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Especially not a woman. It seems obvious, but really you can’t go around saying anything about looksmaxxing unless you want to be ridiculed and mocked for it for the rest of your days. Even your so called friends won’t hesitate to persecute you for your genuine interest of looking better, simply because saying it out loud just sounds absurd and frivolous and screams insecure (and you know people just love preying on weakness to make themselves feel better).
So that brings us to my story. I made the mistake of telling my female friend about my .org account (I know, scandalous first off, but I really thought this time would be different). It was a brief 30 second exchange, but I told her about how I posted for advice on my own facial deformities and the feedback I received. Keep in mind I had known this friend for over half a year by now, and we had regularly hung out before and I felt we had really grown close. Anyhow, it was supposed to be just a random fun fact, a one and done sort of thing but she really didn’t want to let it go after hearing it. Even after I had repeatedly told her I didn’t want to share, saying that I wasn’t keen on giving her potential information to tease me over later, she followed up and insisted I shared exactly what I posted to the forum, claiming that she wanted to give me advice of her own, which was the moment the alarms started sounding in my head. Sure, she had always listened when I spoke about looksmaxxing and even made efforts to make it seem like she was interested in understanding, but I know she was never enthusiastic about the topic herself no matter what she said. She, like many others, treated it as a joke and a trend. So her saying that she wanted to know the details to what I was posting about my flaws even after the fact I had told her I wasn’t comfortable with that really rubbed me the wrong way. After all is it not counterintuitive to ask to help on something you know nothing about?
And that’s when I realized that this wasn’t a friend trying to gauge or learn about my interests but someone who was trying to dig for things to hold over my head for later. Even if she just wanted to tease me, this was something that really irked me. It’s a very sensitive piece of information about me, and she was deliberately trying to weaponize it. She wasn’t asking for the sake of helping, she never wanted to really understand. She just wanted something to ridicule and shame me for, something as vulnerable as me asking for help from strangers online. And you know, it was here when I really realized this looksmaxxing thing is not something to be shared, like, at all. It is a vulnerability. There are no exceptions, and there is no way to own it proudly. Even if you ascend, publicly crediting your success to .org will make it all for nothing. Once you’ve ascended, once it’s all done and over, the best thing you can do for yourself is forget where you started and keep up that societal image of a fortunate soul blessed with beauty from birth.
I’m not saying there’s nobody out there who would relate to you or hear you out about looksmaxxing, but rarely in your social circle irl will there be someone who truly understands where you’re coming from or relate to your ideas and want to help you through it. They either think it’s a joke, dismiss it entirely, or end up rebuking you for it. I guarantee you nobody thinks looksmaxxing is some noble thing that should be praised or held in high regard. It’s viewed as desperation, as a way to cope with one’s own situation. Or even worse it’s just viewed as some big elaborate joke to poke fun at. So don’t make the same mistake I made, and keep all the looksmaxxing to yourself and the digital folks of looksmax.org. Nobody’s gonna understand your problems, nobody irl anyway. And nobody irl wants to. I’m voicing something that I’m sure a lot of people have already realized, but I want to say it anyway because I know it’s important.
- user molecularchemistry
So that brings us to my story. I made the mistake of telling my female friend about my .org account (I know, scandalous first off, but I really thought this time would be different). It was a brief 30 second exchange, but I told her about how I posted for advice on my own facial deformities and the feedback I received. Keep in mind I had known this friend for over half a year by now, and we had regularly hung out before and I felt we had really grown close. Anyhow, it was supposed to be just a random fun fact, a one and done sort of thing but she really didn’t want to let it go after hearing it. Even after I had repeatedly told her I didn’t want to share, saying that I wasn’t keen on giving her potential information to tease me over later, she followed up and insisted I shared exactly what I posted to the forum, claiming that she wanted to give me advice of her own, which was the moment the alarms started sounding in my head. Sure, she had always listened when I spoke about looksmaxxing and even made efforts to make it seem like she was interested in understanding, but I know she was never enthusiastic about the topic herself no matter what she said. She, like many others, treated it as a joke and a trend. So her saying that she wanted to know the details to what I was posting about my flaws even after the fact I had told her I wasn’t comfortable with that really rubbed me the wrong way. After all is it not counterintuitive to ask to help on something you know nothing about?
And that’s when I realized that this wasn’t a friend trying to gauge or learn about my interests but someone who was trying to dig for things to hold over my head for later. Even if she just wanted to tease me, this was something that really irked me. It’s a very sensitive piece of information about me, and she was deliberately trying to weaponize it. She wasn’t asking for the sake of helping, she never wanted to really understand. She just wanted something to ridicule and shame me for, something as vulnerable as me asking for help from strangers online. And you know, it was here when I really realized this looksmaxxing thing is not something to be shared, like, at all. It is a vulnerability. There are no exceptions, and there is no way to own it proudly. Even if you ascend, publicly crediting your success to .org will make it all for nothing. Once you’ve ascended, once it’s all done and over, the best thing you can do for yourself is forget where you started and keep up that societal image of a fortunate soul blessed with beauty from birth.
I’m not saying there’s nobody out there who would relate to you or hear you out about looksmaxxing, but rarely in your social circle irl will there be someone who truly understands where you’re coming from or relate to your ideas and want to help you through it. They either think it’s a joke, dismiss it entirely, or end up rebuking you for it. I guarantee you nobody thinks looksmaxxing is some noble thing that should be praised or held in high regard. It’s viewed as desperation, as a way to cope with one’s own situation. Or even worse it’s just viewed as some big elaborate joke to poke fun at. So don’t make the same mistake I made, and keep all the looksmaxxing to yourself and the digital folks of looksmax.org. Nobody’s gonna understand your problems, nobody irl anyway. And nobody irl wants to. I’m voicing something that I’m sure a lot of people have already realized, but I want to say it anyway because I know it’s important.
- user molecularchemistry
