How do you approach girls at the gym?

[spirili]

I'm so bad at approaching at the gym cuz I literally can't think of anything to say, other than just asking for their insta. This one girl started making eye contact with me a lot, and I want to go talk to her but there's nothing to say that doesn't sound cringe. Usually I make an excuse to talk to a girl, like asking about her expertise on something (homework, work, etc.), but at the gym that's not an option. We have nothing in common. The only reason I'm talking to her is because she's pretty, so there's no excuse to fall back on to save face if things go south.

Saying "Hi, I see you a lot here, I'm (insert name)" just isn't something I'd ever say. I'm not NT enough to make it sound natural. I don't talk to anyone at the gym, so suddenly being a super NT normie while talking to her is totally out of character for me. She would see through the fakeness.

I wish I had a script for this that I could just regurgitate verbatim with any chick I think might be into me.

@RealNinja @AscensionMan98 @New Poster (tagging you guys cuz I saw some of your comments about this)

 

[zakachiti]

Dnr + don't do that, ppl go there to workout.

 

[Sceptical]

How do you approach girls at the gym?​

you don't

 

[spirili]

Dnr + don't do that, ppl go there to workout.

you don't

I'm talking about acting on ioi's. Not cold approaching random girls who don't ever look at you.
If a girl is into you, it's appropriate

 

[estrogen consumer]

Nigga holy thread learn how to break up
Don’t approach girls in the gym that’s weird asf

 

[zakachiti]

I'm talking about acting on ioi's. Not cold approaching random girls who don't ever look at you.
If a girl is into you, it's appropriate

What if they just steal glances, for no reason, like most ppl in the gym do???

 

[Sandriguez]

Stop reading the replies to this thread. Forget everything. Walk up to her and just talk. Whatever comes to your mind just say it. If she slaps you then you know your alive.

Don’t think about it. Please don’t think about it.

 

[hypertrophic]

I'm so bad at approaching at the gym cuz I literally can't think of anything to say, other than just asking for their insta. This one girl started making eye contact with me a lot, and I want to go talk to her but there's nothing to say that doesn't sound cringe. Usually I make an excuse to talk to a girl, like asking about her expertise on something (homework, work, etc.), but at the gym that's not an option. We have nothing in common. The only reason I'm talking to her is because she's pretty, so there's no excuse to fall back on to save face if things go south.

Saying "Hi, I see you a lot here, I'm (insert name)" just isn't something I'd ever say. I'm not NT enough to make it sound natural. I don't talk to anyone at the gym, so suddenly being a super NT normie while talking to her is totally out of character for me. She would see through the fakeness.

I wish I had a script for this that I could just regurgitate verbatim with any chick I think might be into me.

@RealNinja @AscensionMan98 @New Poster (tagging you guys cuz I saw some of your comments about this)

dont, you stupid fuck. thats how you embarass yourself and cancel your membership.

 

[mr123456]

walk behind them and grab that booty

 

[spirili]

You guys are a bunch of dumbasses. I'm not talking about harassing random women like a pua clown in a rehab room video.

If a girl you see on a regular basis is constantly checking you out and is clearly comfortable being near you, it should be a green light to walk up to her and say hi. But I'm too much of a loner to know exactly what to say.

 

[Vannx]

I'm so bad at approaching at the gym cuz I literally can't think of anything to say, other than just asking for their insta. This one girl started making eye contact with me a lot, and I want to go talk to her but there's nothing to say that doesn't sound cringe. Usually I make an excuse to talk to a girl, like asking about her expertise on something (homework, work, etc.), but at the gym that's not an option. We have nothing in common. The only reason I'm talking to her is because she's pretty, so there's no excuse to fall back on to save face if things go south.

Saying "Hi, I see you a lot here, I'm (insert name)" just isn't something I'd ever say. I'm not NT enough to make it sound natural. I don't talk to anyone at the gym, so suddenly being a super NT normie while talking to her is totally out of character for me. She would see through the fakeness.

I wish I had a script for this that I could just regurgitate verbatim with any chick I think might be into me.

