Discussion How do I socialize with females irl?

[notchicolachowski]

Everytime i get a chance with a girl to talk to her and she shows signs that she likes me I just don't do anything like when a girl smiles at me I dont smile back and when a girl talks to me after the conversation they become friendly towards me but I just ignore them. I just cant get myself to talk to any of them really. I'm hella anti social and i barely have any friends like close friends except for my cousins since most my life was online but now i stopped getting online and am mostly outside so how tf do i become more social n im from Kuwait btw so thats why maybe

 

[Bryce]

Here's how: Imagine you're talking to a guy, but remove reason, intelligence, and accountability

 

[Deleted member 125379]

heres how: "hi how are you"

 

[MyDreamIsToBe183CM]

Here's how: Imagine you're talking to a guy, but remove reason, intelligence, and accountability

i get even harder when i imagine its a femboy

 

[Bryce]

i get even harder when i imagine its a femboy

At that point it comes out hands-free for me

 

[notchicolachowski]

At that point it comes out hands-free for me

well i never really got to socialize with any females except for family members since in kuwait government schools are seperate like boys alone and girls alone so most my life till uni which is now i was with boys really so idk what to really talk to them about or even how

 

[notchicolachowski]

Here's how: Imagine you're talking to a guy, but remove reason, intelligence, and accountability

why should i remove those?

 

[Bryce]

well i never really got to socialize with any females except for family members since in kuwait government schools are seperate like boys alone and girls alone so most my life till uni which is now i was with boys really so idk what to really talk to them about or even how

Is that actually what they do? Setting kids up to terrified of women jfl sounds like a hellhole

 

[Bryce]

why should i remove those?

Because women lack all three of those jfl

 

[notchicolachowski]

Is that actually what they do? Setting kids up to terrified of women jfl sounds like a hellhole

i speak to females online no problem but irl i get hella nervous even when speaking to anyone idk i have bad social anixety

 

[t4s1r]

Everytime i get a chance with a girl to talk to her and she shows signs that she likes me I just don't do anything like when a girl smiles at me I dont smile back and when a girl talks to me after the conversation they become friendly towards me but I just ignore them. I just cant get myself to talk to any of them really. I'm hella anti social and i barely have any friends like close friends except for my cousins since most my life was online but now i stopped getting online and am mostly outside so how tf do i become more social n im from Kuwait btw so thats why maybe

just don't overthink it brah

 

[notchicolachowski]

Because women lack all three of those jfl

one girl tried to befriend me she talked to me first since i never approached her even tho she smiled at me a lot but she old asf like 24 im 18 we spoke once and after that she started waving at me for a whole week but i ignored her

 

[notchicolachowski]

just don't overthink it brah

social skills >

 

[Heightpilldealer]

Everytime i get a chance with a girl to talk to her and she shows signs that she likes me I just don't do anything like when a girl smiles at me I dont smile back and when a girl talks to me after the conversation they become friendly towards me but I just ignore them. I just cant get myself to talk to any of them really. I'm hella anti social and i barely have any friends like close friends except for my cousins since most my life was online but now i stopped getting online and am mostly outside so how tf do i become more social n im from Kuwait btw so thats why maybe

Probably don't say a single thing you say on org I get called weird for literally anything and I don't even mention org I swear it's because I'm subhuman that's the only explanation

 

[Bryce]

one girl tried to befriend me she talked to me first since i never approached her even tho she smiled at me a lot but she old asf like 24 im 18 we spoke once and after that she started waving at me for a whole week but i ignored her

That's your issue brah you gotta keep engaging

 

[Zeekie]

Everytime i get a chance with a girl to talk to her and she shows signs that she likes me I just don't do anything like when a girl smiles at me I dont smile back and when a girl talks to me after the conversation they become friendly towards me but I just ignore them. I just cant get myself to talk to any of them really. I'm hella anti social and i barely have any friends like close friends except for my cousins since most my life was online but now i stopped getting online and am mostly outside so how tf do i become more social n im from Kuwait btw so thats why maybe

You're high social inhibition, the solution is to expose yourself forcefully to gradually improve tolerance, this is also called exposure therapy.

If you apply those 3 things, you'll fix your issue. Pick a day of the week, go out to a new and uncomfortable place, or maybe just one you know that works too but not that well, go talk with 1-5+ people, do someone a favor, compliment someone, call or text someone and have a conversation where you listen deeply to someone.

