How do I get rid of social constraints

[devonhendryx999]

I need to put off my baseline threshold, not as simple as "putting myself out there" since my neurochemistry is quite fucked up from exposure to all of these things in general

How do I act neurotypical and to not be too pussy to even interact with others, finding social circles, networks and other purposes, what mentality does it take to even act upon it

Aware of pregab and other drugs out there but is there any other way?

 

[avgsub5human]

its all about exposure ngl, you can either start practicing with just propanolol as u prob know since its not very handicapping and try to go from there

 

[devonhendryx999]

its all about exposure ngl, you can either start practicing with just propanolol as u prob know since its not very handicapping and try to go from there

In what sense of exposure, social environments with peers? I just need to build social networks and actually talk to people need to stop being so secluded ffs

 

[iamnotgrayipromise]

literally just do it, i was and am the same way to some extent, all i did was just push myself (like cold approaching, making random convo with a waiter or at the store or something), ik its hard but it feels very rewarding after

I need to put off my baseline threshold, not as simple as "putting myself out there" since my neurochemistry is quite fucked up from exposure to all of these things in general

How do I act neurotypical and to not be too pussy to even interact with others, finding social circles, networks and other purposes, what mentality does it take to even act upon it

Aware of pregab and other drugs out there but is there any other way?

 

[avgsub5human]

In what sense of exposure, social environments with peers? I just need to build social networks and actually talk to people need to stop being so secluded ffs

yea but if you struggle with social contexts as in constraints you need to exposure yourself to idk networking with people so it flows more naturally each time, which takes practice

 

[devonhendryx999]

literally just do it, i was and am the same way to some extent, all i did was just push myself (like cold approaching, making random convo with a waiter or at the store or something), ik its hard but it feels very rewarding after

Any bland topic like the weather, quite irrelevant nowadays but isn't it all about starting from irrelevance then pacing the convo slowly but surely on other topics? Bring up one thing then it leads to another

 

[devonhendryx999]

literally just do it, i was and am the same way to some extent, all i did was just push myself (like cold approaching, making random convo with a waiter or at the store or something), ik its hard but it feels very rewarding after

But how the hell is it that simple? My inhib fucks me up and it might backfire

 

[iamnotgrayipromise]

Any bland topic like the weather, quite irrelevant nowadays but isn't it all about starting from irrelevance then pacing the convo slowly but surely on other topics? Bring up one thing then it leads to another

personally once i start a conversation and break that first barrier of initiating contact it becomes easy and the convo flows naturally, for example i am into fashion so whenever i saw a dude with cool pieces i would compliment them and just make random convo about the fit, when i am at the gym i help beginners, and just general shit idk i cant remember the exact details. whenever i got food and i had to order or something, i asked how their day was going and what they recommend and so on, and whenever i saw a girl i liked i would just compliment their looks or something and you usually feel the energy if they like you back and then you can ask for their contact, but if the interaction feels cold or distant then dont even bother with getting rejected.

 

[iamnotgrayipromise]

But how the hell is it that simple? My inhib fucks me up and it might backfire

nobody cares if it backfires tho, i am still high inhib as shit on the inside but i am just more used to being uncomfortable and willing to step into that feeling, i dont know, its not the same for everyone, i just pushed through the anxiety

 

[devonhendryx999]

personally once i start a conversation and break that first barrier of initiating contact it becomes easy and the convo flows naturally, for example i am into fashion so whenever i saw a dude with cool pieces i would compliment them and just make random convo about the fit, when i am at the gym i help beginners, and just general shit idk i cant remember the exact details. whenever i got food and i had to order or something, i asked how their day was going and what they recommend and so on, and whenever i saw a girl i liked i would just compliment their looks or something and you usually feel the energy if they like you back and then you can ask for their contact, but if the interaction feels cold or distant then dont even bother with getting rejected.

Pretty much keep moving on, small wins stacking up to accomplish a big one in the end, doesn't need to guarantee a win all the time as long as you take action, moreover a loss if you never hit the shots you should've

 

[devonhendryx999]

nobody cares if it backfires tho, i am still high inhib as shit on the inside but i am just more used to being uncomfortable and willing to step into that feeling, i dont know, its not the same for everyone, i just pushed through the anxiety

I mean I felt low inhib as shit every now and then I hit a win in interactions momentarily, consistency perhaps?

 

[iamnotgrayipromise]

I mean I felt low inhib as shit every now and then I hit a win in interactions momentarily, consistency perhaps?

yea thats the reward feeling i am talking about after an interaction, once you start getting used to exposure it becomes the norm and its just easier to interact with people in general. also your confidence matters a shit ton, deep down if you think you dont look good enough or you are having a shit day in general it literally becomes 10x worse