How do you guys learn to talk to people?

[curriemaxxer]

My life's been at a standstill for a while now and I've been depressed. Weed makes me rlly pent up and angry so I had to stop, so I can't use that as a social activity. My social skills have gone to shit, and as much as I love talking to people, I just can't hold conversation. Is there any way I can train/any helpful books I can read? I'm trying to catch up to popular shows/movies rn to give me common ground but I just don't have the energy

 

[Esky1911]

How to win friends and influence strangers. That book is water, but it helps you by making concise decisions in conversation

 

[alprazolam11mg]

My life's been at a standstill for a while now and I've been depressed. Weed makes me rlly pent up and angry so I had to stop, so I can't use that as a social activity. My social skills have gone to shit, and as much as I love talking to people, I just can't hold conversation. Is there any way I can train/any helpful books I can read? I'm trying to catch up to popular shows/movies rn to give me common ground but I just don't have the energy

start with videogames/discord, then make a group of friend and then start to go outside or hang up with some old friend you have confidence with

 

[Black_Pill_Enjoyer1]

Just do it

 

[Deleted member 114895]

I got the same problem it’s hard,I just feel soo disconnected from reality in conversations

 

[noodlelover]

My life's been at a standstill for a while now and I've been depressed. Weed makes me rlly pent up and angry so I had to stop, so I can't use that as a social activity. My social skills have gone to shit, and as much as I love talking to people, I just can't hold conversation. Is there any way I can train/any helpful books I can read? I'm trying to catch up to popular shows/movies rn to give me common ground but I just don't have the energy

I solved it through brute force, of putting myself in social situations for years, but I've come up with a more time efficient method.


Many Early Chess Prodigies train by playing them selves.

You could actually train by writing conversations, where you try to put yourself in different people's shoes and imagine what they might say and how they might respond.

Once you get good at writing these conversations, for many realistic scenarios, you could increase the speed gradually giving yourself time limits for X number of words.

Then you could, do the conversations in real time.

Conversations are kind of like chess, where one move leads to the next, which leads to the next. Goals can be getting to emotionally charged stories to evoke emotion, getting to jokes to make the person laugh, making the person feel different emotions, and getting the person to want to hang out with you more by evoking all of those emotions in conversation.

Once you've trained in what is effectively smiulation, you can start training in the real world. By the way, this is how Ai robots learn, not just chess prodigies. This mental imaginary play is also common among many top athletes.

Some kids even develope imaginary friends. My belief is that the purpose of these friends is to do the self play in "simulation" effectively before their skills are good enough to start training in the real world.

This is the most time and resource efficient way to learn skills that require a minimum skill to even keep any one in conversation long enough to get better.

 

[LKSMAXPerson]

Just talk and relate

 

[curriemaxxer]

I solved it through brute force, of putting myself in social situations for years, but I've come up with a more time efficient method.


Many Early Chess Prodigies train by playing them selves.

You could actually train by writing conversations, where you try to put yourself in different people's shoes and imagine what they might say and how they might respond.

Once you get good at writing these conversations, for many realistic scenarios, you could increase the speed gradually giving yourself time limits for X number of words.

Then you could, do the conversations in real time.

Conversations are kind of like chess, where one move leads to the next, which leads to the next. Goals can be getting to emotionally charged stories to evoke emotion, getting to jokes to make the person laugh, making the person feel different emotions, and getting the person to want to hang out with you more by evoking all of those emotions in conversation.

Once you've trained in what is effectively smiulation, you can start training in the real world. By the way, this is how Ai robots learn, not just chess prodigies. This mental imaginary play is also common among many top athletes.

Some kids even develope imaginary friends. My belief is that the purpose of these friends is to do the self play in "simulation" effectively before their skills are good enough to start training in the real world.

This is the most time and resource efficient way to learn skills that require a minimum skill to even keep any one in conversation long enough to get better.

That's a really cool idea, thanks! I'll definitely try this more often

 

[lurks]

find people like urself

 

[deleteduser]

My life's been at a standstill for a while now and I've been depressed. Weed makes me rlly pent up and angry so I had to stop, so I can't use that as a social activity. My social skills have gone to shit, and as much as I love talking to people, I just can't hold conversation. Is there any way I can train/any helpful books I can read? I'm trying to catch up to popular shows/movies rn to give me common ground but I just don't have the energy

talk to people who you don’t care if you sound autistic to, and keep doing that until you can hold an actual NT conversation

 

[我需要阴部]

My life's been at a standstill for a while now and I've been depressed. Weed makes me rlly pent up and angry so I had to stop, so I can't use that as a social activity. My social skills have gone to shit, and as much as I love talking to people, I just can't hold conversation. Is there any way I can train/any helpful books I can read? I'm trying to catch up to popular shows/movies rn to give me common ground but I just don't have the energy

Starting work in customer service like a restaurant helped me a lot.

Tho honestly it's made me resent 99% of people however I feel more confident when talking and stuff now so...