything like that. I've also been told that I look young for my age (22 as of now).

I apologize if this is written super poorly, I've just always been so confused regarding this, because I know my insecurities have held me back regarding relationships with women, but then again, other guys have insecurities and women will still chase.

Appreciate any help/advice regarding this
Can you describe the way you look, if you don’t feel okay with sharing pics
 
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Cant know unless I see you
Yeah, however in a way this would go against the premises, since looks indicate how you’ll be treated, you should be theoretically able to get how you look, by knowing how your treated
 
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ive been told i look like rob pattinson in terms of squareish jaw and eye area. Honeslty, just picture a white kid with medium length dark brown hair

and no im not saying i look anywhere near as good as pattinson but I just share some of his features but think im average overall i guess
 
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Dnr. Mid = invisible in most settings, with a girl displaying interest once in a while. Chopped = discrimination on a systemic level, looked down upon, ignored, insulted, humiliated and trashed.
 
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