How do you date a girl with BPD?

[Renophobeadoobe]

Title

 

[TopTierIncel42]

Bipolar or Borderline

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

Bipolar or Borderline

Borderline

Good question thank you for asking

 

[TopTierIncel42]

Borderline

Good question thank you for asking

Goodluck. Be sure to prep yourself for episodes.

It will be very tiring

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

Goodluck. Be sure to prep yourself for episodes.

It will be very tiring

So you're obviously speaking from experience. What was it like? Did you cut things off at a certain point? What helped you "maintain" it while pursuing other goals

 

[ICL]

If its diagnosed be ready

If its self-diagnosed be ready
to leave

 

[TopTierIncel42]

So you're obviously speaking from experience. What was it like? Did you cut things off at a certain point? What helped you "maintain" it while pursuing other goals

It was atrocious. Very hard to maintain and you feel like a therapist more often than a person who she likes.

 

[infection]

Title

As someone whose ex had BPD, patience and care. I loved her enough to where I'd work through the lows and it didn't make me feel any different about her. Another thing is if they're aiming towards remission. To my recollection, my ex didn't believe in therapy so if they don't want to get help it's 100% not lasting long term. I had my issues too so I'm not gonna say it was her fault entirely but you get the point

You have to love them enough and they have to love themselves enough or else it'll never work

 

[CelestialJackrabbit]

YOU DON'T
RUUUUUN

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

If its diagnosed be ready

If its self-diagnosed be ready
to leave

Nigga u are fucking hilarious LOL

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

It was atrocious. Very hard to maintain and you feel like a therapist more often than a person who she likes.

I feel the exact same way rn ngl.. She's also a "Fearful Avoidant" (fucking buzzword) who has TRAUMA on top of that. It's really bad because being nice just doesn't work at all, it's like I need to purposefully be a caring dickhead who's constantly managing her emotions.

She just tried breaking up with me too because I wouldn't let her have her way, and she said "I'm done" 8 fucking time then finally softened up.

How did yours end, mb for ramble

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

As someone whose ex had BPD, patience and care. I loved her enough to where I'd work through the lows and it didn't make me feel any different about her. Another thing is if they're aiming towards remission. To my recollection, my ex didn't believe in therapy so if they don't want to get help it's 100% not lasting long term. I had my issues too so I'm not gonna say it was her fault entirely but you get the point

You have to love them enough and they have to love themselves enough or else it'll never work

Was your ending really messy? Thank you for the insight as well. I'm trying to be patient, and the pussy is extremely worth it. But I find that when I'm not with her I accomplish the most in my life. I really am trying to find a WAY to balance both. So I sought out .org for tips and tricks..

Because I really do like her

 

[TopTierIncel42]

I feel the exact same way rn ngl.. She's also a "Fearful Avoidant" (fucking buzzword) who has TRAUMA on top of that. It's really bad because being nice just doesn't work at all, it's like I need to purposefully be a caring dickhead who's constantly managing her emotions.

She just tried breaking up with me too because I wouldn't let her have her way, and she said "I'm done" 8 fucking time then finally softened up.

How did yours end, mb for ramble

Mine ended in a way which I forced her to break up with me. You avoid the person until they think for themselves for once.

By the way OP she seems self-diagnosed I highly recommend that you run as far as possible to maintain mental stability.

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

Mine ended in a way which I forced her to break up with me. You avoid the person until they think for themselves for once.

By the way OP she seems self-diagnosed I highly recommend that you run as far as possible to maintain mental stability.

Were you not able to cut things off on your own? Why did you end up avoiding her, I know they have a intense fear of abandonment as well.

It's the opposite she's in complete denial of it, and will only accept an ADHD diagnosis. Her sister and mom are diagnosed though, very surprised they even sought one out especially in that household.

Can you elaborate a little on why I would run away, and how it'd cost my mental stabiltiy?

Thank you for your help my nigga

 

[LettersfromAgartha]

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Its pretty annoying. you HAVE to have some paternal care and empathy because shes gonna vent to you, dump her trauma on you, ask you for constant reassurance, maybe say shes gonna cut herself, cry in your arms. so on so on. you basically gotta deal with her lows and then her highs. You gotta deal with the hypersexuality, and the aggressiveness if you irritate her or remind her of her trauma. Maybe have to deal with her on her manic episode while shes drunk and she tries strangling you because youre locked in on meth producing on ableton.

