How do I even ask a girl out?

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Bit of a stupid question, but I'm such an awkward person. How would I go about asking out a girl? Like how should I ask her without seeming nervous or awkward?

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Just ask her to do something with you. Ask her too meet up, etc.
 
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Just ask her to do something with you. Ask her too meet up, etc.
I know it's that simple but how do I ask? Like what do I say? I was thinking of taking her to the cinema or something but I don't know how to ask her.
 
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Bit of a stupid question, but I'm such an awkward person. How would I go about asking out a girl? Like how should I ask her without seeming nervous or awkward?

Serious question
"hey stacy, ive decided to generously offer you muh chad bwc. accept it now or never see me again"
 
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I know it's that simple but how do I ask? Like what do I say? I was thinking of taking her to the cinema or something but I don't know how to ask her.
Ask her if she is free on x day and would you like to go to cinema with me on said day.
 
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Hey! Want to go out sometime?
Bit of a stupid question, but I'm such an awkward person. How would I go about asking out a girl? Like how should I ask her without seeming nervous or awkward?

Serious question
 
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Be htn+
 
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Just talk with her in a private intimate-ish setting
 
Depends on how well you know the person
 
Depends on how well you know the person
I know her quite well, she's spoken to my parents, I've spoken to her parents.
"Joined: Oct 8, 2025"
"hey stacy, ive decided to generously offer you muh chad bwc. accept it now or never see me again"
Now that MIGHT work.
Hey! Want to go out sometime?
Probably the most useful response I've had here, apart from @nobodylovesme's response.
Ask her if she is free on x day and would you like to go to cinema with me on said day.
I'll give it a go, I'll update soon.
 
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I'll give it a go, I'll update soon.
Cinema is not good, because you and the girl won’t even get to talk. Ask her what does she like to do on her free time. Then act interested in that and ask if she’s free to do that.
 
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not once did I state the word grey, made my account june 23rd, a whole 4 months ago bhai
Cinema is not good, because you and the girl won’t even get to talk. Ask her what does she like to do on her free time. Then act interested in that and ask if she’s free to do that.
It's the only thing I can think of within my price range, I don't have a lot of money to be throwing around for food dates (most places around me cost around 30£ for two meals, let alone the drinks). Where else do you suggest where we could speak properly?
 
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not once did I state the word grey, made my account june 23rd, a whole 4 months ago bhai
i had an acc in 2023 lol
 
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Bit of a stupid question, but I'm such an awkward person. How would I go about asking out a girl? Like how should I ask her without seeming nervous or awkward?

Serious question
Just do it over text it’s simpler
 
Just do it over text it’s simpler
That's what I was going to do, sure it's simpler but what do I even ask them. And where else other than the cinema could I take her?
 
"hey slut, want some dih?"
 
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not once did I state the word grey, made my account june 23rd, a whole 4 months ago bhai

It's the only thing I can think of within my price range, I don't have a lot of money to be throwing around for food dates (most places around me cost around 30£ for two meals, let alone the drinks). Where else do you suggest where we could speak properly?
maybe just go for a walk?
 
That's what I was going to do, sure it's simpler but what do I even ask them. And where else other than the cinema could I take her?
Just ask her on snap ‘a bunch of us are going to see a movie you in?’ Then go from there
 
I know it's that simple but how do I ask? Like what do I say? I was thinking of taking her to the cinema or something but I don't know how to ask her.
Just approach her and initiate conversation and talk
 
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Just approach her and initiate conversation and talk
I'm texting her right now as we speak, it's one of those friends to dating type of thing that's going on. Just minus the dating part (atm)
 
Bit of a stupid question, but I'm such an awkward person. How would I go about asking out a girl? Like how should I ask her without seeming nervous or awkward?

Serious question
Just catch her by surprise when she's out with her friends or whatever and do a freestyle,

"Yo pretty baby I'm an incelly-boo. Can I get your instagram, and will ya face time me too? I like the way that butt shakes when you walking all around. Tell me you'll go out with me so I don't look like a clown."
 
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I have a semi-update, she said she is down her grandmas which is like a 5 minute walk from mine on Saturday and she said she gets bored down there since theres fuck all to do and she said "lets go somewhere then! so we're not bored". Should I just ask her out for saturday?
 
I know it's that simple but how do I ask? Like what do I say? I was thinking of taking her to the cinema or something but I don't know how to ask her.
Don’t do it out of the blue if you‘re not good looking, cold-approach is for dudes who are above average looking. Also it depends in so many factors, like does she even know you exist, is she in your class, is she friends with you etc
 
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Just don't, if you have to try it's over
 
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Don’t do it out of the blue if you‘re not good looking, cold-approach is for dudes who are above average looking. Also it depends in so many factors, like does she even know you exist, is she in your class, is she friends with you etc
I did mention in another comment, we're friends, she's in a few of my classes, I feel like she's been hinting at her having a 'crush' on me but I'm not 100% sure.
 
I feel like she's been hinting at her having a 'crush' on me but I'm not 100% sure.
Why do you assume so if you don’t mind me asking? What’s about her behavior that makes you think she‘s into you more than just a friend ?
 
Why do you assume so if you don’t mind me asking? What’s about her behavior that makes you think she‘s into you more than just a friend ?
Well, the way she speaks to me. It's like we are already a couple, just unofficially. Like, she could just say something random as if though we were dating, like calling me a cutie, or saying "he's mine" to random women. I might just be fucking oblivious tbh.
 