@RealNinja @AscensionMan98 @New Poster (tagging you guys cuz I saw some of your comments about this)

i let them come to me bc they snif my pheromon and then get wet

 

[avenox]

if you were attractive women woukd come up to you

 

[Whatever]

I saved this old post, this guy was entirely trustworthy and this seems like what you can expect. You might get a number or Insta but it’s just not how girls meet the guys they fuck and date. So even if she thinks you’re hot and you make a good impression on her, there’s still a very low chance she’d follow through and prioritize you, girls live in these closed mazes that there’s not many openings into.

That I remember I only got approached twice in all the years I have been training. Once in college by a girl asking me if I could teach her some exercise (tried to capitalize on that and went for her number, she rejected). And second a few weeks back, two fit LTB that wanted me to show them how to do leg raises (I was doing them) because the did pole dancing and wanted to learn.

Across the years I got many IOIs from women there. Last year when I was single I got from 4 different women in repeated occasions constant glances, so obviously I approached all of them. Despite me being charming and cool this is what happened:

1. She gave me her number but shit didn't go anywhere. Interaction was half awkward. Funny thing is that she guessed my age as 18-20. It's hilarious how bad women are estimating age.

2. Despite constantly looking at me, 5-10 times that day, when I approached her she was so nervous that the situation was cringe. I could barely hear her voice. She didn't even want to give me her number or IG.

3. Again, heavy glancing. When I approached her she said she doesn't give her number yet. I was like ok cool, I see you around.

4. Heavy glancing, I approach gracefully and she claims she has a bf. Looks like an excuse. A year later I see her at the gym with her MTN normie bloated ogre (roided) BF.

This is as real as it gets. These were weren't subtle IOIs that incels make up to feel better about themselves, they were very obvious, so blatant that I had to approach. Women won't approach for the most part during day time. But the commercial gyms I go are usually filled with many young women (18-24). Many young people in general.

However if the girl is exactly your type and is looking then you’ll regret not approaching, maybe approaching once every several months or so is ideal.

 

[spirili]

I saved this old post, this guy was entirely trustworthy and this seems like what you can expect. You might get a number or Insta but it’s just not how girls meet the guys they fuck and date. So even if she thinks you’re hot and you make a good impression on her, there’s still a very low chance she’d follow through and prioritize you, girls live in these closed mazes that there’s not many openings into.



However if the girl is exactly your type and is looking then you’ll regret not approaching, maybe approaching once every several months or so is ideal.

Interesting. Similar shit has happened to me. I don't get why they're like this.

 

[Whatever]

Interesting. Similar shit has happened to me. I don't get why they're like this.

Because they’re absolutely bombarded with options. They pick between guys they already like so being attractive to her is the bare minimum, not the deciding factor. Sex or even an hour of her time is usually part of the broader context of her social life so the decision for it comes down to circumstances and timing just as much as it’s made by her, the timing has to be in your favor. And cold approaching at the gym, it’s not impossible but you’re coming in at an inopportune time, guys at parties or Tinder or even at her work are in much better position.

 

[iblamexyz]

I'm so bad at approaching at the gym cuz I literally can't think of anything to say, other than just asking for their insta. This one girl started making eye contact with me a lot, and I want to go talk to her but there's nothing to say that doesn't sound cringe. Usually I make an excuse to talk to a girl, like asking about her expertise on something (homework, work, etc.), but at the gym that's not an option. We have nothing in common. The only reason I'm talking to her is because she's pretty, so there's no excuse to fall back on to save face if things go south.

Saying "Hi, I see you a lot here, I'm (insert name)" just isn't something I'd ever say. I'm not NT enough to make it sound natural. I don't talk to anyone at the gym, so suddenly being a super NT normie while talking to her is totally out of character for me. She would see through the fakeness.

I wish I had a script for this that I could just regurgitate verbatim with any chick I think might be into me.

