How does a girl fall in love?

[st.hamudi but 6‘5]

Looks level?

was rated chadlite

 

[Deleted member 21345]

exactly, @Aloha too

Well I don't know how different it is for straight guys vs gay guys but I'll share my experience

There's alot of guys I find at least moderately attractive but I've only ever been in love with guys who represented some virtue I felt I was missing. That's when I get obsessively in love

My ex was a crazy ass low inhibition nut job who lived like tommorow would never come when I was a high inhibition depressed anxious cuck afraid of his own shadow. In hindsight he was MTN but j thought he was chad. I eventually left him after realizing I didn't need him

The guy I'm with now I met when I felt lost and uncertain in my life without much purpose, and he's someone who's very strong in conviction about his purpose and I looked up to him alot
I almost left him recently but we decided to stay together. He was rated HTN to chadlite here

So looks are a box to be ticked , and then after that personality genuinely does foster love. But its contextual and I can fall out of love after my mental states changes. Just seeing an attractive guy is Dime a dozen

Really not sure how it is for women but that's me

 

[PseudoMaxxer]

Well I don't know how different it is for straight guys vs gay guys but I'll share my experience

There's alot of guys I find at least moderately attractive but I've only ever been in love with guys who represented some virtue I felt I was missing. That's when I get obsessively in love

My ex was a crazy ass low inhibition nut job who lived like tommorow would never come when I was a high inhibition depressed anxious cuck afraid of his own shadow. In hindsight he was MTN but j thought he was chad. I eventually left him after realizing I didn't need him

The guy I'm with now I met when I felt lost and uncertain in my life without much purpose, and he's someone who's very strong in conviction about his purpose and I looked up to him alot
I almost left him recently but we decided to stay together. He was rated HTN to chadlite here

So looks are a box to be ticked , and then after that personality genuinely does foster love. But its contextual and I can fall out of love after my mental states changes. Just seeing an attractive guy is Dime a dozen

Really not sure how it is for women but that's me

i definitely can see a woman feeling this type of way.

What you said in the start is pure gold. Girls want guys that add to them a part they are missing. I agree with it a lot.

Unfortunately that can’t be faked as much since every girl is different.

The scariest thing as i guy is your girl falling out of love with you while you still live her.

That would destroy me if it ever would happen to me.

 

[Deleted member 21345]

i definitely can see a woman feeling this type of way.

What you said in the start is pure gold. Girls want guys that add to them a part they are missing. I agree with it a lot.

Unfortunately that can’t be faked as much since every girl is different.

The scariest thing as i guy is your girl falling out of love with you while you still live her.

That would destroy me if it ever would happen to me.

Even though just be yourself is normie shitvice. Theres a modicum of truth once you look good enough

The reason why dark triad has so much appeal is it represents what so many of us, men and women are missing. Sadism, strength, cruelty, vitality. It's an inalienable part of us buried deep in the recesses of our lizard brains and most of us suppress it. Abused dogs especially suppress it. And that's why the trope of "good girls fall for bad guys" exists. So a dark triad just has to be himself and there's never a shortage of abused dogs/"innocent" people wanting to break bad

No one's missing "niceness" in their life. Everyone's sick of being nice. While dark triad has the widest appeal, you can't just thugmax and punkmax, this max and that max to appeal to everyone because you'll reek of fakeness and appeal to no one. But if you find something authentic about yourself and looksmax enough, there's probably someone who needs what you have and when you find them, sparks fly.

That's the extent to which "be yourself" has merit

When the guy I'm with now found out I was thinking of ending things, he was afraid of losing me to, and I said alot of things to drive that knife deeper at the time. But we realized we do still love each other and want to share our loves. That's the closest to "true love" that exists. The sparks always fly but in some cases, it's still worth staying together if you really enjoy each other's company

 

[PseudoMaxxer]

Even though just be yourself is normie shitvice. Theres a modicum of truth once you look good enough

The reason why dark triad has so much appeal is it represents what so many of us, men and women are missing. Sadism, strength, cruelty, vitality. It's an inalienable part of us buried deep in the recesses of our lizard brains and most of us suppress it. Abused dogs especially suppress it. And that's why the trope of "good girls fall for bad guys" exists. So a dark triad just has to be himself and there's never a shortage of abused dogs/"innocent" people wanting to break bad

So true, even trying to be dark triad defeats the meaning behind it.

