how do i get out a bad period in life?

[ascensionneeeded]

I lost my Mother to a health issue she’s been fighting for several years. I also just lost my girlfriend who brought meaning and positivity into my life.

What also sucks is that, over the years, i’ve slowly lost my confidence and have become increasingly insecure. I avoid mirrors, I avoid seeing myself in the snap camera and I can’t even take pictures with my family. I have crippling insecurity that has genuinely made me feel trapped in life. I cannot fully express myself and live without grimacing at the thought of my own ugly face.

A while back someone asked me what I was good at. It had me stumped. I often find myself wondering what value I even have. I procrastinate an insane amount, don’t have any major beneficial qualities and I legitimately just vegetate in my room.

I feel like i’m just existing rather than fulfilling
myself or making good use of my limited time on earth. The things that have affected me most in life are the things that I can’t reverse nor change. All i want is to get my spark back in life so i can leave this unfortunate period behind. I think I need confidence to live properly and the strength to try and deal with insecurity and hardship.

Just to clarify, i’m not severely depressed. I’m just not living how I expected to as a boy and I want to try and improve my quality of life in the future.

 

[Iamspace]

I lost my Mother to a health issue she’s been fighting for several years. I also just lost my girlfriend who brought meaning and positivity into my life.

What also sucks is that, over the years, i’ve slowly lost my confidence and have become increasingly insecure. I avoid mirrors, I avoid seeing myself in the snap camera and I can’t even take pictures with my family. I have crippling insecurity that has genuinely made me feel trapped in life. I cannot fully express myself and live without grimacing at the thought of my own ugly face.

A while back someone asked me what I was good at. It had me stumped. I often find myself wondering what value I even have. I procrastinate an insane amount, don’t have any major beneficial qualities and I legitimately just vegetate in my room.

I feel like i’m just existing rather than fulfilling
myself or making good use of my limited time on earth. The things that have affected me most in life are the things that I can’t reverse nor change. All i want is to get my spark back in life so i can leave this unfortunate period behind. I think I need confidence to live properly and the strength to try and deal with insecurity and hardship.

Just to clarify, i’m not severely depressed. I’m just not living how I expected to as a boy and I want to try and improve my quality of life in the future.

i understand what you mean lately ive been working on posting myself its the first time ive done it in 5years. What you wanna do is make drafts. Dont delete them under any circumstance. eventually your gonna learn to feel confident

 

[j1gga]

so sorry to hear that
idk how to do it tho. probably just accept it and wait for future to become better

 

[ascensionneeeded]

i understand what you mean lately ive been working on posting myself its the first time ive done it in 5years. What you wanna do is make drafts. Dont delete them under any circumstance. eventually your gonna learn to feel confident

i actually need to do this

it’s crazy being so uncomfortable with my own face which is the only way people can perceive my existence

funnily enough, i was super insecure about my looks at 7 or 8 years old, then was completely fine until i was around 13 where its gotten worse

 

[ascensionneeeded]

so sorry to hear that
idk how to do it tho. probably just accept it and wait for future to become better

thank you

you are right, things usually become better with time

tbh, i hate how people on this site feel like they have to fit a certain persona.

being a nice, understanding and empathetic person genuinely goes a long way. i’m only here for improvement and discussions. i try to detach myself from the super incel, woman-hating racists that will hate on you for nothing. like someone definitely thought of telling me to rope. idk what i’m saying but thanks for being nice

 

[Iamspace]

i actually need to do this

it’s crazy being so uncomfortable with my own face which is the only way people can perceive my existence

funnily enough, i was super insecure about my looks at 7 or 8 years old, then was completely fine until i was around 13 where its gotten worse

were really similar man i went through the whole avoiding mirror phase as well i still avoid it sometimes ngl but its who you are

 

[gandylite.]

I lost my Mother to a health issue she’s been fighting for several years. I also just lost my girlfriend who brought meaning and positivity into my life.

What also sucks is that, over the years, i’ve slowly lost my confidence and have become increasingly insecure. I avoid mirrors, I avoid seeing myself in the snap camera and I can’t even take pictures with my family. I have crippling insecurity that has genuinely made me feel trapped in life. I cannot fully express myself and live without grimacing at the thought of my own ugly face.

A while back someone asked me what I was good at. It had me stumped. I often find myself wondering what value I even have. I procrastinate an insane amount, don’t have any major beneficial qualities and I legitimately just vegetate in my room.

