First date, what do you do?

[Deleted member 10536]

How do you interact with a girl on a first date?
Do you try to get to flirting asap/make physical contact?
Or are you trying to go for an conversation? But what about? What do you talk with a girl on a first date? How does it go for you?
My dates so far have been quite boring, tbh. Or rather non-exciting. I try to make some small talk, if there's no good kick off from the very beginning. Eventually it eases up a little, but the conversations are rather mundane. Like what do you do in life, work/school/hobbies/things you did/places you went. Just general interests of each other and what we like to do in our past time. Things we read or watch, etc.
In a way, it maybe reminds me a little bit of an work interview, but less serious - more casual.
I try to joke a little bit, but I'm not a humorist.
Try to keep the mood positive/don't go into negativity, talk about bad things, or shitty topics such as politics, in general try to stay positive and upbeat.. I try to be friendly and understanding, if our opinion differ on some irrelevant thing, try to find a compromise or just accept it and disagree with it(it's irrelevant, so).
Is my approach terrible?
A sort of follow up to the last of my few threads, feel like they've all been related.
Am I mentally retarded to talk about such things? Should I try to force more sexuality into conversation/flirting?(tbh I can do it on text, but irl the mood never seems to be fit for it) as if the girl has agreed to go on a date with you, she must find you at least a little bit sexually attractive?
Just really looking for ideas/thoughts of other people. On how they approach their first dates with a girl. Or just how over is it for me.

 

[Deleted member 6538]

I usually smoke a joint and chill the fuck out before. It's mandatory

 

[WadlowMaxxing]

Shower and haircutmaxx

Seriously tho try to calm down. The worst thing you can do is be anxious

 

[Deleted member 9003]

I blackpill my dates and talk about hypergamy

 

[NaturalDisaster]

Since I was diagnosed with Alzheimer's my plans for a first date have changed, what i tend to do is Since I was diagnosed with Alzheimer's my plans for a first date have changed

 

[quakociaptockh]

Fuck her in the first 30 minutes. If you wait too long, she'll think you're a pussy.

 

[Deleted member 10104]

dnrd literally any of this

just treat each girl individually

whores -> come straight over to "watch netflix"

girls i will make my whore -> lets drink some coffee. oh you like movies? oh i like movies. i have "movies" at my place

ltr material -> lets drink some coffee. oh you like movies? oh i like movies. i have "movies" at my place. if she says yes then great but i may judge her for it. if she says no but she wants to see me again she's proven she's even a better ltr potential than i thought.

highclass ltr material -> maybe dinner tbh, but with covid i havent done this in a while

 

[Deleted member 10536]

Shower and haircutmaxx

Seriously tho try to calm down. The worst thing you can do is be anxious

I'm not anxious. Read what I wrote.
The beginning of the date seems to be awkward for a girl. I feel 0 anxiety myself, I don't give a fuck at all tbh, to such a degree that I find it a bit difficult to find things to talk about, as the girls seem a bit boring. But I try to make it more comfortable for them, and they do ease up eventually. Then again, it has never gone to a second date, so... I must be doing things terribly wrong. That's why I'm here.

 

[Deleted member 9380]

Then again, it has never gone to a second date, so... i must be doing things terribly wrong. That's why I'm here.

or the problem is in the girl and not you

 

[WadlowMaxxing]

Maybe watch a movie or do something brainless(?) Something that doesn't require too much mental input

 

[NaturalDisaster]

or the problem is in the girl and not you

he's on this site..

 

[Deleted member 8165]

whats a date??

 

[Deleted member 9380]

Maybe watch a movie or do something brainless(?) Something that doesn't require too much mental input

yea you want your first date to be chill don't rape in your first date she will get bored then because she got the dick

 

[Deleted member 10536]

dnrd literally any of this

just treat each girl individually

whores -> come straight over to "watch netflix"

girls i will make my whore -> lets drink some coffee. oh you like movies? oh i like movies. i have "movies" at my place

ltr material -> lets drink some coffee. oh you like movies? oh i like movies. i have "movies" at my place. if she says yes then great but i may judge her for it. if she says no but she wants to see me again she's proven she's even a better ltr potential than i thought.

highclass ltr material -> maybe dinner tbh, but with covid i havent done this in a while

Yeah, I see what you mean, but how do you spend 1-2 hours with a girl, with such weak ass shit topics as that? It's like 2 minutes and you're done. Or do you never go into a conversation and don't even talk to her for most of the time?
Imo movies/netflix seems like a terrible idea, because I want to spend time with her and not a fucking movie. If I wanted to date netflix, I'd just need to pay $5 a month or w/e.

