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This all started on July 3rd when my homie decided to invite me over to his girls house to hangout w them for 4th of July, even tho it was the third there was a firework show goin on nearby so I just decided to tag along, now I had a little bit of a crush on my friends girlfriend prior to this but would I have ever stepped in between their relationship while it was going on? absolutely not.

we go to the firework show blah blah n that happens, I try to fake being NT the whole night but around the end of it I’m extremely fuckin plastered and can’t control my emotions, I start crying but my face is hidden so it just looks like I’m passed out drunk for the most part, the reason for this is I felt like if I could have something like he had then maybe life wouldn’t be as fucking shitty as it was, and that was the thought consistently in my head, everyone was too drunk to notice what was going on so I locked the fuck in and continued my nt larp n everyone was too drunk to realize anything so they bought it.

This woman he was with is low-mhtb and my friend is mid mtn for the most part, she’s extremely sweet and caring which is what I’ve longed for for a while now, for the longest time prior to this she made it seem a bit like she was practically coming onto me while she was in a relationship with my friend so of course I didn’t act on anything, or read into it as much until i developed my micro crush for a bit, and that’s where I got to the point of thinking about it more often, at any hangout between the 3 of us it was always me that she’d interact with more than her own boyfriend and she was awfully playful with me n chatty, in ways where if I had a girlfriend and she was doing that with another man I’d look at it suspiciously, maybe my friend did at the time too but just didn’t let me know it.

Back to the 3rd of July, me and him are hanging out both plastered drunk in said girlfriends room with a couple of her friends over and they’re nowhere to be seen, at some point she pops back into the room and asks her then boyfriend for his phone to play music (lie) my homie was too drunk to do anything about it so he handed his phone over willingly and thought nothing of it, neither did I, until I’m out scavenging for something to eat in her kitchen later on where the girlfriend of my friend walks over to me and starts a conversation, we get on the topic of him and what he’s like, and then she hits me with the question “is he cheating on me” and at this point I don’t really know what to say so I kinda dodge the question (I knew he was the whole time, but wasn’t gonna say anything) I play it off as very unknowing and oblivious until she reveals she went through his phone, and saw MULTIPLE pictures/videos spanning over a year and a half (they were in a relationship for 2 years) of girls, AND boys that he’s cheated on her with.

Fast forward to the next morning, we have a long talk and she sums it up that she’s gonna confront him about it that night, she does, and when she does around 30 minutes later after their talk he says we’re leaving and I go with him, end of the beginning.


Fast forward after a couple weeks, me and her start talking and I reveal a little bit about what I know, and she drops so much embarrassing shit about him that I never could’ve even guessed was true, and it was absurd.

Since this thread is long as fuck I’ll sum up a bit more, we talk over the span of a few weeks, which turns into months and we start developing a bit of a liking to eachother, (more than friends) which is all behind my homies back btw, which is fucked up of me for not consulting him before I did anything, in which I began pursuing her

a lot of beating around the bush with him, asking him if he still cared abt her without getting to the point, with every response I got from him he seemed more and more cold, and disregarding of her so I took it as a green light before I ACTUALLY went in and did anything.

Fast forward to August, shit slips, he finds out in the worst way, and our friendship is on the line currently, and I’m given the ultimatum of either her or him.

In my POV he made the decision on whether he cared about her or not when he cheated on her multiple times for a year out of their 2yr relationship, so there would be no reason for him to be upset, the only thing I can see him being reasonably mad at me for is the fact that I did not consult him about it before I did anything drastic.

all the friends I had found out, cut me off, and he is the only one I still talk to (the girls ex) and who is willing to rekindle things regarding our friendship, and the way I see it is I lose both ways, the ltr could possibly sink in a few months and I have no friends, or I leave her and my friend ends up dropping me due to trust issues, and I lose both of them, I lose either way.

Just looking for some thoughts, if anyone cares enough to ask any questions I’ll answer accordingly

DNR: best friend cheats on girl, after a few months I swoop in, friend gets mad, tells other friends, all of them drop me, friend wants to rekindle things on the term it’s her or him, unsure of what to do now.
 
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Yo Ricky, long time no see. Let me read every word, one sec :feelswhere:
 
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Yo Ricky, long time no see. Let me read every word, one sec :feelswhere:
make sure to read between the lines too bro, easy 30 second read :lul::lul::lul:
 
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story time

This all started on July 3rd when my homie decided to invite me over to his girls house to hangout w them for 4th of July, even tho it was the third there was a firework show goin on nearby so I just decided to tag along, now I had a little bit of a crush on my friends girlfriend prior to this but would I have ever stepped in between their relationship while it was going on? absolutely not.

we go to the firework show blah blah n that happens, I try to fake being NT the whole night but around the end of it I’m extremely fuckin plastered and can’t control my emotions, I start crying but my face is hidden so it just looks like I’m passed out drunk for the most part, the reason for this is I felt like if I could have something like he had then maybe life wouldn’t be as fucking shitty as it was, and that was the thought consistently in my head, everyone was too drunk to notice what was going on so I locked the fuck in and continued my nt larp n everyone was too drunk to realize anything so they bought it.

This woman he was with is low-mhtb and my friend is mid mtn for the most part, she’s extremely sweet and caring which is what I’ve longed for for a while now, for the longest time prior to this she made it seem a bit like she was practically coming onto me while she was in a relationship with my friend so of course I didn’t act on anything, or read into it as much until i developed my micro crush for a bit, and that’s where I got to the point of thinking about it more often, at any hangout between the 3 of us it was always me that she’d interact with more than her own boyfriend and she was awfully playful with me n chatty, in ways where if I had a girlfriend and she was doing that with another man I’d look at it suspiciously, maybe my friend did at the time too but just didn’t let me know it.