I feel like i’m just existing rather than fulfilling
myself or making good use of my limited time on earth. The things that have affected me most in life are the things that I can’t reverse nor change. All i want is to get my spark back in life so i can leave this unfortunate period behind. I think I need confidence to live properly and the strength to try and deal with insecurity and hardship.

Just to clarify, i’m not severely depressed. I’m just not living how I expected to as a boy and I want to try and improve my quality of life in the future.

meet new people, try new things, go to the gym, find a sport or hobby that you enjoy that gives your purpose

 

[j1gga]

thank you

you are right, things usually become better with time

tbh, i hate how people on this site feel like they have to fit a certain persona.

being a nice, understanding and empathetic person genuinely goes a long way. i’m only here for improvement and discussions. i try to detach myself from the super incel, woman-hating racists that will hate on you for nothing. like someone definitely thought of telling me to rope. idk what i’m saying but thanks for being nice

i hope life will get better for u my friend

 

[jupiterallmighty]

sorry to hear that, most of the advice is just starting to make better habits gym etc and I would also recommend finding some hobby outside of video games and bed rotting whether that’s a musical instrument or something like skate boarding, usually that way you have a someway to connect with people who have similar hobbies. Obviously I don’t know anything about eating habits or drugs but just make sure you eat healthy and stay away from drugs unless they’re enhancers. But most of it is habitual, there have been scientific studies about habits that change your brain for the good.

 

[ascensionneeeded]

meet new people, try new things, go to the gym, find a sport or hobby that you enjoy that gives your purpose

i have a lack of confidence in sport. i always feel like im going to mess up even though im good when i play alone. that’s the issue

i go to the gym but get disheartened by my slow progress and high expectations for my body image.

meeting new people is a huge one that can be amazing. i just think im held back by my insecurity which could maybe stop me from being myself. i wish i could just let loose and be super confident but the first step is reducing the insecurity to make myself more confident in social interactions.

 

[yushmaxx]

I lost my Mother to a health issue she’s been fighting for several years. I also just lost my girlfriend who brought meaning and positivity into my life.

What also sucks is that, over the years, i’ve slowly lost my confidence and have become increasingly insecure. I avoid mirrors, I avoid seeing myself in the snap camera and I can’t even take pictures with my family. I have crippling insecurity that has genuinely made me feel trapped in life. I cannot fully express myself and live without grimacing at the thought of my own ugly face.

A while back someone asked me what I was good at. It had me stumped. I often find myself wondering what value I even have. I procrastinate an insane amount, don’t have any major beneficial qualities and I legitimately just vegetate in my room.

I feel like i’m just existing rather than fulfilling
myself or making good use of my limited time on earth. The things that have affected me most in life are the things that I can’t reverse nor change. All i want is to get my spark back in life so i can leave this unfortunate period behind. I think I need confidence to live properly and the strength to try and deal with insecurity and hardship.

Just to clarify, i’m not severely depressed. I’m just not living how I expected to as a boy and I want to try and improve my quality of life in the future.

period? foids get periods…

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FOID DETECTED

initiating destruction protocol…
contacting tel aviv…
יכלכלכלכלנמבת…

Success: foid evicerated

 

[ascensionneeeded]

sorry to hear that, most of the advice is just starting to make better habits gym etc and I would also recommend finding some hobby outside of video games and bed rotting whether that’s a musical instrument or something like skate boarding, usually that way you have a someway to connect with people who have similar hobbies. Obviously I don’t know anything about eating habits or drugs but just make sure you eat healthy and stay away from drugs unless they’re enhancers. But most of it is habitual, there have been scientific studies about habits that change your brain for the good.

oh yeah for sure. i’ve read atomic habits if you know that book. i also used to love playing the piano. i’ll try to fill my time up. shit would definitely help the bed-rotting aspect. to be fair tho, i’m in my summer break and i can’t find a job (i’m 17) so i really don’t have much to do which makes my issues worse

 

[ascensionneeeded]

period? foids get periods…

MODS
FOID DETECTED

initiating destruction protocol…
contacting tel aviv…
יכלכלכלכלנמבת…

Success: foid evicerated

Shi

 

[noname1945]

you change

 

[ascensionneeeded]

you change

how do i encourage that change?

 

[Lefty Rankin]

I lost my Mother to a health issue she’s been fighting for several years. I also just lost my girlfriend who brought meaning and positivity into my life.

