going to bars for ego

[exkira]

I'm waiting for marriage, but I have been going to bars/clubs to talk to girls. I have no interest in bar girls, and I never do anything with them. I suppose its just the fact that I *could*.

In high school I was ugly and invisible to girls, but after ascending I haven’t been rejected once. I only started posting recently, but I’ve been around here since 2022. I also just lost the girl I thought I was going to marry (we were together for about 1.5 years).

Has anyone else experienced this? I’m hoping it’s just a phase. Any advice?

I'm fully aware this contradicts my Christianity btw, which is why I haven't done it recently (lent).

 

[Veridic]

You will forever be stuck in ND mental jail like me

 

[ImSomeone]

I love going to bars and clubs and seeing the low t men there
It’s like a zoo

 

[exkira]

You will forever be stuck in ND mental jail like me

I'm fairly NT (for an org user) and going out has make me a lot more extroverted

 

[exkira]

I love going to bars and clubs and seeing the low t men there
It’s like a zoo

going there sober puts things into perspective

 

[Veridic]

I'm fairly NT (for an org user) and going out has make me a lot more extroverted

I know, as am I.

I despise it now years later despite having hardmaxxed and done my own things, normies become insufferable to be around if you're not truly neurotypical brain wise.

 

[manasana]

im in a rsp and i sometimes do this. had a ltb pretend to be lost so she could come to my place for the night. foids got no game

 

[Clqs]

I hope this schizo episode of yours goes by quick

 

[exkira]

im in a rsp and i sometimes do this. had a ltb pretend to be lost so she could come to my place for the night. foids got no game

A woman who is genuinely attracted to you will embarrass herself just for the chance to be near you.

 

[exkira]

I hope this schizo episode of yours goes by quick

appreciated

 

[GoodLookingAthlete]

Why the fuck would you save yourself for marriage lol ? Just bang a girl (or more) even one that is mid and you’ll feel much better

 

[exkira]

Why the fuck would you save yourself for marriage lol ? Just bang a girl (or more) even one that is mid and you’ll feel much better

I'm Christian (a bad one but still)

regardless, I want my future wife to have something special that no one else has had. (you can call it corny but thats why)

 

[GoodLookingAthlete]

I'm Christian (a bad one but still)

regardless, I want my future wife to have something special that no one else has had. (you can call it corny but thats why)

I understand, I was baptized as an orthodox lol.

That kinda stuff nowadays dont’t end too good tho, so be careful. Also there is nothing special about a girl that is so prude that she managed to actually remain a virgin during adulthood, sluts are way more fun, and surprisingly have a way better character than a lot of women who pass themselves of as "pure"

 

[exkira]

I understand, I was baptized as an orthodox lol.

That kinda stuff nowadays dont’t end too good tho, so be careful. Also there is nothing special about a girl that is so prude that she managed to actually remain a virgin during adulthood, sluts are way more fun, and surprisingly have a way better character than a lot of women who pass themselves of as "pure"

I dont want a woman who trys seem pure/Christian. Id rather an introverted 18 year old so they dont have bodies. (im 19 idc if anyone thinks that is wierd).

Were you raised Orthodox or are you a convert? Im Orthodox.

 

[o_Owtf]

It's good for your confidence to get laid once in a while I think. I used to slay a lot during high school but I haven't felt the touch of a women since then for 4 years. I should technically be better off now because my looks have improved, I'm taller, have more money, and I'm less ND, but my confidence is very low because it was so long ago.

I'm agnostic but I like to believe that if there is a god then he doesn't mind his little creations having a lil meaningless fun with each other every now and then

 

[exkira]

I used to slay a lot during high school but I haven't felt the touch of a women since then for 4 years. I should technically be better off now because my looks have improved, I'm taller, have more money, and I'm less ND, but my confidence is very low because it was so long ago.

Interesting. Why? lost interest in dating/women?

I'm agnostic but I like to believe that if there is a god then he doesn't mind his little creations having a lil meaningless fun with each other every now and then

Its not really meaningless tho.

Its the act which brings a human being into existence, so doing it with many different women is degenerate imo.

 

[gavinweiland]

I understand, I was baptized as an orthodox lol.

That kinda stuff nowadays dont’t end too good tho, so be careful. Also there is nothing special about a girl that is so prude that she managed to actually remain a virgin during adulthood, sluts are way more fun, and surprisingly have a way better character than a lot of women who pass themselves of as "pure"

Sluts lose their femininity over time and are basically dead inside from being with so many men. Meanwhile virgin girls might be more boring at the start, but once you build a relationship and they get to trust you, it is much better in the longrun and much more worthwhile.

 

[gavinweiland]

I'm agnostic but I like to believe that if there is a god then he doesn't mind his little creations having a lil meaningless fun with each other every now and then

It's not meaningless because it fucks up the ability to pairbond. Just look at the correlation between sexual partners and divorce rates

 

[gavinweiland]

I'm waiting for marriage, but I have been going to bars/clubs to talk to girls. I have no interest in bar girls, and I never do anything with them. I suppose its just the fact that I *could*.

In high school I was ugly and invisible to girls, but after ascending I haven’t been rejected once. I only started posting recently, but I’ve been around here since 2022. I also just lost the girl I thought I was going to marry (we were together for about 1.5 years).

Has anyone else experienced this? I’m hoping it’s just a phase. Any advice?

