How do I conversationmax?

[Menas]

I know the basics like switch/bind topics but nothing much really

Especially when it comes to girls I fumble hard


@chadisbeingmade @TechnoBoss @Randomized Shame @imontheloose @Sadist

 

[Menas]

@ReadBooksEveryday @Jason Voorhees @emeraldglass @LXR @Volksstaffel

 

[Fridx]

Just go up and say hi

 

[Deleted member 280162]

I know the basics like switch/bind topics but nothing much really

Especially when it comes to girls I fumble hard


@chadisbeingmade @TechnoBoss @Randomized Shame @imontheloose @Sadist

On web I just use gpt, irl idk I'm rly good at talking with ppl irl I usually just talk abt what I see in moment

 

[waspy]

Show them ur contributor badge

 

[Fridx]

Just go up and say hi

Selmun aleykum baaayan adiniz ne

 

[LXR]

You have to risk elevating from small talk to some more personal topic. How you do that depends on what you observe. Its entirely on luck tho, you cant pinpoint all the variables, sometimes the circumstances just dont favour you.

 

[Menas]

Just go up and say hi

and what comes next bruv

Show them ur contributor badge

doesn't work bro

Selmun aleykum baaayan adiniz ne

I'm asking about how I keep the conversation going

 

[Jason Voorhees]

I don't even know what those things even mean tbh

 

[Menas]

You have to risk elevating from small talk to some more personal topic. How you do that depends on what you observe. Its entirely on luck tho, you cant pinpoint all the variables, sometimes the circumstances just dont favour you.

could you give me a few examples so I can understand better

I don't even know what those things even mean tbh

wdym nigga

 

[iblamexyz]

I know the basics like switch/bind topics but nothing much really

Especially when it comes to girls I fumble hard


@chadisbeingmade @TechnoBoss @Randomized Shame @imontheloose @Sadist

It’s really not hard

you don’t need to run pua jfl

you just talk to woman

 

[Jason Voorhees]

could you give me a few examples so I can understand better

wdym nigga

switch/bind topics?

 

[Fridx]

You gotta man up
Low t if you dont ask her if she wants to crack after learning her name and age

 

[waspy]

and what comes next bruv

doesn't work bro

I'm asking about how I keep the conversation going

Sorry to hear that the contributor badge method doesn’t work just read their body language if they seem interested or if they don’t then quickly change topics

 

[imontheloose]

There is no “learning” to talk to people. If you can’t, you can’t. It’s over. Stay on looksmax.org, it’s for the greater good. The permacel stare is seen by all.

 

[TechnoBoss]

I know the basics like switch/bind topics but nothing much really

Especially when it comes to girls I fumble hard


@chadisbeingmade @TechnoBoss @Randomized Shame @imontheloose @Sadist

Be genuinely interested in the other person & ask questions. Keep trying to talk to people and gain experience in keeping conversations going.

Brain chemistry has a lot to do with this. Have you ever noticed how some people naturally can & want to talk to people? Their brain chemistry is different than that of people who enjoy being alone. It sounds like water information, but there is a fundamental difference in the brains of people who are social vs asocial people.

 

[LXR]

You have to risk elevating from small talk to some more personal topic. How you do that depends on what you observe. Its entirely on luck tho, you cant pinpoint all the variables, sometimes the circumstances just dont favour you.

You also have to gauge whether they like to talk or like to be passive. Some people dont really like being the passive one in the conversation and interrupting them is a mood killer. The passive ones simply wont bring anything up unless you do. Mostly the more you think about "how to have a conversation" the less you'll actually be in the conversation. Practice is your only friend. Some people are simply not worth talking to, so you will learn who to avoid just by talking to more people.

 

[Menas]

switch/bind topics?

Like if she has a necklace, you ask her what the story is about it and you keep it going like if she says from my grandma you ask deeper questions etc

You gotta man up
Low t if you dont ask her if she wants to crack after learning her name and age

why do I need the name doe

There is no “learning” to talk to people. If you can’t, you can’t. It’s over. Stay on looksmax.org, it’s for the greater good. The permacel stare is seen by all.

