How can you ever be happy again, knowing that everything depends on looks?

[Bewusst]

Serious question. Every blackpilled person knows that looks determine almost everything - all kinds of relationships (including friendships), carreer options, mental health, even lifespan - and yet we live in a virtue signalling, bluepilled society which shamelessly pretends that we actually had a choice; that lack of effort, personality and competence were the reason for our failures, not our looks.

Living in this kind of society as an ugly person, knowing that one will forever be judged, no matter how hard he works and still being expected to expose oneself on a daily basis just so he can survive and keep living a miserable, depressed life is (for me) unimaginable.

I can (theoretically) deal with the fact I'm ugly. I can easily deal with the fact I'm unattractive to the opposite sex and I can live a solitary life just fine. But I can not deal with the fact that I have to expose myself to others every single day to wageslave, just to survive, when I can not accept what I see in the mirror. It's degrading and will lead to at least one of these outcomes:

1. I'll manage to fix my looks enough so I can accept them (best outcome)
2. incapacity and psychiatric treatment
3. suicide/early death.
Addiction is/will be involved either way.

How do you cope? What do you guys imagine your life to be like in the future?

 

[Deleted member 4438]

Dude tinder and this site are telling me that I can be happy if I get a fat Landwhale who wants me

 

[HighTGymcel]

suicide/early death.

 

[turkproducer]

tbh it’s not like you can’t succeed as an ugly man career wise lol. most successful men i see are definitely not chads, but definitely good looking ppl have it easier for sure

 

[auboutduprecipice]

i cope with films, books, and alcohol then hopefully neetbux so i can live the rest of my life in peace

 

[jjm4765]

it sucks that to live a good life you have to be good looking, something which is pretty much out of your control to a big extent.

i see myself in the future trying to find stuff which makes me happy which doesn't have anything to do with looks such as travelling and becoming rich and settling down.

 

[RAITEIII]

Get to a decent level. Not at home to write too much. Overall I can't cope. You can if ure fulfilled in some way which depends on ur mentality.

Serious question. Every blackpilled person knows that looks determine almost everything - all kinds of relationships (including friendships), carreer options, mental health, even lifespan - and yet we live in a virtue signalling, bluepilled society which shamelessly pretends that we actually had a choice; that lack of effort, personality and competence were the reason for our failures, not our looks.

Living in this kind of society as an ugly person, knowing that one will forever be judged, no matter how hard he works and still being expected to expose oneself on a daily basis just so he can survive and keep living a miserable, depressed life is (for me) unimaginable.

I can (theoretically) deal with the fact I'm ugly. I can easily deal with the fact I'm unattractive to the opposite sex and I can live a solitary life just fine. But I can not deal with the fact that I have to expose myself to others every single day to wageslave, just to survive, when I can not accept what I see in the mirror. It's degrading and will lead to at least one of these outcomes:

1. I'll manage to fix my looks enough so I can accept them (best outcome)
2. incapacity and psychiatric treatment
3. suicide/early death.
Addiction is/will be involved either way.

How do you cope? What do you guys imagine your life to be like in the future?

I have a friend who says he's coping by "looking for the truth".

I say truth of what? Lol he's coping so bad but I keep my mouth shut because knowing you're 38 and it's over for u sounds mind disturbing

 

[Bewusst]

it sucks that to live a good life you have to be good looking, something which is pretty much out of your control to a big extent.

i see myself in the future trying to find stuff which makes me happy which doesn't have anything to do with looks such as travelling and becoming rich and settling down.

Yeah but to travel and to get rich you need to expose yourself to other people which is difficult if you're dissatisfied with the way you look imo. At least for me

tbh it’s not like you can’t succeed as an ugly man career wise lol. most successful men i see are definitely not chads, but definitely good looking ppl have it easier for sure

What kind of delusion and/or mental strength does it take though to "succeed carreer-wise" if you have to expose your face when you're ugly?

 

[jjm4765]

Yeah but to travel and to get rich you need to expose yourself to other people which is difficult if you're dissatisfied with the way you look imo. At least for me

yeah true tbh, unless you build your own online company and get lucky enough to make it big you cant really become rich without exposure, and then to travel you cant really do that without any interaction with others.

tbh though im starting to believe in the blackpill less and less as time goes on, sure whats being said here does make sense like you need to be good looking to have a good life and get a gf but then when i look around me there are people who would be rated 3psl on here who have a good looking gf, a big friend group and go to party's, the blackpill just doesnt seem to translate well into the real world imo.

it just doesn't make sense how there are so many people who arent good looking but are still living great lives, but then you have people on here who are good looking who are living horrible lives, maybe the problem is mostly in our head rather than real, idk anymore.

 

[Deleted member 4310]

I feel you, studies have shown though that really ugly people (truecels) actually make more money than any other group but attractive people make more than normies in general, so at least there is some justice.

When it comes to socializing and dating attractive people will always be on top though and truecels at the bottom.

I cope with the fact that even if this sucks it's waaaaay better than being born in the stoneage or something.

Who knows, maybe in the future everybody will be genetically modified to have the same level of attractiveness because lookism was acknowledged...

 

[BrettyBoy]

If you’re average or ugly then best you can do is just cope at that point.

 

[Bewusst]

tbh though im starting to believe in the blackpill less and less as time goes on, sure whats being said here does make sense like you need to be good looking to have a good life and get a gf but then when i look around me there are people who would be rated 3psl on here who have a good looking gf, a big friend group and go to party's, the blackpill just doesnt seem to translate well into the real world imo.

it just doesn't make sense how there are so many people who arent good looking but are still living great lives, but then you have people on here who are good looking who are living horrible lives, maybe the problem is mostly in our head rather than real, idk anymore.

