How do you guys handle social situations?

[Deleted]

I always feel an immense pressure to look up to par with what i feel people would expect off me which is why my current job as a waiter has been super fucking stressful from having a big forehead and always checking my haircut.

Whenever i know i Will meet new people like when i started and was going to meet my coworkers i thought about how i Will enter the room, how the lightning would be, If they’re going to be impressed or dissapointed, If the girls are going to disrespect me and consider me a friend, If the guys are going to look down on me and If i would be able to handle the pressure of new costumers every day.

My brain chemistry is seriosly fucked and i get so anxious for social interactions as a biproduct of being and ugly bullied manlet growing up. Its not even that i’m scared they’ll think i’m average looking or ugly its that i won’t live up to the standard of a wattpad prettyboy. Its not that i compare myself to my coworkers, they’re poor losers, its that i want to be seen a certain way and whenever i find a girl doesnt seem interested my ego takes a massive hit despite me already knowing exactly where i stand lookswise and getting surgery for my flaws.

It’s brutally over

 

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@Baldingman1998 @loox @Amnesia @Lars @forevergymcelling @averagejoe @House Lannister @alriodai @RAITEIII @Erik-Jón

 

[Erik-Jón]

I always feel an immense pressure to look up to par with what i feel people would expect off me which is why my current job as a waiter has been super fucking stressful from having a big forehead and always checking my haircut.

Whenever i know i Will meet new people like when i started and was going to meet my coworkers i thought about how i Will enter the room, how the lightning would be, If they’re going to be impressed or dissapointed, If the girls are going to disrespect me and consider me a friend, If the guys are going to look down on me and If i would be able to handle the pressure of new costumers every day.

My brain chemistry is seriosly fucked and i get so anxious for social interactions as a biproduct of being and ugly bullied manlet growing up. Its not even that i’m scared they’ll think i’m average looking or ugly its that i won’t live up to the standard of a wattpad prettyboy. Its not that i compare myself to my coworkers, they’re poor losers, its that i want to be seen a certain way and whenever i find a girl doesnt seem interested my ego takes a massive hit despite me already knowing exactly where i stand lookswise and getting surgery for my flaws.

It’s brutally over

I had a girl kiss me at 13 against my will and I said I had to use the bathroom and never talked to her ever again and left

 

[RecessedChinCel]

Nigga is 6ft blonde Chad and is this fucking aspie

 

[isis_Bleach]

I always feel an immense pressure to look up to par with what i feel people would expect off me which is why my current job as a waiter has been super fucking stressful from having a big forehead and always checking my haircut.

Whenever i know i Will meet new people like when i started and was going to meet my coworkers i thought about how i Will enter the room, how the lightning would be, If they’re going to be impressed or dissapointed, If the girls are going to disrespect me and consider me a friend, If the guys are going to look down on me and If i would be able to handle the pressure of new costumers every day.

My brain chemistry is seriosly fucked and i get so anxious for social interactions as a biproduct of being and ugly bullied manlet growing up. Its not even that i’m scared they’ll think i’m average looking or ugly its that i won’t live up to the standard of a wattpad prettyboy. Its not that i compare myself to my coworkers, they’re poor losers, its that i want to be seen a certain way and whenever i find a girl doesnt seem interested my ego takes a massive hit despite me already knowing exactly where i stand lookswise and getting surgery for my flaws.

It’s brutally over

well i usually try to introduce myself if there is a new person in the group but i don’t do shit that makes me feel uncomfortable even if it makes me look “dry” i don’t force myself to talk loud or make jokes tbh
i only do that with people i’m comfortable with

 

[Deleted]

Nigga is 6ft blonde Chad and is this fucking aspie

The girls i work with arent even hot they’re just average girls but i still get a massive clump in my stomach before work

 

[ReadBooksEveryday]

I just act normal

Not reading that long essay of text

 

[Deleted]

well i usually try to introduce myself if there is a new person in the group but i don’t do shit that makes me feel uncomfortable even if it makes me look “dry” i don’t force myself to talk loud or make jokes tbh
i only do that with people i’m comfortable with

Do you shake hands in formel settings like work?

