Ego death, loneliness and having nothing to do. MY LIFE.

[Bizygomatic]

Spoiler: THREAD SONG

​

Since the start of this year, I've done nothing. My position is so bad that I am able to do nothing. Everyone can do something in their situation but I'm so tired of everything. Tired of trying and tired of disappointing myself.

Where to go? What to do? There is nothing.

I have talked to no one besides my parents. I can't even face them with respect in my eyes. They know I'm a loser. I failed. I'm going to repeat a grade for the first time in my life. I was a bright child throughout my life, nobody could have expected this, which is why it hurts me more, because I had self expectations.

I have missed an international trip, 2 holidays and 5 weddings. All because I don't want to show my descended acne ridden fat face. Thanksgiving, Halloween, Christmas, Valentines, nothing celebrated. All gone and wasted by sitting in my room alone, doing nothing. A year of my 'precious' and 'fun' teen life wasted. A year that will never come back.

I don't want to go out in the sun, because of my acne. What have I done to fix it? Accutane, 12 laser sessions, skincare. They come back. They always do.

I've lost everything. I used to be somewhat good before, now, I don't have the courage to show myself anywhere. I have no friends, no one to talk to. All stopped talking to me, even though I never betrayed them and always helped them. My days going by rotting in one room. My entire family knows I failed a year and they look down on me. I don't blame them.

I don't want to LDAR but I'm also tired of trying.

For reference, I'm 16 and will turn 17 on the 7th of march. I have never kissed a girl, never held hands and am obviously a virgin. When I was a kid, I used to think that when I grow up and become a teen, I'll become a slayer and kiss a lot of girls. This is the exact thought I used to have. Look at me now. I also used to be at the top of my school, at studies and in sports. I failed every expectation I had of myself as a kid.

I have a sweet little brother, I feel bad that he has such an uncool brother. The most uncool one. He even asked me, "What do you even do, you just sit at home and sleep and use your laptop." I want to become a better person for him, but I feel like I'm still held back by something, and I don't know what that is.

I found about looksmaxing and the blackpill in 2022. If only I had taken risks and action then, I'd be in such a better place now. This makes me blame myself more because I knew about all this and still didn't take action.

The next session might start around May, what do I do till then? I legit have nothing to do. What do I do with my life? I really don't want to waste my life but the actions I'm taking (nothing) and the way I feel everything is leading me towards that, and I don't know how to stop or change it.

I'd really appreciate if you read this entire thing and tried to help me even though I'm not sure how. Try to be brutally honest too...

Spoiler

@shaneywaney69 @killyourselfASAP @Ekidona @unon @Sayori @Ghost Philosophy

 

[Bizygomatic]

inb4 dnr

 

[pony]

i think your going way to hard on yourself, there’s people x5 times your age in a worse spot than you, stop the rot and start improving. this post probably is setting you back you’ve lost your confidence and it can only take yourself to gain it back.

 

[pony]

you’ve become way to self conscious nobody gives a fuck about your as much as you do, the last thing people are thinking of is your face when you leave the room especially strangers don’t let that hang up on you brocel

 

[shaneywaney69]

It's never too late to change.
But most importantly you must change for yourself.
I wasted the whole 2025 year by procrastinating things.
Stop the "LDAR"
Lock in now before it's too late.

 

[pony]

all i’m seeing is that your lacking and need to gain back your touch but only person that can make that conscience effort is yourself i hoped this helps

 

[shaneywaney69]

The next session might start around May, what do I do till then?

start doing small thing like going to gym, walking outside maybe make a new friend

 

[killyourselfASAP]

test+modafinil

 

[Bizygomatic]

you’ve lost your confidence and it can only take yourself to gain it back.

It's been so long since I've felt confident that I can imagine what it used to feel like

you’ve become way to self conscious nobody gives a fuck about your as much as you do, the last thing people are thinking of is your face when you leave the room especially strangers don’t let that hang up on you brocel

I genuinely hate the way my skin looks in bright lighting and in the sun because of my scars. I used to look better before. It's because of my descenion too that I don't wanna go out.

all i’m seeing is that your lacking and need to gain back your touch but only person that can make that conscience effort is yourself i hoped this helps

That's true, thanks for helping

 

[unon]

Spoiler: THREAD SONG

​

Since the start of this year, I've done nothing. My position is so bad that I am able to do nothing. Everyone can do something in their situation but I'm so tired of everything. Tired of trying and tired of disappointing myself.