 

[pawn]

Borderline

Good question thank you for asking

worst 3 months of your life if you actually like her

 

[TopTierIncel42]

Were you not able to cut things off on your own? Why did you end up avoiding her, I know they have a intense fear of abandonment as well.

It's the opposite she's in complete denial of it, and will only accept an ADHD diagnosis. Her sister and mom are diagnosed though, very surprised they even sought one out especially in that household.

Can you elaborate a little on why I would run away, and how it'd cost my mental stabiltiy?

Thank you for your help my nigga

They often label themselves to avoid any consequence when they do stupid shit or anything that may put them at a bad light.

They don't have a fear of abandonment. They are afraid of committing to the person they are with because they act like whores.

The reason I ran was because after playing the therapist, good boyfriend role it gets very exhausting.

Im not a fucking caretaker.

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

Its pretty annoying. you HAVE to have some paternal care and empathy because shes gonna vent to you, dump her trauma on you, ask you for constant reassurance, maybe say shes gonna cut herself, cry in your arms. so on so on. you basically gotta deal with her lows and then her highs. You gotta deal with the hypersexuality, and the aggressiveness if you irritate her or remind her of her trauma. Maybe have to deal with her on her manic episode while shes drunk and she tries strangling you because youre locked in on meth producing on ableton.

Why is this all entirely accurate. She didn't threaten to cut herself at least, but I do get my ass beat a little when she's drunk..

Yeah I feel like I have to be her dad/therapist/boyfriend/emotional support animal

Where does the hypersexuality come from?

And nigga I got an adderall prescription and lose track of time, and she gets so mad

REAL af thank you for the insight I giggled

 

[fhu2001]

Easy you don't , RUUUUN

 

[LettersfromAgartha]

They often label themselves to avoid any consequence when they do stupid shit or anything that may put them at a bad light.

They don't have a fear of abandonment. They are afraid of committing to the person they are with because they act like whores.

The reason I ran was because after playing the therapist, good boyfriend role it gets very exhausting.

Im not a fucking caretaker.

i relate to this. You do have to be a caretaker at points

 

[notlarpingscott]

Title

Crack during the hypersexuality then leave

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

worst 3 months of your life if you actually like her

year now and im just realizing all this

 

[notlarpingscott]

describes it well

They often label themselves to avoid any consequence when they do stupid shit or anything that may put them at a bad light.

They don't have a fear of abandonment. They are afraid of committing to the person they are with because they act like whores.

The reason I ran was because after playing the therapist, good boyfriend role it gets very exhausting.

Im not a fucking caretaker.

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

They often label themselves to avoid any consequence when they do stupid shit or anything that may put them at a bad light.

They don't have a fear of abandonment. They are afraid of committing to the person they are with because they act like whores.

The reason I ran was because after playing the therapist, good boyfriend role it gets very exhausting.

Im not a fucking caretaker.

Holy shit bruh I can see that. The "thats just how I am!!"

They act like whores as in BEHAVIOR wise towards you, or being promiscious? sorry im autistic

and this is very valid thank you for your insight bro very high IQ

 

[TopTierIncel42]

They act like whores as in BEHAVIOR wise towards you, or being promiscious?

They act like that to justify past, present and future behaivour.

 

[Jenson]

force her to get recovered BPD meaning it’s regulated and barely has any effect that’s how u date one

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

Crack during the hypersexuality then leave

What you know about the hypersexuality? does it end too?

 

[pawn]

What you know about the hypersexuality? does it end too?

hypersexuality is fucking fake its just for ppl who dont want to say theyre pervs

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

force her to get recovered BPD meaning it’s regulated and barely has any effect that’s how u date one

Has anyone ever recovered from this illness lol

I can't imagine a foid DBT doing jack shit for her retarded brain chemistry

 

[notlarpingscott]

What you know about the hypersexuality? does it end too?

I'm hypersexual due to being exposed to shit since about 4 years old. First time I jerked off was at daycare at nap time, I wasn't thinking about women but it had the same sensation as me jerking off today.

