how do i stop being a high inhib incel

[thekey]

i cant even talk to people bro i start getting fucking cold sweats when a teacher talks to me and when a foid even makes eye contact with me for a split second I think about it for the rest of the day. im not exaggerating anything in here idk what's wrong with me i can only talk to dudes and as soon as a female evens comes into my general direction I become super nd and i have no idea why. ik this sounds super bluepill but I need to fix this im so awkward and weird around girls bro I desperately need some chads to reply to this and help

 

[Jgns]

bumper

 

[afroheadluke]

Old on the website is currently slowing down

 

[thekey]

bump pls

 

[Deleted member 22511]

I mean I'd like to help, but I don't think I or anyone here for that matter can really change the way your brain works.
I think the most important thing for you to do is find out why you are so afraid of women.
More than likely it's because you've put them on a pedestal, but I don't know.

 

[thekey]

I mean I'd like to help, but I don't think I or anyone here for that matter can really change the way your brain works.
I think the most important thing for you to do is find out why you are so afraid of women.
More than likely it's because you've put them on a pedestal, but I don't know.

im kinda a retard so ur gonna have to explain put them on after pedestal.

 

[JimmyDreamsOfZygos]

It’s not the foids it’s the uncertainty and self-doubt that come from you being in your head too much and associating them with bad emotions. If you spoke to a girl with a voice changer you wouldn’t feel weird, it’s the perception shift that triggers the anxiety. You fix this by diving deeper into why you feel this way, being able to point out when you feel it and where it comes from, and most importantly replacing your bad prejudices with positive interactions.

You do this by hopping on Snapchat or anywhere that gives you access to 1-on-1 interactions with them. It’s fine if they’re ugly, you’ll begin to integrate them into your “normal regular people” group and you won’t be as nervous, consciously or unconsciously.

 

[grbbsc]

I don't know why don't you ask the folks over at Reddit?

 

[thekey]

I don't know why don't you ask the folks over at Reddit?

reddit is my porn app

 

[user1374893383663]

I’m the exact same way

 

[Deleted member 22511]

im kinda a retard so ur gonna have to explain put them on after pedestal.

It means that you place too much value on them.

 

[thekey]

It’s not the foids it’s the uncertainty and self-doubt that come from you being in your head too much and associating them with bad emotions. If you spoke to a girl with a voice changer you wouldn’t feel weird, it’s the perception shift that triggers the anxiety. You fix this by diving deeper into why you feel this way, being able to point out when you feel it and where it comes from, and most importantly replacing your bad prejudices with positive interactions.

You do this by hopping on Snapchat or anywhere that gives you access to 1-on-1 interactions with them. It’s fine if they’re ugly, you’ll begin to integrate them into your “normal regular people” group and you won’t be as nervous, consciously or unconsciously.

im mostly feel this way i guess because I feel like they'll judge me if I just be myself and I'll ruin my chance. although that's never really happened to me and im just kinda scared

 

[thekey]

It means that you place too much value on them.

i do

 

[JimmyDreamsOfZygos]

im mostly feel this way i guess because I feel like they'll judge me if I just be myself and I'll ruin my chance. although that's never really happened to me and im just kinda scared

Your fear is what keeps you trapped on the same level. You only get better at being yourself, you’ll never improve at faking somebody else’s personality. I acted different for so long, eventually you have to just be yourself and let that be what changes, not which mask you put on for others.

You’ve probably had some bad experiences in the past, but you internalized those experiences and gave them so much more weight than they deserve in your head. Give yourself some room to exist, and give others the chance to show their kindness. Most people aren’t assholes, including girls.

 

[thekey]

Your fear is what keeps you trapped on the same level. You only get better at being yourself, you’ll never improve at faking somebody else’s personality. I acted different for so long, eventually you have to just be yourself and let that be what changes, not which mask you put on for others.

You’ve probably had some bad experiences in the past, but you internalized those experiences and gave them so much more weight than they deserve in your head. Give yourself some room to exist, and give others the chance to show their kindness. Most people aren’t assholes, including girls.

amazing writing. but no seriously I will take this into mind this post described everything im doing thank you for this bro, this really and truly did help me realize what im doing wrong

 

[thekey]

Your fear is what keeps you trapped on the same level. You only get better at being yourself, you’ll never improve at faking somebody else’s personality. I acted different for so long, eventually you have to just be yourself and let that be what changes, not which mask you put on for others.

You’ve probably had some bad experiences in the past, but you internalized those experiences and gave them so much more weight than they deserve in your head. Give yourself some room to exist, and give others the chance to show their kindness. Most people aren’t assholes, including girls.

i can't even tell u how much this helped bro

 

[CramL]

i cant even talk to people bro i start getting fucking cold sweats when a teacher talks to me and when a foid even makes eye contact with me for a split second I think about it for the rest of the day. im not exaggerating anything in here idk what's wrong with me i can only talk to dudes and as soon as a female evens comes into my general direction I become super nd and i have no idea why. ik this sounds super bluepill but I need to fix this im so awkward and weird around girls bro I desperately need some chads to reply to this and help

I used to be very much like this, still am a bit with some girls who are just unfriendly whores who make me question the interaction the whole day. But fr just fake it till you make it, or theres some drugs you can take.