I feel the same way

Where to go? What to do? There is nothing.

I have talked to no one besides my parents. I can't even face them with respect in my eyes. They know I'm a loser. I failed. I'm going to repeat a grade for the first time in my life. I was a bright child throughout my life, nobody could have expected this, which is why it hurts me more, because I had self expectations.

I also did this but it's reasonable and you shouldn't care it's better to be alone sometimes

I have missed an international trip, 2 holidays and 5 weddings. All because I don't want to show my descended acne ridden fat face. Thanksgiving, Halloween, Christmas, Valentines, nothing celebrated. All gone and wasted by sitting in my room alone, doing nothing. A year of my 'precious' and 'fun' teen life wasted. A year that will never come back.

To bad to sad life flew past I also wish I was a slayer chad but that's life there no point of coping

I don't want to go out in the sun, because of my acne. What have I done to fix it? Accutane, 12 laser sessions, skincare. They come back. They always do.

I might be able to help you with this DM me on discord

I've lost everything. I used to be somewhat good before, now, I don't have the courage to show myself anywhere. I have no friends, no one to talk to. All stopped talking to me, even though I never betrayed them and always helped them. My days going by rotting in one room. My entire family knows I failed a year and they look down on me. I don't blame them.

Same

I don't want to LDAR but I'm also tired of trying.

For reference, I'm 16 and will turn 17 on the 7th of march. I have never kissed a girl, never held hands and am obviously a virgin. When I was a kid, I used to think that when I grow up and become a teen, I'll become a slayer and kiss a lot of girls. This is the exact thought I used to have. Look at me now. I also used to be at the top of my school, at studies and in sports. I failed every expectation I had of myself as a kid.

I guess that's the only option

I have a sweet little brother, I feel bad that he has such an uncool brother. The most uncool one. He even asked me, "What do you even do, you just sit at home and sleep and use your laptop." I want to become a better person for him, but I feel like I'm still held back by something, and I don't know what that is.

Darm that's sad

I found about looksmaxing and the blackpill in 2022. If only I had taken risks and action then, I'd be in such a better place now. This makes me blame myself more because I knew about all this and still didn't take action.

Samev

The next session might start around May, what do I do till then? I legit have nothing to do. What do I do with my life? I really don't want to waste my life but the actions I'm taking (nothing) and the way I feel everything is leading me towards that, and I don't know how to stop or change it.

You can tried steroids derma filler something that would help you I might have a way for acne

I'd really appreciate if you read this entire thing and tried to help me even though I'm not sure how. Try to be brutally honest too...

Spoiler

@shaneywaney69 @killyourselfASAP @Ekidona @unon @Sayori @Ghost Philosophy

Gengar didn't get tag

 

[Bizygomatic]

Lock in now before it's too late.

Yes, I will. I'm just tired even though I've done nothing.

start doing small thing like going to gym, walking outside maybe make a new friend

I will start going to the gym soon

test+modafinil

I already use modafinil. I'm creating a protocol for pinning. I'm pretty much done designing it

 

[shaneywaney69]

Imagine how future you would think looking back at this whole thing, in which you are right now.
That's a good thing that you're reflecting.
You must find your own purpose.
Start before it's too late.

 

[pony]

It's been so long since I've felt confident that I can imagine what it used to feel like


I genuinely hate the way my skin looks in bright lighting and in the sun because of my scars. I used to look better before. It's because of my descenion too that I don't wanna go out.

That's true, thanks for helping

no problem man, genuinely hope you ascend in this regard you seem like you needed advice, follow some threads here about skin maybe some thing in BOTB will catch your eye who knows.

 

[molecule00]

I'm going to repeat a grade

locking in at school and trying to build a career helps you shift your focus from small everyday things to the bigger picture so you have a sense of longevity. helps me keep going

 

[shaneywaney69]

Yes, I will. I'm just tired even though I've done nothing.

The root issue is that you don't have purpose right now

 

[Bizygomatic]

I feel the same way

I also did this but it's reasonable and you shouldn't care it's better to be alone sometimes

To bad to sad life flew past I also wish I was a slayer chad but that's life there no point of coping

I might be able to help you with this DM me on discord

Same

I guess that's the only option

Darm that's sad

Samev

You can tried steroids derma filler something that would help you I might have a way for acne

Pretty interesting we have so many things in common. You're right that there's no point in coping. I'll dm you on discord. Thanks for helping me out unon

 

[Bizygomatic]

no problem man, genuinely hope you ascend in this regard you seem like you needed advice, follow some threads here about skin maybe some thing in BOTB will catch your eye who knows.

