How do i get a better relationship with my little sister?

[Dorogi]

No idea what the problem is but we almost never talk and whenever i ask her about anything like how it was at school for example just to initiate conversation and than she just ignores me or gets mad and starts swearing and tells me to shut up.
Feels awful, like im doing something wrong but i have no idea what or how to fix it. Not recent either its been like this for years.

If anyone else had this please give me advice

 

[Saint Casanova]

No idea what the problem is but we almost never talk and whenever i ask her about anything like how it was at school for example just to initiate conversation and than she just ignores me or gets mad and starts swearing and tells me to shut up.
Feels awful, like im doing something wrong but i have no idea what or how to fix it. Not recent either its been like this for years.

If anyone else had this please give me advice

Forget about your sister and focus on your life. If you’re not doing anything that hurts her then it’s her problem.

Some family members are just thorns.

 

[alphamale82]

the closest people i’ve had in my life were never family

 

[бoiбoi1279]

No idea what the problem is but we almost never talk and whenever i ask her about anything like how it was at school for example just to initiate conversation and than she just ignores me or gets mad and starts swearing and tells me to shut up.
Feels awful, like im doing something wrong but i have no idea what or how to fix it. Not recent either its been like this for years.

If anyone else had this please give me advice

 

[Dorogi]

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Nigga what the fuck

 

[бoiбoi1279]

Nigga what the fuck

Fuck that whore into submission.

 

[CookiekingFAN]

No idea what the problem is but we almost never talk and whenever i ask her about anything like how it was at school for example just to initiate conversation and than she just ignores me or gets mad and starts swearing and tells me to shut up.
Feels awful, like im doing something wrong but i have no idea what or how to fix it. Not recent either its been like this for years.

If anyone else had this please give me advice

Then let it be, don’t hate her back or hold a grudge at her ,just keep running in the race of life and don’t let anyone slow you down

 

[Sanguinius]

Despite what this forum might say, be nice to your sister. You can't change how she is now, she's probably growing up and is in that phase. But if you're always caring and supportive of her she'll come to realise this and you might have a good relationship with her when she matures in 5-10 years.

 

[Dorogi]

Forget about your sister and focus on your life. If you’re not doing anything that hurts her then it’s her problem.

Some family members are just thorns.

I got a few more years i have to live in this house and im going mentally insane every time i see my family bonding and i get excluded for something i just cant figure out

 

[HTNGrevious]

I read this as 'should I get in a relationship with my sister' at first

 

[Dorogi]

Despite what this forum might say, be nice to your sister. You can't change how she is now, she's probably growing up and is in that phase. But if you're always caring and supportive of her she'll come to realise this and you might have a good relationship with her when she matures in 5-10 years.

Yeah i try but whenever i talk to her she gets mad but i also dont want to be cold

 

[Sanguinius]

Yeah i try but whenever i talk to her she gets mad but i also dont want to be cold

Nothing you can really do at the moment brah, that's just how it is, you gotta be okay with it

 

[CookiekingFAN]

Yeah i try but whenever i talk to her she gets mad but i also dont want to be cold

Then tell her straight up why are you being mean to me or like why don’t you like me

 

[Dorogi]

Then tell her straight up why are you being mean to me or like why don’t you like me

I tried to but she just got mad

 

[CookiekingFAN]

I tried to but she just got mad

Yo no joke are you like ugly or fat? That might be why she dosent respect you or are you REALLY nice, no joke this might sound corny af but “nice guys finish last” is true you can’t put your little sister on a pedestal because she’ll will just look down on you, and kinda for any women too

 

[Dorogi]

Then let it be, don’t hate her back or hold a grudge at her ,just keep running in the race of life and don’t let anyone slow you down

thats what ive been doing but it just feels wrong, like there is something im supossed to do about it.
Also just feels like shit, like im not fully family or something since she atleast talks to my older sister and my mother

 

[Dorogi]

Yo no joke are you like ugly or fat? That might be why she dosent respect you or are you REALLY nice, no joke this might sound corny af but “nice guys finish last” is true you can’t put your little sister on a pedestal because she’ll will just look down on you, and kinda for any women too

Idk if im ugly but im closer to skinny than fat. Have been going to the gym since december

 

[Dorogi]

Yo no joke are you like ugly or fat? That might be why she dosent respect you or are you REALLY nice, no joke this might sound corny af but “nice guys finish last” is true you can’t put your little sister on a pedestal because she’ll will just look down on you, and kinda for any women too

Wouldnt consider myself extremely nice to her but i dont act mean either jfl

 

[savage21]

No idea what the problem is but we almost never talk and whenever i ask her about anything like how it was at school for example just to initiate conversation and than she just ignores me or gets mad and starts swearing and tells me to shut up.
Feels awful, like im doing something wrong but i have no idea what or how to fix it. Not recent either its been like this for years.

