Got a lil better looking, still no girl.

[Melnikomplex]

Since forever I have been ugly as shit (mostly because I was overweight). Now that I lost a lot of weight and started looking better, I’m worried I won’t have anyone to take you to prom/hoco etc.. I also moved schools Junior Year and don’t know anyone. Seems like everyone around me are lifelong friends, and I simply can’t join any group. I don’t share any interests w people because I mostly sit inside and play games or watch YouTube (usually history vids yes I’m corny) (I only workout to lose weight and gain strength besides that J hate working out) and I also play hockey but not really much besides that. How can I connect w people? I wish I could find people to text w, hangout w, drive with, go to the mall. How can I help myself w like my social skills like talking and conversation flow? I really want to experience prom and homecoming.

 

[Mazilias]

Since forever I have been ugly as shit (mostly because I was overweight). Now that I lost a lot of weight and started looking better, I’m worried I won’t have anyone to take you to prom/hoco etc.. I also moved schools Junior Year and don’t know anyone. Seems like everyone around me are lifelong friends, and I simply can’t join any group. I don’t share any interests w people because I mostly sit inside and play games or watch YouTube (usually history vids yes I’m corny) (I only workout to lose weight and gain strength besides that J hate working out) and I also play hockey but not really much besides that. How can I connect w people? I wish I could find people to text w, hangout w, drive with, go to the mall. How can I help myself w like my social skills like talking and conversation flow? I really want to experience prom and homecoming.

during a break, add them on snap or shit and try to connect with somone

 

[Benson Zolton 88]

Are u NT? U gotta put urself out there ngl. If all u care about is larping social acceptance, then just fraud ur intrests to align with the mainstream. This includes pop culture, music, fashion, slang.

 

[GoErOnFoids]

This is really hard, i couldnt imagine myself getting new friends… shits horrible

 

[MLGS0LD1ERB0Y]

Since forever I have been ugly as shit (mostly because I was overweight). Now that I lost a lot of weight and started looking better, I’m worried I won’t have anyone to take you to prom/hoco etc.. I also moved schools Junior Year and don’t know anyone. Seems like everyone around me are lifelong friends, and I simply can’t join any group. I don’t share any interests w people because I mostly sit inside and play games or watch YouTube (usually history vids yes I’m corny) (I only workout to lose weight and gain strength besides that J hate working out) and I also play hockey but not really much besides that. How can I connect w people? I wish I could find people to text w, hangout w, drive with, go to the mall. How can I help myself w like my social skills like talking and conversation flow? I really want to experience prom and homecoming.

DNR - you're clearly not attractive enough for this hypergamous dating market.

If you are not at least 6,1 or taller and HTN or above, you shouldn't even bother.

 

[dragons6422]

I've thought about this very topic a lot. The answer to questions like these is always putting yourself in environments where you can show off competence. In this case, it's your history knowledge. Prolly find trivias in your area. If not, you are cooked unless you move to a city where that niche is bigger. Otherwise, you can try to assert yourself in intellectual spaces on discord and build status there.

 

[Melnikomplex]

DNR - you're clearly not attractive enough for this hypergamous dating market.

If you are not at least 6,1 or taller and HTN or above, you shouldn't even bother.

It and some mtb talk to me but I can’t talk to them cus I keep stuttering and can’t come up w words

 

[Melnikomplex]

I've thought about this very topic a lot. The answer to questions like these is always putting yourself in environments where you can show off competence. In this case, it's your history knowledge. Prolly find trivias in your area. If not, you are cooked unless you move to a city where that niche is bigger. Otherwise, you can try to assert yourself in intellectual spaces on discord and build status there.

No girl wants to hear about history it’s over

 

[Melnikomplex]

Are u NT? U gotta put urself out there ngl. If all u care about is larping social acceptance, then just fraud ur intrests to align with the mainstream. This includes pop culture, music, fashion, slang.

I’m not diagnosed w anything so I think I am

 

[Benson Zolton 88]

It and some mtb talk to me but I can’t talk to them cus I keep stuttering and can’t come up w words

U gotta socialize more ngl u just seem socially inept

 

[Melnikomplex]

I don’t know how to start thoo

 

[unfortunatehobbies]

sounds hella ND. don't ever be seen engaging in these hobbies in public; if caught, brush it off. this is from experience; girls in school are NOT attracted to loners unless you pass the halo threshold for niche hobbies (clue: you don't).

