How do I tell my girlfriend I’m not comfortable having big get together dinners with a lot of people?

[Vermilioncore]

Right now a lot of people are over. Family of hers. They’re all chatting and I’m upstairs pretending that I’m taking a shower.

What do I do?

How do I tell her that I can’t be around a lot of people. I wouldn’t be able to eat and I’d be in panic mode and probably get a really bad stomach ache too.

What would you do in my position mates

 

[Psychophilly]

well, first of all you need to find a gf.

 

[Deleted member 26092]

It‘s over man.
As soon as you step out of the bathroom door you‘re expected to eat with them.
There‘s no way around it.

 

[Dr. Bludy]

Say you fell in the shower n hurt you back and that you will go to bed because you need to rest

 

[EdouardManlet]

Down a xanax

 

[Vermilioncore]

you fell in the shower n hurt you back

Old man type shit innit mate

 

[The Grinch]

I would just do a little smalltalk to show them that I respect them and then pretend to have a meeting (I promised to meet with a friend, he needs my help with something, but it was a pleasure to see you, i hope I can see you one day where it’s more favorable for me)

 

[Dr. Bludy]

Old man type shit innit mate

Walking with a cane type shit

 

[Vermilioncore]

I would just do a little smalltalk to show them that I respect them and then pretend to have a meeting (I promised to meet with a friend, he needs my help with something, but it was a pleasure to see you, i hope I can see you one day where it’s more favorable for me)

I think that’s what I’ll do. I’m gonna go downstairs and say “hey guys I didn’t know you were here. I wish I could stay but I gotta go take care of some business” you think that’s good?

 

[The Grinch]

I think that’s what I’ll do. I’m gonna go downstairs and say “hey guys I didn’t know you were here. I wish I could stay but I gotta go take care of some business” you think that’s good?

Yeah, that’s the only thing you can do that wouldn’t offend them tbh, if you can, maybe give them something to eat and drink before you leave

 

[Vermilioncore]

maybe give them something to eat and drink before you leave

Bro said “just give them a snack and drink before you leave” like they’re pets or some shit I’m dead

 

[The Grinch]

Bro said “just give them a snack and drink before you leave” like they’re pets or some shit I’m dead

Idk how it’s in your culture, in my culture giving the guests snacks is a must, not doing it is a serious offend

 

[Deleted member 26859]

have some alcohol to calm ur nerves,

or go say hi then make an excuse why u gotta leave

 

[Vermilioncore]

Idk how it’s in your culture, in my culture giving the guests snacks is a must, not doing it is a serious offend

bro they’re eating dinner why tf would I give them a snack and a drink. They’d be like tf
Maybe I’ll just say “hi!” And make some silly joke then leave

 

[The Grinch]

bro they’re eating dinner why tf would I give them a snack and a drink. They’d be like tf
Maybe I’ll just say “hi!” And make some silly joke then leave

I didn’t know that, in my imagination they were sitting on the couch and doing smalltalk

 

[OverCoper]

Well, you should socialize, there is no other way. Go to the people and talk to them. This is looksmax.org, not incels.is

 

[Incellectually_Shy]

well, first of all you need to find a gf.

When I first joined the incel forum, I was often called a "Schizo". I never understood why.

 

[Deleted member 25413]

idk maybe talk to her, tell her how u feel ? + she is ur gf so u probs have good chemistry w her so just cling onto her and just bounce off her energy thats really the only thing u can do. you can also just get proper stoned as a back up plan that might help in short term.

sounds like u have anxiety issues btw

 

[Vermilioncore]

idk maybe talk to her, tell her how u feel ? + she is ur gf so u probs have good chemistry w her so just cling onto her and just bounce off her energy thats really the only thing u can do. you can also just get proper stoned as a back up plan that might help in short term.

sounds like u have anxiety issues btw

She’s very bubbly and talkative and I’m quiet as fuck. So I just sit there staring at her for help when we are in this situations. The only way to fix it is if I get drunk but then you can tell it’s not natural

 

[Gonthar]

Right now a lot of people are over. Family of hers. They’re all chatting and I’m upstairs pretending that I’m taking a shower.

Is this "girlfriend" real or just in your head?

 

[Deleted member 25413]

She’s very bubbly and talkative and I’m quiet as fuck. So I just sit there staring at her for help when we are in this situations. The only way to fix it is if I get drunk but then you can tell it’s not natural

talk to her and if she is a good gf she will help u navigate the social interactions w her family by just sticking around you and helping you with convo

 

[Vermilioncore]

Is this "girlfriend" real or just in your head?

Blud thinks he’s my therapist

 

[Gonthar]

Blud thinks he’s my therapist

Who is Blud?