Forcing yourself to do habits which are socially attractive makes you more comfortable doing them in the future, making them feel more naturally and even making you do them subconsciously. You can start with men or family, and then slowly build up to girls, or just go cold turkey and do it with everybody no matter their sex or attraction level, being exposed to a good mixture of people is best for this.

Reference to this guide if you'd like to read

 

[supersaiyancarp27]

Everytime i get a chance with a girl to talk to her and she shows signs that she likes me I just don't do anything like when a girl smiles at me I dont smile back and when a girl talks to me after the conversation they become friendly towards me but I just ignore them. I just cant get myself to talk to any of them really. I'm hella anti social and i barely have any friends like close friends except for my cousins since most my life was online but now i stopped getting online and am mostly outside so how tf do i become more social n im from Kuwait btw so thats why maybe

practive in brookhaven rp

 

[notchicolachowski]

That's your issue brah you gotta keep engaging

i know its my issue girls never really treated me badly they always treat me well in every situation like when i bump into one by accident or when a girl bumps into me they never really get disgusted or angry

 

[notchicolachowski]

practive in brookhaven rp

i can speak online well irl i cant

 

[notchicolachowski]

Probably don't say a single thing you say on org I get called weird for literally anything and I don't even mention org I swear it's because I'm subhuman that's the only explanation

my face isnt the issue really even tho i think i have a lot of flaws girls still like me i guess

 

[notchicolachowski]

You're high social inhibition, the solution is to expose yourself forcefully to gradually improve tolerance, this is also called exposure therapy.

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If you apply those 3 things, you'll fix your issue. Pick a day of the week, go out to a new and uncomfortable place, or maybe just one you know that works too but not that well, go talk with 1-5+ people, do someone a favor, compliment someone, call or text someone and have a conversation where you listen deeply to someone.

Forcing yourself to do habits which are socially attractive makes you more comfortable doing them in the future, making them feel more naturally and even making you do them subconsciously. You can start with men or family, and then slowly build up to girls, or just go cold turkey and do it with everybody no matter their sex or attraction level, being exposed to a good mixture of people is best for this.

Reference to this guide if you'd like to read

appreciate it ima read about it i have college in 3 hours so ima read a bit till then

 

[Deleted member 125379]

i speak to females online no problem but irl i get hella nervous even when speaking to anyone idk i have bad social anixety

same

 

[Lawton88]

Everytime i get a chance with a girl to talk to her and she shows signs that she likes me I just don't do anything like when a girl smiles at me I dont smile back and when a girl talks to me after the conversation they become friendly towards me but I just ignore them. I just cant get myself to talk to any of them really. I'm hella anti social and i barely have any friends like close friends except for my cousins since most my life was online but now i stopped getting online and am mostly outside so how tf do i become more social n im from Kuwait btw so thats why maybe

Talk to her like another dude and never put her on a pedestal.

 

[notchicolachowski]

Talk to her like another dude and never put her on a pedestal.

i never put a girl on a pedestal i speak to them like i would speak to anyone but i get nervous

 

[RealNinja]

Literally talk to girls like you talk to anyone else. Be engaging and friendly, ask questions, keep it casual. Just soften your personality a bit and tone down anything too edgy/negative/crass since girls are generally more socially cautious until they know you better.

Don’t go into the convo trying to get something out of it, like a number or a date. That internal pressure makes you act weird. Treat it like talking to a new guy, you’ll either like him and be friends or you won’t. The less you care about the outcome, the smoother and more natural the conversation is. Be normal, friendly and chill. You don’t need to be super suave and charismatic for girls to find you attractive

 

[buzzhaze]

Literally talk to girls like you talk to anyone else. Be engaging and friendly, ask questions, keep it casual. Just soften your personality a bit and tone down anything too edgy/negative/crass since girls are generally more socially cautious until they know you better.

Don’t go into the convo trying to get something out of it, like a number or a date. That internal pressure makes you act weird. Treat it like talking to a new guy, you’ll either like him and be friends or you won’t. The less you care about the outcome, the smoother and more natural the conversation is. Be normal, friendly and chill. You don’t need to be super suave and charismatic for girls to find you attractive

yea u need to be attractive for girls to find u attractive nigga

 

[Lawton88]

i never put a girl on a pedestal i speak to them like i would speak to anyone but i get nervous

Just have the mindset you don't care what happens. Anything appearing try hard is usually a negative.

 

[esoterik]

even from the title, im caging

imagine ur a girl and some random guy calls you "female"

 

[RealNinja]

yea u need to be attractive for girls to find u attractive nigga

Kys, greycel. Obviously meeting a girl’s physical attraction standards is the prerequisite, stupid retard. I’m just saying that a lot of guys fuck up by trying to be perfectly smooth and planning out the right thing to say. That makes interactions more stilted and awkward.