No one's missing "niceness" in their life. Everyone's sick of being nice. While dark triad has the widest appeal, you can't just thugmax and punkmax, this max and that max to appeal to everyone because you'll reek of fakeness and appeal to no one. But if you find something authentic about yourself and looksmax enough, there's probably someone who needs what you have and when you find them, sparks fly.

You know, i still don’t know my self really.

I’m the type of guy who has always been dark triad (flirting with girls, saying the most out of pocket stuff, narci, aggressive, wild) and girls love to flirt with me.

But sometimes i just feel like telling a girl that i truly love her, to get home safe, to call me when she’s home, to cuddle when she’s tired…

I’m not a bad guy, i know deep down i’m a really soft and good dude. I just feel like the world has turned me into something i’m really not.

But as i said, i still don’t know my self. And other than looksmaxxing i believe that’s one of the most important things in life.

I wanna learn who i really am, but that’s hard and i don’t know where to start. I tried journaling, meditating, etc…
but i feel like they didn’t help with much.

I thought i hated my mom, i now just got into my bus and im going away for 3 months and i didn’t say goodbye to her.
I already miss her, i wanna hug her right now and tell her that i love her.

I’m still a kid after all, im 19 and im still figuring out things.

I guess it just takes time.

That's the extent to which "be yourself" has merit

When the guy I'm with now found out I was thinking of ending things, he was afraid of losing me to, and I said alot of things to drive that knife deeper at the time. But we realized we do still love each other and want to share our loves. That's the closest to "true love" that exists. The sparks always fly but in some cases, it's still worth staying together if you really enjoy each other's company

Wow.

Man, i knew you was smart but you are just something else.

I’m bookmarking this shit btw.

 

[Deleted member 21345]

So true, even trying to be dark triad defeats the meaning behind it.

You know, i still don’t know my self really.

I’m the type of guy who has always been dark triad (flirting with girls, saying the most out of pocket stuff, narci, aggressive, wild) and girls love to flirt with me.

But sometimes i just feel like telling a girl that i truly love her, to get home safe, to call me when she’s home, to cuddle when she’s tired…

I’m not a bad guy, i know deep down i’m a really soft and good dude. I just feel like the world has turned me into something i’m really not.

But as i said, i still don’t know my self. And other than looksmaxxing i believe that’s one of the most important things in life.

I wanna learn who i really am, but that’s hard and i don’t know where to start. I tried journaling, meditating, etc…
but i feel like they didn’t help with much.

I thought i hated my mom, i now just got into my bus and im going away for 3 months and i didn’t say goodbye to her.
I already miss her, i wanna hug her right now and tell her that i love her.

I’m still a kid after all, im 19 and im still figuring out things.

I guess it just takes time.

Wow.

Man, i knew you was smart but you are just something else.

I’m bookmarking this shit btw.

Knowledge of self and self actualization, that feeling of not knowing is what drove that existential dread I talked about. You can only really try to know more than you did yesterday

That idea you're describing of the dark triad with a heart of gold is actually part of the dark triad fantasy. It's there in every dark romance story lol.

I recently read a popular one, killswitch by Penelope Douglas. about a girl who gets her dark triad chad sent to prison, after he's released he sets out to get back at her by using his looks and connections to control/ruin her life by fucking her sister among other things. He does some damage but of course in the end they end up together, and he realizes he does actually care, and was more hurt than he was vengeful

It's a fictionalized fantasy archetype but its popular for a reasln . You probably had good reason to resent your mother but that doesn't mean you don't love her. Probably took the distance to realize that. Put yourself in different circumstances and you'll start to realize more, and self discovery is its own reward like I said in that other thread.