If anyone else had this please give me advice

How old is she and how old are you

 

[Dorogi]

How old is she and how old are you

Im 16 shes 14

 

[savage21]

Im 16 shes 14

Dope my sister and I have the same age gap. We just built a better bond by doing things we like together whenever we were bored. Stuff like watching TV series, drawing, exercising, etc. She might just be pissed because of school or something. Don’t try to be overly nice though. Be like playful rude

 

[mixedpersonalities]

No idea what the problem is but we almost never talk and whenever i ask her about anything like how it was at school for example just to initiate conversation and than she just ignores me or gets mad and starts swearing and tells me to shut up.
Feels awful, like im doing something wrong but i have no idea what or how to fix it. Not recent either its been like this for years.

If anyone else had this please give me advice

I have two little sisters but they're years younger than me


Only advice I'm able to give you is to just give her kind gestures without expecting anything. Buy her a bag of chips or sm from the corner store, don't snitch on her, do a chore or two for her, you get the gist.

Family is one of the greatest gifts , don't mess this up

 

[User28823]

if u were chad she wouldnt be so rude

 

[tunisianropemaxxer]

No idea what the problem is but we almost never talk and whenever i ask her about anything like how it was at school for example just to initiate conversation and than she just ignores me or gets mad and starts swearing and tells me to shut up.
Feels awful, like im doing something wrong but i have no idea what or how to fix it. Not recent either its been like this for years.

If anyone else had this please give me advice

hang out with her
give her money and snacks without her asking

 

[Dorogi]

Dope my sister and I have the same age gap. We just built a better bond by doing things we like together whenever we were bored. Stuff like watching TV series, drawing, exercising, etc. She might just be pissed because of school or something. Don’t try to be overly nice though. Be like playful rude

I try to but its like she doesnt want to be near me its weird. Whenever i enter the living room she leaves for some reason making it almost impossible to do anything like that unless we are all already doing something like in a waterpark than we are sudenly like normal siblings

 

[Dorogi]

I have two little sisters but they're years younger than me


Only advice I'm able to give you is to just give her kind gestures without expecting anything. Buy her a bag of chips or sm from the corner store, don't snitch on her, do a chore or two for her, you get the gist.

Family is one of the greatest gifts , don't mess this up

Yeah ill try that, thanks

 

[thn]

No idea what the problem is but we almost never talk and whenever i ask her about anything like how it was at school for example just to initiate conversation and than she just ignores me or gets mad and starts swearing and tells me to shut up.
Feels awful, like im doing something wrong but i have no idea what or how to fix it. Not recent either its been like this for years.

If anyone else had this please give me advice

I have the same situation as you to be honest and the best is to just let her be but still try to talk to her and be there its most likely a phase that she will grow out of but that doesn't mean to stop talking to her do something nice every now and then just don't force anything or make it weird just try to be there

 

[mixedpersonalities]

Yeah ill try that, thanks

Just don't force it, make it natural. Overtime she'll realize how petty she is and your relationship will soften. If it doesn't, keep trying.

Atleast youre doing the right thing and becoming a better person

 

[savage21]

I try to but its like she doesnt want to be near me its weird. Whenever i enter the living room she leaves for some reason making it almost impossible to do anything like that unless we are all already doing something like in a waterpark than we are sudenly like normal siblings

When you’re a teen you get annoyed by almost everyone lol. Don’t read too deep into it. Just keep trying tbh

 

[Dorogi]

Just don't force it, make it natural. Overtime she'll realize how petty she is and your relationship will soften. If it doesn't, keep trying.

Atleast youre doing the right thing and becoming a better person

Idk how to do it in a way that doesnt look like forcing it though im ND asf. I thought maybe ill ask her and my older sister to come to the swimming pool and that ill pay but maybe thats to much sudenly

 

[surgerymaxxingsoon]

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Change thus to cousin.

 

[Dorogi]

Change thus to cousin.

Doesnt make it any better bro

 

[thn]

what have you done or yk you've been to make her like this?

 

[Dorogi]

what have you done or yk you've been to make her like this?

Havent had fights since i was 13 so idk

 

[thn]

Havent had fights since i was 13 so idk

then Its just a phase that she's goanna grow out of give her some time

 

[Arbuscular]

 

[Dorogi]

then Its just a phase that she's goanna grow out of give her some time

I hope so

 

[mixedpersonalities]

Idk how to do it in a way that doesnt look like forcing it though im ND asf. I thought maybe ill ask her and my older sister to come to the swimming pool and that ill pay but maybe thats to much sudenly

Whatever works best for you.

You're a king for wanting to genuinely fix that family bond stay up goat

 

[Dorogi]

Whatever works best for you.

You're a king for wanting to genuinely fix that family bond stay up goat

Thanks for giving helpful advice i apreciate that man

 

[LTNUser]

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@fashioncel comment ahh

 

[Dorogi]

@fashioncel comment ahh

Ive seen the guys threads