What also sucks is that, over the years, i’ve slowly lost my confidence and have become increasingly insecure. I avoid mirrors, I avoid seeing myself in the snap camera and I can’t even take pictures with my family. I have crippling insecurity that has genuinely made me feel trapped in life. I cannot fully express myself and live without grimacing at the thought of my own ugly face.

A while back someone asked me what I was good at. It had me stumped. I often find myself wondering what value I even have. I procrastinate an insane amount, don’t have any major beneficial qualities and I legitimately just vegetate in my room.

I feel like i’m just existing rather than fulfilling
myself or making good use of my limited time on earth. The things that have affected me most in life are the things that I can’t reverse nor change. All i want is to get my spark back in life so i can leave this unfortunate period behind. I think I need confidence to live properly and the strength to try and deal with insecurity and hardship.

Just to clarify, i’m not severely depressed. I’m just not living how I expected to as a boy and I want to try and improve my quality of life in the future.

Buy some tampons and just wait it out.

 

[noname1945]

how do i encourage that change?

ask chat gpt i couldn't tell you

 

[gandylite.]

i have a lack of confidence in sport. i always feel like im going to mess up even though im good when i play alone. that’s the issue

i go to the gym but get disheartened by my slow progress and high expectations for my body image.

meeting new people is a huge one that can be amazing. i just think im held back by my insecurity which could maybe stop me from being myself. i wish i could just let loose and be super confident but the first step is reducing the insecurity to make myself more confident in social interactions.

be more social and pin test

 

[bloody_fangs]

I lost my Mother to a health issue she’s been fighting for several years. I also just lost my girlfriend who brought meaning and positivity into my life.

What also sucks is that, over the years, i’ve slowly lost my confidence and have become increasingly insecure. I avoid mirrors, I avoid seeing myself in the snap camera and I can’t even take pictures with my family. I have crippling insecurity that has genuinely made me feel trapped in life. I cannot fully express myself and live without grimacing at the thought of my own ugly face.

A while back someone asked me what I was good at. It had me stumped. I often find myself wondering what value I even have. I procrastinate an insane amount, don’t have any major beneficial qualities and I legitimately just vegetate in my room.

I feel like i’m just existing rather than fulfilling
myself or making good use of my limited time on earth. The things that have affected me most in life are the things that I can’t reverse nor change. All i want is to get my spark back in life so i can leave this unfortunate period behind. I think I need confidence to live properly and the strength to try and deal with insecurity and hardship.

Just to clarify, i’m not severely depressed. I’m just not living how I expected to as a boy and I want to try and improve my quality of life in the future.

Bump but dnr

 

[ascensionneeeded]

be more social and pin test

my dad will catch me

 

[bloody_fangs]

my dad will catch me

do it secretlt

 

[Lefty Rankin]

I lost my Mother to a health issue she’s been fighting for several years. I also just lost my girlfriend who brought meaning and positivity into my life.

What also sucks is that, over the years, i’ve slowly lost my confidence and have become increasingly insecure. I avoid mirrors, I avoid seeing myself in the snap camera and I can’t even take pictures with my family. I have crippling insecurity that has genuinely made me feel trapped in life. I cannot fully express myself and live without grimacing at the thought of my own ugly face.

A while back someone asked me what I was good at. It had me stumped. I often find myself wondering what value I even have. I procrastinate an insane amount, don’t have any major beneficial qualities and I legitimately just vegetate in my room.

I feel like i’m just existing rather than fulfilling
myself or making good use of my limited time on earth. The things that have affected me most in life are the things that I can’t reverse nor change. All i want is to get my spark back in life so i can leave this unfortunate period behind. I think I need confidence to live properly and the strength to try and deal with insecurity and hardship.

Just to clarify, i’m not severely depressed. I’m just not living how I expected to as a boy and I want to try and improve my quality of life in the future.

Sometimes just existing is all we're supposed to do for a season. It'll pass.

 

[jupiterallmighty]

oh yeah for sure. i’ve read atomic habits if you know that book. i also used to love playing the piano. i’ll try to fill my time up. shit would definitely help the bed-rotting aspect. to be fair tho, i’m in my summer break and i can’t find a job (i’m 17) so i really don’t have much to do which makes my issues worse

yeah not having a job rn definitely would suck but it does open up time to go and do shit, especially in the summer idk where you live but where I’m at there’s always shit to do, idk how you friend situation is but getting with some close friends and lighting fireworks or bridge jumping just makes life a lot better and you don’t feel like your rotting. Especially since your 17 I’m assuming this is your last summer in high school your really gonna want to make sure you make some good memories with friends because your only 17 once yk.