I simply can’t join any group

this is important. you need to find a group, any group of people. make friends with one person, then stick around, meet friends, start joining hangouts, LISTEN to the group leader. the super NT friend groups might not take you but maybe some lesser friend groups with less social standing might take you (i managed to get inducted to a hella ND friend group in year 13, they had known each other for years before I joined).

I also play hockey

do this, try join a team in or out of school to NTmaxx.

 

[dragons6422]

No girl wants to hear about history it’s over

This is super not true. History has a lot of crossover with intellectual spaces which have plenty of women involved in those scenes. Especially the political and debate scenes. You need to stop thinking the only women that exist are the Stacy archetypes.

 

[Melnikomplex]

sounds hella ND. don't ever be seen engaging in these hobbies in public; if caught, brush it off. this is from experience; girls in school are NOT attracted to loners unless you pass the halo threshold for niche hobbies (clue: you don't).

this is important. you need to find a group, any group of people. make friends with one person, then stick around, meet friends, start joining hangouts, LISTEN to the group leader. the super NT friend groups might not take you but maybe some lesser friend groups with less social standing might take you (i managed to get inducted to a hella ND friend group in year 13, they had known each other for years before I joined).


do this, try join a team in or out of school to NTmaxx.

This sounds peak I’ll try the friend group one appreciate it bhai

 

[Omen]

This sounds peak I’ll try the friend group one appreciate it bhai

Nah dont try the friend group one trust me make friend with one person from the group who shares a hobby with u and keep hanging out with them eventually they will evaluate u subconsciously if u fit in there group or not then they will ask you to hang out with his other friends its not easy ur ND too so I think making friends with multiple people not with a friend group is WAY easier talking from experience here

 

[Omen]

This sounds peak I’ll try the friend group one appreciate it bhai

And at this point make ur own friend group make friends with one person who u click with a lot doesn’t matter if ur ND then add more people that share ur hobbies to ur group and thats it I did that when I was ND before ntmaxxing

 

[eeaghost]

Since forever I have been ugly as shit (mostly because I was overweight). Now that I lost a lot of weight and started looking better, I’m worried I won’t have anyone to take you to prom/hoco etc.. I also moved schools Junior Year and don’t know anyone. Seems like everyone around me are lifelong friends, and I simply can’t join any group. I don’t share any interests w people because I mostly sit inside and play games or watch YouTube (usually history vids yes I’m corny) (I only workout to lose weight and gain strength besides that J hate working out) and I also play hockey but not really much besides that. How can I connect w people? I wish I could find people to text w, hangout w, drive with, go to the mall. How can I help myself w like my social skills like talking and conversation flow? I really want to experience prom and homecoming.

Dude this sucks and i feel for you. Honestly if you go to the gym and see people from your school, just talk to them there and youll most likely share the same experiences and minds, if not do the same if you join a hockey team or something. If nothing else just go around and be nice to poeple, and try to befirend ppl with no friends. It might suck being freinds with "losers" but atleast its somehting. Ive also had a few freinds that slowly "climbed the social ladder" by frauding with mainstream fits, music and interest and just glaze the people they try to be friends with. It might not be the most deep relationships but ive had two freinds that it worked for them and they have hella friends now.

 

[Odin]

We’re pretty similar. I grew up in a big Canadian city playing hockey, and I’ve always been really into history. I was popular within my grade and had my own solid friend group, then halfway through Grade 8 I got moved across the country to live with my mom and had to rebuild everything from scratch. Hockey and history ended up being great for small talk and meeting people. I joined sports, locked in at school, and put myself out there even when it was awkward at first. That whole process built confidence, and now I’m extroverted and comfortable talking to pretty much anyone. Honestly if I were you, I’d try to join a hockey team. That’s what I did. Most of my friends now are extensions of the people I met through hockey. As long as you play it cool, being into history really isn’t a problem either. Girls don’t mind a history guy at all if you’re confident and relaxed about it.

 

[JasGews271k]

DNR - you're clearly not attractive enough for this hypergamous dating market.

If you are not at least 6,1 or taller and HTN or above, you shouldn't even bother.

bro this is the biggest bullshit ever i literally see fat jesters pull all the time. just jester and you will succeed.

 

[sigamsamson0830]

Well yeah no shit dude it takes time

 

[LoLoyi]

Since forever I have been ugly as shit (mostly because I was overweight). Now that I lost a lot of weight and started looking better, I’m worried I won’t have anyone to take you to prom/hoco etc.. I also moved schools Junior Year and don’t know anyone. Seems like everyone around me are lifelong friends, and I simply can’t join any group. I don’t share any interests w people because I mostly sit inside and play games or watch YouTube (usually history vids yes I’m corny) (I only workout to lose weight and gain strength besides that J hate working out) and I also play hockey but not really much besides that. How can I connect w people? I wish I could find people to text w, hangout w, drive with, go to the mall. How can I help myself w like my social skills like talking and conversation flow? I really want to experience prom and homecoming.

