How do you look for a father figure/role model in your life?

[kababcel]

I grew up with not the ideal father honestly and that kinda messed me up thru my childhood, became too high inhib, I just wanna turn my life around and actually admire someone or lookup to someone
Doesn't necessarily have to be irl

Any tips?

 

[Jenson]

hotcheetoboy is going to ss ts

don’t need to tag ill let it happen

 

[kababcel]

hotcheetoboy is going to ss ts

don’t need to tag ill let it happen

Yeah i really dont care, as if every man on here is somehow a messiah and doesnt have his own share of problems
I use org to vent and type what I feel and seek advice sometimes nothing wrong with that no?

 

[pleasevanity]

I grew up with not the ideal father honestly and that kinda messed me up thru my childhood, became too high inhib, I just wanna turn my life around and actually admire someone or lookup to someone
Doesn't necessarily have to be irl

Any tips?

start watching red pill content

 

[rockyz]

why do you need a role model just act like how high status people act / talk

 

[kababcel]

start watching red pill content

Most of them try too hard sometimes, it doesn't feel genuine
Only guys I probably look up to are Goggins and Cameron Hanes but they are elite athletes (its hard to reach to their level)

 

[Swarthy Knight]

You don't need one. Fathers are only important for providing financially. Nothing more

 

[Jenson]

Yeah i really dont care, as if every man on here is somehow a messiah and doesnt have his own share of problems
I use org to vent and type what I feel and seek advice sometimes nothing wrong with that no?

i’m going to be kind to you this one time

move on with your life accepting you don’t need that father figure, that’s just daddy issues that you gained don’t act out on it just let it go and be your own person

hardships are a natural part of life and can be a good thing for personal growth (yes im quoting nietzsche)

 

[kababcel]

i’m going to be kind to you this one time

Thanks brah, also wdym this one timeI never had anything against you to begin with wtf

 

[Jenson]

Thanks brah, also wdym this one timeI never had anything against you to begin with wtf

i wanted to sound tuff

 

[Tenres]

Yeah I second you don't really need one. If you need to imitate people then imitate people on what they are good at, not the person themselves. I think to expect that there will be any one person who can understand you perfectly, or that they can fill whatever hole inside you, is setting yourself up for existential dread when you realize that person simply does not exist. In regards to self esteem, if we start with the simple understanding that you value yourself more than anything else and that no one values you as much as you value yourself, then your greatest value should be in rationally maximizing your life. From there you get a lot of second order goals, you need to be strong, healthy, intelligent, you need to be completely honest with yourself. Anyways, I'll discuss further if you want.

 

[Aurelius74]

I grew up with not the ideal father honestly and that kinda messed me up thru my childhood, became too high inhib, I just wanna turn my life around and actually admire someone or lookup to someone
Doesn't necessarily have to be irl

Any tips?

It's very difficult once you're aware of BP.
I always admired Zlatan Ibrahimovich as my father figure because of his narcissist confidence, agressiveness to never get pressed & obviously the agressive confident masculine aura my lad carries. I always wanted to be like him but than I got to know about BP and I felt that his agressiveness & confidence is result of his naturally high testosterone & tall height which received from his parents and both of these are the things I never had.

But you know merely idolising him, i became so much confident. I even thrashed my bullies 1v4 and later on , I never got bullied. Imagine just blindly beleiving in myself gained me so much confidence & power to deal with my bullies.

But later I got indoctrinated with nihilism of Blackpill and I started finding excuse in everything and I also found excuse why I can't be confident, agressive & masculine like Zlatan (obviously cope).

Moral of the story, you just need to believe in yourself and not let BP consume you. This nihilism is constantly sucking your confidence and turning you into a pathetic loser. Don't give into it.

And always choose the right ideals. Like i choosed Zlatan.