How do you cope with loneliness? (need advice from incels)

[user0259]

i want to know how you guys deal with or completely numb the desire for love and romantic relationships so you can just live alone in peace.

Every time I go outside and see an attractive couple holding hands, or when some fucking romantic pic pops up online, or even at random moments, I get filled with rage. It constantly hijacks my mind. I just wanna know how to cope with this shit and genuinely accept that I’ll probably never have anything with anyone (without turning to alcohol or drugs too much).
I know it's mostly testosterone, but it's getting compulsive as fuck and ruins my focus every day

 

[Lonely]

i want to know how you guys deal with or completely numb the desire for love and romantic relationships so you can just live alone in peace.

Every time I go outside and see an attractive couple holding hands, or when some fucking romantic pic pops up online, or even at random moments, I get filled with rage. It constantly hijacks my mind. I just wanna know how to cope with this shit and genuinely accept that I’ll probably never have anything with anyone (without turning to alcohol or drugs too much).
I know it's mostly testosterone, but it's getting compulsive as fuck and ruins my focus every day

Ascend

 

[BlackSilence]

just dont care?

 

[TheTallnUgly]

Make getting a gf your #1 priority as its needed to be happy

 

[DownwardGrowthCel]

Ascend

Got his name for a reason jfl

 

[OverSince08]

Make getting a gf your #1 priority as its needed to be happy

Nigga that will just make u depressed

 

[OverSince08]

i want to know how you guys deal with or completely numb the desire for love and romantic relationships so you can just live alone in peace.

Every time I go outside and see an attractive couple holding hands, or when some fucking romantic pic pops up online, or even at random moments, I get filled with rage. It constantly hijacks my mind. I just wanna know how to cope with this shit and genuinely accept that I’ll probably never have anything with anyone (without turning to alcohol or drugs too much).
I know it's mostly testosterone, but it's getting compulsive as fuck and ruins my focus every day

Have u got a car, a job, a degree or studying?
U have an emptiness inside u that wont just be satisfied by a gf.

 

[GonorrhoeaGobbler]

find purpose and validation within or elsewhere, fuck hookers and let yourself be hollowed out

 

[subhuman1996]

I have no other options lmao. There’s hardly any ppl in my area let alone ppl my age. I literally see more oldcells then niggas my age

 

[user0259]

Ascend

tt will take some time, and even then love isn't guaranteed

 

[user0259]

I have no other options lmao. There’s hardly any ppl in my area let alone ppl my age. I literally see more oldcells then niggas my age

yeah pretty much the same for me

 

[user0259]

Have u got a car, a job, a degree or studying?
U have an emptiness inside u that wont just be satisfied by a gf.

yeah i get what you mean and I agree, having purpose, job, goals etc. definitely helps a lot with that emptiness. But even when I’m busy literally every waking hour, this shit still catches up to me sooner or later. it kinda gets a bit quieter, but it doesn’t fully go away

 

[OverSince08]

yeah i get what you mean and I agree, having purpose, job, goals etc. definitely helps a lot with that emptiness. But even when I’m busy literally every waking hour, this shit still catches up to me sooner or later. it kinda gets a bit quieter, but it doesn’t fully go away

Exactly it gets quieter helping u deal with it. Just put the things i listed+softmaxxing as your goals and work towards them. Also find a hobby to do. All this will help u cope.

 

[Sith]

i want to know how you guys deal with or completely numb the desire for love and romantic relationships so you can just live alone in peace.

Every time I go outside and see an attractive couple holding hands, or when some fucking romantic pic pops up online, or even at random moments, I get filled with rage. It constantly hijacks my mind. I just wanna know how to cope with this shit and genuinely accept that I’ll probably never have anything with anyone (without turning to alcohol or drugs too much).
I know it's mostly testosterone, but it's getting compulsive as fuck and ruins my focus every day

ascend, try to find purpose or interest in things, learn a few things, but if you want me to be honest. It will always be somewhat an issue.

 

[theonewhocantascend]

Alone ≠ lonely
Relationship/less = lonely

I would prob feel more LONELY than I do if I had to spend time with some ugly whore, who I have nothing to do with.

 

[Asdec]

i want to know how you guys deal with or completely numb the desire for love and romantic relationships so you can just live alone in peace.

Every time I go outside and see an attractive couple holding hands, or when some fucking romantic pic pops up online, or even at random moments, I get filled with rage. It constantly hijacks my mind. I just wanna know how to cope with this shit and genuinely accept that I’ll probably never have anything with anyone (without turning to alcohol or drugs too much).
I know it's mostly testosterone, but it's getting compulsive as fuck and ruins my focus every day

I daydream about being in a relationship while listening to music whenever I'm not busy. Sounds miserable, but tbh, daydreaming is the only thing that makes me feel alive/happy, apart from hanging out with my friends (though I rarely do that).

 

[user0259]

I daydream about being in a relationship while listening to music whenever I'm not busy. Sounds miserable, but tbh, daydreaming is the only thing that makes me feel alive/happy, apart from hanging out with my friends (though I rarely do that).

ohh hell no, that kind of daydreaming always ends up making me feel even more miserable. good for you tho

 

[Asdec]

I agree, having purpose, job, goals etc. definitely helps a lot

I think it’s just a cope. The economy is fucked worldwide, most people can barely survive despite getting degrees, and housing prices are completely detached from reality at this point, so you likely never will able to buy a respectable house. Unless you already have inheritance, or insane talent/luck, you’ll probably work a stressful job for decades just to stay afloat.

That’s why I feel like work alone doesn’t really give people purpose. Getting some “prestigious” title in your field sounds meaningless to me unless you are expceptional in your field, and realistically most people arent. A huge part of success is genetics anyway, iq, discipline, social skills, etc.

The only thing that actually makes this all worth it is having someone you genuinely love waiting for you at home. Otherwise, it's really a non rewarding cycle.