 

[rockndogs]

Talk some shit and then kiss. I mean, nowadays its normal to those sluts to even give their assholes to chad. If you dont get at least a fucking kiss its over, move on.

 

[Deleted member 10536]

whats a date??

It's something akin to unicorns. Very elusive.
20+++ years of my life have resulted in two of such events. Tbh, I have the same question as you, still.

 

[Deleted member 5048]

You guys have dates?

 

[Deleted member 8165]

It's something akin to unicorns. Very elusive.
20+++ years of my life have resulted in two of such events. Tbh, I have the same question as you, still.

sad

 

[GymcelDoomer]

Dates?

 

[Deleted member 10536]

Maybe watch a movie or do something brainless(?) Something that doesn't require too much mental input

I always go for a walk in a park. Seems like a safe option for them and we can get a little bit of privacy too. I also like walking and talking with somebody, so I really prefer it too. Also doesn't cost me(besides time)

 

[Deleted member 10104]

Yeah, I see what you mean, but how do you spend 1-2 hours with a girl, with such weak ass shit topics as that? It's like 2 minutes and you're done. Or do you never go into a conversation and don't even talk to her for most of the time?
Imo movies/netflix seems like a terrible idea, because I want to spend time with her and not a fucking movie. If I wanted to date netflix, I'd just need to pay $5 a month or w/e.

dunno man just talk about normie shit or whatever interests me/her on that particular day. maybe make some considerate compliments, usually just whatever genuinely passes through my head. get physical. if she's at my place i'll usually put my arm around her/etc. on dates i always sit next to them when i get the chance so i can be touching their arm/leg with my arm/leg. i do most of this shit without thinking.

idk it's just learned after doing it often.

also, you don't understand women if you mention the netflix/movie shit. thats dumb. netflix/movie is just an excuse to get a girl into your room. you know that, she knows that. it's just a convenient lie. women don't want to appear as sluts, and they always want a way out in case they change their mind. movie gives them the perfect escape route and excuse.

same thing when i see a lotta retarded niggas on here surprised when they get rejected asking girls "hey wanna bang?" yes it works sometimes, but playing the game and being NT and not a horny fuckwit works way more often.

 

[GymcelDoomer]

dunno man just talk about normie shit or whatever interests me/her on that particular day. maybe make some considerate compliments, usually just whatever genuinely passes through my head. get physical. if she's at my place i'll usually put my arm around her/etc. on dates i always sit next to them when i get the chance so i can be touching their arm/leg with my arm/leg. i do most of this shit without thinking.

idk it's just learned after doing it often.

also, you don't understand women if you mention the netflix/movie shit. thats dumb. netflix/movie is just an excuse to get a girl into your room. you know that, she knows that. it's just a convenient lie. women don't want to appear as sluts, and they always want a way out in case they change their mind. movie gives them the perfect escape route and excuse.

same thing when i see a lotta retarded niggas on here surprised when they get rejected asking girls "hey wanna bang?" yes it works sometimes, but playing the game and being NT and not a horny fuckwit works way more often.

Nigga why is ur font so big

 

[Deleted member 10536]

Dates?
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Ye, I get it.
But I'd appreciate if people read op, as I describe of how/what I do on the dates and it seems like that's not a good thing(things I talk/do). So am looking for an advice, please a little bit more serious.

 

[Deleted member 10104]

Nigga why is ur font so big

im an oldcel i have bad vision i make it big to read it easier tbh

 

[Gonthar]

My dates so far have been quite boring, tbh. Or rather non-exciting. I try to make some small talk, if there's no good kick off from the very beginning. Eventually it eases up a little, but the conversations are rather mundane.