Well, the way she speaks to me. It's like we are already a couple, just unofficially. Like, she could just say something random as if though we were dating, like calling me a cutie, or saying "he's mine" to random women. I might just be fucking oblivious tbh.
Not trying to be pesimistic, but those are not actual signs she‘s into you romantically. This is very normal among friends, especially women like to flirt with male friends just to practice their flirting skills or simply for fun or to test you if you‘re into them.

If she really was into you that way, she would make it very VERY obvious. Use this rule for the future: If her behavior confuses you, she is not into you. Because women are very Straight forward with no filter if they have "those“ feelings.

If you don’t want to lose her as a friend better stay quiet and don’t let her know about those feelings
 
Not trying to be pesimistic, but those are not actual signs she‘s into you romantically. This is very normal among friends, especially women like to flirt with male friends just to practice their flirting skills or simply for fun or to test you if you‘re into them.

If she really was into you that way, she would make it very VERY obvious. Use this rule for the future: If her behavior confuses you, she is not into you. Because women are very Straight forward with no filter if they have "those“ feelings.

If you don’t want to lose her as a friend better stay quiet and don’t let her know about those feelings
Okay, but one other thing. Her bestfriends told me in school to "ask her out" because "she will say yeah", that's all they said. Bit cryptic I know.
 
Not trying to be pesimistic, but those are not actual signs she‘s into you romantically. This is very normal among friends, especially women like to flirt with male friends just to practice their flirting skills or simply for fun or to test you if you‘re into them.

If she really was into you that way, she would make it very VERY obvious. Use this rule for the future: If her behavior confuses you, she is not into you. Because women are very Straight forward with no filter if they have "those“ feelings.

If you don’t want to lose her as a friend better stay quiet and don’t let her know about those feelings
nah fuck that, i say take the gamble. otherwise you'll watch as she gets a bf and wonder about what couldve been
 
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Okay, but one other thing. Her bestfriends told me in school to "ask her out" because "she will say yeah", that's all they said. Bit cryptic I know.
Don’t listen to the Grinch, just go for it. You might lose a friend but you might get the girl.
nah fuck that, i say take the gamble. otherwise you'll watch as she gets a bf and wonder about what couldve been
Yea facts
 
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Okay, but one other thing. Her bestfriends told me in school to "ask her out" because "she will say yeah", that's all they said. Bit cryptic I know.
If you really love her, you can try, but You have to know that maybe she would reject you and it could ruin the friendship.

I would just do the same as she does, the playful flirting, jokes etc to see her reaction, based on her reaction you can go further or you immedietly stop it if you feel like she‘s not finding it good
 
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If you really love her, you can try, but You have to know that maybe she would reject you and it could ruin the friendship.

I would just do the same as she does, the playful flirting, jokes etc to see her reaction, based on her reaction you can go further or you immedietly stop it if you feel like she‘s not finding it good
I don’t agree if it’s blatantly obvious she doesn’t like you. She might be shy and is afraid he doesn’t like her back. A whole bunch of things could be the case. The only way to truly know is to ask her out after talking with her for a bit.
 
I have a semi-update, she said she is down her grandmas which is like a 5 minute walk from mine on Saturday and she said she gets bored down there since theres fuck all to do and she said "lets go somewhere then! so we're not bored". Should I just ask her out for saturday?
Ask her out to the club if you're 18, go to eat if you're under 18 and if you're over 18 just fuck you🖕
 
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go to eat if you're under 18
Alright, should I say something like "How about we go out to eat on saturday?" and if she asks anything should I just say "like a date" or smth, and if she says no to the date part then just say "not a date"
 
I don’t agree if it’s blatantly obvious she doesn’t like you. She might be shy and is afraid he doesn’t like her back. A whole bunch of things could be the case. The only way to truly know is to ask her out after talking with her for a bit.
I always knew you are a fake feminist.

You have to respect the woman and not force her into an awkward situation. He can flirt with her lightly and if she likes it and flirts back then he can also keep doing it. But also just randomly asking her out would shock her, because she already has accepted that he is in the "Friends“ category and if he wants to leave this role he first has to stop acting like a buddy and make it obvious that he wants to be more, but not by saying it but by showing it with his behavior
 
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Alright, should I say something like "How about we go out to eat on saturday?" and if she asks anything should I just say "like a date" or smth, and if she says no to the date part then just say "not a date"
No just say I will come. Only that don't say none prepare some money and when you're there hang out then tell her are you hungry? Let's eat if she's says no I already ate or I'm not hungry you tell her we'll I'm hungry we're just gonna get some for me and you will just taste it then she can't refuse men orders so she will come with you and it will be cute
 
Alright, should I say something like "How about we go out to eat on saturday?" and if she asks anything should I just say "like a date" or smth, and if she says no to the date part then just say "not a date"
You can't plan something small it's cringe except if its a restaurant and youre ready to put up 100+ just go fast foods
 
No just say I will come. Only that don't say none prepare some money and when you're there hang out then tell her are you hungry? Let's eat if she's says no I already ate or I'm not hungry you tell her we'll I'm hungry we're just gonna get some for me and you will just taste it then she can't refuse men orders so she will come with you and it will be cute
I messaged her and said "How about food saturday?" and she said "YESSSSS!" exactly like that, so I think it's going alright so far.
 
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You was supposed to only meet up and then tell her irl to eat but looks like she likes to eat usualy they dont
 
I messaged her and said "How about food saturday?" and she said "YESSSSS!" exactly like that, so I think it's going alright so far.
Ggs
 

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