 

[Deleted member 17531]

I have the same problem with acting how people expect me to act based on my looks
Niggas expect me to be this outgoing charismatic dude when in reality i hate talking to people and im extremely antisocial

 

[isis_Bleach]

Do you shake hands in formel settings like work?

yea unless it would be awkward but usually i always shake hands when meeting someone the first time
ion like to do it other than the first time tho. i hate when my friends say “dap me up” like fuck u

 

[House Lannister]

I can sort of imagine how you act irl based on my super aspie friend who became chadlite thanks to puberty

 

[Deleted]

I have the same problem with acting how people expect me to act based on my looks
Niggas expect me to be this outgoing charismatic dude when in reality i hate talking to people and im extremely antisocial

 

[Deleted member 17531]

this is exactly how it is

 

[Enfant terrible]

I always feel an immense pressure to look up to par with what i feel people would expect off me which is why my current job as a waiter has been super fucking stressful from having a big forehead and always checking my haircut.

Whenever i know i Will meet new people like when i started and was going to meet my coworkers i thought about how i Will enter the room, how the lightning would be, If they’re going to be impressed or dissapointed, If the girls are going to disrespect me and consider me a friend, If the guys are going to look down on me and If i would be able to handle the pressure of new costumers every day.

My brain chemistry is seriosly fucked and i get so anxious for social interactions as a biproduct of being and ugly bullied manlet growing up. Its not even that i’m scared they’ll think i’m average looking or ugly its that i won’t live up to the standard of a wattpad prettyboy. Its not that i compare myself to my coworkers, they’re poor losers, its that i want to be seen a certain way and whenever i find a girl doesnt seem interested my ego takes a massive hit despite me already knowing exactly where i stand lookswise and getting surgery for my flaws.

It’s brutally over

Nobody gets all girls interested.
Who says otherwise is coping.
You need learning to cope with rejection I guess.

 

[Deleted]

I can sort of imagine how you act irl based on my super aspie friend who became chadlite thanks to puberty

The real problem is childhood trauma made me anxious but i’m extroverted. When drunk i can act how i wish i did when sober because i do enjoy creating connections but i’m just too anxious and insecure at Daytime.

 

[Deleted member 15827]

Arvind bro

 

[Deleted]

There is nobody who gets all girls interested.
Who says otherwise is coping.
You need to learn to cope with rejection i guess.

 

[Enfant terrible]

No it doesnt exist.

 

[RAITEIII]

I always feel an immense pressure to look up to par with what i feel people would expect off me which is why my current job as a waiter has been super fucking stressful from having a big forehead and always checking my haircut.

Whenever i know i Will meet new people like when i started and was going to meet my coworkers i thought about how i Will enter the room, how the lightning would be, If they’re going to be impressed or dissapointed, If the girls are going to disrespect me and consider me a friend, If the guys are going to look down on me and If i would be able to handle the pressure of new costumers every day.

My brain chemistry is seriosly fucked and i get so anxious for social interactions as a biproduct of being and ugly bullied manlet growing up. Its not even that i’m scared they’ll think i’m average looking or ugly its that i won’t live up to the standard of a wattpad prettyboy. Its not that i compare myself to my coworkers, they’re poor losers, its that i want to be seen a certain way and whenever i find a girl doesnt seem interested my ego takes a massive hit despite me already knowing exactly where i stand lookswise and getting surgery for my flaws.

It’s brutally over

Im drunk right now but you can DM. I have gone through that shit and I I overcome it mostly. Now I am confident in my looks, except when I'm I'm dating.

Anyway. Bro, whats even wrong with your forehead? I dont know I used to think mine was huge but unironically this dog was wrong... and it wasnt. You need more exposure and more espontaneous so you don't have time to think of it. Be confident bro you look decent. Don't have more weight on your shoulders than you should.

Cheers.

 

[Deleted member 9801]

Do you shake hands in formel settings like work?