I already looked at them, I've used almost every topical available {tret, hydroquinone, tazaret, adapalene, Tri luma, azelaic acid, kojic acid, brimonidine, tranexamic acid and so many other stuff} (besides topical estrogen)

 

[GonorrhoeaGobbler]

Your main problem is confidence, find something you care about and get good at it.
Stop looking in the mirror.
Run acutane and fix your diet, if that fails then never get off it.


None of these things like money, grades or even what your future job matters.
You could live on the street eating roadkill and still not be a looser.

 

[Bizygomatic]

The root issue is that you don't have purpose right now

Yep, that's a whole lot true

 

[aryanroidfaper]

Spoiler: THREAD SONG

​

Since the start of this year, I've done nothing. My position is so bad that I am able to do nothing. Everyone can do something in their situation but I'm so tired of everything. Tired of trying and tired of disappointing myself.

Where to go? What to do? There is nothing.

I have talked to no one besides my parents. I can't even face them with respect in my eyes. They know I'm a loser. I failed. I'm going to repeat a grade for the first time in my life. I was a bright child throughout my life, nobody could have expected this, which is why it hurts me more, because I had self expectations.

I have missed an international trip, 2 holidays and 5 weddings. All because I don't want to show my descended acne ridden fat face. Thanksgiving, Halloween, Christmas, Valentines, nothing celebrated. All gone and wasted by sitting in my room alone, doing nothing. A year of my 'precious' and 'fun' teen life wasted. A year that will never come back.

I don't want to go out in the sun, because of my acne. What have I done to fix it? Accutane, 12 laser sessions, skincare. They come back. They always do.

I've lost everything. I used to be somewhat good before, now, I don't have the courage to show myself anywhere. I have no friends, no one to talk to. All stopped talking to me, even though I never betrayed them and always helped them. My days going by rotting in one room. My entire family knows I failed a year and they look down on me. I don't blame them.

I don't want to LDAR but I'm also tired of trying.

For reference, I'm 16 and will turn 17 on the 7th of march. I have never kissed a girl, never held hands and am obviously a virgin. When I was a kid, I used to think that when I grow up and become a teen, I'll become a slayer and kiss a lot of girls. This is the exact thought I used to have. Look at me now. I also used to be at the top of my school, at studies and in sports. I failed every expectation I had of myself as a kid.

I have a sweet little brother, I feel bad that he has such an uncool brother. The most uncool one. He even asked me, "What do you even do, you just sit at home and sleep and use your laptop." I want to become a better person for him, but I feel like I'm still held back by something, and I don't know what that is.

I found about looksmaxing and the blackpill in 2022. If only I had taken risks and action then, I'd be in such a better place now. This makes me blame myself more because I knew about all this and still didn't take action.

The next session might start around May, what do I do till then? I legit have nothing to do. What do I do with my life? I really don't want to waste my life but the actions I'm taking (nothing) and the way I feel everything is leading me towards that, and I don't know how to stop or change it.

I'd really appreciate if you read this entire thing and tried to help me even though I'm not sure how. Try to be brutally honest too...

Spoiler

@shaneywaney69 @killyourselfASAP @Ekidona @unon @Sayori @Ghost Philosophy

Dude we’re pretty much living the exact same life except I have pretty much no acne

 

[Bizygomatic]

Imagine how future you would think looking back at this whole thing, in which you are right now.
Start before it's too late.

True

Your main problem is confidence, find something you care about and get good at it.

None of these things like money, grades or even what your future job matters.
You could live on the street eating roadkill and still not be a looser.

The root cause of not having confidence is not being able to fulfill the expectations I had from myself. What others expected of me. People I loved. I would consider myself a loser if I was on the streets because of how far that is from what I imagined my future would be.

 

[cynical]

Spoiler: THREAD SONG

​

Since the start of this year, I've done nothing. My position is so bad that I am able to do nothing. Everyone can do something in their situation but I'm so tired of everything. Tired of trying and tired of disappointing myself.