You have to go and actually DO something, not just sit and talk, this is why is boring - go bowling, skating, skiing, horseback riding, bungee jumping, yachting, visit a casino, nightclub, amusement park, karaoke club,etc.
Read some seduction material, there are many books dedicated to the topic of dating and how to handle it and they have tons of amazing ideas, like going in a single night in multiple places so it will feel like you already had multiple dates together, so you can then take her home and bang her in the same night.

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[GymcelDoomer]

Ye, I get it.
But I'd appreciate if people read op, as I describe of how/what I do on the dates and it seems like that's not a good thing(things I talk/do). So am looking for an advice, please a little bit more serious.

nigga just be urself. sometimes blue pilled advice is legit. be sporadic, bring up random topics, be funny, if the conversation isn't going anywhere change subjects. jfl nigga there isn't a manual for this shit. just act like a human being with spirit, energy and soul. dont be a robot

 

[goat2x]

I usually smoke a joint and chill the fuck out before. It's mandatory

tales

 

[GymcelDoomer]

If I was on a date I would legit bring up WW2 and the holocaust

 

[Deleted member 10536]

You have to go and actually DO something, not just sit and talk, this is why is boring - go bowling, skating, skiing, horseback riding, bungee jumping, yachting, visit a casino, nightclub, amusement park, karaoke club,etc.
Read some seduction material, there are many books dedicated to the topic of dating and how to handle it and they have tons of amazing ideas, like going in a single night in multiple places so it will feel like you already had multiple dates together, so you can then take her home and bang her in the same night.

200 Date Ideas - Find the perfect date

With 200 date ideas, we've got something for everyone. Whether it's your first date or you've been married for years.

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Damn, I get it. To me it just seemed like going for a walk is such an perfect thing to do, as you can talk to each other in a calm environment and find out about each other.
I'm just so non-nt that most of that stuff seems impossible to do, especially with a person I've never been with before. Also right now the timing is the worst. Corona+masks+bad weather.
Will try thinking up something actually.
Or rather go to a park for a walk and ask her out for an activity to do together.
That is if I'll ever get a third date ever in my life...

 

[Deleted member 7192]

How do you interact with a girl on a first date?
Do you try to get to flirting asap/make physical contact?
Or are you trying to go for an conversation? But what about? What do you talk with a girl on a first date? How does it go for you?
My dates so far have been quite boring, tbh. Or rather non-exciting. I try to make some small talk, if there's no good kick off from the very beginning. Eventually it eases up a little, but the conversations are rather mundane. Like what do you do in life, work/school/hobbies/things you did/places you went. Just general interests of each other and what we like to do in our past time. Things we read or watch, etc.
In a way, it maybe reminds me a little bit of an work interview, but less serious - more casual.
I try to joke a little bit, but I'm not a humorist.
Try to keep the mood positive/don't go into negativity, talk about bad things, or shitty topics such as politics, in general try to stay positive and upbeat.. I try to be friendly and understanding, if our opinion differ on some irrelevant thing, try to find a compromise or just accept it and disagree with it(it's irrelevant, so).
Is my approach terrible?
A sort of follow up to the last of my few threads, feel like they've all been related.
Am I mentally retarded to talk about such things? Should I try to force more sexuality into conversation/flirting?(tbh I can do it on text, but irl the mood never seems to be fit for it) as if the girl has agreed to go on a date with you, she must find you at least a little bit sexually attractive?
Just really looking for ideas/thoughts of other people. On how they approach their first dates with a girl. Or just how over is it for me.

wait... niggas out here getting dates?

 

[Deleted member 10536]

If I was on a date I would legit bring up WW2 and the holocaust

Actually every single date resulted in a short conversation about ww2/holocaust/hitler.

 

[Deleted member 10536]

wait... niggas out here getting dates?