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

hypersexuality is fucking fake its just for ppl who dont want to say theyre pervs

Dude I'm genuinely a twink that has 1 in the chamber

And she wants to have sex 30 times a day back to back

 

[offblinkers]

Title

It’s exhausting I genuinely don’t recommend , but if you do start a relationship just be understanding and patient ig but save yourself the trouble and leave

 

[LettersfromAgartha]

Why is this all entirely accurate. She didn't threaten to cut herself at least, but I do get my ass beat a little when she's drunk..

Yeah I feel like I have to be her dad/therapist/boyfriend/emotional support animal

Where does the hypersexuality come from?

And nigga I got an adderall prescription and lose track of time, and she gets so mad

REAL af thank you for the insight I giggled

i dont know where the hypersexuality comes from. Usually those with BPD/bipolar disorder tend to be really fucking horny. Just look at charlie sheen. Or it could be underlying sexual trauma. Who knows. There be times where she wants to fuck but you dont want to. To send a dick pic but youre out with family. Sometimes you gotta worry about her cheating because theyre fucking hypersexual.

But yeah they do tend to get violent drunk. Hallucinate when theyre high. One time my ex thought i wasnt real because i wouldnt blink when she flashed her phone light to my eyes at night after we just smoked.

They tend to want a lot of attention. its so much maintenace. Just know, if you break up with her. its cooked. Shes gonna pull up to your house, go through your instagram folllowing to stalk you, text your mom, beg you to be with her or she'll kill herself.

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

I'm hypersexual due to being exposed to shit since about 4 years old. First time I jerked off was at daycare at nap time, I wasn't thinking about women but it had the same sensation as me jerking off today.

Does this apply to BPD girls as well? Do they tend to be hypersexual because of upbringing? Rlly trying to understand it

 

[notlarpingscott]

Dude I'm genuinely a twink that has 1 in the chamber

And she wants to have sex 30 times a day back to back

"My steaks too juicy and my lobsters too buttery"

 

[notlarpingscott]

Does this apply to BPD girls as well? Do they tend to be hypersexual because of upbringing? Rlly trying to understand it

I'm not bipolar i'm sorry. I wouldn't know. I know sexual abuse can lead to hypersexually since I've seen it in girls

 

[pawn]

Dude I'm genuinely a twink that has 1 in the chamber

And she wants to have sex 30 times a day back to back

u got it good

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

i dont know where the hypersexuality comes from. Usually those with BPD/bipolar disorder tend to be really fucking horny. Just look at charlie sheen. Or it could be underlying sexual trauma. Who knows. There be times where she wants to fuck but you dont want to. To send a dick pic but youre out with family. Sometimes you gotta worry about her cheating because theyre fucking hypersexual.

But yeah they do tend to get violent drunk. Hallucinate when theyre high. One time my ex thought i wasnt real because i wouldnt blink when she flashed her phone light to my eyes at night after we just smoked.

They tend to want a lot of attention. its so much maintenace. Just know, if you break up with her. its cooked. Shes gonna pull up to your house, go through your instagram folllowing to stalk you, text your mom, beg you to be with her or she'll kill herself.

Bro I said it earlier but I cannot handle that much sex. Like I crave pussy but I'm skinny as shit and can only go 1-2 times a day

Off a adderall I last 30 minutes and she wants to fucking kill herself though.

The ass beatings are very violent as well this is why I'm trying to bulk up so I can defend myself better (not troll)

Also the cheating probability makes me very sad because it's probably the only reason I'm dealing with this cuz I took her virginity, and it would be very upsetting if she were to go fuck someone else

And that's fucking insane bro, IK for sure she did all of that. How did your relationship with her end? What has happened since?

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

u got it good

Nigga LOL

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

"My steaks too juicy and my lobsters too buttery"

Ur funny af nigga RELAX

I KNOW HOW MUCH OF A BLESSING THAT IS.. I KNOW MOST FOIDS DO IT ONCE A WEEK.. BUT I GET LETHERGIC AFTER THE FIRST TIME

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

Bro this is so funny for no rzn my retarded ass cant keep a straight face

 

[pawn]

Bro I said it earlier but I cannot handle that much sex. Like I crave pussy but I'm skinny as shit and can only go 1-2 times a day

Off a adderall I last 30 minutes and she wants to fucking kill herself though.