Where to go? What to do? There is nothing.

I have talked to no one besides my parents. I can't even face them with respect in my eyes. They know I'm a loser. I failed. I'm going to repeat a grade for the first time in my life. I was a bright child throughout my life, nobody could have expected this, which is why it hurts me more, because I had self expectations.

I have missed an international trip, 2 holidays and 5 weddings. All because I don't want to show my descended acne ridden fat face. Thanksgiving, Halloween, Christmas, Valentines, nothing celebrated. All gone and wasted by sitting in my room alone, doing nothing. A year of my 'precious' and 'fun' teen life wasted. A year that will never come back.

I don't want to go out in the sun, because of my acne. What have I done to fix it? Accutane, 12 laser sessions, skincare. They come back. They always do.

I've lost everything. I used to be somewhat good before, now, I don't have the courage to show myself anywhere. I have no friends, no one to talk to. All stopped talking to me, even though I never betrayed them and always helped them. My days going by rotting in one room. My entire family knows I failed a year and they look down on me. I don't blame them.

I don't want to LDAR but I'm also tired of trying.

For reference, I'm 16 and will turn 17 on the 7th of march. I have never kissed a girl, never held hands and am obviously a virgin. When I was a kid, I used to think that when I grow up and become a teen, I'll become a slayer and kiss a lot of girls. This is the exact thought I used to have. Look at me now. I also used to be at the top of my school, at studies and in sports. I failed every expectation I had of myself as a kid.

I have a sweet little brother, I feel bad that he has such an uncool brother. The most uncool one. He even asked me, "What do you even do, you just sit at home and sleep and use your laptop." I want to become a better person for him, but I feel like I'm still held back by something, and I don't know what that is.

I found about looksmaxing and the blackpill in 2022. If only I had taken risks and action then, I'd be in such a better place now. This makes me blame myself more because I knew about all this and still didn't take action.

The next session might start around May, what do I do till then? I legit have nothing to do. What do I do with my life? I really don't want to waste my life but the actions I'm taking (nothing) and the way I feel everything is leading me towards that, and I don't know how to stop or change it.

I'd really appreciate if you read this entire thing and tried to help me even though I'm not sure how. Try to be brutally honest too...

Spoiler

@shaneywaney69 @killyourselfASAP @Ekidona @unon @Sayori @Ghost Philosophy

I’m sorry man, I’m the same age and I can relate to you and feel exactly what you’re feeling just try to find a comfortable friend group and talk to them. My little 14 year old brother has slayed and I haven’t which is severe ropefuel already rofl

 

[GonorrhoeaGobbler]

The root issue is that you don't have purpose right now

Nah you don't need a purpose
That may help you but it doesn't matter you can live in the present and be fine

 

[GonorrhoeaGobbler]

True

The root cause of not having confidence is not being able to fulfill the expectations I had from myself. What others expected of me. People I loved. I would consider myself a loser if I was on the streets because of how far that is from what I imagined my future would be.

You are a looser bc you are losing at the things you care about but you decide what you care about lol

 

[Bizygomatic]

Dude we’re pretty much living the exact same life except I have pretty much no acne

I see, pretty interesting. I thought I was the only one. Though, my life would be so much better if I had no acne...

I’m sorry man, I’m the same age and I can relate to you and feel exactly what you’re feeling just try to find a comfortable friend group and talk to them. My little 14 year old brother has slayed and I haven’t which is severe ropefuel already rofl

Dont worry bhai, you will be able to. It's really hard for me to relate with others though just because of how unsociable I am... I've never connected with that many people.

 

[Bizygomatic]

You are a looser bc you are losing at the things you care about but you decide what you care about lol

Another person said this to me before and I think this is absolutely true. but the impression I built over the years and the self confidence I built has completely changed what I care about and what I thought was possible. I'm not trying to avoid responsibility. This is actually a pretty interesting thing you reminded me of, Thanks. I'll think about this more.

 

[Bizygomatic]

Another person said this to me before and I think this is absolutely true. but the impression I built over the years and the self confidence I built has completely changed what I care about and what I thought was possible. I'm not trying to avoid responsibility. This is actually a pretty interesting thing you reminded me of, Thanks. I'll think about this more.

