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EQ stands for emotional quotient, effectively your social iq- how well you can understand the emotions and thoughts of others, how well you can manage relationships, talk to people and control your own impulses and emotions
Despite what anyone here says, EQ is immensely important. If you're GL but low EQ you will ruin all of your relationships, become genuinely disliked or socially ostracised and will generally have low life satisfaction. IQ without EQ is basically the incel autist nerd archetype. A high EQ midwit is better off.
Some of it is innate but I think the problem probably stems from most of you growing up as asocial autists on forums, but that isn't the full picture
I think there's a few belief systems people here hold that prevent them from ever developing their EQ, at least in the context of romantic relationships
A lot of you just genuinely don't like women. Which is a personal choice, but bodes very badly if you're genuinely looking for an LTR rather than just to fuck or to be a volcel. Women are extremely emotional creatures and if you don't take the time to understand how they work, cater to their emotional sensitivities and act as a thoughtful partner, they will be much more likely to break up, cheat on you, or at the very least be worse partners. This does NOT mean that you should be a total simp, which is also a low EQ move as this strategy fails to understand that women are addicted to unpredictable reward, and that you must be somewhat hot/cold with your affection to keep them addicted.
>but chad doesn't have to-
1) he does, sometimes. chad isn't immune to divorce and infidelity
2) you aren't chad. you wouldn't be here if you were chad. chad doesn't have to looksmaxx yet you chose to, so just play the damn game or be a volcel, pick one
Another belief system that holds you back is this cringy edgy sociopath larp. The whole "I don't care about people's emotions, I'm a dark triad riramaxxer johan liebert manipulator something something...". You aren't 13, other peoples emotions care about you and this childish mindset will just make you unpopular, single and annoying. Most of you are just larping ASPD anyways.
If you want to develop your EQ, you need to be socialising irl, read some books on the matter (but not too much, practice >>> theory) and give it time and thought. In particular you should try to make some female friends, preferably ones you aren't attracted to at first to make it less complex and lower stakes. You simply want to observe their behaviour and social relationships and observe how they act, and create a mental model of their behaviour over time.
If you are low IQ this will be hard of course, but everything is hard if you're low IQ. If you've been LDARing throughout your development you will be at a major disadvantage, but every day you put it off is another day lost
You should be EQmaxxing rather than looksmaxxing if you're someone who can attract, but not escalate with/keep girls.
Despite what anyone here says, EQ is immensely important. If you're GL but low EQ you will ruin all of your relationships, become genuinely disliked or socially ostracised and will generally have low life satisfaction. IQ without EQ is basically the incel autist nerd archetype. A high EQ midwit is better off.
Some of it is innate but I think the problem probably stems from most of you growing up as asocial autists on forums, but that isn't the full picture
I think there's a few belief systems people here hold that prevent them from ever developing their EQ, at least in the context of romantic relationships
A lot of you just genuinely don't like women. Which is a personal choice, but bodes very badly if you're genuinely looking for an LTR rather than just to fuck or to be a volcel. Women are extremely emotional creatures and if you don't take the time to understand how they work, cater to their emotional sensitivities and act as a thoughtful partner, they will be much more likely to break up, cheat on you, or at the very least be worse partners. This does NOT mean that you should be a total simp, which is also a low EQ move as this strategy fails to understand that women are addicted to unpredictable reward, and that you must be somewhat hot/cold with your affection to keep them addicted.
>but chad doesn't have to-
1) he does, sometimes. chad isn't immune to divorce and infidelity
2) you aren't chad. you wouldn't be here if you were chad. chad doesn't have to looksmaxx yet you chose to, so just play the damn game or be a volcel, pick one
Another belief system that holds you back is this cringy edgy sociopath larp. The whole "I don't care about people's emotions, I'm a dark triad riramaxxer johan liebert manipulator something something...". You aren't 13, other peoples emotions care about you and this childish mindset will just make you unpopular, single and annoying. Most of you are just larping ASPD anyways.
If you want to develop your EQ, you need to be socialising irl, read some books on the matter (but not too much, practice >>> theory) and give it time and thought. In particular you should try to make some female friends, preferably ones you aren't attracted to at first to make it less complex and lower stakes. You simply want to observe their behaviour and social relationships and observe how they act, and create a mental model of their behaviour over time.
If you are low IQ this will be hard of course, but everything is hard if you're low IQ. If you've been LDARing throughout your development you will be at a major disadvantage, but every day you put it off is another day lost
You should be EQmaxxing rather than looksmaxxing if you're someone who can attract, but not escalate with/keep girls.
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