@RealNinja @AscensionMan98 @New Poster (tagging you guys cuz I saw some of your comments about this)

just run pua bro

 

[SomaliSub5]

just say hey hows it going or something like that dont try to ask ppl out immediately try to get to know them first

 

[AscensionMan98]

I'm so bad at approaching at the gym cuz I literally can't think of anything to say, other than just asking for their insta. This one girl started making eye contact with me a lot, and I want to go talk to her but there's nothing to say that doesn't sound cringe. Usually I make an excuse to talk to a girl, like asking about her expertise on something (homework, work, etc.), but at the gym that's not an option. We have nothing in common. The only reason I'm talking to her is because she's pretty, so there's no excuse to fall back on to save face if things go south.

So first off its excellent your getting a ioi. Been a while i got those at the gym since most gyms are 90% dudes anyways and thanks to only fans women are not going to the gym that often just too busy doing some 20 minute working and then taking pictures at the home mirror

Saying "Hi, I see you a lot here, I'm (insert name)" just isn't something I'd ever say. I'm not NT enough to make it sound natural. I don't talk to anyone at the gym, so suddenly being a super NT normie while talking to her is totally out of character for me. She would see through the fakeness.

I wish I had a script for this that I could just regurgitate verbatim with any chick I think might be into me.

You don't have to say you see them a lot, just make some comment about some random bs. The key is you over complicate the initial approach . The thing is your worried about rejection but by never saying anything thats also a instant rejection cause women never approach generally speaking unless their drunk at a party or your in a social circle setting thats the only time they might initiate the move, otherwise they never do .

And no i don't consider IOI as the first move. I mean a literal approach

So anyways just make either of these comments . wait till the foid finishes a set and then ask if she is using some dumbell or machine. Foid will say no or yes and then you can be like " wow this gym is crowded " if its crowded or " wow this gym is empty" if its empty, and then mention that you come here a few times every now and then and ask her if she comes their or not really. Then make up some bs excuse " yea gotchu i just moved here from this town x and was wanting to get to know more people so figured id talk to some more people here" .

From their ask for the snapchat or text. Then you can ask to grab a cofee or something. Now at this point if she thought your just friends and doesn't like you , she will drop the " oh sorry i thought we are just friends " or something. Then now you know your out of the game so good riddance to that whore.

If she doesn't say anything you can either drop the " i think your cute btw" on text before the date, or just drop that in person and risk a blow out in person. Benefit of mentiongi that in text is you force a response to see physical attraction. The risk is that if you look mogger in person the foid may reject to quickly. So yes while initially the foid might remember you , with all those dudes she texting she may not remember exactly and then you could risk that. So if you have a great body then you can just risk it and drop that in person.


So while this sounds soy remember that teh gym is a social setting. You cant be as ballsy and direct or else women will think your the pick up guy and it will make interactions around othetr females weird in the gym. Otherwise in the mall I would say to tell a girl " you look interesting" and then say why and then admit later you find her cute. The reason i recommend the cute part is because it makes it clear your not just looking for a friend . Most of the time women know this but sometimes women are stupid and think you want to be their male faggot friend or male soyboy friend so it eliminates that chance.


If this was a cold approach in a mall or bar/club area i would be more direct tell the foid you thought she was cute or attractive and you wanted to come say hi . This forces a man to women frame where the women cant assume your some faggot friend or soyboy friend but wanna fuck her but in can result in quicker blow outs for sub chad men as she will more heavily analzye your looks. The upside is while you get more rejectoins you can move a lot faster in pick up sets.

Most top slayers reported doing 30-60 appraoches in a night when they did sucessfully slay btw . Let that sick in. 30-60 appraoches. And even then they were getting laid like once every 2 weeks. ( so the slayer with 100 bodycount in 3 years ) was getting laid with a new chick maybe once every 2 weeks and thats assuming he goes out every weekend , so 60-120 approaches and thats with good looks.


TLR- in social settings like the gym dont run direct game, you have to run indirect game and go off the " i just moved from this new city and getting to know people " as a excuse to get the foids snapchat or number. I would recommend a number since on snapchat they can just not open the app but number forces a response .HOWEVER if you can get the snap as well i like snap cause if you have elite body it can REMIND the foid who they are dealing it.

