HELP: Does anyone else get "cringed out" by deep emotions/crying?

[oxymoron]

I'm trying to figure out if there’s a name for this or if anyone else gets it because I get so weirded out when people get emotional over me. Like if someone starts crying because they feel bad for me or if they get all mushy telling me how much they care I just feel this massive "ick" and want to get away as fast as possible. It’s a visceral thing, honestly it almost feels like a sense of disgust.


It’s not even just with friends or random people either, I feel that same weirdness showing any affection to my own mum. What’s strange is I didn’t feel this way about my grandma but she’s not here anymore so maybe that’s different.
This "ick" is a total pattern for me
Relationships: I remember telling a girl I liked her once and as soon as she said she liked me back I felt this immediate disgust and just avoided her completely. We ended up just pretending it never happened and going back to "normal" because I couldn't handle the mushy stuff.
same with kids i actually love kids and think they're great but the idea of having one of my own makes me feel that exact same sense of cringe and I don’t know why.
I’m not trying to be a cold person but whenever things get vulnerable or "deep" my reflex is just to shut down and run. It feels way too intrusive and way too much. Is this a specific personality type or am I just wired weird? Does anyone else feel like emotional displays are just straight up gross?

by the way i love woman my dick gets hard for woman not niggas so dont start calling me gay

 

[slimester]

when I saw ur post:rep ratio I immediately typed "Dnr" then I changed my mind and typed this

 

[glansior]

its completely normal to be soulless person and piss on other people its called dark triad trait

 

[oxymoron]

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its completely normal to be soulless person and piss on other people its called dark triad trait

the funny thing is im not even dark triad i dont wanna go around killing niggas, plus i have empathy when i see animals die i have a pet cat, plus i swear u need to be psychopath to even be dark triad

 

[Thorondor]

Yes this sounds a bit like me, at least when I'm around other people. I don't show a lot of emotion (other than laughter when something is funny or mild joy/annoyance) and I never know how to interact with people who are really upset, it's really awkward.
When I was in my last relationship, I didn't display a lot of non-physical affection, it never occurred to me to do so and the one time I actively tried I felt really uncomfortable. Probably partly why she left lol.

I don't think I'm a cold, "dark triad" person, plenty of people say I'm kind, thoughtful etc. Sometimes I realise I am only pretending to care about things, but maybe that's because I'm too polite to walk away once it gets too emotional.
I'm not sure there is a term for what we have. I used to think it's some kind of autism but probably not as this is in isolation, my social skills are fine.

 

[oxymoron]

Yes this sounds a bit like me, at least when I'm around other people. I don't show a lot of emotion (other than laughter when something is funny or mild joy/annoyance) and I never know how to interact with people who are really upset, it's really awkward.
When I was in my last relationship, I didn't display a lot of non-physical affection, it never occurred to me to do so and the one time I actively tried I felt really uncomfortable. Probably partly why she left lol.

I don't think I'm a cold, "dark triad" person, plenty of people say I'm kind, thoughtful etc. Sometimes I realise I am only pretending to care about things, but maybe that's because I'm too polite to walk away once it gets too emotional.
I'm not sure there is a term for what we have. I used to think it's some kind of autism but probably not as this is in isolation, my social skills are fine.

THIS bro like is not that im not social or non nt is this icky feeling with showing too much love is weird or if they do the opposite, and to those who are saying this is dark triad they r stupid as fuck we have empathy for ppl for example we wouldnt wanna see a baby get eaten or sum shit, anyways i searched dis shit up apparently is called dismissive avoidant, search it up and see if it aligns with u, by the way do u have this weird feeling about having children like the responsibility and shit and looking after them give u the ick?

 

[Thorondor]

THIS bro like is not that im not social or non nt is this icky feeling with showing too much love is weird or if they do the opposite, and to those who are saying this is dark triad they r stupid as fuck we have empathy for ppl for example we wouldnt wanna see a baby get eaten or sum shit, anyways i searched dis shit up apparently is called dismissive avoidant, search it up and see if it aligns with u, by the way do u have this weird feeling about having children like the responsibility and shit and looking after them give u the ick?

