How do u meet new people?

[Suimaxxer]

Sports and all that shit doesnt work for me, its too cringe to even think approaching someone in the gym or whatever.

 

[Deleted member 101934]

Sports and all that shit doesnt work for me, its too cringe to even think approaching someone in the gym or whatever.

go outside perhaps

 

[superpsycho]

idk

 

[superpsycho]

go outside perhaps

this

idk im not nt enough to give a good answer

 

[Suimaxxer]

go outside perhaps

Ok, then what? Will people start randomly approaching me while i walk down the street or what?

 

[Deleted member 125888]

Be a kid again.

 

[Suimaxxer]

this

idk im not nt enough to give a good answer

Its ok im very nt but when it comes to meeting new people im dumb af

 

[Deleted member 101934]

Ok, then what? Will people start randomly approaching me while i walk down the street or what?

i mean if you are attractive girls might approach you, if you want friends just go to the club or something you have to be NT

 

[Suimaxxer]

Be a kid again.

Nah too cringe. Plus i won't attract the people i want to attract this way

 

[Suimaxxer]

i mean if you are attractive girls might approach you, if you want friends just go to the club or something you have to be NT

I am nt im just lonely, going clubbing alone will make me seem like a loser. I dont rly care about girls, i get compliments every now and then but they never stick around

 

[Deleted member 125888]

Nah too cringe. Plus i won't attract the people i want to attract this way

I meant time travel and be a kid again. Most established social circles start young.

 

[POZZO]

art classes, sports teams, friends of friends, going to places like concerts with one or two people you know. complimenting people in a good way not weird. working for a charity or local political cause is underrated and mad good for your resume

 

[Suimaxxer]

I meant time travel and be a kid again. Most established social circles start young.

Oh well i dont have a single childhood friend, had to drop them all when i realised they werent even fucking with me

 

[Deleted member 128803]

do they want to meet you though?

 

[Suimaxxer]

art classes, sports teams

Very cringe

, friends of friends

That requires friends in the first place, it also requires that u go out with ur friends, and that they bring their friends along, and their friends fuck with u and want to be ur friends too. I have 1 true friend that i out with like once a month or whatever and ive met his friends, but im not that close with them

, going to places like concerts with one or two people you know.

They dont wanna do shit with me, and im tired of being the one always asking to hang out

. complimenting people in a good way not weird.

Have tried it, i only get a positive reaction at the moment, but nothing long term

working for a charity or local political cause is underrated and mad good for your resume

Extremely cringe plus idc about my resume im just trying to get my degree and find a job related to my major

 

[Suimaxxer]

do they want to meet you though?

I doubt it. Most people who get to know me always say im a very good person very kind etc but they never want to actually text me and have me in their life

 

[Deleted member 71093]

I meant time travel and be a kid again. Most established social circles start young.

Do you work out?

 

[POZZO]

Very cringe

That requires friends in the first place, it also requires that u go out with ur friends, and that they bring their friends along, and their friends fuck with u and want to be ur friends too. I have 1 true friend that i out with like once a month or whatever and ive met his friends, but im not that close with them

They dont wanna do shit with me, and im tired of being the one always asking to hang out

Have tried it, i only get a positive reaction at the moment, but nothing long term

Extremely cringe plus idc about my resume im just trying to get my degree and find a job related to my major

well... you do you brolmk how it goes

 

[Deleted member 125888]

Do you work out?

Why are you asking me these questions in random threads

 

[pickleballdods]

Haven't read the posts (?) In this thread (?) yet, so I apologise if I'm missing some context. The only thing stopping you is yourself, the people who are at these sports events (??)/ gym, or whatever probably don't find it cringe, they'll willing to be there. Bite the bullet and push yourself out and you'll discover a ton of opportunities. Treat this like rejection therapy, if you can ignore feeling cringe, I promise it will help

 

[Suimaxxer]

well... you do you brolmk how it goes

Its not going well but at least im not cringe

 

[Deleted member 71093]

Why are you asking me these questions in random threads

I’m curious

 

[Deleted member 125888]