Jova

Be genuinely interested in the other person & ask questions. Keep trying to talk to people and gain experience in keeping conversations going.

Brain chemistry has a lot to do with this. Have you ever noticed how some people naturally can & want to talk to people? Their brain chemistry is different than that of people who enjoy being alone. It sounds like water information, but there is a fundamental difference in the brains of people who are social vs asocial people.

yeah, I think childhood and other factors affect this aswell

 

[Deleted member 159029]

I know the basics like switch/bind topics but nothing much really

Especially when it comes to girls I fumble hard


@chadisbeingmade @TechnoBoss @Randomized Shame @imontheloose @Sadist

i mean u either have high or low social intelligence, u can learn to communicate better but u will always be robotic if u have low social intelligence

if u have high social intelligence js dont overthink, ik people always say that, i could never do it until recently but it rlly is the method

i can pm u how to check social intelligence btw, i thought im socially retarded but it turned out im quite the opposite

 

[imontheloose]

Jova

I’m the only one here who will tell u the truth, everyone else is being a moral fag not understanding that’s it’s over in ur brain. Chuddha understands.

 

[LXR]

could you give me a few examples so I can understand better

wdym nigga

When I was off to a far off college, I didnt really know much about the culture of that region. I was sharing a hostel with 4 other people. 2 of them were already friends and the other guy and me were the loners. One evening I saw the other dude playing CS:GO and I sat and watch. I asked him about the game and who he was playing with. Then I compared CS:GO with Valorant and naturally the convo went to how Valorant stacks up against CS:GO. Then we talked about single player games. Then like that topics changed and we became good mates

 

[Jason Voorhees]

Be genuinely interested in the other person & ask questions. Keep trying to talk to people and gain experience in keeping conversations going.

Brain chemistry has a lot to do with this. Have you ever noticed how some people naturally can & want to talk to people? Their brain chemistry is different than that of people who enjoy being alone. It sounds like water information, but there is a fundamental difference in the brains of people who are social vs asocial people.

There is no “learning” to talk to people. If you can’t, you can’t. It’s over. Stay on looksmax.org, it’s for the greater good. The permacel stare is seen by all.

That is correct NT people often have higher baseline dopamine sensitivity to social rewards, making chatting feel exciting, whereas autists might get that hit from solitary activities instead. Those things can't be changed. Being NT is somewhat genetic but you can absolutely larp as being extroverted or NT effectively with practice, scripting responses, studying social cues, and building habits to mimic a natural ease others have getting as close as possible to the point that conversations flow smoothly even if the internal experience still feels hard. It's exactly what actors salespeople, politicians learn to do. They make conversations feel like a part of a their performance on stage like a dance, a rehersal instead of a regular conversation.

 

[TechnoBoss]

There is no “learning” to talk to people. If you can’t, you can’t. It’s over. Stay on looksmax.org, it’s for the greater good. The permacel stare is seen by all.

This is not true. You 100% can learn how to talk to people. It comes from exposure therapy.

yeah, I think childhood and other factors affect this aswell

100% it has to do with if we were socialized as children and our brain chemistry. You can learn how to talk to people because we're nothing if not adaptable. Good luck if you're already 30 years old and trying to learn how to be NT and keep conversations going. You can still find your way up until your mid-20s. If you're already past your mid-20s and you don't know how to hold a conversation, then it is most likely over.

 

[SomaliSub5]

you can literally talk about almost anything, as long as its somewhat relatable to both of you

 

[childishkillah]

I know the basics like switch/bind topics but nothing much really

Especially when it comes to girls I fumble hard


@chadisbeingmade @TechnoBoss @Randomized Shame @imontheloose @Sadist

The reason i love my oneitis is cuz is so easy talk to her

 

[Gargantuan]

You cannot think your way out of these things. You talk, you fuck it up, you adjust, and repeat. That’s the whole path, don't make it more complicated than that for the sake of your own sanity.

