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Even though the OP is telling these retarded redditors that they're wrong the comments are still full of coping cunts crying WHY SHOULD MEN CARE ABOUT YOUR PAST
She specifically says she wants a clean cut prefessional guy thats her age loooooooool
She specifically says she wants a clean cut prefessional guy thats her age loooooooool
Yeah so putting it all out there, I used to be an escort in my 20s and a tiny bit into my early 30s. I still cam a little on the side but I’m essentially financially independent. I own my own home and I’m starting a small online business (non-sex related).
I never took dating seriously and never looked for real relationships until I turned 30, after which I had a sudden, desperate urge to settle down. I’ve been dating for more than 4 years now and I am feeling beyond dejected. I truly believe no man will ever be able to accept my past and see me for who I am and I’m worried I can’t do anything about it.
But the annoying thing is I can’t help but feel really misled by the internet?? I feel like every time I’ve posted a question about sex work and dating online, at least 80% of replies from men are something like “I don’t care what your past is like. Being a sex worker is not a deal breaker to me.”
THIS HAS NOT BEEN TRUE FOR ME IN REAL LIFE. I’ve been on countless dates and the ones that have gone relatively well all abruptly ended the moment I told them about my sex work in the past. I haven’t met a single (normalish) guy who’s been ok with my past. There have been tons that just wanted to hook up, but that’s not what I’m looking for either.
So, where are all these internet men in real life? Are people just flat out lying online about this sort of stuff? Or am I just going after the wrong type of men? I’m mostly attracted to professional, clean-cut men around my own age, but no one thus far has shown even the tiniest bit of interest in looking past my history. Am I just a lost cause and has the internet been feeding me lies?
Edit: wow thanks for all the comments. I wrote this post in a rush so a lot has been left out. I’ll try to answer most questions here.
So to everyone asking how/when I’m revealing my past, no I am not broadcasting this on my dating profiles. And no, I’m not telling guys on the first date. I’m not an idiot fishing for danger. Over the past few years there’s actually only been 5 guys I’ve revealed my full past to, and all of them were people I had been seeing for >3 months. But it still hurts because I would characterize all of these “relationships” as being incredibly successful up until I felt comfortable/safe enough to disclose my past. About 2 of these guys told me point blank that it was a dealbreaker, the remaining 3 essentially ghosted without explanation.
Another thing is I can’t emphasize enough how much I DIDN’T date in my twenties. I had a rough/traumatic childhood that put me off traditional relationships for a very long time. If there is such a thing as trauma-induced asexuality, I probably had some form of that. Up until recently I was happy and content to be single and just travel, meet friends, learn new things for the rest of my life. If I seem like a dumb 21yo trying to date for the first time it’s because I effectively am. In a lot of ways I feel betrayed by my own biology because I never planned my life around needing a partner to feel fulfilled.
Finally, I wouldn’t say I’ve thought that much about my “type.” I’ve basically just followed my own intuition/attraction and naturally it’s led me to some men and not others. I’m probably clumsier than average in correctly verbalizing my type so everyone shouldn’t read too much into “professional, clean cut”. That’s just the best descriptor for the types I’ve met so far that I’ve found attractive.
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