darkness97
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i don't really believe that much in "inhibition". i mean it's actually pretty complicated but whatever lol.
most times its just your situation awareness telling you, you're going to get rejected. overcoming that inhibition is basically you trying to override your own instincts. you walk away from it thinking that something could have happened (then later mistaking it for certainty) when you don't actually know for sure and more likely than not; you were going to get rejected.
chad's don't actually have amazing game. they are just interacting with women who want them already. so anything they do was the "right" move.
The biggest problem that i have noticed from users here is they lean too heavily into beauty and prettiness and not enough into masculinity. or they underestimate the significance of a masculine appearance when dealing with women. they see women react really positively to pretty boys not taking into consideration that there is a massive difference between admiration and legitimate desire.
admiration doesn't translate to sex. for the users who are more thoughtful, kind and respectful you will have a rough time getting women into bed. not because women don't find you sexy at all. more because it takes more time and they are more interested in building a relationship with you.
you really have two options. if you're more on the feminine side, which you likely are due to the thoughtful nature of even being in this space in the first place then you will have to date women and build something that will take time.
or you can lean into a more masculine look to appeal to women and not project your own ideas of what is attractive onto women.
TLDR, pretty boys are overrated, and inhibition is an illusion.
most times its just your situation awareness telling you, you're going to get rejected. overcoming that inhibition is basically you trying to override your own instincts. you walk away from it thinking that something could have happened (then later mistaking it for certainty) when you don't actually know for sure and more likely than not; you were going to get rejected.
chad's don't actually have amazing game. they are just interacting with women who want them already. so anything they do was the "right" move.
The biggest problem that i have noticed from users here is they lean too heavily into beauty and prettiness and not enough into masculinity. or they underestimate the significance of a masculine appearance when dealing with women. they see women react really positively to pretty boys not taking into consideration that there is a massive difference between admiration and legitimate desire.
admiration doesn't translate to sex. for the users who are more thoughtful, kind and respectful you will have a rough time getting women into bed. not because women don't find you sexy at all. more because it takes more time and they are more interested in building a relationship with you.
you really have two options. if you're more on the feminine side, which you likely are due to the thoughtful nature of even being in this space in the first place then you will have to date women and build something that will take time.
or you can lean into a more masculine look to appeal to women and not project your own ideas of what is attractive onto women.
TLDR, pretty boys are overrated, and inhibition is an illusion.