 

[imontheloose]

This is not true. You 100% can learn how to talk to people. It comes from exposure therapy.

No exposure therapy for your neurodivergence. This isn’t an irrational fear he has, he is neurochemically raped; there is no fix.

 

[Deleted member 170084]

I know the basics like switch/bind topics but nothing much really

Especially when it comes to girls I fumble hard


@chadisbeingmade @TechnoBoss @Randomized Shame @imontheloose @Sadist

B attractive

 

[Menas]

You cannot think your way out of these things. You talk, you fuck it up, you adjust, and repeat. That’s the whole path, don't make it more complicated than that for the sake of your own sanity.

You might be right, whenever I overcomplicate things it just gets worse for some reason

 

[childishkillah]

No exposure therapy for your neurodivergence. This isn’t an irrational fear he has, he is neurochemically raped; there is no fix.

I doubt most of us are neurodivergent. I've probably just had poor cognitive/social development.

 

[imontheloose]

I doubt most of us are neurodivergent. I've probably just had poor cognitive/social development.

You aren’t going to unlearn years of that. Your brain is permanently altered. You can have as much exposure to social interaction as u want and it’ll never fill that void or change your brain back to how it was before.

 

[childishkillah]

You aren’t going to unlearn years of that. Your brain is permanently altered. You can have as much exposure to social interaction as u want and it’ll never fill that void or change your brain back to how it was before.

This is prolly one of the most brootal suifuels i've ever read

 

[imontheloose]

This is prolly one of the most brootal suifuels i've ever read

There is no reason to stay alive and that’s the truth. Your current brain is the only reality you know and you were destined to have it. Imagining what your brain would’ve else been like if you grew up differently is pointless; this is the only reality you know.

It’s over.

 

[emeraldglass]

@ReadBooksEveryday @Jason Voorhees @emeraldglass @LXR @Volksstaffel

In real life or through text

 

[Menas]

In real life or through text

IRL, I'm open for advice on text aswell though.

 

[Prøphet]

i can pm u how to check social intelligence btw, i thought im socially retarded but it turned out im quite the opposite

Can u pm me too

 

[KD6Imp33]

Be genuinely interested in the other person & ask questions. Keep trying to talk to people and gain experience in keeping conversations going.

Brain chemistry has a lot to do with this. Have you ever noticed how some people naturally can & want to talk to people? Their brain chemistry is different than that of people who enjoy being alone. It sounds like water information, but there is a fundamental difference in the brains of people who are social vs asocial people.

Social person = Nofapper
Antisocial person = porn watcher
I know, i speak from experience.

 

[Deleted member 287651]

you need charge/energy, then your brain won't struggle with it

won't mention the obvious part

 

[Deleted member 183169]

if it’s irl then idk but otherwise use ai for conversation ideas or maybe even how to structure it

 

[Deleted member 159029]

Can u pm me too

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[Sadist]

I know the basics like switch/bind topics but nothing much really

Especially when it comes to girls I fumble hard


@chadisbeingmade @TechnoBoss @Randomized Shame @imontheloose @Sadist

i wish i could tell you if i were able to describe it in words. your best bet would be to hang around nt people who genuinely enjoy your company, and pick up skills from them (inb4 there are none - try your best to find some, they are really not that rare whatsoever)

 

[Prøphet]

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Mb I messaged you

 

[emeraldglass]

IRL, I'm open for advice on text aswell though.

Will have to make a forum thread on this and tagg you in it cause answer will be to long

 

[puff]

I know the basics like switch/bind topics but nothing much really

Especially when it comes to girls I fumble hard


@chadisbeingmade @TechnoBoss @Randomized Shame @imontheloose @Sadist

make sure if ur on a date the conversation is about u or the girl nothing else