I’ve been on incels.is for a lot longer than I’ve been on here, since early 2023, I have not been caught yet. On .is from the start I’ve done my absolute best to try and get at least a few rotters off the site and out of their depressive state to improve themselves or at least continue with their lives.
So around 2 years ago, I saw a thread of a user talking about how suicidal he was, pretty typical for .is, out of habit I messaged him and this dude was pretty serious. Let’s call him Jack. He was at the end stages of suicidal behavior, he had bought a suicide kit off of some supplier he’d found from SaSu (that’s where he told me he got it,) and he had quit his part time job and had completely neglected his schoolwork, very typical behavior of a suicidal person at the end of their lifetime. He was very clearly serious.
Unlike most users that say it for attention, he was serious as I said and he opened up, he had no friends, wasn’t good looking, was neurodivergent, average height (I believe 5’8 from what I remember,) and wasn’t close with his family. His parents both hated him and his siblings viewed him as an outcast. Desperate to talk to someone, he had been rotting on .is for months where his condition got worse and worse.
We talked for days and having experience myself with the topic of suicide, I dedicated myself to making sure he didn’t die. For those who don’t know what a suicide kit is (what he planned to use) it’s a kit containing sodium nitrite, which is one of the most painful ways to die. It is used not for its painless reputation but for its guaranteed lethality.
He like a lot of others, hadn’t done proper research besides the lethality of the substance he was going to be taking, and when I told him about it, he unfortunately didn’t care much but it did scare him a little. We spoke for months, and he eventually got better. At first I had to help him a little, I paid for his haircut, which was also going to be the first time he had went outside in a month, and he gained some confidence as his hair had gotten out of hand and as he told me “for the first time I saw a human in the mirror.” Of course I had to say something slightly corny back, I told him that I always saw him as a human. Although it is cliche and corny, it helped him, which is all that matters to me.
It had been about 4 months since I had originally messaged Jack, and he was slowly recovering. I paid for a 3 month gym membership for him and he started going out daily. Within the second week, he finally left incels.is, which was a massive win. Unironically his life started improving so much after he left that god awful site, however he was still far off from being stable. He would text me multiple times a week about how suicidal he felt, and we would talk for hours each time. But it got better, he started doing better.
One day, I got an amazing message, Jack had told me that he had made his first IRL friend, whom he had met at the gym, this friend was significantly better looking and more muscular than him, which Jack said made him a little insecure, but he was helping Jack with his sets and they were going to go to a good place after their gym session together.
Seeing that I could not help Jack forever, I looked through his social media following daily until they eventually followed each other and I was able to message his friend, I told him the basics and I thanked him for helping Jack, and this person was thankfully super understanding, and promised to help Jack and be there for him from now on.
Jack and I talked less and less, every few weeks now, and eventually we stopped talking, however I saw from social media posts that him and his friend had became good friends and Jack was doing well.
About 8 months back, I started seeing a girl appear on Jack’s story posts occasionally. I didn’t think much of it as at this point, me and Jack hadn’t talked in months. About a month after I saw the girl appearing in his story posts more and more, I saw an initial appear in his bio. And today, I woke up to a story post, of him and that girl. She was in a really pretty white wedding dress, and he was in a suit. His friend was at his right, as well as his friend’s wife, a few other men, and other people (likely friends and family.) He got married, he made it.
Jack has most likely forgotten about me, or at the very least lost access to contact to me. Jack if you’re on this forum, which I hope you aren’t jfl, I’m so proud of you man. I wish you and your wife the best.
I won’t be sharing the photos due to respect for his privacy but this is a man that was a lonely suicidal incel 2 years ago. He made his first IRL friend at 20 years old. His family hated him, he was neurodivergent, he wasn’t above average at all, but he’s made it. He’s happy. He has a good job, a beautiful wife, and will have beautiful happy children in the future, all because he didn’t give up.
It is never over, if you’re feeling suicidal ever, please don’t hesitate to message me, I want to see all of you succeed and find fulfillment and happiness in your lives. Your perfect life awaits, you just have to live to see it. Never give up.
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