- Then admit she is cute on text before the date to see how she reacts, if she not interested will say " oh i thought you just wanted to be friends, or i have a boyfriend " , or she just keeps it nuetral as thanks then you can schedule a cofee date the first time ( i would be careful suggesting drinks immediately as again you have to guage attraction its not like tinder or direct cold approach where you can know if a foid is into you " . So if the cofee date goes well and you call the foid cute and she calls you cute back then you can suggest a drinks date and bang her the 2nd date

Its a bit longer then direct cold approach where you can go for a drink date but i think its still highly useful as your not limiting yoursefl to just cold approach. Its always nice when you get some ioi before hand

@RealNinja @AscensionMan98 @New Poster (tagging you guys cuz I saw some of your comments about this)

 

[spirili]

So first off its excellent your getting a ioi. Been a while i got those at the gym since most gyms are 90% dudes anyways and thanks to only fans women are not going to the gym that often just too busy doing some 20 minute working and then taking pictures at the home mirror

I haven't gotten notable ioi's at the gym in years too because it's mostly dudes. I gotta look into which gyms are popular with girls. LA fitness sucks with this.

You don't have to say you see them a lot, just make some comment about some random bs. The key is you over complicate the initial approach . The thing is your worried about rejection but by never saying anything thats also a instant rejection cause women never approach generally speaking unless their drunk at a party or your in a social circle setting thats the only time they might initiate the move, otherwise they never do .

And no i don't consider IOI as the first move. I mean a literal approach

So anyways just make either of these comments . wait till the foid finishes a set and then ask if she is using some dumbell or machine. Foid will say no or yes and then you can be like " wow this gym is crowded " if its crowded or " wow this gym is empty" if its empty, and then mention that you come here a few times every now and then and ask her if she comes their or not really. Then make up some bs excuse " yea gotchu i just moved here from this town x and was wanting to get to know more people so figured id talk to some more people here" .

This girl only does cardio on treadmills and bikes. When I approach her, it will be when she's using a bike (she pedals slowly and looks at her phone, so it's not like I'm interrupting a serious workout). We go at night, when there's not many people there. so I can't ask when she'll be done using the bike since there's 10 other bikes open.

I can't say I just moved to this town because she's seen me there over the years, but she just now started to notice me.

I just can't bring myself to say normie lines like "wow it's so empty here tonight." I hate pointless small talk comments like that. I could say "Were you and I in the same (college) class last year?" and try to get into a conversation about college.

From their ask for the snapchat or text. Then you can ask to grab a cofee or something. Now at this point if she thought your just friends and doesn't like you , she will drop the " oh sorry i thought we are just friends " or something. Then now you know your out of the game so good riddance to that whore.

If she doesn't say anything you can either drop the " i think your cute btw" on text before the date, or just drop that in person and risk a blow out in person. Benefit of mentiongi that in text is you force a response to see physical attraction. The risk is that if you look mogger in person the foid may reject to quickly. So yes while initially the foid might remember you , with all those dudes she texting she may not remember exactly and then you could risk that. So if you have a great body then you can just risk it and drop that in person.


So while this sounds soy remember that teh gym is a social setting. You cant be as ballsy and direct or else women will think your the pick up guy and it will make interactions around othetr females weird in the gym. Otherwise in the mall I would say to tell a girl " you look interesting" and then say why and then admit later you find her cute. The reason i recommend the cute part is because it makes it clear your not just looking for a friend . Most of the time women know this but sometimes women are stupid and think you want to be their male faggot friend or male soyboy friend so it eliminates that chance.

Are you saying ask for her social media the first time we talk? I'd only do that if we actually have a good conversation. I think it'd be too weird to ask for her instagram if we don't chat much. Also here in the US people use instagram and tiktok way more than snapchat now I think, but I'm no expert. One girl I asked out at the mall offered to give me either her number or instagram, and didn't mention snapchat.

