Game actually matters, looks alone won't cut it

[DarkAscender]

A lot of guys think the numbers game and your looks are enough for dating.

This is not the case in reality.

This idea ignores one extremely important factor, which makes or breaks attraction:
Emotional connection.

People respond to words, feeling understood and attention, not only appearance.
Its important to learn what words to use, to know the right timing and know how to communicate effectively.

Now let's give an example. You can decide for yourself, which person you would feel more attracted to.

Girl #1

- You've talked about your dreams and passions.
- She has opened up and shared personal, vulnerable things stuff with you.
- She laughs naturally when you're talking and seems genuinely engaged.

Girl #2

- She keeps taking quick glances at her phone and doesn't seem fully interested in what you're saying
- The only questions she asks are basic ones like your job or what school you went to.
- The conversation revolves mostly around her accomplishments and career, without much curiousity about you.

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[aethel]

Ofc girl number one ngga

 

[L(oser)ooksmaxxer]

Come on bro yk game is mostly cope after a certain point

 

[DarkAscender]

Come on bro yk game is mostly cope after a certain point

It's not.

A lot of factors are important, its not just one thing or the other. If you're after meaningful relationship with an actual connection then it matters too.

 

[filthycurrycel]

You just need to have that girth my bro

 

[Goatsie]

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Come on bro yk game is mostly cope after a certain point

nah not really, Obviously if you look like me ye but Ive had many freinds who are ltn pull girls from being charismatic.

 

[Goatsie]

If you're after meaningful relationship with an actual connection then it matters too.

fr most of these niggas on here sound like psychopaths who are just cool with having a girl who dosnt even like them.

 

[zygosmasher]

Yeah obviously it does but the better looking you are the less it matters

Thanks for another dogshit post dumbass

 

[Dolorous]

A lot of guys think the numbers game and your looks are enough for dating.

This is not the case in reality.

This idea ignores one extremely important factor, which makes or breaks attraction:
Emotional connection.

People respond to words, feeling understood and attention, not only appearance.
Its important to learn what words to use, to know the right timing and know how to communicate effectively.

Now let's give an example. You can decide for yourself, which person you would feel more attracted to.

Girl #1
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- You've talked about your dreams and passions.
- She has opened up and shared personal, vulnerable things stuff with you.
- She laughs naturally when you're talking and seems genuinely engaged.

Girl #2
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- She keeps taking quick glances at her phone and doesn't seem fully interested in what you're saying
- The only questions she asks are basic ones like your job or what school you went to.
- The conversation revolves mostly around her accomplishments and career, without much curiousity about you.

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Well obviously proper connection is needed to form sustainable bonds with other human beings

But unfortunately you will not have romantic success with either of the two girls if they don't ultimately deem you as having adequate genetics expressed by your looks.

I don't think I'd be able to talk about my "dreams and passions" with either of the two girls because they are far above my looks level

Kind of water, OP.

 

[DarkAscender]

Yeah obviously it does but the better looking you are the less it matters

Thanks for another dogshit post dumbass

The people who look good enough that they barely have to put some effort are very few. So few that using them as some sort of standard is unrealistic.

Its like saying “if I was a millionaire I wouldn’t have to work”. Yeah no shit, but you’re not a millionaire. The existence of exceptions doesn’t break the general rule.

You can use the same logic to dismiss almost anything, because someone out there had everything handed to them. But for most people, being realistic and focusing on things within their control is a much better approach.

 

[DarkAscender]

Well obviously proper connection is needed to form sustainable bonds with other human beings

But unfortunately you will not have romantic success with either of the two girls if they don't ultimately deem you as having adequate genetics expressed by your looks.

I don't think I'd be able to talk about my "dreams and passions" with either of the two girls because they are far above my looks level

Kind of water, OP.

i just used two random girls as an example, their attraction level is irrelevant.

You cannot ignore there has to be some sort of connection with a person, for it to be meaningful.

 

[zygosmasher]

The people who look good enough that they barely have to put some effort are very few. So few that using them as some sort of standard is unrealistic.

Its like saying “if I was a millionaire I wouldn’t have to work”. Yeah no shit, but you’re not a millionaire. The existence of exceptions doesn’t break the general rule.

You can use the same logic to dismiss almost anything, because someone out there had everything handed to them. But for most people, being realistic and focusing on things within their control is a much better approach.

No, if an ltb is on a date with a htn she doesn’t give a shit if he’s dry if she just wants to crack

If it’s an ltr they’re looking for it might be different

Same goes for your original point ok yeah the number 2 girl is boring as fuck but if you’re on a date with her and she lets you crack you won’t say no will you? If it’s an ltb and she lets you crack you’re at a way higher probability to say no

 

[horseman.]

Never thought I’d see cope like this here

 

[DarkAscender]

No, if an ltb is on a date with a htn she doesn’t give a shit if he’s dry if she just wants to crack

If it’s an ltr they’re looking for it might be different

Same goes for your original point ok yeah the number 2 girl is boring as fuck but if you’re on a date with her and she lets you crack you won’t say no will you? If it’s an ltb and she lets you crack you’re at a way higher probability to say no

??

I’m talking about actual emotional connection which is required to date.
For pure hookups sure, that is not important.

Ditch the attraction level here, obv no ones gonna date someone they don’t actually like on a personal level. Looks aid in this sure, but its not the ONLY factor.

 

[Dolorous]

Yeah obviously it does but the better looking you are the less it matters

Thanks for another dogshit post dumbass

caging at this, just trying to rip OP's throat upfront

 

[sonic55555]

game isnt even a thing

if youre NT you got game

 

[zygosmasher]

??

I’m talking about actual emotional connection which is required to date.
For pure hookups sure, that is not important.

Ditch the attraction level here, obv no ones gonna date someone they don’t actually like on a personal level. Looks aid in this sure, but its not the ONLY factor.

Well, the way you described it girl 2 isn’t even interested in dating seriously because she doesn’t even give a shit about you, so that doesn’t even make sense

Anyone who goes on a date with you and is serious won’t be looking down at their phone

 

[Dolorous]

??

I’m talking about actual emotional connection which is required to date.
For pure hookups sure, that is not important.

Ditch the attraction level here, obv no ones gonna date someone they don’t actually like on a personal level. Looks aid in this sure, but its not the ONLY factor.

I'm a little surprised honestly that you haven't thrown any nasty insults back at zygosmasher yet it takes a certain level of resolve so I applaud you for it.