I'm fully aware this contradicts my Christianity btw, which is why I haven't done it recently (lent).

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St Augustine pray for us

 

[exkira]

mirin profile
St Augustine pray for us

Thanks

St. Augustine inspires me and honestly this pfp is how I feel.

 

[o_Owtf]

Interesting. Why? lost interest in dating/women?

No not at all, it just hasn't happened. When you're no longer in high school you don't meet as many new people, and the ones you meet you don't have as much time with. I'm studying a lot to get good grades in uni 8 hours a day now so I'm basically just a hermit, I leave my house like 2 times a week lol

Its not really meaningless tho.

Its the act which brings a human being into existence, so doing it with many different women is degenerate imo.

If it isn't meaningless to you then it simply isn't, I'm not going to take that away from you. If it feels wrong then don't do it.

However, can you just take a moment to reflect on this statement, do you truly believe this is the reason you don't want to have casual sex? If you went to the doctor tomorrow and found out you were infertile, would having sex with many different women still be degenerate? Obviously you will never bring any children from those encounters, so it won't be an act which brings a human being into existence.

Can you try to sense in yourself what you would you do then in this hypothetical? If you still wouldn't do it, maybe there's another reason than it just being because it's how babies are made.

 

[gavinweiland]

Thanks

St. Augustine inspires me and honestly this pfp is how I feel.

np, I want to read confessions soon, the excerpts I've seen are very good

 

[o_Owtf]

It's not meaningless because it fucks up the ability to pairbond. Just look at the correlation between sexual partners and divorce rates

I never said it was good to have casual sex, just that he shouldn't be worried about god punishing him for it.

 

[GoodLookingAthlete]

I dont want a woman who trys seem pure/Christian. Id rather an introverted 18 year old so they dont have bodies. (im 19 idc if anyone thinks that is wierd).

Were you raised Orthodox or are you a convert? Im Orthodox.

I’m Romanian and was thrown in water at like 1 year old or something, but I don’t give a shit about religion, but I go every once in a while at Romanian church and they always give me a ton of Pǎlincǎ (it’s a 50+ degrees beverage) de prune and it’s nice

 

[exkira]

No not at all, it just hasn't happened. When you're no longer in high school you don't meet as many new people, and the ones you meet you don't have as much time with. I'm studying a lot to get good grades in uni 8 hours a day now so I'm basically just a hermit, I leave my house like 2 times a week lol


If it isn't meaningless to you then it simply isn't, I'm not going to take that away from you. If it feels wrong then don't do it.

However, can you just take a moment to reflect on this statement, do you truly believe this is the reason you don't want to have casual sex? If you went to the doctor tomorrow and found out you were infertile, would having sex with many different women still be degenerate? Obviously you will never bring any children from those encounters, so it won't be an act which brings a human being into existence.

Can you try to sense in yourself what you would you do then in this hypothetical? If you still wouldn't do it, maybe there's another reason than it just being because it's how babies are made.

Yeah its not just bc sex leads to babies.

Its also because I only want to have that level of intimacy with one person in my life. Call it corny or whatever, but I want true love.

 

[exkira]

np, I want to read confessions soon, the excerpts I've seen are very good

It was my first book I read when I was converting from Protestantism.

Definitely recommend.

 

[GoodLookingAthlete]

Sluts lose their femininity over time and are basically dead inside from being with so many men. Meanwhile virgin girls might be more boring at the start, but once you build a relationship and they get to trust you, it is much better in the longrun and much more worthwhile.

Sluts are not “dead” inside from having some experience lol (unless they some type of sex worker doing a business out of sex).

Also most “slutty” women don’t accumulate near as much bodies as most people think.

The women you would think are sluts (excluding sex workers and adjacent occupations of course) are actually the MOST feminine out of them all, and they tend to be bratty at first sight and only sleep with very masculine men (not wannabe fake alpha males like Andrew tate lol)

 

[gavinweiland]

Sluts are not “dead” inside from having some experience lol (unless they some type of sex worker doing a business out of sex).

Also most “slutty” women don’t accumulate near as much bodies as most people think.

The women you would think are sluts (excluding sex workers and adjacent occupations of course) are actually the MOST feminine out of them all, and they tend to be bratty at first sight and only sleep with very masculine men (not wannabe fake alpha males like Andrew tate lol)

The more interactions a woman has with men = the more masculine she becomes. That's why sluts might seem fun to be around, because they know what guys find funny or respond to, meanwhile an inexperienced girl does not know and therefore comes off as not fun or boring.

 

[GoodLookingAthlete]

The more interactions a woman has with men = the more masculine she becomes. That's why sluts might seem fun to be around, because they know what guys find funny or respond to, meanwhile an inexperienced girl does not know and therefore comes off as not fun or boring.

Has not been my experience. Girls who behave in a very masculine way are generally ugly girls that are frustrated that they can’t get handsome men to fuck them or they might on occasion but the guy ghost them afterwards etc.

Feminine girls who love sex and are very slutty in presence of a masculine man remain feminine even if they might end up having sex with a fair amount of partners, it’s just they nature to be like that.

Most men are pussies tho that’s why they allow themselves to be bossed around by a 50kg human and then they rationalize it by saying oh women are so "masculine" bro in the west (they where just pussies who tolerated continued disrespect instead of putting their foot down and walking away if necessary)