ifyouwannabemylover
Chasing Vanity
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My loving, wonderful boyfriend (he is in his late 20s) is dealing with a receding hairline. He remarks on this every so often with some displeasure but seems more or less resigned to it (as far as I know). Once or twice, he has brought up treatments that are available for this issue, of which I know little about. Once, he even vaguely asked me if I thought it was a good idea to go on them. I gave him the supportive “if that would make you feel better, sure” answer. The thing is, I really don’t want him to lose all his hair. I know it’s inevitable, but we’re still pretty young, and I like his hair as it is now—perhaps selfishly. He’s a pretty laid-back guy, and I know that if I encouraged him he would be much more likely to explore his options. But I would hate for him to think I’m superficial or that I would like him less if he was balding. On the other hand, I thoroughly invest in my appearance and actively work to prepare my skin/body for the inevitable effects of aging, so would it really be so crazy for him to do so too. Would it be cruel of me to gently encourage him to explore his options? Wait to see if he brings it up again? Or should I get over this and let nature take its course, even if it means I’ll be less attracted to him?
