Going out sober is impossible when I can’t talk with women

[TerminatorGenisys9]

Short thread but it’s finals week and my friend really wanted to go out and it’s Thursday night. I’ve been trying to recover from my blackout Saturday so I tell him I’m not drinking and we still go out.

When we arrive to where all the bars are we walk in and it’s mostly guys and it’s extremely dead. We sorta walk around for about an hour just killing time. I got rejected from a bar with my fake for the first time as well.

We walk into a final bar and I tell him it’s time to walk home instead of ubering there and as we are walking this bouncer approaches us and says “yall boys come in here there’s way too many women in here”

So we go in just as a good sport and he was right there were a lot of women like a huge group of 10 right at the front dancing extremely low inhib. I walk straight to the back just to check the place out and I’m ready to go.

While I’m trying to walk to the exit there is a beer pong table in the middle of the bar and I see 2 girls playing beer pong with 2 random guys. One of the girls is sorta flirting with one of the other guys but as I walk past them the girl who wasn’t really entertaining the opposing guy stares at me and taps me on the back to my left shoulder which felt really weird as she was to my right facing me.

At this moment since I was sober I just didn’t even go up to her and she probably thought I was gay. I do regret it as I ruined the Thursday night slay which could’ve been cool since the ratio was so bad that night and the girl was the one who did the first encounter but I just don’t have it in me when I’m sober.

Any tips to still be low inhib while sober. If a girl did this during the day I think I’d react the same. She looked at her friend waiting for me to approach but I just walked out while sorta looking back.

Jfl wtv maybe it’s a self confidence thing too and I don’t believe i got it like that until I have liquid courage

 

[enchanted_elixir]

Short thread but it’s finals week and my friend really wanted to go out and it’s Thursday night. I’ve been trying to recover from my blackout Saturday so I tell him I’m not drinking and we still go out.

When we arrive to where all the bars are we walk in and it’s mostly guys and it’s extremely dead. We sorta walk around for about an hour just killing time. I got rejected from a bar with my fake for the first time as well.

We walk into a final bar and I tell him it’s time to walk home instead of ubering there and as we are walking this bouncer approaches us and says “yall boys come in here there’s way too many women in here”

So we go in just as a good sport and he was right there were a lot of women like a huge group of 10 right at the front dancing extremely low inhib. I walk straight to the back just to check the place out and I’m ready to go.

While I’m trying to walk to the exit there is a beer pong table in the middle of the bar and I see 2 girls playing beer pong with 2 random guys. One of the girls is sorta flirting with one of the other guys but as I walk past them the girl who wasn’t really entertaining the opposing guy stares at me and taps me on the back to my left shoulder which felt really weird as she was to my right facing me.

At this moment since I was sober I just didn’t even go up to her and she probably thought I was gay. I do regret it as I ruined the Thursday night slay which could’ve been cool since the ratio was so bad that night and the girl was the one who did the first encounter but I just don’t have it in me when I’m sober.

Any tips to still be low inhib while sober. If a girl did this during the day I think I’d react the same. She looked at her friend waiting for me to approach but I just walked out while sorta looking back.

Jfl wtv maybe it’s a self confidence thing too and I don’t believe i got it like that until I have liquid courage

You would have to train your brain. You’d need to genuinely laser in on why you’re high inhib and then tackle that belief and delete it from your perception, and the things that give rise to it.

 

[optimisticzoomer]

Don’t go out drinking and don’t talk to women then

 

[TerminatorGenisys9]

You would have to train your brain. You’d need to genuinely laser in on why you’re high inhib and then tackle that belief and delete it from your perception, and the things that give rise to it.

I mean I honestly don’t know why I am I think it comes down to my looks and me not believing in myself. I had the girl touch me and I did nothing and I’m sure I’ve had more encounters I don’t remember where it comes down to me not having confidence.

Even if I looked like prime ian sommerhalder I don’t think I’d have the confidence as there’s always some flaw someone has for example I’d be overly conscious of my height still if I was sommerhalder.

 

[enchanted_elixir]

I mean I honestly don’t know why I am I think it comes down to my looks and me not believing in myself. I had the girl touch me and I did nothing and I’m sure I’ve had more encounters I don’t remember where it comes down to me not having confidence.

Even if I looked like prime ian sommerhalder I don’t think I’d have the confidence as there’s always some flaw someone has for example I’d be overly conscious of my height still if I was sommerhalder.

Can you tell me the story on how you got touched?

I have had plenty of encounters where I didn’t have confidence and it messed everything up lol

An increase in attractiveness does almost nothing for your confidence, just saying from experience.

 

[TerminatorGenisys9]

Can you tell me the story on how you got touched?

I have had plenty of encounters where I didn’t have confidence and it messed everything up lol

An increase in attractiveness does almost nothing for your confidence, just saying from experience.

Just walked past her and she reached her arm out and grabbed my shoulder but I just kept walking and turned once I had distance.

The main reason I kept walking was cause she grabbed the back of my shoulder and it almost felt as if she put a tracker on me like Batman in Arkham city with thalia is the only thing that comes up to my mind.

I find it a lot easier when I’m drunk already trying to approach and the girl comes up and just grabs my neck but that has only ever happened once but it felt good until her friend took her away from me because I was giving her a hickey in public, which she asked for but wtv

 

[enchanted_elixir]

Just walked past her and she reached her arm out and grabbed my shoulder but I just kept walking and turned once I had distance.

The main reason I kept walking was cause she grabbed the back of my shoulder and it almost felt as if she put a tracker on me like Batman in Arkham city with thalia is the only thing that comes up to my mind.

I find it a lot easier when I’m drunk already trying to approach and the girl comes up and just grabs my neck but that has only ever happened once but it felt good until her friend took her away from me because I was giving her a hickey in public, which she asked for but wtv

Females are so envious man…

Her friend removed her from you.

 

[TerminatorGenisys9]

Females are so envious man…

Her friend removed her from you.

Well that friend actually went to my hs prob and I had her in classes for the last 2 years, but we never spoke as she was too popular and I didn’t talk to a lot of people. I don’t blame her or anyone for this since I mean to make friends u still gotta put urself out there and I didn’t do that.

Anyways originally at the bar I saw her and I guess we recognized eachother and we were talking for like 5 mins just getting to know each other. I’m not sure what my goal was here but she started dancing and telling me I missed out in hs. At that point I had an nd overload and was gonna get my friend to leave the bar and that’s when her friend gets me and starts making out with me.

The girl from hs was with like 4 other sorority girls she leaves them and comes and gets her sorority sister only after I started giving her a hickey though which is honestly understandable since it was in public and like a hickey is bad.

The only reason I did it is I told the girl I was too drunk and couldn’t make out so she asked me to but that’s that story time