Just because there are "happy" ugly guys doesn't mean that lookism doesn't exist. It does. There isn't a single day I'm not thinking about my looks. What I see in the mirror is what everyone else sees flipped, undistorted and without excuses. Every failo will be registered instantly. It's said that we are our own worst critics but it's actually the opposite. People who don't know us have no need to justify our insufficiencies so they'll judge harder. If I couldn't get used to my mirror reflection in 23 years, how can someone who never saw me before? The problem might be in the head for people who started being doubtful about their looks after bad social experiences and trauma but not if what you see in the mirror actually looks bad to you. If you hate what you see there, chances are you're indeed ugly.

If you’re average or ugly then best you can do is just cope at that point.

I'd kill for average, as stupid as it might sound to you

ugly people (truecels) actually make more money than any other group

That's because they try to compensate

 

[jjm4765]

Just because there are "happy" ugly guys doesn't mean that lookism doesn't exist. It does.

i agree with you the blackpill and lookism is definitely real but what kind of benefit do we really get from it, i mean if ugly people are living good lives what are all of the average/ above average people on here doing wrong, maybe its better to just live a good life without the knowledge of the blackpill rather than to know the truth but have it hold you back from building any sort of relationships/ friendships.

i know if i wasnt blackpilled i would feel alot more confident in myself and would probably find socialising with people easier which could lead to at least some decent friendships

There isn't a single day I'm not thinking about my looks. What I see in the mirror is what everyone else sees flipped, undistorted and without excuses. Every failo will be registered instantly. It's said that we are our own worst critics but it's actually the opposite. People who don't know us have no need to justify our insufficiencies so they'll judge harder. If I couldn't get used to my mirror reflection in 23 years, how can someone who never saw me before? The problem might be in the head for people who started being doubtful about their looks after bad social experiences and trauma but not if what you see in the mirror actually looks bad to you. If you hate what you see there, chances are you're indeed ugly.

what if the way you see yourself isnt the way you look, i think you may have mentioned before about having bdd, it may be hard to accept but this or other problems could be the distorting the way you see yourself and also the way you think others see yourself, its hard to question your reality but maybe your life, the way you look and the way people are treating you are different to the way you see it.

If I couldn't get used to my mirror reflection in 23 years, how can someone who never saw me before?

this quote kinda makes me think your problem maybe in the way you see yourself, i mean your right if you cant accept the way you look how will anybody else, but why arent you accepting your looks, your definitely at least above average unless your heavily frauding in all your pics.

maybe the lack of confidence in your looks is what is holding you back

you may think people dont want to be with you because of the way you look but for all you know they could be feeling like you dont wanna be around them, they may not realise that you think they dont wanna be around you.

what you see in the mirror actually looks bad to you. If you hate what you see there, chances are you're indeed ugly.

what you see in the mirror may not actually be what others are seeing

the one advice ill give which is probably the hardest thing to do is to start questioning your reality, are your looks really your problem or is there something else like mental illness which is what is really holding you back.

its hard to really fathom that your whole reality could be a distorted lie but once you do this you'll know for sure what your problems are.

 

[Deleted member 209]

i stopped being happy at15

 

[rockndogs]

Just be good looking tbh

 

[Bewusst]

i agree with you the blackpill and lookism is definitely real but what kind of benefit do we really get from it, i mean if ugly people are living good lives what are all of the average/ above average people on here doing wrong, maybe its better to just live a good life without the knowledge of the blackpill rather than to know the truth but have it hold you back from building any sort of relationships/ friendships.

i know if i wasnt blackpilled i would feel alot more confident in myself and would probably find socialising with people easier which could lead to at least some decent friendships



what if the way you see yourself isnt the way you look, i think you may have mentioned before about having bdd, it may be hard to accept but this or other problems could be the distorting the way you see yourself and also the way you think others see yourself, its hard to question your reality but maybe your life, the way you look and the way people are treating you are different to the way you see it.



this quote kinda makes me think your problem maybe in the way you see yourself, i mean your right if you cant accept the way you look how will anybody else, but why arent you accepting your looks, your definitely at least above average unless your heavily frauding in all your pics.

maybe the lack of confidence in your looks is what is holding you back

you may think people dont want to be with you because of the way you look but for all you know they could be feeling like you dont wanna be around them, they may not realise that you think they dont wanna be around you.


what you see in the mirror may not actually be what others are seeing

the one advice ill give which is probably the hardest thing to do is to start questioning your reality, are your looks really your problem or is there something else like mental illness which is what is really holding you back.

its hard to really fathom that your whole reality could be a distorted lie but once you do this you'll know for sure what your problems are.

Unless suffering from hallucinations or visual problems, there's nothing such as BDD and I'm sure I don't have it. What you see in the mirror - if it's a normal mirror and not a changing room mirror who's made to make you look better so you buy clothes - is a very accurate representation of what you actually look like, minus the flip. The pics I posted here so far are cherrypicked, don't think I look like in my avi irl.

I really appreciate all your efforts to help and give advice here though. It's rare.

Just be good looking tbh

You are

 

[Deleted member 616]

Get looks or die trying

 

[PenileFacialSurgery]

By being good looking...

hahah DUUUHHH!

 

[Greeicy]

I see lots of below average to ugly guys who have fulfilled their purpose in life and are successful romantically, socially and financially. You're taking the blackpill meme too literally.

 

[KingOfRome]

again

How presumptuous of you.