How do you deal with the guilt and sadness when misgendering your partner by accident?

[Deleted member 4209]

Ihave accidentally misgendered my partner twice in the last week, for basically the first time - she’s been transitioning for about 2.5 months now and it’s been awesome, I accept her completely, love her for who she is, and have not slipped up at all, but this last few weeks have been exhausting with general life stuff so I’ve been super tired, and I guess had a couple of brain farts. My partner has been totally okay with it because she knows I don’t mean it maliciously and it’s basically unlearning four years of habit, but both times I’ve misgendered her have felt like an absolute kick in the stomach for me and I hate that I did it - most of all I hate that my brain is still subconsciously thinking like that! Has this happened to anyone else, and how did you rationalise it and stop feeling so guilty and like a rubbish person??!

 

[Deleted member 9090]

 

[Deleted member 4209]

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you have to think there's some extreme stockholm syndrome going on with a woman who puts up with this shit.

 

[Swolepenisman]

Drugs help

 

[Deleted member 4804]

 

[Deleted member 6403]

Over

 

[Deleted member 4209]

Over

@Over

 

[rentfreegigachad]

Ihave accidentally misgendered my partner twice in the last week, for basically the first time - she’s been transitioning for about 2.5 months now and it’s been awesome, I accept her completely, love her for who she is, and have not slipped up at all, but this last few weeks have been exhausting with general life stuff so I’ve been super tired, and I guess had a couple of brain farts. My partner has been totally okay with it because she knows I don’t mean it maliciously and it’s basically unlearning four years of habit, but both times I’ve misgendered her have felt like an absolute kick in the stomach for me and I hate that I did it - most of all I hate that my brain is still subconsciously thinking like that! Has this happened to anyone else, and how did you rationalise it and stop feeling so guilty and like a rubbish person??!

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[Deleted member 4209]

this person obviously has the same problem as me. many such cases sad

 

[rentfreegigachad]

this person obviously has the same problem as me. many such cases sad

what the fuck even is this subreddit man, this world is so degenerate jfl

 

[Ritalincel]

what the fuck even is this subreddit man, this world is so degenerate jfl

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[Deleted member 4209]

what the fuck even is this subreddit man, this world is so degenerate jfl

this is allowed but "ban big mouth" and "consume product" are banned.

 

[Ritalincel]