Getting nervous around bigger people.

[AlexanderTheGreat]

Lately I have figured out a tendency of mine that had always bugged me in the past, but I never knew why it happened.

I get extremely nervous around taller/bigger people. (I am a shortcel 5'6).
So nervous that my heart rate goes up, I tremble, and even tears come out of my eyes because of the emotional overload.

What this problem is, and what is the cure? I don't want to cry when I am in a fucking board meeting where conflict is common.
Maybe my brain circuits are too sensitive to social status? Maybe I don't have a good filter in the brain?

 

[AbuSAF]

Please do not be like this, you're obsessing over being 5'6 when every guy i see outside is short af, you just need to realize this, 5'8-5'6 is the norm w 5'6 being lower end of norm but STILL the norm. You don't need to worry. And don't be ;ikle the autists who say they will move countries cuz thewy're too short

 

[Gaia262]

Lately I have figured out a tendency of mine that had always bugged me in the past, but I never knew why it happened.

I get extremely nervous around taller/bigger people. (I am a shortcel 5'6).
So nervous that my heart rate goes up, I tremble, and even tears come out of my eyes because of the emotional overload.

What this problem is, and what is the cure? I don't want to cry when I am in a fucking board meeting where conflict is common.
Maybe my brain circuits are too sensitive to social status? Maybe I don't have a good filter in the brain?

Sounds like low Testosterone tbh, you perceive threats more easier. Like a prey animal i.e. rabbit.

 

[Dr. Greenberg]

Please do not be like this, you're obsessing over being 5'6 when every guy i see outside is short af, you just need to realize this, 5'8-5'6 is the norm w 5'6 being lower end of norm but STILL the norm. You don't need to worry. And don't be ;ikle the autists who say they will move countries cuz thewy're too short

Retarded statement. It depends on the country you live in of course. Here the average is around 5'11 for guys my age.

 

[Deleted member 2968]

i get nervous around everyone as well,it's sign of weakness and subhumanity

 

[AbuSAF]

Retarded statement. It depends on the country you live in of course. Here the average is around 5'11 for guys my age.

i live in the west not some balkan or the gulags so i speak for the majority of people. I m telling even if it is 5'11 HE DOESN'T need to obsess over stuff like this.

 

[Dr. Greenberg]

i live in the west not some balkan or the gulags so i speak for the majority of people. I m telling even if it is 5'11 HE DOESN'T need to obsess over stuff like this.

Well, I live in Scandinavia.

 

[AlexanderTheGreat]

Please do not be like this, you're obsessing over being 5'6 when every guy i see outside is short af, you just need to realize this, 5'8-5'6 is the norm w 5'6 being lower end of norm but STILL the norm. You don't need to worry. And don't be ;ikle the autists who say they will move countries cuz thewy're too short

Thanks for the genuine response AbuSAF-sama

I am not consciously affected by the fact that I am short, I usually am still the most dominant man in a room. But if I am around anyone who is quite tall, and also has an okay face, (so maybe a tall chadlite or chad), I just get extremely nervous and can't control the overwhelming amount of emotion.

I do have traumatic memories from the past. Maybe that caused some kind of lack of emotional control in my brain?

 

[AlexanderTheGreat]

Sounds like low Testosterone tbh, you perceive threats more easier. Like a prey animal i.e. rabbit.

Well yeah this could definitely it.

You're right I do feel like a pray animal,. Maybe because of being a lifelong low-status guy, and also being small which makes me feel pretty weak and inadequate in presence of larger people.

But I am pretty sure I have very high testosterone (facial characteristics, behavioral tendencies) because I still dominate a meeting room if I want (although it becomes extremely hard when I get that emotional overload).

You seem pretty close to what might actually be the case.

 

[Deleted member 11414]

just overcompensation maxx
im a manlet as well and people usually leave me alone

 

[AlexanderTheGreat]

just overcompensation maxx
im a manlet as well and people usually leave me alone

Yeah true. I hear you brother.
This is what happens subconsciously too (the root of Napoleon Complex?)

But is there no way to cure this condition? Like taking a supplement, or going to the gym (unironically haven't gone to the gym for a year because of busy life).

It's incredibly frustrating when it happens though. Makes it pretty difficult to hold back the literal tears and to get your point across in the board meeting, and to subsequently try to move up the ladder. (Because obviously people can notice, and will think you are weak)

 

[ShowerMaxxing]

Yeah true. I hear you brother.
This is what happens subconsciously too (the root of Napoleon Complex?)

But is there no way to cure this condition? Like taking a supplement, or going to the gym (unironically haven't gone to the gym for a year because of busy life).

It's incredibly frustrating when it happens though. Makes it pretty difficult to hold back the literal tears and to get your point across in the board meeting, and to subsequently try to move up the ladder. (Because obviously people can notice, and will think you are weak)

Napoleon complex is unreal, that guy was avg height 4 his time lol. Also shows that u just cant overcome height failo if ur the bad guy in history. Literally conquered europe and is still largely remembered for his height. Oh u conquer nations? Must be a overcompensating manlet

 

[AlexanderTheGreat]

Napoleon complex is unreal, that guy was avg height 4 his time lol. Also shows that u just cant overcome height failo if ur the bad guy in history. Literally conquered europe and is still largely remembered for his height. Oh u conquer nations? Must be a overcompensating manlet

True that brother,
Napoleon Complex in terms of Napoleon being short is obviously unreal.
But Napoleon Complex in terms of short guys having to overcompensate (deliberately, or necessarily) and still being remembered for just height is likely true.

In any case, I was not asking about that one specifically. My issue was specifically how to avoid the nervousness and emotional overload that one feels near taller people. (I am not obsessed about height in any way, but it's good to be aware about one's failos)

 

[ShowerMaxxing]

True that brother,
Napoleon Complex in terms of Napoleon being short is obviously unreal.
But Napoleon Complex in terms of short guys having to overcompensate (deliberately, or necessarily) and still being remembered for just height is likely true.

In any case, I was not asking about that one specifically. My issue was specifically how to avoid the nervousness and emotional overload that one feels near taller people. (I am not obsessed about height in any way, but it's good to be aware about one's failos)

You just have to stop talking about height or even joke about it imo. I used to do that and couldnt care less about it, but since joining and going to the club scene I've been brutally blackpilled. This pill is poison if u have too much tbh

 

[lutte]

i live in the west not some balkan or the gulags so i speak for the majority of people. I m telling even if it is 5'11 HE DOESN'T need to obsess over stuff like this.

where

 

[AbuSAF]

where

I am not Wahhabi

 

[lutte]

I am not Wahhabi

where do u live

 

[AbuSAF]

where do u live

UK and US

 

[isis_Bleach]

Lately I have figured out a tendency of mine that had always bugged me in the past, but I never knew why it happened.

I get extremely nervous around taller/bigger people. (I am a shortcel 5'6).
So nervous that my heart rate goes up, I tremble, and even tears come out of my eyes because of the emotional overload.

What this problem is, and what is the cure? I don't want to cry when I am in a fucking board meeting where conflict is common.
Maybe my brain circuits are too sensitive to social status? Maybe I don't have a good filter in the brain?

Idk man
I can sense that vibe from manlets sometimes tho
I’m 6’2
So You’re not alone, those tall guys are used to it (unless they’re just slightly bigger manlets 5’8-6’0)