I’m curious

If you wanna talk, just dm me or add me on discord

 

[Suimaxxer]

Haven't read the posts (?) In this thread (?) yet, so I apologise if I'm missing some context. The only thing stopping you is yourself, the people who are at these sports events (??)/ gym, or whatever probably don't find it cringe, they'll willing to be there. Bite the bullet and push yourself out and you'll discover a ton of opportunities. Treat this like rejection therapy, if you can ignore feeling cringe, I promise it will help

I cant rly ignore feeling cringe cuz thats the way i have grown up, almost everything is cringe to me. I feel like its either im gonna have a big friend group of cool dudes or im gonna be alone, and theres nothing i can do for either case

 

[Deleted member 42399]

Impossible after high school and college

 

[POZZO]

Its not going well but at least im not cringe

It's probs not going well cause you're afraid of being 'cringe'. it's not cringe to do shit like sports it is cringe to stay inside and wonder why you don't like your life. Not trynna life coach or anything but come on mane

 

[Suimaxxer]

Impossible after high school and college

Im still in uni but im on 4th semester and everyone has already found their people, except for some hardcore autistic losers

 

[Suimaxxer]

It's probs not going well cause you're afraid of being 'cringe'. it's not cringe to do shit like sports it is cringe to stay inside and wonder why you don't like your life. Not trynna life coach or anything but come on mane

Deep down i know ur right but my mind thinks that if my life isnt already perfect by itself then theres nothing that can be done about it, cuz it will be too cringe to even try

 

[pickleballdods]

If you haven't yet, you could try talking to someone that sits close to you. It doesn't have to be a deep or meaningful conversation. What may be easy for me may not be easy for you, but if you're willing to try, you could start with simple comments. Like if your teacher sucks, you can say "what's up with this guy" or something along those lines. Nevermind if the person doesn't respond, it's part of the process. The most important is that you're open and willing to try

I cant rly ignore feeling cringe cuz thats the way i have grown up, almost everything is cringe to me. I feel like its either im gonna have a big friend group of cool dudes or im gonna be alone, and theres nothing i can do for either case

 

[Suimaxxer]

If you haven't yet, you could try talking to someone that sits close to you. It doesn't have to be a deep or meaningful conversation. What may be easy for me may not be easy for you, but if you're willing to try, you could start with simple comments. Like if your teacher sucks, you can say "what's up with this guy" or something along those lines. Nevermind if the person doesn't respond, it's part of the process. The most important is that you're open and willing to try

I have been doing this for a while and its rly easy for me, but after the 10 second chit chat what am i supposed to do?

 

[Deleted member 107430]

dont
being a loner mogs

 

[pickleballdods]

I have been doing this for a while and its rly easy for me, but after the 10 second chit chat what am i supposed to do?

Silence is okay too, if they respond, you're doing well. If you run out of comments to make, maybe you could say some random things that happened to you before and follow up with a question direction to the person you're talking to (?) People like talking about themselves, so if you could get the person to do that, your ship is ready to start sailing

 

[Suimaxxer]

dont
being a loner mogs

It gets to a point

 

[pickleballdods]

Silence is okay too, if they respond, you're doing well. If you run out of comments to make, maybe you could say some random things that happened to you before and follow up with a question direction to the person you're talking to (?) People like talking about themselves, so if you could get the person to do that, your ship is ready to start sailing

*directed

 

[Suimaxxer]

Silence is okay too, if they respond, you're doing well. If you run out of comments to make, maybe you could say some random things that happened to you before and follow up with a question direction to the person you're talking to (?) People like talking about themselves, so if you could get the person to do that, your ship is ready to start sailing

Ive never gotten silence from anyone ive tried talking to, i just cant keep the conversation going. Like man i did my part, i did the first move, now they should try to ask me something or whatever, cuz i dont wanna be annoying or interrogate them

 

[Deleted member 76634]

If u go school or college u can speak with ppl

 

[Deleted member 124684]

this

idk im not nt enough to give a good answer

same lol

 

[Suimaxxer]

If u go school or college u can speak with ppl

Go 6-7 replies above

 