Only when u first meet them bro

 

[Deleted]

Only when u first meet them bro

Feels wrong when its 2 18 year olds shaking hands for being coworkers

 

[Deleted member 9801]

Feels wrong when its 2 18 year olds shaking hands for being coworkers

Oh coworkers? Nah dont shake their hands man, I thiught u meant like higher ups

 

[Deleted member 20677]

I`m really NT tbh and I got some status here

 

[Marco Polo]

Brutal, a slave to validation, like a hamster on a wheel running after validation, is this all human existence has to offer in your view?

 

[Deleted member 21264]

whenever i find a girl doesnt seem interested my ego takes a massive hit

Thats exactly me. I feel u bro. Dont get me wrong tho yr aspie af. Get yrself put on meds

Im lookin to talk to someone regardinh all of this. Cant take it nomore. I needs meds intervension to be fixed.

 

[Deleted]

is this all human existence has to offer in your view?

Yes

 

[bwrauycnee]

Jfl exactly the same. I just learnt to control my ego a little. Though the feeling is always there but I don’t get nervous anymore.

 

[Deleted]

Jfl exactly the same. I just learnt to control my ego a little. Though the feeling is always there but I don’t get nervous anymore.

The anxiety comes from leaving the wrong impression. Around people i’ve met a couple of times, doesnt have to be friends just need to have met them i can be much more chill and autistic because then i feel comfortable.

My biggest fear is finding out the place i’m going to Will have some 6’10 godchad who Will make fun of me make it awkvard

 

[bwrauycnee]

The anxiety comes from leaving the wrong impression. Around people i’ve met a couple of times, doesnt have to be friends just need to have met them i can be much more chill and autistic because then i feel comfortable.

My biggest fear is finding out the place i’m going to Will have some 6’10 godchad who Will make fun of me make it awkvard

Yeah took me awhile to be comfortable with the fact that you can change peoples impression of you overtime. The first impression isn’t life or death

 

[Baldingman1998]

Same. Tbh. Ideally you should be chad looks + not give a shit what anyone thinks and think you're superior and confident no matter what. (Even if it's delusional it's ideal for mental health and success). Do you think Tom cruise would have been a successful actor if he gave up because of manletism? No jfl

 

[Catawampus]

The real problem is childhood trauma made me anxious but i’m extroverted. When drunk i can act how i wish i did when sober because i do enjoy creating connections but i’m just too anxious and insecure at Daytime.

This I talk a fuck ton and am extremely charismatic after even two drinks but struggle with the confidence during the day. Basically the alcohol enables me to be free and act how I would if I wasn’t mentally fucked

 

[MartinL]

I think I know where you're coming from, sounds like you have major mental game/social anxiety that is holding you back.

I was born a GL guy but spent my youth pretending to be some aspie incel sitting at home 24/7 during my teenage years playing video games, all thanks to my giga nerd older brother that I for some reason decided to idolize as a kid, leaving me as a socially awkard nerd gamer with zero social skills going in to my late teens even though I was always pretty GL.

It was a long process, but once I realized it was my aspie behaviour that was holding me back from hooking up and succeeding in social life everything in my life changed, and forcing myself into different social situations (clubbing, meeting up with tinder matches etc) after trial and error slowly gave me the confidence to become more NT.

I remember one major lifefuel moment was when I was walking in the street alone late at night some weekend after forcing myself to go out and some car full of drunk girls/guys pull up next to me and they all started shouting "you're so handsome" "where are you going out tonight" etc. I was still aspie at that point lol so I ignored them and actually thought they were just joking but thinking back at it now it all made sense. I was never ugly, I was just extremely introverted and socially awkard from not having any friends growing up due to idolizing my nerd gamer brother.

This is not meant as some brag post but rather as a reminder that there are probably a lot of guys on this forum that would maybe share a similar story as me, its not your looks holding you back but rather your high-inhib/social awkwardness from being raised in some aspie anti-social environment during your childhood or a lack of socializing skills etc,, but then you come here to this forum reading about perfect facial ratios, PSL and other blackpill lingo, and start blaming everything on your looks instead.

