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EDIT I see this and my last post has been brigaded by an anti-male hate sub. Is there any way of stopping this happening?
I posted yesterday on another sub that reached the front page and was pulled quickly for getting out of hand.
But basically my (37M) GF (25) of 3 years cheated on me with my son (20M). It's definitely over between me and her - I'm working on a way to communicate with her just how hurt she's made me feel and what it's done to me before I cut contact forever. It hurts so much because I've been on my own for years after my wife died very young and she's the only person I've let in enough to be in a relationship with. But I feel I was stupid enough to believe someone so young would truly be interested in me, I let my guard down and let the wrong person in - I actually didn't even think about the age, I thought just about the person. I can't feel awful enough for that. Maybe I deserve to be alone if that's who I get with. I'll never trust anyone again.
But my son - man that's the one that hurts me the most. Being a young dad, and a single dad from 22, I've tried my best to give him the best life. It's not been easy but up until now, I wouldn't have traded it for the world. But god, I feel so betrayed by him. Don't get me wrong he's my son and I absolutely love him, but I don't see how I/he can make this right. All respect I had, has gone. I don't trust him anymore.
I know it's a hugely fucked up situation, so maybe advice is the wrong word, so maybe support.
Thank you.
EDIT EDIT EDIT
So I've made 2 big decisions today.
I have messaged my ex saying I want to meet up with her to talk. I'M NOT GETTING BACK WITH HER! However, I want to see her face to face, look her in the eyes, and tell her how much she hurt me and that I want no more contact - I might even drop I was going to propose next year before all this happened. It's not for her, it's for me.
And regarding my son, I've made the decision that I want to sit with him and make him face my parents to tell them what he's done and why he's staying there and see the disappointment in their eyes - they're extremely close and I want him to see what his actions have done and the consequences they have. If he does that, he stands a chance of us starting to patch up.
I posted yesterday on another sub that reached the front page and was pulled quickly for getting out of hand.
But basically my (37M) GF (25) of 3 years cheated on me with my son (20M). It's definitely over between me and her - I'm working on a way to communicate with her just how hurt she's made me feel and what it's done to me before I cut contact forever. It hurts so much because I've been on my own for years after my wife died very young and she's the only person I've let in enough to be in a relationship with. But I feel I was stupid enough to believe someone so young would truly be interested in me, I let my guard down and let the wrong person in - I actually didn't even think about the age, I thought just about the person. I can't feel awful enough for that. Maybe I deserve to be alone if that's who I get with. I'll never trust anyone again.
But my son - man that's the one that hurts me the most. Being a young dad, and a single dad from 22, I've tried my best to give him the best life. It's not been easy but up until now, I wouldn't have traded it for the world. But god, I feel so betrayed by him. Don't get me wrong he's my son and I absolutely love him, but I don't see how I/he can make this right. All respect I had, has gone. I don't trust him anymore.
I know it's a hugely fucked up situation, so maybe advice is the wrong word, so maybe support.
Thank you.
EDIT EDIT EDIT
So I've made 2 big decisions today.
I have messaged my ex saying I want to meet up with her to talk. I'M NOT GETTING BACK WITH HER! However, I want to see her face to face, look her in the eyes, and tell her how much she hurt me and that I want no more contact - I might even drop I was going to propose next year before all this happened. It's not for her, it's for me.
And regarding my son, I've made the decision that I want to sit with him and make him face my parents to tell them what he's done and why he's staying there and see the disappointment in their eyes - they're extremely close and I want him to see what his actions have done and the consequences they have. If he does that, he stands a chance of us starting to patch up.