Tbh it's only technically a date/in name. I'd guess most people wouldn't even consider it a date

 

[Deleted member 10536]

nigga just be urself. sometimes blue pilled advice is legit. be sporadic, bring up random topics, be funny, if the conversation isn't going anywhere change subjects. jfl nigga there isn't a manual for this shit. just act like a human being with spirit, energy and soul. dont be a robot

I do do that. Exactly. Beeing myself, but more happy/positive/upbeat, because I'm happy - she chose to meet up with me and it did make me happy.
It is just like you said, sometimes a bit random/sporadic. Sometimes a little bit serious, sometimes a little bit funny.
I ask, because girls always ghost me afterwards. Got to be doing something wrong.
I feel very human like talking with them, but I think I might be too reserved/gentle and too nice... The mood never turns around to be fit for flirting and imo the girl never opens up the possibility.

 

[OOGABOOGA]

im an oldcel i have bad vision i make it big to read it easier tbh

Haha blind fagoot jk how old are you bhai

 

[GymcelDoomer]

I do do that. Exactly. Beeing myself, but more happy/positive/upbeat, because I'm happy - she chose to meet up with me and it did make me happy.
It is just like you said, sometimes a bit random/sporadic. Sometimes a little bit serious, sometimes a little bit funny.
I ask, because girls always ghost me afterwards. Got to be doing something wrong.
I feel very human like talking with them, but I think I might be too reserved/gentle and too nice... The mood never turns around to be fit for flirting and imo the girl never opens up the possibility.

are u european

 

[Deleted member 7776]

I don't date. I try to get her to fuck me comin to place, or it's bust.

 

[Deleted member 10104]

Haha blind fagoot jk how old are you bhai

Mid 20s jfl its over for me

 

[Deleted member 10536]

are u european

Yes, I'm European. White. 20+++ 179cm I actually got lifts, 3cm I think. Have long brown/blonde hair and grey eyes. I dress conservatively. Stem is my field. Have decent skin, imo. But rather boneless. Jaw has a bit sharpness, but bad gonial angle(short ramus). Have asymmetry in the face. Rated 3 to 5+psl. Decent facial ratios besides a few less relevant ones. Biggest issues longish? philtrum, short ramus, one guy said I have too small/short nose. General subhuman otherwise.

 

[OOGABOOGA]

Mid 20s jfl its over for me

TRY SUPPOSITORY CARROTS FOR RAPID EYE GAINS IT WORKED FOR ME BRO

 

[Deleted member 10536]

Mid 20s jfl its over for me

Dude... If that's old. I'm literally sitting in a grave, searching for a decent blanket.

 

[Deleted member 10104]

are u european

ofc he is he's a platinum blond haired cuck hypnotized by kikes into thinking shit like being an "intj" is real and letting a personality test invented by some kike into telling him who he is instead of just behaving like a normal fucking person

btw op i tested intj when i was like 15 it doesnt make anyone special its fucking dumb

u wuz literally vikings and now youre letting some faggy online test tell you how to behave as well as neurotically dissecting how "boring" it would be to watch netflix on a date. NETFLIX MEANS FUCKING YOU RETARD

 

[GymcelDoomer]

Yes, I'm European. White. 20+++ 179cm I actually got lifts, 3cm I think. Have long brown/blonde hair and grey eyes. I dress conservatively. Stem is my field. Have decent skin, imo. But rather boneless. Jaw has a bit sharpness, but bad gonial angle(short ramus). Have asymmetry in the face. Rated 3 to 5+psl. Decent facial ratios besides a few less relevant ones. Biggest issues longish? philtrum, short ramus, one guy said I have too small/short nose. General subhuman otherwise.

ur gonna have to gymcel bro. sounds like these women just aren't physically connecting to ur looks.