 

[AscensionMan98]

I haven't gotten notable ioi's at the gym in years too because it's mostly dudes. I gotta look into which gyms are popular with girls. LA fitness sucks with this.

Its not LA gym fitness in particular its every gym is 80-90% dudes. The only gyms that are like 100% dudes almost are power lifiting type gyms . If you want a actual balanced ratio then it would be crossfit gym but thats not a good workout imo

This girl only does cardio on treadmills and bikes. When I approach her, it will be when she's using a bike (she pedals slowly and looks at her phone, so it's not like I'm interrupting a serious workout). We go at night, when there's not many people there. so I can't ask when she'll be done using the bike since there's 10 other bikes open.

Good point, in that case you will have to be more direct just wave at her and ask how her workout is going. I

I can't say I just moved to this town because she's seen me there over the years, but she just now started to notice me.

Several years and no move, at this point you can be more direct and just say " hey hows it going " and just say something about seems we end up frequently working out the same time .

I just can't bring myself to say normie lines like "wow it's so empty here tonight." I hate pointless small talk comments like that. I could say "Were you and I in the same (college) class last year?" and try to get into a conversation about college.

You could mention she seems familiar and ask if you went to high school together. Or if you went to uni say did you go to the same uni or some bullshit

Are you saying ask for her social media the first time we talk? I'd only do that if we actually have a good conversation. I think it'd be too weird to ask for her instagram if we don't chat much.

I only say that since a lot of times you end up not seeing the person again. I say this since roasties are far more inconsistent with the gym vs men, and even a lot of dudes i see frequently end up not going for some weeks or months at a time or just switch to a different location.

if she is consistent with showing up then you dont have to go for the contact immediately but i just recommend it because most guys end up cucking out when it comes to pulling the trigger. So if you take care of it immediately then it solves that issue.

Also here in the US people use instagram and tiktok way more than snapchat now I think, but I'm no expert. One girl I asked out at the mall offered to give me either her number or instagram, and didn't mention snapchat.

Instagram works but its risky as their is 100+ dm for any hot foid. You dont wanna get a zero response also its a easy way for women to never reply back giving the instagram.

Only go for numbers and then from the number get the snapchat to send body pics

 

[RealNinja]

Nigga holy thread learn how to break up
Don’t approach girls in the gym that’s weird asf

It’s not weird if you have social skills + are physically attractive. If you’re good looking & have a good physique then you know that you get IOIs everywhere you go & there’s no wrong place to approach, maybe only the wrong girl to approach or the wrong way to carry it out. The “having social skills” part is important for gym approaches. You’re actually right that autistic retards like most people on this site shouldn’t approach in the gym. you need to be able to discern whether or not a girl is attracted to you & you need to execute the approach in a non creepy way.

I'm so bad at approaching at the gym cuz I literally can't think of anything to say, other than just asking for their insta. This one girl started making eye contact with me a lot, and I want to go talk to her but there's nothing to say that doesn't sound cringe. Usually I make an excuse to talk to a girl, like asking about her expertise on something (homework, work, etc.), but at the gym that's not an option. We have nothing in common. The only reason I'm talking to her is because she's pretty, so there's no excuse to fall back on to save face if things go south.

Saying "Hi, I see you a lot here, I'm (insert name)" just isn't something I'd ever say. I'm not NT enough to make it sound natural. I don't talk to anyone at the gym, so suddenly being a super NT normie while talking to her is totally out of character for me. She would see through the fakeness.

What do you mean you have nothing in common to talk about with a girl in the gym? If both of you work out regularly you have unlimited bullshit to talk about.

You’re correct that it looks obvious/out of character if you never talk to people & suddenly you walk up to one girl & start chatting her up. Thats why the first interaction should be something innocuous like going up & asking if she’s done with a piece of equipment or politely asking if you can work in while keeping your body language/expressions friendly but relatively neutral & not trying to flirt yet. This is where “not being an autistic retard” comes into play.