The ass beatings are very violent as well this is why I'm trying to bulk up so I can defend myself better (not troll)

Also the cheating probability makes me very sad because it's probably the only reason I'm dealing with this cuz I took her virginity, and it would be very upsetting if she were to go fuck someone else

And that's fucking insane bro, IK for sure she did all of that. How did your relationship with her end? What has happened since?

yo if you were the first one to fuck her i wouldnt be to worried especially if youre her "first love" then you have her around your finger

(as far as the cheating)

 

[notlarpingscott]

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Bro this is so funny for no rzn my retarded ass cant keep a straight face

Hit em with the bangers (corny voice)

 

[LettersfromAgartha]

Bro I said it earlier but I cannot handle that much sex. Like I crave pussy but I'm skinny as shit and can only go 1-2 times a day

Off a adderall I last 30 minutes and she wants to fucking kill herself though.

The ass beatings are very violent as well this is why I'm trying to bulk up so I can defend myself better (not troll)

Also the cheating probability makes me very sad because it's probably the only reason I'm dealing with this cuz I took her virginity, and it would be very upsetting if she were to go fuck someone else

And that's fucking insane bro, IK for sure she did all of that. How did your relationship with her end? What has happened since?

I get what you mean. i was in the same position as you, except she wouldnt really hit my ass. She would cut herself and i would have to reassure her. It gets tiring but if you truly love her, you dont mind. At the time, she was the one i lost my virginity to and i was madly in love with her. Sure she can be annoying but i didnt care because in my heart i like supporting her.

It ended pretty bad. i broke up with her because i couldnt handle her shit. Then she came to my house while my mom was home, begged me to be with her. later on she attempted suicide because at the time she couldnt live without me. As of currently, shes moved on but she still misses me.

 

[Jenson]

Has anyone ever recovered from this illness lol

I can't imagine a foid DBT doing jack shit for her retarded brain chemistry

tons of cases most of them eventually recover don’t date a BPD girl who’s main priority isn’t to get a recovered status

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

yo if you were the first one to fuck her i wouldnt be to worried especially if youre her "first love" then you have her around your finger

(as far as the cheating)

is it a pair bonding thing or some retard BPD tech?

Ye I was the first to fuck her, she was EDATING this girl online though but it rlly wasn't shit.. I like to cope and say I'm her first love because I was the first inside her and also its an IRl relationship

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

I get what you mean. i was in the same position as you, except she wouldnt really hit my ass. She would cut herself and i would have to reassure her. It gets tiring but if you truly love her, you dont mind. At the time, she was the one i lost my virginity to and i was madly in love with her. Sure she can be annoying but i didnt care because in my heart i like supporting her.

It ended pretty bad. i broke up with her because i couldnt handle her shit. Then she came to my house while my mom was home, begged me to be with her. later on she attempted suicide because at the time she couldnt live without me. As of currently, shes moved on but she still misses me.

Dang bro, it being ur first time too do you miss her a lot? Me and this girl take a lot of fucking breaks where I have to ignore her, and despite how draining it is, I can't imagine being gone for good

u were fr in the same situation as me

 

[foidslayer92910]

Title

Id date but I wouldn't commit

 

[LettersfromAgartha]

Dang bro, it being ur first time too do you miss her a lot? Me and this girl take a lot of fucking breaks where I have to ignore her, and despite how draining it is, I can't imagine being gone for good

u were fr in the same situation as me

yeah i luminate on our experiences together. all the drug fueled sex we had. the nurturing i gave her. it wasnt one sided. she loved me too, she would take care of me when im sick and would hold me. Even gave me gifts and always paid when it came to dates. i felt bad because i didnt have any money but she still loved me. You cant really get that out your mind. its not on my mind all the time but time to time i think "damn it sure was good"

 

[Renophobeadoobe]

yeah i luminate on our experiences together. all the drug fueled sex we had. the nurturing i gave her. it wasnt one sided. she loved me too, she would take care of me when im sick and would hold me. Even gave me gifts and always paid when it came to dates. i felt bad because i didnt have any money but she still loved me. You cant really get that out your mind. its not on my mind all the time but time to time i think "damn it sure was good"

Not to be that nigga but dang bruh I thought my girl was a unicorn kinda, cause she also pays for practically everything because im a poor nigga.. And she gets me gifts too

I just don't know how you even recover, or date another girl after some shit like this, it just feels like such a downgrade breh

I'm sure you did a lot of inner work too after the relationship. Did you at some point think about going back, since u felt more stable?