 

[Deleted member 7776]

How do you interact with a girl on a first date?
Do you try to get to flirting asap/make physical contact?
Or are you trying to go for an conversation? But what about? What do you talk with a girl on a first date? How does it go for you?
My dates so far have been quite boring, tbh. Or rather non-exciting. I try to make some small talk, if there's no good kick off from the very beginning. Eventually it eases up a little, but the conversations are rather mundane. Like what do you do in life, work/school/hobbies/things you did/places you went. Just general interests of each other and what we like to do in our past time. Things we read or watch, etc.
In a way, it maybe reminds me a little bit of an work interview, but less serious - more casual.
I try to joke a little bit, but I'm not a humorist.
Try to keep the mood positive/don't go into negativity, talk about bad things, or shitty topics such as politics, in general try to stay positive and upbeat.. I try to be friendly and understanding, if our opinion differ on some irrelevant thing, try to find a compromise or just accept it and disagree with it(it's irrelevant, so).
Is my approach terrible?
A sort of follow up to the last of my few threads, feel like they've all been related.
Am I mentally retarded to talk about such things? Should I try to force more sexuality into conversation/flirting?(tbh I can do it on text, but irl the mood never seems to be fit for it) as if the girl has agreed to go on a date with you, she must find you at least a little bit sexually attractive?
Just really looking for ideas/thoughts of other people. On how they approach their first dates with a girl. Or just how over is it for me.

What I don't get is why don't you just ask her to fuck on tinder?

 

[GymcelDoomer]

ofc he is he's a platinum blond haired cuck hypnotized by kikes into thinking shit like being an "intj" is real and letting a personality test invented by some kike into telling him who he is instead of just behaving like a normal fucking person

btw op i tested intj when i was like 15 it doesnt make anyone special its fucking dumb

u wuz literally vikings and now youre letting some faggy online test tell you how to behave as well as neurotically dissecting how "boring" it would be to watch netflix on a date. NETFLIX MEANS FUCKING YOU RETARD

fr, hence i asked if he's european. he sounds like a neurotic german guy who over analyses everything. "ze answer to dating success lies somewhere in this compiled data". he needs to be more american. just be laid back and loose

 

[Deleted member 7776]

ur gonna have to gymcel bro. sounds like these women just aren't physically connecting to ur looks.

no gym for face

 

[Deleted member 10536]

ofc he is he's a platinum blond haired cuck hypnotized by kikes into thinking shit like being an "intj" is real and letting a personality test invented by some kike into telling him who he is instead of just behaving like a normal fucking person

btw op i tested intj when i was like 15 it doesnt make anyone special its fucking dumb

u wuz literally vikings and now youre letting some faggy online test tell you how to behave as well as neurotically dissecting how "boring" it would be to watch netflix on a date. NETFLIX MEANS FUCKING YOU RETARD

Dude, I don't take it all that personally, what some 2min shit test says about me, it's good for a general guidance and that's it. I don't even really know what it says, but rather the idea that stands behind it. The test doesn't make me, the me who I am. And wherever did I say it's something special/important, if anything it's a huge failo for being nt. It's just not a common type, anyway. Thought the name is cute and funny, that's why I chose it.
Also never said that I'm not socially retarded, so.
Don't bully. I sort of seek a beautiful relationship, which is lovey dovey. Sex is important, but I want it if she truly desires me.

 

[GymcelDoomer]

no gym for face

Body halo can sway a chick into sleeping with a low tier normie

 

[Deleted member 7776]

Body halo can sway a chick into sleeping with a low tier normie

def not with a ltn lmaooo

 

[Deleted member 10104]

Dude, I don't take it all that personally, what some 2min shit test says about me, it's good for a general guidance and that's it. I don't even really know what it says, but rather the idea that stands behind it. The test doesn't make me, the me who I am. And wherever did I say it's something special/important, if anything it's a huge failo for being nt. It's just not a common type, anyway. Thought the name is cute and funny, that's why I chose it.
Also never said that I'm not socially retarded, so.
Don't bully. I sort of seek a beautiful relationship, which is lovey dovey. Sex is important, but I want it if she truly desires me.

gymceldoomer put it perfectly, you sound like you're analyzing ze data for ze answers to ze female! jfl. but seriously man you need to let loose and stop being neurotic. there's a time and place for neuroticism and that is not in the fucking dating world. neuroticism is the antithesis of sexy. so please, for your own sake, stop, and learn how to live in the moment with each individual girl.

 

[Deleted member 10104]

Body halo can sway a chick into sleeping with a low tier normie

body halo is intense and can mog insanely hard, especially with roids.