[Deleted member 76634]

Go 6-7 replies above

Ah ok, tbh i recommend u join an MMA gym its a good masculine environment but people are chill as well and ur fitness will improve+ more confidence

 

[Vincent Freeman]

Very cringe

That requires friends in the first place, it also requires that u go out with ur friends, and that they bring their friends along, and their friends fuck with u and want to be ur friends too. I have 1 true friend that i out with like once a month or whatever and ive met his friends, but im not that close with them

They dont wanna do shit with me, and im tired of being the one always asking to hang out

Have tried it, i only get a positive reaction at the moment, but nothing long term

Extremely cringe plus idc about my resume im just trying to get my degree and find a job related to my major

so everything is cringe. idk what kind of advice are you expecting. You have to take initiative and take risks. only one way to comfortably and naturally meet people without having to do anything is for them to approach you, which means you have to have something people want from you - looks, talent, skill, money, social connections. And you don't have any of that, otherwise you wouldn't have made this thread

 

[Gonthar]

I doubt it. Most people who get to know me always say im a very good person very kind etc but they never want to actually text me and have me in their life

Ive never gotten silence from anyone ive tried talking to, i just cant keep the conversation going. Like man i did my part, i did the first move, now they should try to ask me something or whatever, cuz i dont wanna be annoying or interrogate them

Your looks/status/money are probably low, that's why people don't want to hang out with you, human relationships are transactional, if you don't have anything to offer, people will usually avoid you.

It would be helpful if you write more info about you: age, height, weight, race, facial appearance, where do you live, what do you do, what are your hobbies, interests, how much money do you have, how many friends, etc.

 

[The Homelander]

connect
doesn’t matter connect

 

[Suimaxxer]

Your looks/status/money are probably low, that's why people don't want to hang out with you, human relationships are transactional, if you don't have anything to offer, people will usually avoid you.

It would be helpful if you write more info about you: age, height, weight, race, facial appearance, where do you live, what do you do, what are your hobbies, interests, how much money do you have, how many friends, etc.

Actually all wrong, the people who usually ignore me are all more stupid, poorer and uglier than me. Im literally only 19, my peers dont even think about money and status and shit like that when looking for friends, theyre just looking for someone that makes them laugh and shit, and i can see that everywhere, useless people hang around with other useless people just because they share the same cringe humour

 

[Swarthy Knight]

Join some sorta club. Or take a course/program at a college

 

[Suimaxxer]

Ah ok, tbh i recommend u join an MMA gym its a good masculine environment but people are chill as well and ur fitness will improve+ more confidence

Im actually seriously considering about going to the gym, whether its MMA or just lifting weights

 

[Gonthar]

Actually all wrong, the people who usually ignore me are all more stupid, poorer and uglier than me. Im literally only 19, my peers dont even think about money and status and shit like that when looking for friends, theyre just looking for someone that makes them laugh and shit, and i can see that everywhere, useless people hang around with other useless people just because they share the same cringe humour

Well, you're probably weird or something and you send autistic vibes...

 

[Suimaxxer]

so everything is cringe. idk what kind of advice are you expecting. You have to take initiative and take risks. only one way to comfortably and naturally meet people without having to do anything is for them to approach you, which means you have to have something people want from you - looks, talent, skill, money, social connections. And you don't have any of that, otherwise you wouldn't have made this thread

Funnily enough, i have more money than people i know who are popular and have friends etc, and i know that because i personally know a guy that we used to hang out whos broke af and uglier than me (even girls have told me that) but he has many connections and even a gf

 

[Suimaxxer]

Join some sorta club. Or take a course/program at a college

I would but this is just too cringe for me, and i think thats because all clubs/programs are filled with losers

 

[Suimaxxer]

Well, you're probably weird or something and you send autistic vibes...

The exact opposite, the cool normal guys accept me just fine, they respect me, talk to me etc.

 

[Gonthar]

The exact opposite, the cool normal guys accept me just fine, they respect me, talk to me etc.

Then make friends with them, I'm confused, what exactly is the problem here....?