Help me figure things out before I actually rope

[UnderTheKnife]

Here's roughly what happens with me every fuckin week:
- Tuesday to Friday: Working on arranging a date for Saturday through online dating
- Saturday: Going on the date, which most of the times ends with sex (yeah, I live in a degenerate city)
- Sunday/Monday: She turns cold and barely responds to me anymore --> depression --> trying to find someone else for next weekend hoping a LTR would work --> the cycle repeats.

All I want is to have a relationship with a woman I'm attracted to (MTB, no more no less. I didn't put that much money and effort to end up with a LTB jfl), so that I don't do stuff alone all the time (ffs I sometimes go to fancy restaurants alone and get those weird looks from the waitresses). But that's not possible when you don't ever get a second date.

I'm 100% sure it's not my looks (I get frequently complimented and stared at, and even approached every once in a while. inb4 a "brag thread" idiot comes in, leave this thread you virgin loser)

The only reasons I can think of are:
1. My asperger's. I indeed talk a behave weirdly during the date. But if so, why have sex with me afterwards?
2. Not being so good in bed. Could this be a deal breaker even if you're good looking?
3. Maybe something I'm not aware of? Would you point my attention to a possible additional reason?

Need some blackpill insights brothers, I can't handle the emotional rollercoaster that happens to me after date nights anymore.

DON'T ANSWER IF:
- YOU'RE A TEENAGER
- YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT THE FUCK YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT
- YOU'RE A SUB5/CURRYCEL/RICECEL. (I don't hate you, but your experiences are much different to be suitable for this sensitive thread)

 

[Martyros]

dnr

 

[Xangsane]

- YOU'RE A SUB5/CURRYCEL/RICECEL. (I don't hate you, but your experiences are much different to be suitable for this sensitive thread)

Can a sandcel/Muslimcel answer?

 

[UnderTheKnife]

Can a sandcel/Muslimcel answer?

Lol sure, especially if you live in the West

 

[Xangsane]

Lol sure, especially if you live in the West

Thank you, but please bear in mind I'm practicing halal dating (no sexual activities involved, chaperone present).

Here's roughly what happens with me every fuckin week:
- Tuesday to Friday: Working on arranging a date for Saturday through online dating
- Saturday: Going on the date, which most of the times ends with sex (yeah, I live in a degenerate city)
- Sunday/Monday: She turns cold and barely responds to me anymore --> depression --> trying to find someone else for next weekend hoping a LTR would work --> the cycle repeats.

First of all, what's your looks level? How old are these women and how old are you in comparison to her?
Try and get to know her (1 hour date max especially during the early stages) and don't have sex right away, at least not during the first few dates. You can kiss if you want.
Don't go for degenerate girls. Stay off online dating, the worst girls are there.

 

[Xangsane]

Lol sure, especially if you live in the West

Out of curiosity why are you excluding currycels/ricecels but okay with sandcels/Latinocels/blackcels answering?

 

[khvirgin]

" 2. Not being so good in bed. Could this be a deal breaker even if you're good looking?"

Of course it is
But you would know that no?

 

[Deleted member 17531]

I'm assuming your in your mid to late 20s
It's the same for everyone at that age except for chad

 

[UnderTheKnife]

Thank you, but please bear in mind I'm practicing halal dating (no sexual activities involved, chaperone present).

First of all, what's your looks level? How old are these women and how old are you in comparison to her?
Try and get to know her (1 hour date max especially during the early stages) and don't have sex right away, at least not during the first few dates. You can kiss if you want.
Don't go for degenerate girls. Stay off online dating, the worst girls are there.

Where you from bro? and where do you live?

I'm a 32yo HTN, dating 25-29 foids.
I'm not the one who pushes her into sex, it's like it's expected after the first date in this degenerate city (the last date she was suddenly like, "hey, let's go to my place")

I am aware that online dating is filled with whores, but I have no social circle. I've tried to avoid it as much as possible, until I had no choice. I cope by thinking that MAYBE there is some women on online dating just because this has become the norm rather than them being whores.

 

[UnderTheKnife]

Out of curiosity why are you excluding currycels/ricecels but okay with sandcels/Latinocels/blackcels answering?

Because my profile kind of matches whites/arabs/latinos. yeah I should have excluded blacks, forgot about them.

 

[Xangsane]

Because my profile kind of matches whites/arabs/latinos. yeah I should have excluded blacks, forgot about them.

What do you mean profile?

 

[Xangsane]

Because my profile kind of matches whites/arabs/latinos. yeah I should have excluded blacks, forgot about them.

Also please don't include Arabs with white groups. We have a different approach to dating especially if religion is involved.

 

[UnderTheKnife]

" 2. Not being so good in bed. Could this be a deal breaker even if you're good looking?"

Of course it is
But you would know that no?

yeah, but I clinge to some hope that some woman would not have that huge sex drive and rather be looking for connection more than sex.

 

[UnderTheKnife]

I'm assuming your in your mid to late 20s
It's the same for everyone at that age except for chad

Yeah I'm an oldcel

 

[UnderTheKnife]

Also please don't include Arabs with white groups. We have a different approach to dating especially if religion is involved.

I'm a white/Latino-passing Levantine non-Muslim Arab living in Spain.

 

[Xangsane]

Where you from bro? and where do you live?

South UK, not in a major city.