 

[buzzhaze]

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Kys, greycel. Obviously meeting a girl’s physical attraction standards is the prerequisite, stupid retard. I’m just saying that a lot of guys fuck up by trying to be perfectly smooth and planning out the right thing to say. That makes interactions more stilted and awkward.

if she likes u it doesnt matter what the fuck u say

 

[ItsSoGymMaxx]

Everytime i get a chance with a girl to talk to her and she shows signs that she likes me I just don't do anything like when a girl smiles at me I dont smile back and when a girl talks to me after the conversation they become friendly towards me but I just ignore them. I just cant get myself to talk to any of them really. I'm hella anti social and i barely have any friends like close friends except for my cousins since most my life was online but now i stopped getting online and am mostly outside so how tf do i become more social n im from Kuwait btw so thats why maybe

Get a job in service like a waiter or a cashier. It will make uncomfortable situations 10x easier to handle. Also you sometimes get compliments so that’s a nice bonus.

 

[Acri]

if she likes u it doesnt matter what the fuck u say

oh, it does bro, trust me i know and many other guys no matter what u say

 

[notchicolachowski]

oh, it does bro, trust me i know and many other guys no matter what u say

looks just gets u in and the rest needs socializing even if ur attractive enough

 

[Primalsplit]

looks just gets u in and the rest needs socializing even if ur attractive enough

That's cope. Chad can say they're a child rapist and still get thirsted over.

 

[notchicolachowski]

That's cope. Chad can say they're a child rapist and still get thirsted over.

well it doesnt work that way where im from

 

[TitusA]

Everytime i get a chance with a girl to talk to her and she shows signs that she likes me I just don't do anything like when a girl smiles at me I dont smile back and when a girl talks to me after the conversation they become friendly towards me but I just ignore them. I just cant get myself to talk to any of them really. I'm hella anti social and i barely have any friends like close friends except for my cousins since most my life was online but now i stopped getting online and am mostly outside so how tf do i become more social n im from Kuwait btw so thats why maybe

The same way you talk to guys just dont go as hard with the jokes/banter.

 

[Acri]

looks just gets u in and the rest needs socializing even if ur attractive enough

100%

 

[atlantidmogger]

You're high social inhibition, the solution is to expose yourself forcefully to gradually improve tolerance, this is also called exposure therapy.

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If you apply those 3 things, you'll fix your issue. Pick a day of the week, go out to a new and uncomfortable place, or maybe just one you know that works too but not that well, go talk with 1-5+ people, do someone a favor, compliment someone, call or text someone and have a conversation where you listen deeply to someone.

Forcing yourself to do habits which are socially attractive makes you more comfortable doing them in the future, making them feel more naturally and even making you do them subconsciously. You can start with men or family, and then slowly build up to girls, or just go cold turkey and do it with everybody no matter their sex or attraction level, being exposed to a good mixture of people is best for this.

Reference to this guide if you'd like to read

NT people already know this all intuitively, but good guide given that OP is clearly autistic

 

[notchicolachowski]

NT people already know this all intuitively, but good guide given that OP is clearly autistic

not autistic but lack experience never spoke to girls irl

 

[McSkziofren]

Its full intuitive but it doesnt help telling her that í have aids no ltr for me

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[willmogalways]

Everytime i get a chance with a girl to talk to her and she shows signs that she likes me I just don't do anything like when a girl smiles at me I dont smile back and when a girl talks to me after the conversation they become friendly towards me but I just ignore them. I just cant get myself to talk to any of them really. I'm hella anti social and i barely have any friends like close friends except for my cousins since most my life was online but now i stopped getting online and am mostly outside so how tf do i become more social n im from Kuwait btw so thats why maybe

its pretty easy actually, just

 

[notchicolachowski]

its pretty easy actually, just

i tried but i live in kuwait i did approach a famous girl shes like famous on tiktok in kuwait she did reject me but politely she just said sorry no in arabic which is polite compared to how others girls reject guys that im seeing i only approached since she was staring at me a lot she ignored the others guys talking but replied to me so idek that was my first ever approach i just said excuse me can u add me on snap thats all but she wasnt disgusted or anything but just didnt wanna add me but i live in kuwait so normally most girls would reject guys because we're raised to know that it is wrong to talk to the other gender n do shit and wait till marriage so i have no experience really flirting or talking to girls irl but i do get approached every once in a while but i always reject or walk away since i get anxious