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Recently, I started talking to this girl (16) who reached out to me first by following me on Instagram, saying hi IRL, and even sending her friend to try to set things up. All of this happened at school 2-3 week before summer break. I thought she was super cute and I'd unbiasedly rate her HTB.
Summer break hit, and about a week in I messaged her on Instagram. We talked about random stuff and eventually planned a hangout. This is when reality really set in. Throughout my entire 17 years of life, I'd never actually been on a real, official date with a girl, and this is where my high inhibition really started to show and where I learned a lot about myself. I had no clue what to say, talk about, or do.
We ended up grabbing a shitty overpriced coffee and walking around a lake. I was sweating my ass off in the heat because of the overpriced moisturizer, tinted sunscreen, and concealer I use to cover my horrible deep hyperpigmentation. To make matters worse, she didn't really know what to say either, which confused me because she had been obsessing over me not even two weeks earlier.
We finished the date, and it ended better than it started. She went home and didn't text me at all, so a few hours later I texted her asking if she wanted to hang out again. She said yes, and we went somewhere else. Fast forward a month since our first hangout, and we've been hanging out practically every week since then, sometimes even twice a week. We've gone to the beach, sung together, gotten food, and done a bunch of other stuff.
The thing that's confusing me is that she rarely texts me unless it's to coordinate our next hangout. We also haven't made much physical contact apart from goodbye hugs, which she initiated first. I want to start being a little more intimate because I feel like that's the only way things move forward. However, I've never tried, and I haven't really seen an opportunity where it felt natural or she made it possible.
I'm basically playing the "nice guy" role perfectly, paying for her, taking her out, and being nice, but it feels like none of it is getting us anywhere. I even brought up how dry she is over text, and she just replied with something like, "No its okay, Ohh sorry," and hearted my message.
I'm not sure if this is just how she is because she recently moved to the US (from russia) and is still adjusting to the culture, or if I'm just coping. What makes it so confusing is that, when we were in school roughly 4-5 weeks ago, she admitted to stalking me and even had her friends taking pictures of me from across the school. Yet now, despite us hanging out all the time, it feels like she's emotionally distant over text, and I can't tell whether she's just like this or if im coping and should just end things.
For more context, in this situation I'd usually end things with 99.9%, but this girl is one of the cutest ones ive ever talked to, ontop of that she has strict parents, doesnt party, doesnt post on anything, and is ideal in virtually every aspect, and we have a good time every hangout she even asks about the next one sometimes.
Summer break hit, and about a week in I messaged her on Instagram. We talked about random stuff and eventually planned a hangout. This is when reality really set in. Throughout my entire 17 years of life, I'd never actually been on a real, official date with a girl, and this is where my high inhibition really started to show and where I learned a lot about myself. I had no clue what to say, talk about, or do.
We ended up grabbing a shitty overpriced coffee and walking around a lake. I was sweating my ass off in the heat because of the overpriced moisturizer, tinted sunscreen, and concealer I use to cover my horrible deep hyperpigmentation. To make matters worse, she didn't really know what to say either, which confused me because she had been obsessing over me not even two weeks earlier.
We finished the date, and it ended better than it started. She went home and didn't text me at all, so a few hours later I texted her asking if she wanted to hang out again. She said yes, and we went somewhere else. Fast forward a month since our first hangout, and we've been hanging out practically every week since then, sometimes even twice a week. We've gone to the beach, sung together, gotten food, and done a bunch of other stuff.
The thing that's confusing me is that she rarely texts me unless it's to coordinate our next hangout. We also haven't made much physical contact apart from goodbye hugs, which she initiated first. I want to start being a little more intimate because I feel like that's the only way things move forward. However, I've never tried, and I haven't really seen an opportunity where it felt natural or she made it possible.
I'm basically playing the "nice guy" role perfectly, paying for her, taking her out, and being nice, but it feels like none of it is getting us anywhere. I even brought up how dry she is over text, and she just replied with something like, "No its okay, Ohh sorry," and hearted my message.
I'm not sure if this is just how she is because she recently moved to the US (from russia) and is still adjusting to the culture, or if I'm just coping. What makes it so confusing is that, when we were in school roughly 4-5 weeks ago, she admitted to stalking me and even had her friends taking pictures of me from across the school. Yet now, despite us hanging out all the time, it feels like she's emotionally distant over text, and I can't tell whether she's just like this or if im coping and should just end things.
For more context, in this situation I'd usually end things with 99.9%, but this girl is one of the cutest ones ive ever talked to, ontop of that she has strict parents, doesnt party, doesnt post on anything, and is ideal in virtually every aspect, and we have a good time every hangout she even asks about the next one sometimes.