 

[Hero of the Imperium]

The real problem is childhood trauma made me anxious but i’m extroverted. When drunk i can act how i wish i did when sober because i do enjoy creating connections but i’m just too anxious and insecure at Daytime.

Sounds like typical Scandi

The anxiety comes from leaving the wrong impression. Around people i’ve met a couple of times, doesnt have to be friends just need to have met them i can be much more chill and autistic because then i feel comfortable.

My biggest fear is finding out the place i’m going to Will have some 6’10 godchad who Will make fun of me make it awkvard

6'10" maybe more common in Scandinavia
yeah childhood insults can be rough; I was taught to be nice and prefer to be just, but really should have been taught combat and how mankind is evil

Now we grow up to be narcy and confident and roll with the bants. You gotta lower cortisol and inject T. I admit though I score extremely high on disagreeability and am comfortable with conflict

 

[forevergymcelling]

I just don’t care about anyone’s opinion

I act how I want and that’s why a lot of people irl don’t like me

 

[bwrauycnee]

I just don’t care about anyone’s opinion

I act how I want and that’s why a lot of people irl don’t like me

Tbh I prefer people like that. It’s easier to be yourself around such people

 

[190cm90kg]

The anxiety comes from leaving the wrong impression. Around people i’ve met a couple of times, doesnt have to be friends just need to have met them i can be much more chill and autistic because then i feel comfortable.

My biggest fear is finding out the place i’m going to Will have some 6’10 godchad who Will make fun of me make it awkvard

chads are nice as fuk for the most part. i never witnessed a proper chad bully or belittling someone

 

[Thinking_Machine]

peak kino

 

[Johnnybegood]

If the girls are going to disrespect me and consider me a friend

Daily reminder that if a girl treats you like a friend she is absolutely disrespecting your entire genetic lineage and your soul!!!

 

[GoldenOrderCels]

I had a girl kiss me at 13 against my will and I said I had to use the bathroom and never talked to her ever again and left

Mogs me

 

[Marco Polo]

Yes

Never began for ValidationCels

 

[Deleted member 5892]

 

[MediterraneanApollo]

I'm a real life heavy breathing Tony soprano
Charismatic only if I want to, taking lead only if I want to but I can also shut up for several hours
I am extremely hot-headed and explosive like the stereotype of a Mediterranean male
people can sense that from miles away so they never act strange and conversations go nice and calm for 99,9% of time
Also always be polite, that's making you more intimidating if you jump to berserk mode within seconds

 

[Deleted]

Daily reminder that if a girl treats you like a friend she is absolutely disrespecting your entire genetic lineage and your soul!!!

You dont seem to understand social dynamics. 98.73% of all Male-Female friendships are girls who want attention they don’t get from their Female friends and boys who hope the girl Will fuck them one day.

 

[Deleted member 17735]

I know that feeling, that will pass as you get older unironically, once you get more experience in life with different jobs.

 

[vinn98]

I can socialize in groups of 2 or 3 but in larger groups I shut down unless it's family, too much stimuli and I can't handle it. So I avoid larger social gatherings.

 

[thereallegend]

The girls i work with arent even hot they’re just average girls but i still get a massive clump in my stomach before work

Take Ashwagandha, GABA, Theanine

 

[thereallegend]

I can socialize in groups of 2 or 3 but in larger groups I shut down unless it's family, too much stimuli and I can't handle it. So I avoid larger social gatherings.

Incel trait

 

[MikeMew'sBitch]

I tought you were rich and dont have to work, why the fuck are you working as a waiter? Thats considered one of the lowliest jobs in my shithole country although the pay is not bad, its extremely stressful and a lot depends on your ability to memorize, social skills and agility (god forbid you drop something).

 

[Deleted member 16853]

breath in and then out, after that boost your ego up. say to yourself "heh, I mog all of these subhumans"

 

[Hero of the Imperium]

Take Ashwagandha, GABA, Theanine

Ashwagandha gives me a deep wellspring of anger

But maybe that’ll be good to overcome shyness and anxiety