Guys on here who don’t have a girlfriend yet: What is holding you back?

[Nectar]

I want a range of reasons to why just as many responses. Don’t want to do a poll because there are so many reasons and could be anything so I can’t really give specific examples or obvious ones like: face, height etc

 

[PlayersGetPlayed]

Autism ugly relatively short and brutal case of abused dog syndrome

 

[Schizomogger]

I want to rot alone

 

[greycel]

I'm deformed

 

[wsada]

I ain't approaching first Nu uh

 

[Never Get Up]

bbc

 

[StuntmanMike]

Standards.I can't date subMTBs

 

[Nectar]

I want to rot alone

Same

 

[Nectar]

Standards.I can't date subMTBs

That’s quite common on here actually

 

[Deleted member 6305]

I really don't want one

 

[turbocuckcel_7000000]

i've never met a woman who's single and isn't a 2/10 with bad personality + don't go to bars and clubs

 

[Deleted member 30845]

I don't feel good with myself. And I'm not willing to date down.

 

[Deleted member 86114]

Unironically afraid of a situation where I have to defend her, I'm built like a twink . That's why I'm gymmaxxing rn

 

[Deleted member 77575]

Non NT + 5'6

 

[Jué]

No NT+ I look good only from Monday to Thursday from 3 pm to 11 pm jfl

 

[yert]

ugly

 

[Never Get Up]

I want to rot alone

You don’t seem to have a choice in this matter

 

[Deleted member 11127]

face

 

[axttt_]

I'm deformed

but you have a great personality bhai
your inner light is great

 

[Deleted member 31971]

Being weird and lonely

 

[BrianMoser]

Trying to be NT when i’m probably not.

 

[KevinDurder]

Acne

 

[Deleted member 56968]

non nt +fat

 

[St.TikTokcel]

I want a range of reasons to why just as many responses. Don’t want to do a poll because there are so many reasons and could be anything so I can’t really give specific examples or obvious ones like: face, height etc

Reddit tier post

 

[skkrrrtcantdo]

Because they are all sluts genuinely

 

[Nectar]

Reddit tier post

Not even close

 

[St.TikTokcel]

Not even close

It's phrased like that. Goyim on [Insert any homo forum] what is holding you back from X

 

[Deleted member 89049]

Not good looking enough to get into relationships

 

[Deleted member 75035]

I want a range of reasons to why just as many responses. Don’t want to do a poll because there are so many reasons and could be anything so I can’t really give specific examples or obvious ones like: face, height etc

high inhib + autism

 

[Samuel Jackson]

High inhib thugmaxxer

 

[Tusseleif]

I have been on a lot of dates and been flaked on or ghosted afterwards. Either I’m uglier irl or I’m just too autistic. Girls can be super responsive and send heart emojis before, and then be completely different afterwards.

Brutal shit tho, I had a date this week with a nice girl, but I got too drunk before the date. I can’t remember shit during the date. She left me on read after the date. But not all girls reject me either. It’s honestly very unpredictable who ghosts/flakes and who keeps talking afterwards

 

[TallDarkAndHandsome]

I want a range of reasons to why just as many responses. Don’t want to do a poll because there are so many reasons and could be anything so I can’t really give specific examples or obvious ones like: face, height etc

I definitely have the physical requirements for getting a girlfriend — I’m tall and have looks.

I think there are several reasons why I don’t have a girlfriend yet, and it’s a mix of personal issues and past experiences that play into it. For starters, I’ve got what feels like a pretty brutal case of abused dog syndrome aka social PTSD. Long story short, I’ve been through some stuff in highschool that’s made it hard to trust or even feel safe enough to get close to anyone. My guard’s always up, and I’ve developed this high inhibition that just makes everything socially more difficult. It wasn’t always like this I used to be a pretty social and happy kid.

On top of that, I’m not exactly neurotypical, which doesn’t help with navigating social situations. It’s like I’m constantly overanalyzing what’s normal or worrying about how I come across. I tend to just freeze up or avoid situations where meeting someone could even happen. And then, as if that’s not enough, I’m dealing with a messed-up libido, likely from years of being on Prozac. It kind of blunts my motivation, you know? I think I’ve resolved it now from going off the medication though.

So, between all of that, it’s been hard to break out of this cycle. It’s not for lack of wanting to connect, but there’s a lot in the way mentally and emotionally that I’m still working through.

 

[Deleted member 71411]

Not having a job (i study)

Also

The hypergamy of women made me more lazy than normal so I don't have the desire to train that I had before.

