Going to try nofap again

[brutal_blackpill]

Inb4 cope. The last time I made a girl dance and make out with me at a club was during no fap. That never happens to me especially since I’m not good looking. The more horny I am, the less I’ll give a fuck.

 

[Deleted member 4645]

No fap makes it easier to run low inhib game because of how horny you get. Go on brother.

 

[brutal_blackpill]

No fap makes it easier to run low inhib game because of how horny you get. Go on brother.

Brother I just want to be able to approach women without fear. I want to do it whether the woman is alone or in a group. I literally don’t care about rejection anymore. I will die happy even if I get rejected 99% of the time, even 100%. I will die happy knowing that i atleast tried my best and didn’t fear women. Knowing that I didn’t let them affect me. Today I was at the club and my high inhib nature took over me again. At this point, I don’t know what else to do. I am practically pleading for someone to help me do this.

 

[Nosecel]

>Nofap in 2020
Oh god please tell me this is some kind of joke

 

[eduardkoopman]

I agree. Nofap helps often to reduce nervousness/fear a little bit; in general.

Today I was at the club and my high inhib nature took over me again. At this point, I don’t know what else to do. I am practically pleading for someone to help me do this.

What also helps, for me, alot. Social/Talkative/Mood Momentum.
For example, using above club-thingy.

Typical evening tha I would NOT chatup women: Feeling abit low, before leaving house. At the bus stop, I stand at corner looking at my phone screen. When I enter the bus, I say nothing to the bus driver. In bus, I sit alone staring at phone screen. At the city center, I leave bus and go to the club, I don't greet the doorman and coat collector. Then in the club, I wonder why I'm to afraid tochat up chicks.

Typical evening tha I would chatup women: Feeling abit low, but I put on some happy music before leaving house. I feel a bit better already. At the bus stop, I nod and say hi to the person waiting next to (maybe some stupid weather comment also). I look around, and take in the air, etc... When I enter the bus, I greet the bus driver. In bus, I say hello to the person next to me when sitting and feeling a bit chatty maybe I teel where I go out. At the city center, I leave bus and say bye to the person I sat next to. Go to the club, and greet the doorman and coat collector and maybe a small convo about the evening or whatevers. Then in the club, it's easier to start saying hello to people and women in there, and starting chat-ups.

Moral of the story, for me: Social/Talkative/Mood Momentum is very important. I can't go from zero to 100 just like that. And Social/Talkative/Mood Momentum, almost already start before I leave the home. And it starts with small things.

 

[Fubarcel]

Don't just do it passively, as if you're trying to stop yourself from cooming
stack it with the intent of doing things, remind yourself you're doing it for a reason, to make yourself less complacent, less dopey and satisfied. Use that energy to do it, as long as you're self aware you will have no problems.

 

[eduardkoopman]

this is very legit, in the absence of validation, momentum is everything. U can have the greatest night but when u wake up its back to ZERO. Yesterday nights validation MIGHT carry into the morning. THIS is why WINNERS KEEP WINNING. Validation gives your brain proof that you can do that particular thing that you've been wanting to do, the more validation the stronger the belief in yourself that you can do that particular thing. If you don't have the previous days validation to carry u through the next morning than the only way to built yourself up is through momentum.

The only way to built up momentum is by small stepping it like u said.

Based af. But very few will understand this.

Thanks, I agree.
The only reason I understand this, is because I experienced it. Because when I was younger, I used to go to the city center for the sole reason to try to chat up women, and hopefully get dates and more that way. I had to build up momentum, always and everytime (because i didn't get validation from others because i was nromie, so i had to build it up every time).