Maybe during PE

 

[Melnikomplex]

bro this is the biggest bullshit ever i literally see fat jesters pull all the time. just jester and you will succeed.

I genuinely don’t know how I don’t know what ppl find funny and anytime I say a joke it never lands

 

[good_king_alex]

DNR - you're clearly not attractive enough for this hypergamous dating market.

If you are not at least 6,1 or taller and HTN or above, you shouldn't even bother.

terrible take, not sure why you are telling this to people.

I agree that yes it massively helps and makes your life easier, but social confidence is king.

OP, i would say you need to establish a male friend group before you are able to attract a date. ANd don't do it for logical reasons thats hyper autistic. Change your mindset, working out is fun, the pain is enjoyable because you know you are transfor,ing yourself and creating a betetr life. Minimise your screen time at all costs

 

[envi.matei]

Since forever I have been ugly as shit (mostly because I was overweight). Now that I lost a lot of weight and started looking better, I’m worried I won’t have anyone to take you to prom/hoco etc.. I also moved schools Junior Year and don’t know anyone. Seems like everyone around me are lifelong friends, and I simply can’t join any group. I don’t share any interests w people because I mostly sit inside and play games or watch YouTube (usually history vids yes I’m corny) (I only workout to lose weight and gain strength besides that J hate working out) and I also play hockey but not really much besides that. How can I connect w people? I wish I could find people to text w, hangout w, drive with, go to the mall. How can I help myself w like my social skills like talking and conversation flow? I really want to experience prom and homecoming.

well does your school got an hockey team? Or are there any hockey fields or whatever they were called in your town? If yes-go there and go up to people and ask them to play if they seem your age and they might be from your highschool. if no-i would suggest after your class finish or before it starts ask for random kids that seem likeable for their snaps or tiktoks and to become friends. im sure they will be someone saying yes. way harder than it looks but do it with calm

 

[envi.matei]

DNR - you're clearly not attractive enough for this hypergamous dating market.

If you are not at least 6,1 or taller and HTN or above, you shouldn't even bother.

larp

 

[GoodLittleFoidBoy]

Since forever I have been ugly as shit (mostly because I was overweight). Now that I lost a lot of weight and started looking better, I’m worried I won’t have anyone to take you to prom/hoco etc.. I also moved schools Junior Year and don’t know anyone. Seems like everyone around me are lifelong friends, and I simply can’t join any group. I don’t share any interests w people because I mostly sit inside and play games or watch YouTube (usually history vids yes I’m corny) (I only workout to lose weight and gain strength besides that J hate working out) and I also play hockey but not really much besides that. How can I connect w people? I wish I could find people to text w, hangout w, drive with, go to the mall. How can I help myself w like my social skills like talking and conversation flow? I really want to experience prom and homecoming.

use the ltbs as a warm up then when your confident and hopefully at least mid ltn get the mtb you want

 

[Melnikomplex]

well does your school got an hockey team? Or are there any hockey fields or whatever they were called in your town? If yes-go there and go up to people and ask them to play if they seem your age and they might be from your highschool. if no-i would suggest after your class finish or before it starts ask for random kids that seem likeable for their snaps or tiktoks and to become friends. im sure they will be someone saying yes. way harder than it looks but do it with calm

I’m already a part of our towns hockey team and am decently on good terms with the players but all of them (literally all of them) go to a different school in town and live on the opposite side of town, so I can’t really do anything. Also none of them want my contact or etc

 

[Melnikomplex]

terrible take, not sure why you are telling this to people.

I agree that yes it massively helps and makes your life easier, but social confidence is king.

OP, i would say you need to establish a male friend group before you are able to attract a date. ANd don't do it for logical reasons thats hyper autistic. Change your mindset, working out is fun, the pain is enjoyable because you know you are transfor,ing yourself and creating a betetr life. Minimise your screen time at all costs

Thanks bro this actually inspired me

 

[envi.matei]

I’m already a part of our towns hockey team and am decently on good terms with the players but all of them (literally all of them) go to a different school in town and live on the opposite side of town, so I can’t really do anything. Also none of them want my contact or etc

damn cruel ig but try to ask for people tiktoks and snapchats, also study popular music and shit so you fit in