How do i handle my situation

[manhattanbound]

CHATGPT TLDR AT THE BOTTOM

Just a little vent and Im also seeking advice so im going to bump this a few times. I'll keep it short, although this is an incel forum, I definitely know others were in my situation

So my mom got angry (like I mean pissed off) about me and my dad not wanting to go to Bangladesh, the reason why I didnt go was because i wanted to study for the SAT during the summer and build up some college extraciriculars, i also dont even want to go to that shitty country anyways and speak with relatives I can barely understand.


To give you some understanding, On most days I have extracurriculars and clubs that I go to + tutoring. This is what I do to try to get away from family, the only real person I fw is my brother, he is chill. So you would know that after I come home, I really don't want to deal with bullshit. I come home and I get yelled at for some random shit like how I'm a liar from my mom. (This is what she does to show her that shes angry) she barely answers my call, and when she picks up she just lets me speak and just ends it.

and its really affecting me yk, she was always a terrible parent to me, but having a person that your supposed to trust just not answer your calls is absurd. I also dont want to deal with constant yelling, and that really affects me with school/practice cuz it just makes me sad

DOes anyone really know what to do??


CHATGPT TLDR

Skipped a trip to Bangladesh to focus on SATs and extracurriculars, which made my mom really angry. Now she constantly yells at me, calls me a liar, and ignores my calls. I already avoid being home by staying busy, but the tension is stressing me out and affecting my mood and school. Not sure how to handle it.

 

[snuggylion5]

Nothing matters just do what u want and dont stress

 

[rawr]

i live in a home where my mom yells at me constantly over everything
havent really developed a good enough coping mechanism other than spending some time outside, walking, writing down my thoughts, and pursuing my hobbies and what makes me happy
that being said my mom has made my life miserable af

 

[CloudyCuck]

Bro you got bigger problems than that. you’re from bangladesh

 

[manhattanbound]

Nothing matters just do what u want and dont stress

I love how people always say this and I guess some people do that, but for me its different. I really want to go to a good university to try to leave the situation at home so i cant really do whatever I want

 

[manhattanbound]

Bro you got bigger problems than that. you’re from bangladesh

sounds right

 

[Sovereign]

Become indifferent. She’ll lose all power over you.

 

[manhattanbound]

i live in a home where my mom yells at me constantly over everything
havent really developed a good enough coping mechanism other than spending some time outside, walking, writing down my thoughts, and pursuing my hobbies and what makes me happy
that being said my mom has made my life miserable af

sorry about that bro, I try and do that but I cant really fit much on my schedule, i mean how much more stuff can I handle, its really hard tbh out here

 

[snuggylion5]

I love how people always say this and I guess some people do that, but for me its different. I really want to go to a good university to try to leave the situation at home so i cant really do whatever I want

If that what u wanna do go do it but u dont have to stress because its ur choice and u want to do that

 

[manhattanbound]

Become indifferent. She’ll lose all power over you.

elaborate?

 

[Sovereign]

elaborate?

Do not internally react to her in any way. Literally become indifferent. Do not try to “get even” with her. It won’t work, especially if you depend on her in any way.

In the meanwhile, practice some form of mindfulness/relaxation.

 

[manhattanbound]

Do not internally react to her in any way. Literally become indifferent. Do not try to “get even” with her. It won’t work, especially if you depend on her in any way.

In the meanwhile, practice some form of mindfulness/relaxation.

Got it, thank you for the helpful advice, by mindfulness you mean meditation?

 

[Sovereign]

Got it, thank you for the helpful advice, by mindfulness you mean meditation?

Yes, any form of practice will do. I’ve been in a similar situation (high stress from mother). I became indifferent and she treats me a lot better. Probably felt bad.

 

[manhattanbound]

Yes, any form of practice will do. I’ve been in a similar situation (high stress from mother). I became indifferent and she treats me a lot better. Probably felt bad.

so ur saying to gain pity from her?

 

[EmperorVon]

She on her period

 

[Sovereign]

so ur saying to gain pity from her?

No, become indifferent/non-caring to what she says negatively to you. Do not react at all. Shrug it off. She may or may not change (if she loves you at all). Doesn’t matter to you. Refocus on your studies.

She clearly does not sound like someone who can be reasoned with.

 

[manhattanbound]

She on her period

probably

 

[manhattanbound]

She clearly does not sound like someone who can be reasoned with.

You dont know her at all and what you just said perfectly explains her personality, thank you!

 

[Outlander]