I can't stop caring about my looks because it genuinely affects every area of my life. And I think most people know that's true, we all do. but when you've actually lived both sides of it, when you've felt the difference in the way people treat you with clear skin versus without it, I've seen it. I've felt it. The way people look into your scars and acne instead of looking at your eyes. I find that very disappointing.

The scars bother me more than the acne sometimes, because at least acne goes away. Scars just sit there reminding you. I just want it not to be the first thing someone notices or can't take their eyes of when I'm talking to them.

The best way I can describe how it feels is like something is stuck. Like there's something in the middle of your chest that you can't get out no matter what you do. You're just aware of it constantly. Like an itch you can't scratch.

This is honestly why I don't like going outside right now. It's not that I don't want to live my life. it's that showing my face when it looks like this, knowing what kind of reception that gets, knowing how people look at you or don't look at you, it just feels really depressing and futile. Staying in feels easier than bracing for all of that.

Spoiler: tag

@GonorrhoeaGobbler​

 

[GonorrhoeaGobbler]

I can't stop caring about my looks because it genuinely affects every area of my life. And I think most people know that's true, we all do. but when you've actually lived both sides of it, when you've felt the difference in the way people treat you with clear skin versus without it, I've seen it. I've felt it. The way people look into your scars and acne instead of looking at your eyes. I find that very disappointing.

The scars bother me more than the acne sometimes, because at least acne goes away. Scars just sit there reminding you. I just want it not to be the first thing someone notices or can't take their eyes of when I'm talking to them.

The best way I can describe how it feels is like something is stuck. Like there's something in the middle of your chest that you can't get out no matter what you do. You're just aware of it constantly. Like an itch you can't scratch.

This is honestly why I don't like going outside right now. It's not that I don't want to live my life. it's that showing my face when it looks like this, knowing what kind of reception that gets, knowing how people look at you or don't look at you, it just feels really depressing and futile. Staying in feels easier than bracing for all of that.

Spoiler: tag

@GonorrhoeaGobbler​

Most people are ugly
Most teens have acne

To them You are just a normie npc

 

[Bizygomatic]

Most people are ugly
Most teens have acne

To them You are just a normie npc

Where I live, they don't. 99% of people here have flawless skin, people my age and people older.

 

[Snuffles]

I hear you. Sometimes, when sadness feels all-encompassing, it’s hard to express just how heavy it is. And when it feels like you’re stuck in a storm, reading through long blocks of text might seem like a small way to allow those feelings to pour out. It’s okay to not have words for everything right now, but I’ll keep writing here in case it helps, just to get some of those emotions out in a space where you can breathe through them.

Sadness is complex. It’s not just an emotion; it’s an experience. It’s an overwhelming feeling that can pull you deep, leaving you wondering why you feel the way you do. Sometimes, it doesn’t even seem to have an explanation. You might feel sad even when everything appears fine on the outside. Other times, it’s a result of things that have happened—relationships, expectations, disappointments, or things out of your control. Regardless of the source, the weight of it is real. And, when sadness settles in, it can change the way you see the world, making everything seem more distant or harder to reach. It’s like your mind goes into a fog, and you’re struggling to find clarity or hope. It’s okay to feel lost in it for a while, as long as you know it’s not permanent.

During moments of deep sadness, it’s easy to feel like you’re not enough, or like you’re too much for those around you. You might start to believe that your pain is a burden. But that’s not the truth. Feelings are just feelings. They don’t define you. It can be difficult, but you have to try to remember that you are not your sadness. It doesn’t diminish your worth or your value as a person. Sadness, like all emotions, is something that passes through us. It doesn’t stay forever, even though it feels like it sometimes. Just because you’re feeling down today doesn’t mean you will be forever. It’s a temporary moment in your bigger, beautiful life.

Sometimes, sadness brings with it a kind of quiet space where you’re alone with your thoughts. It can feel like your mind is racing, overanalyzing everything, replaying past conversations or imagining future scenarios. That internal chatter can make everything feel even more chaotic. But try to remember: you don’t need to have all the answers right now. You don’t need to figure everything out. Sometimes, the only thing you need to do is just sit with the feelings as they come, without needing to change them. This can be a hard lesson, but learning to give yourself permission to feel without needing to justify it or explain it to anyone is powerful. You deserve that space. You deserve that quiet. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your emotions.