I'm a 32yo HTN, dating 25-29 foids.

Strange. Usually foids at that age are rushing to settle down.

I'm not the one who pushes her into sex, it's like it's expected after the first date in this degenerate city (the last date she was suddenly like, "hey, let's go to my place")

Are you dating alt girls, girls in the Arts, or liberal girls?

I am aware that online dating is filled with whores, but I have no social circle.

Why don't you try to get one?

I've tried to avoid it as much as possible, until I had no choice. I cope by thinking that MAYBE there is some women on online dating just because this has become the norm rather than them being whores.

Are you religious? Do you have time to try out activities such as rock climbing, boxing, hiking?

 

[Xangsane]

I'm a white/Latino-passing Levantine non-Muslim Arab.

I'm assuming you're Maronite.

 

[Xangsane]

I'm a white/Latino-passing Levantine non-Muslim Arab living in Spain.

I can smell insecurity to try and reaffirm your whiteness...
I'm a Med-passing Muslim Arab (who is half-white) but please for God's sake drop the act of desperately wanting to be recognised as white. You and me are persons of colour.

 

[Deleted member 22380]

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No one cares pedo

 

[UnderTheKnife]

I'm assuming you're Maronite.

wow, you are knowledgeable. Yeah, but now atheist.

 

[khvirgin]

yeah, but I clinge to some hope that some woman would not have that huge sex drive and rather be looking for connection more than sex.

How many first dates converted to sex not going to second dates are we talking about here?

 

[Xangsane]

wow, you are knowledgeable. Yeah, but now atheist.

Get back into religion ASAP. Try and meet a church girl. Maybe try and see if you can get a Maronite girl from back home.

 

[Mediterranean]

I'm 100% sure it's not my looks

I guarantee that it is your looks. Cope harder

 

[UnderTheKnife]

Get back into religion ASAP. Try and meet a church girl. Maybe try and see if you can get a Maronite girl from back home.

Yeah, this is actually my last hope. Barely anyone is on online dating there, and believe it or not there's still plenty of virgins in their early/mid 20's.
But my problem is that my asperger's is more evident there. Abroad, I am given more leniency because if I say something weird, it could be blamed on cultural difference. But back home, I am easily readable.
I guess wherever I go, it all comes down to this fuckin mental condition.
Anw thanks bro for all the effort you put into answering this thread, means a lot.

 

[Xangsane]

Yeah, this is actually my last hope. Barely anyone is on online dating there, and believe it or not there's still plenty of virgins in their early/mid 20's.
But my problem is that my asperger's is more evident there. Abroad, I am given more leniency because if I say something weird, it could be blamed on cultural difference. But back home, I am easily readable.
I guess wherever I go, it all comes down to this fuckin mental condition.
Anw thanks bro for all the effort you put into answering this thread, means a lot.

I'm going down the religious route for a wife, and I strongly suggest you do that.
However, since you're Christian, premarital sex may not matter so much unlike in Islam.
You're welcome!

 

[buckchadley31]

Thank you, but please bear in mind I'm practicing halal dating (no sexual activities involved, chaperone present).

First of all, what's your looks level? How old are these women and how old are you in comparison to her?
Try and get to know her (1 hour date max especially during the early stages) and don't have sex right away, at least not during the first few dates. You can kiss if you want.
Don't go for degenerate girls. Stay off online dating, the worst girls are there.

there's no such thing as halal dating

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

I can smell insecurity to try and reaffirm your whiteness...
I'm a Med-passing Muslim Arab (who is half-white) but please for God's sake drop the act of desperately wanting to be recognised as white. You and me are persons of colour.

Good post bhai.

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

there's no such thing as halal dating

First time you and I agree on something.

 

[Xangsane]

Good post bhai.

Thank you!

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

Thank you!

You’re welcome.

 

[Deleted member 19174]

Ok chad

 

[Xangsane]

Good post bhai.

Thank you!

 

[Xangsane]

First time you and I agree on something.

You can make it happen though.

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

You can make it happen though.

You can minimize the harms of dating but it can’t be called permissible since by design dating isn’t allowed. That’s what I mean. I think what you do is better than what others do but ideally one would not date at all.

 

[Xangsane]

You can minimize the harms of dating but it can’t be called permissible since by design dating isn’t allowed.

That's what I'm doing haha.

That’s what I mean. I think what you do is better than what others do but ideally one would not date at all.

That's true if you're going to arrangemarriagemaxx. I'd rather not do that but if I have to due to no good girls around thare compatible with me then so be it.

 

[Gengar’s Ghost]

That's what I'm doing haha.

Yes, bhai. That’s the best alternative.

That's true if you're going to arrangemarriagemaxx. I'd rather not do that but if I have to due to no good girls around thare compatible with me then so be it.

I don’t think an arranged marriage is bad. People have been doing that since ancient times. But I understand your reservations considering the society we live in.

 

[UnderTheKnife]

Yes, bhai. That’s the best alternative.

I don’t think an arranged marriage is bad. People have been doing that since ancient times. But I understand your reservations considering the society we live in.

But arranged marriages most often lead to incel kids. You don't want your son to be growing up in the 2030/40s, 2020s are already brutal enough.

 

[New Poster]

Your first performance in bed matters, but girls from online are flaky af. I hooked up twice from tinder and git flaked after too, and I'm an animal in the bedroom.