 

[autistic_tendencies]

I have been on a lot of dates and been flaked on or ghosted afterwards. Either I’m uglier irl or I’m just too autistic. Girls can be super responsive and send heart emojis before, and then be completely different afterwards.

Brutal shit tho, I had a date this week with a nice girl, but I got too drunk before the date. I can’t remember shit during the date. She left me on read after the date. But not all girls reject me either. It’s honestly very unpredictable who ghosts/flakes and who keeps talking afterwards

Well ur not ugly if you get dates
PUA and behaviour modification would work for you unironically

 

[Nectar]

Not having a job (i study)

Also

The hypergamy of women made me more lazy than normal so I don't have the desire to train that I had before.

Yessss, me studying is one of the biggest reasons to why I can’t get a job with flexible time

 

[TallDarkAndHandsome]

Well ur not ugly if you get dates
PUA and behaviour modification would work for you unironically

I get dates and this is exactly what I’m doing, exposure therapy. But it’s pretty brutal, I hate how cortisol inducing it is. I hope it will get better and improve overtime.

Idk maybe I should try some drugs for my social anxiety

And I hate the flaking you get on OLD — They’re wasting my time and making me paranoid

 

[russwestbrook]

22, had 3 gf’s before

realistically not where I want to be in life yet. I can get girls on apps or irl if I wana fuck but a gf is 100% too distracting and will likely limit your potential on where you can go in life IMO

 

[autistic_tendencies]

I get dates and this is exactly what I’m doing, exposure therapy. But it’s pretty brutal, I hate how cortisol inducing it is. I hope it will get better and improve overtime.

Idk maybe I should try some drugs for my social anxiety

And I hate the flaking you get on OLD — They’re wasting my time and making me paranoid

I’ve realized there certain laws to socializing that we autists missed out on
Play the game son

 

[diditeverbegin]

Too scared to approach or flirt

 

[Zenis]

I want a range of reasons to why just as many responses. Don’t want to do a poll because there are so many reasons and could be anything so I can’t really give specific examples or obvious ones like: face, height etc

High inhibition probably

 

[rand anon]

Too aspie to date my looksmatch, no interest in dumpster diving

 

[vernier]

Too scared to approach

 

[Pixel27]

I definitely have the physical requirements for getting a girlfriend — I’m tall and have looks.

I think there are several reasons why I don’t have a girlfriend yet, and it’s a mix of personal issues and past experiences that play into it. For starters, I’ve got what feels like a pretty brutal case of abused dog syndrome aka social PTSD. Long story short, I’ve been through some stuff in highschool that’s made it hard to trust or even feel safe enough to get close to anyone. My guard’s always up, and I’ve developed this high inhibition that just makes everything socially more difficult. It wasn’t always like this I used to be a pretty social and happy kid.

On top of that, I’m not exactly neurotypical, which doesn’t help with navigating social situations. It’s like I’m constantly overanalyzing what’s normal or worrying about how I come across. I tend to just freeze up or avoid situations where meeting someone could even happen. And then, as if that’s not enough, I’m dealing with a messed-up libido, likely from years of being on Prozac. It kind of blunts my motivation, you know? I think I’ve resolved it now from going off the medication though.

So, between all of that, it’s been hard to break out of this cycle. It’s not for lack of wanting to connect, but there’s a lot in the way mentally and emotionally that I’m still working through.

your situation sounds fairly similar to mine, i sympathize. Since it’s been a year has things gotten better for you?

 

[Nectar]

your situation sounds fairly similar to mine, i sympathize. Since it’s been a year has things gotten better for you?

Nice necrobump

 

[Deleted member 76088]

I want a range of reasons to why just as many responses. Don’t want to do a poll because there are so many reasons and could be anything so I can’t really give specific examples or obvious ones like: face, height etc

I’m unemployed and feel like it would be really awkward.

 

[Robert E Lee]

I want a range of reasons to why just as many responses. Don’t want to do a poll because there are so many reasons and could be anything so I can’t really give specific examples or obvious ones like: face, height etc

Face
Height
Race

 

[Mr_Bombo_mogs]

Ive never felt a meaningful relationship with anyone a female (except for my oneites),so I might just nichemaxx

 

[Pixel27]

Ive never felt a meaningful relationship with anyone a female (except for my oneites),so I might just nichemaxx

nichemaxxing definitely does help, i’m trying to nichemax and achieve the prettyboy lightskin look, I just need to figure out how to keep my curls looking good and learn how to put contacts in