Girls who ignore me end up trying to chat with me months/years later

[SecularIslamist]

This has been quite a regular occurrence.
I am talking about girls who basically ghosted me or kept me on the sidelines despite me signalling interest to them. They would ignore, respond very late or give one word answers etc. Its clear they didn't care and I moved on - despite pathetic attempts by me to cling onto hope.

Then suddenly months or years later, they intiate convo and try to speak with me, become very responsive. Does that mean they tried (and failed) with Chad and I am back-up number #35 in their roster of men?

I am so desperate and seek validation I end up speaking to them again as well. Giving them my time and effort. But then I am the one who decide to ghost and lose interest in them because they initially rejected me. Idk why I do this. I do it all the time. Maybe I feel like it's karma or payback. But I just waste my time and theirs. It's a vicious circle.

Does anyone else experience this kind of stuff?

@Big Boss @hopecel @whatkindamusic

 

[BeanCelll]

yeah they're treating you as the fallback fs

You are wasting your time speaking to them though unless you just wanna fuck obv you can't ltr someone that treated you like that that resentment isn't going away

 

[sieze.com]

chad didn’t want them

 

[eon]

Its like a cycle

 

[SecularIslamist]

yeah they're treating you as the fallback fs

You are wasting your time speaking to them though unless you just wanna fuck obv you can't ltr someone that treated you like that that resentment isn't going away

I know it's so obvious. I am after LTR only I don't wanna just fuck. A part of me would accept them if they weren't traumatised by chad. Otherwise you're right the resentment ain't going away.

Women who do end up settling down sometimes do end up 'happier' because they realise what they got were better than what they were expecting.

Idk maybe I'm coping and being pathetic again. It's always so easy to feel some cognitive dissonance in these cases.

 

[Sub5kang]

This has been quite a regular occurrence.
I am talking about girls who basically ghosted me or kept me on the sidelines despite me signalling interest to them. They would ignore, respond very late or give one word answers etc. Its clear they didn't care and I moved on - despite pathetic attempts by me to cling onto hope.

Then suddenly months or years later, they intiate convo and try to speak with me, become very responsive. Does that mean they tried (and failed) with Chad and I am back-up number #35 in their roster of men?

I am so desperate and seek validation I end up speaking to them again as well. Giving them my time and effort. But then I am the one who decide to ghost and lose interest in them because they initially rejected me. Idk why I do this. I do it all the time. Maybe I feel like it's karma or payback. But I just waste my time and theirs. It's a vicious circle.

Does anyone else experience this kind of stuff?

@Big Boss @hopecel @whatkindamusic

I don't experience this kinda stuff because meyera don't even look my way
Time for me to rot and eat chicken biryani for the rest of my life maybe tenga too

 

[Resonance]

This has been quite a regular occurrence.
I am talking about girls who basically ghosted me or kept me on the sidelines despite me signalling interest to them. They would ignore, respond very late or give one word answers etc. Its clear they didn't care and I moved on - despite pathetic attempts by me to cling onto hope.

Then suddenly months or years later, they intiate convo and try to speak with me, become very responsive. Does that mean they tried (and failed) with Chad and I am back-up number #35 in their roster of men?

I am so desperate and seek validation I end up speaking to them again as well. Giving them my time and effort. But then I am the one who decide to ghost and lose interest in them because they initially rejected me. Idk why I do this. I do it all the time. Maybe I feel like it's karma or payback. But I just waste my time and theirs. It's a vicious circle.

Does anyone else experience this kind of stuff?

@Big Boss @hopecel @whatkindamusic

you're just pasttime for them.

 

[Big Boss]

Happened with me often too, especially my ex.

From my experience its FOMO, fear of missing out. Foid wants to experience every opportunity in life, its why she cheats. I think theres a link between these behaviours and girls who cheat.

On top of that, its usually when they have just broken up with chad, foids cant be single/alone so they cope by engaging in serial monogamy

 

[BeanCelll]

Women who do end up settling down sometimes do end up 'happier' because they realise what they got were better than what they were expecting.

They might find it more pleasant than they imagined, but ultimately there's a reason they didn't chase that life in the first place. The likelihood that they do a 360 like that out of a change of heart especially in a relatively short period is laughable.

Even in this situation though you still resent her for not respecting you initially and she still resents not getting the ltr she wanted from chad, it'll blow up eventually.

 

[SecularIslamist]

They might find it more pleasant than they imagined, but ultimately there's a reason they didn't chase that life in the first place. The likelihood that they do a 360 like that out of a change of heart especially in a relatively short period is laughable.

Even in this situation though you still resent her for not respecting you initially and she still resents not getting the ltr she wanted from chad, it'll blow up eventually.

Insightful post. I think it's 100% true in almost all cases.