On top of all that, the sadness you feel may not always feel like something you can just “fix.” There’s no quick solution for deep sorrow, and it’s not something that can always be solved by thinking more positively or distracting yourself. Healing takes time. And while distractions can help temporarily, true healing comes when you allow yourself to process and understand your emotions fully. It’s okay if that takes days, weeks, or longer. You can take your time with it. There’s no rush. Every moment that you allow yourself to experience and understand your emotions is a small step towards healing. Just by sitting through it, you are already moving forward, even if you don’t feel like it.

It’s also important to acknowledge that sadness isn’t something you can will away with force or try to “fix” by pushing through. Sometimes, the more you try to avoid the pain or suppress it, the more intense it becomes. A lot of the struggle lies in trying to control it. It’s almost like trying to keep a balloon under water—it might stay down for a little while, but eventually, it bursts back to the surface. Emotions work the same way. By allowing yourself the space to feel sad, you open up the opportunity for those emotions to release naturally. It’s not easy, and sometimes it feels impossible, but in accepting the sadness, you allow it to pass through you instead of keeping it bottled up inside.

And, when you do feel ready, reaching out can be a powerful part of the healing process. It’s easy to withdraw when you’re struggling. But the truth is, isolation doesn’t always help. While being alone can sometimes give you the space to process, you don’t have to carry this sadness in silence. There are people who care about you. You don’t have to share everything, or even anything at all, but letting someone know you’re struggling can open up a new channel of support. Whether it’s a friend, a family member, or even a professional, talking about what you’re feeling can offer relief. People want to help, and you don’t have to go through this alone.

It’s also okay to be imperfect in your healing. You don’t have to have everything figured out. Maybe one day, you feel a bit better, and the next day, you’re right back where you started. That’s okay. Healing isn’t linear, and it doesn’t follow a neat timeline. There will be moments where it feels like you’re making progress, followed by days where it feels like you’re back at square one. But that doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It just means that you’re human. You’re going through something that takes time to move through, and that’s perfectly okay.

And as much as it might feel like everything is too heavy right now, there’s one thing you can hold onto: this sadness will pass. It’s a natural ebb and flow of life. It might not feel like it in the moment, but with time, things do shift. Just as storms come and go, your emotions will find their balance. There will be brighter days ahead, and your feelings will find their place in the bigger picture. You’ll get through this, even if it doesn’t feel like it at this very moment. And when you do, you’ll have a greater understanding of yourself, of your resilience, and of your strength.

In the meantime, you can be gentle with yourself. You don’t have to be anything other than what you are right now. You are allowed to feel sad. You are allowed to take time to heal. You don’t have to do anything except let yourself be. Healing will happen when it’s ready to happen, but you don’t have to force it. Just give yourself the compassion and time that you need. You’re worthy of that space, and you’re worthy of feeling better when the time comes.

It’s understandable that sometimes sadness can feel so overwhelming that it clouds everything around you. When you’re in it, the weight of those emotions can seem inescapable, like there’s no room for anything else. It can be a moment where everything feels out of your control—like the world is moving at a pace you can’t keep up with, and you’re being left behind. But the truth is, this moment doesn’t define you. It’s just one chapter in the bigger story of who you are. And as hard as it is to see now, there are many more chapters ahead—chapters filled with growth, change, and healing.

In times like this, it might help to remember that you don’t have to fix everything in one go. It’s not about rushing the process or trying to get back to “normal” right away. Healing isn’t linear. It’s not like you wake up one day and magically feel better. It’s more about taking those small, quiet steps toward recovery. Sometimes, that step might be as simple as getting out of bed, or it might be something like acknowledging how you feel in the moment. Healing is a journey, not a race, and the only “right” way to do it is at your own pace.

Sometimes it can also be helpful to lean into the small moments of peace, even if they’re fleeting. Maybe it’s a song that makes you feel a little bit lighter or a quiet moment with a cup of tea. Those little pockets of calm aren’t insignificant; they are reminders that life still holds beauty, even when everything else feels heavy. It’s okay if they don’t take the sadness away entirely. Those moments are just tiny anchors in the storm—whispers of something better to come, even if you can’t see it yet. You don’t have to push yourself to be happy right now. Sometimes, it’s enough just to be present and to accept where you’re at, even if it’s not where you want to be.