I searched it up, it definitely covers a lot of how I view myself, particularly the self-reliance and not wanting to depend on people (even at an abstract societal level, I don't like public transport for example).
I will say, part of me craves deeper connections, just without having to open up emotionally or deal with her emotions. I suppose what I really value is commitment, loyalty and exclusivity (I want to feel wanted and special).

I think children can be great but I don't like the idea of actually looking after young kids, and certainly not having to look after a baby. My ideal would be to have kids from the age of 14 onwards haha. If I meet the right woman who I think would be a good mother I will probably have kids anyway, but I would be ok if it doesn't happen.

 

[oxymoron]

I searched it up, it definitely covers a lot of how I view myself, particularly the self-reliance and not wanting to depend on people (even at an abstract societal level, I don't like public transport for example).
I will say, part of me craves deeper connections, just without having to open up emotionally or deal with her emotions. I suppose what I really value is commitment, loyalty and exclusivity (I want to feel wanted and special).

I think children can be great but I don't like the idea of actually looking after young kids, and certainly not having to look after a baby. My ideal would be to have kids from the age of 14 onwards haha. If I meet the right woman who I think would be a good mother I will probably have kids anyway, but I would be ok if it doesn't happen.

yeh exactly i think this all links to how u was brought up as well my mum wasnt very affectionate although she did love me, she wasnt lovey dovey maybe thats why it feels weird when someone gives me the same amount of love, like i could be turned on by a girl but if she starts telling me how much she loves me or even worse cries abt how much she loves me im out the fucking door but is cool i found someone that kinda been through the same things these thoughts been on the back of my mind for ages

 

[blupjordan]

I'm trying to figure out if there’s a name for this or if anyone else gets it because I get so weirded out when people get emotional over me. Like if someone starts crying because they feel bad for me or if they get all mushy telling me how much they care I just feel this massive "ick" and want to get away as fast as possible. It’s a visceral thing, honestly it almost feels like a sense of disgust.


It’s not even just with friends or random people either, I feel that same weirdness showing any affection to my own mum. What’s strange is I didn’t feel this way about my grandma but she’s not here anymore so maybe that’s different.
This "ick" is a total pattern for me
Relationships: I remember telling a girl I liked her once and as soon as she said she liked me back I felt this immediate disgust and just avoided her completely. We ended up just pretending it never happened and going back to "normal" because I couldn't handle the mushy stuff.
same with kids i actually love kids and think they're great but the idea of having one of my own makes me feel that exact same sense of cringe and I don’t know why.
I’m not trying to be a cold person but whenever things get vulnerable or "deep" my reflex is just to shut down and run. It feels way too intrusive and way too much. Is this a specific personality type or am I just wired weird? Does anyone else feel like emotional displays are just straight up gross?

by the way i love woman my dick gets hard for woman not niggas so dont start calling me gay

This aint Reddit lesbo

 

[oxymoron]

This aint Reddit lesbo

what does this comment even mean

 

[blupjordan]

I'm trying to figure out if there’s a name for this or if anyone else gets it because I get so weirded out when people get emotional over me. Like if someone starts crying because they feel bad for me or if they get all mushy telling me how much they care I just feel this massive "ick" and want to get away as fast as possible. It’s a visceral thing, honestly it almost feels like a sense of disgust.


It’s not even just with friends or random people either, I feel that same weirdness showing any affection to my own mum. What’s strange is I didn’t feel this way about my grandma but she’s not here anymore so maybe that’s different.
This "ick" is a total pattern for me
Relationships: I remember telling a girl I liked her once and as soon as she said she liked me back I felt this immediate disgust and just avoided her completely. We ended up just pretending it never happened and going back to "normal" because I couldn't handle the mushy stuff.
same with kids i actually love kids and think they're great but the idea of having one of my own makes me feel that exact same sense of cringe and I don’t know why.
I’m not trying to be a cold person but whenever things get vulnerable or "deep" my reflex is just to shut down and run. It feels way too intrusive and way too much. Is this a specific personality type or am I just wired weird? Does anyone else feel like emotional displays are just straight up gross?

by the way i love woman my dick gets hard for woman not niggas so dont start calling me gay

This aint Reddit lesbo

what does this comment even mean

Im js playing gay