If a girl in the gym finds you attractive & has had her eye on you, this will usually become apparent when you say anything to her for the first time even if you’re being neutral. Usually her face will light up/eyes will go wide, she’ll smile, have some enthusiasm in her expression, say “yeah sure we can work in,” adjust her hair/preen herself. If she doesn’t like you then she’ll probably act completely neutral or closed off even if she says yes to working in. Headphones will stay on, no smile/enthusiasm, etc.

If her body language & expressions indicate she likes you after you ask about working in, THEN that’s your cue to make light convo while acting normal & having friendly body language & expressions. Smile & make eye contact but not in a creepy/extended way. Ask her name & say you see her around a lot. Ask about her workout routines or something else gym related, etc..

 

[spirili]

if she is consistent with showing up then you dont have to go for the contact immediately but i just recommend it because most guys end up cucking out when it comes to pulling the trigger. So if you take care of it immediately then it solves that issue.

I usually wait until the next time I see her to gauge how the first conversation went. It's how I find out if I could approach again. For instance, I once approached a girl who worked at a library I frequented. I asked her about volunteer programs there, and she was so energetic, bubbly, and friendly when she was talking to me. I felt great about that conversation when I left. But the next time I saw her I looked at her and gave a friendly smile, and she looked away and ignored me after that. It was brutal. So I'm glad I didn't immediately ask for her number. I guess this is what @Whatever was just telling me about.

 

[Strivist.]

show your dick to them and go to jail.

 

[spirili]

What do you mean you have nothing in common to talk about with a girl in the gym? If both of you work out regularly you have unlimited bullshit to talk about.

You’re correct that it looks obvious/out of character if you never talk to people & suddenly you walk up to one girl & start chatting her up. Thats why the first interaction should be something innocuous like going up & asking if she’s done with a piece of equipment or politely asking if you can work in while keeping your body language/expressions friendly but relatively neutral & not trying to flirt yet. This is where “not being an autistic retard” comes into play.

If a girl in the gym finds you attractive & has had her eye on you, this will usually become apparent when you say anything to her for the first time even if you’re being neutral. Usually her face will light up/eyes will go wide, she’ll smile, have some enthusiasm in her expression, say “yeah sure we can work in,” adjust her hair/preen herself. If she doesn’t like you then she’ll probably act completely neutral or closed off even if she says yes to working in. Headphones will stay on, no smile/enthusiasm, etc.

If her body language & expressions indicate she likes you after you ask about working in, THEN that’s your cue to make light convo while acting normal & having friendly body language & expressions. Smile & make eye contact but not in a creepy/extended way. Ask her name & say you see her around a lot. Ask about her workout routines or something else gym related, etc..

I agree with this, but for this one girl specifically, it won't work. This girl only does cardio on treadmills and bikes. When I approach her, it will be when she's using a bike (she pedals slowly and looks at her phone, so it's not like I'm interrupting a serious workout). We go at night, when there's not many people there. so I can't ask when she'll be done using the bike since there's 10 other bikes open.

I'm most likely gonna open with "Were you and I in the same (college) class last year?" and try to get into a conversation about college. "have I seen you somewhere before" is as cliche as it gets but then again everything by now is cliche.

 

[vi24v_]

Don’t go up to a girl at the gym bru ppl go there to workout

 

[Whatever]

I usually wait until the next time I see her to gauge how the first conversation went. It's how I find out if I could approach again. For instance, I once approached a girl who worked at a library I frequented. I asked her about volunteer programs there, and she was so energetic, bubbly, and friendly when she was talking to me. I felt great about that conversation when I left. But the next time I saw her I looked at her and gave a friendly smile, and she looked away and ignored me after that. It was brutal. So I'm glad I didn't immediately ask for her number. I guess this is what @Whatever was just telling me about.

Ya, I’ve had stuff like that happen, even girls randomly smiling at me from across some distance and when I make my way over to where they were they’re gone all the sudden. It’s like “you’re nice to look at for that moment but back into NPC mode”. But maybe if this happens enough it’s a good sign and you just need to get to parties, clubs, better places to approach.