It might also be helpful to take a step back and reflect on what you’ve already come through. Even if it doesn’t feel like it, you’ve survived all the tough days, all the hard moments that life has thrown at you. Every single one of those times, you found a way to keep going. You’ve carried burdens before, and each time, you’ve learned something about your strength. Right now, it might feel like you’re in the deepest part of the storm, but you’ve weathered other storms. You’ll weather this one too. It doesn’t diminish the pain you’re feeling now, but it’s a reminder that you’re capable. You’ve done hard things before, and you will do hard things again.

And when you feel ready, even a little bit, it can help to reach out. Sometimes, the hardest part of sadness is the feeling that no one will understand. But there are people who care about you—friends, family, even professional support who can help you navigate through this. It’s okay to lean on others when you need to. You don’t have to carry it all alone, and there’s no shame in asking for support. The people who care about you want to be there, not because they think you’re weak, but because they want to share the weight of it with you. You’re not a burden for needing someone, and letting them in might just bring the comfort you need in this moment.

Ultimately, you’re not expected to have everything figured out all at once. You don’t need to be “fixed” in this moment. Right now, it’s enough to just be who you are, feeling what you feel, without the pressure of being anything else. Healing takes time, and it’s okay to go through it slowly. You don’t have to rush through the sadness in order to get to the joy. Life is about balance, and sometimes that balance includes allowing yourself to feel the full weight of what you’re going through. And when the time comes for you to rise again—and you will—you’ll do it in your own time, with a deeper understanding of your own strength.

 

[Bizygomatic]

bump

 

[Luquier]

Ur overthinking it’s not a big deal

 

[Panchitosbroncs]

Spoiler: THREAD SONG

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Since the start of this year, I've done nothing. My position is so bad that I am able to do nothing. Everyone can do something in their situation but I'm so tired of everything. Tired of trying and tired of disappointing myself.

Where to go? What to do? There is nothing.

I have talked to no one besides my parents. I can't even face them with respect in my eyes. They know I'm a loser. I failed. I'm going to repeat a grade for the first time in my life. I was a bright child throughout my life, nobody could have expected this, which is why it hurts me more, because I had self expectations.

I have missed an international trip, 2 holidays and 5 weddings. All because I don't want to show my descended acne ridden fat face. Thanksgiving, Halloween, Christmas, Valentines, nothing celebrated. All gone and wasted by sitting in my room alone, doing nothing. A year of my 'precious' and 'fun' teen life wasted. A year that will never come back.

I don't want to go out in the sun, because of my acne. What have I done to fix it? Accutane, 12 laser sessions, skincare. They come back. They always do.

I've lost everything. I used to be somewhat good before, now, I don't have the courage to show myself anywhere. I have no friends, no one to talk to. All stopped talking to me, even though I never betrayed them and always helped them. My days going by rotting in one room. My entire family knows I failed a year and they look down on me. I don't blame them.

I don't want to LDAR but I'm also tired of trying.

For reference, I'm 16 and will turn 17 on the 7th of march. I have never kissed a girl, never held hands and am obviously a virgin. When I was a kid, I used to think that when I grow up and become a teen, I'll become a slayer and kiss a lot of girls. This is the exact thought I used to have. Look at me now. I also used to be at the top of my school, at studies and in sports. I failed every expectation I had of myself as a kid.

I have a sweet little brother, I feel bad that he has such an uncool brother. The most uncool one. He even asked me, "What do you even do, you just sit at home and sleep and use your laptop." I want to become a better person for him, but I feel like I'm still held back by something, and I don't know what that is.

I found about looksmaxing and the blackpill in 2022. If only I had taken risks and action then, I'd be in such a better place now. This makes me blame myself more because I knew about all this and still didn't take action.

The next session might start around May, what do I do till then? I legit have nothing to do. What do I do with my life? I really don't want to waste my life but the actions I'm taking (nothing) and the way I feel everything is leading me towards that, and I don't know how to stop or change it.

I'd really appreciate if you read this entire thing and tried to help me even though I'm not sure how. Try to be brutally honest too...

Spoiler

@shaneywaney69 @killyourselfASAP @Ekidona @unon @Sayori @Ghost Philosophy

I was in the same place as you, trust me it can get better if you put enough effort.
Take action now before it's too late!

 

[kisslessvirgin]

ego is not real

 

[Punished Soygoy]

LDAR and Neet until they develop Humaniod Gio scotti robots

 

[fedecope]

i mean you got great music taste

 

[Arrlo]

youre only 16 bro THERE IS TIME