Back to the 3rd of July, me and him are hanging out both plastered drunk in said girlfriends room with a couple of her friends over and they’re nowhere to be seen, at some point she pops back into the room and asks her then boyfriend for his phone to play music (lie) my homie was too drunk to do anything about it so he handed his phone over willingly and thought nothing of it, neither did I, until I’m out scavenging for something to eat in her kitchen later on where the girlfriend of my friend walks over to me and starts a conversation, we get on the topic of him and what he’s like, and then she hits me with the question “is he cheating on me” and at this point I don’t really know what to say so I kinda dodge the question (I knew he was the whole time, but wasn’t gonna say anything) I play it off as very unknowing and oblivious until she reveals she went through his phone, and saw MULTIPLE pictures/videos spanning over a year and a half (they were in a relationship for 2 years) of girls, AND boys that he’s cheated on her with.

Fast forward to the next morning, we have a long talk and she sums it up that she’s gonna confront him about it that night, she does, and when she does around 30 minutes later after their talk he says we’re leaving and I go with him, end of the beginning.


Fast forward after a couple weeks, me and her start talking and I reveal a little bit about what I know, and she drops so much embarrassing shit about him that I never could’ve even guessed was true, and it was absurd.

Since this thread is long as fuck I’ll sum up a bit more, we talk over the span of a few weeks, which turns into months and we start developing a bit of a liking to eachother, (more than friends) which is all behind my homies back btw, which is fucked up of me for not consulting him before I did anything, in which I began pursuing her

a lot of beating around the bush with him, asking him if he still cared abt her without getting to the point, with every response I got from him he seemed more and more cold, and disregarding of her so I took it as a green light before I ACTUALLY went in and did anything.

Fast forward to August, shit slips, he finds out in the worst way, and our friendship is on the line currently, and I’m given the ultimatum of either her or him.

In my POV he made the decision on whether he cared about her or not when he cheated on her multiple times for a year out of their 2yr relationship, so there would be no reason for him to be upset, the only thing I can see him being reasonably mad at me for is the fact that I did not consult him about it before I did anything drastic.

all the friends I had found out, cut me off, and he is the only one I still talk to (the girls ex) and who is willing to rekindle things regarding our friendship, and the way I see it is I lose both ways, the ltr could possibly sink in a few months and I have no friends, or I leave her and my friend ends up dropping me due to trust issues, and I lose both of them, I lose either way.

Just looking for some thoughts, if anyone cares enough to ask any questions I’ll answer accordingly

DNR: best friend cheats on girl, after a few months I swoop in, friend gets mad, tells other friends, all of them drop me, friend wants to rekindle things on the term it’s her or him, unsure of what to do now.
dnr but prob a good thread
 
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story time

This all started on July 3rd when my homie decided to invite me over to his girls house to hangout w them for 4th of July, even tho it was the third there was a firework show goin on nearby so I just decided to tag along, now I had a little bit of a crush on my friends girlfriend prior to this but would I have ever stepped in between their relationship while it was going on? absolutely not.

we go to the firework show blah blah n that happens, I try to fake being NT the whole night but around the end of it I’m extremely fuckin plastered and can’t control my emotions, I start crying but my face is hidden so it just looks like I’m passed out drunk for the most part, the reason for this is I felt like if I could have something like he had then maybe life wouldn’t be as fucking shitty as it was, and that was the thought consistently in my head, everyone was too drunk to notice what was going on so I locked the fuck in and continued my nt larp n everyone was too drunk to realize anything so they bought it.

This woman he was with is low-mhtb and my friend is mid mtn for the most part, she’s extremely sweet and caring which is what I’ve longed for for a while now, for the longest time prior to this she made it seem a bit like she was practically coming onto me while she was in a relationship with my friend so of course I didn’t act on anything, or read into it as much until i developed my micro crush for a bit, and that’s where I got to the point of thinking about it more often, at any hangout between the 3 of us it was always me that she’d interact with more than her own boyfriend and she was awfully playful with me n chatty, in ways where if I had a girlfriend and she was doing that with another man I’d look at it suspiciously, maybe my friend did at the time too but just didn’t let me know it.

Back to the 3rd of July, me and him are hanging out both plastered drunk in said girlfriends room with a couple of her friends over and they’re nowhere to be seen, at some point she pops back into the room and asks her then boyfriend for his phone to play music (lie) my homie was too drunk to do anything about it so he handed his phone over willingly and thought nothing of it, neither did I, until I’m out scavenging for something to eat in her kitchen later on where the girlfriend of my friend walks over to me and starts a conversation, we get on the topic of him and what he’s like, and then she hits me with the question “is he cheating on me” and at this point I don’t really know what to say so I kinda dodge the question (I knew he was the whole time, but wasn’t gonna say anything) I play it off as very unknowing and oblivious until she reveals she went through his phone, and saw MULTIPLE pictures/videos spanning over a year and a half (they were in a relationship for 2 years) of girls, AND boys that he’s cheated on her with.

Fast forward to the next morning, we have a long talk and she sums it up that she’s gonna confront him about it that night, she does, and when she does around 30 minutes later after their talk he says we’re leaving and I go with him, end of the beginning.


Fast forward after a couple weeks, me and her start talking and I reveal a little bit about what I know, and she drops so much embarrassing shit about him that I never could’ve even guessed was true, and it was absurd.

Since this thread is long as fuck I’ll sum up a bit more, we talk over the span of a few weeks, which turns into months and we start developing a bit of a liking to eachother, (more than friends) which is all behind my homies back btw, which is fucked up of me for not consulting him before I did anything, in which I began pursuing her

a lot of beating around the bush with him, asking him if he still cared abt her without getting to the point, with every response I got from him he seemed more and more cold, and disregarding of her so I took it as a green light before I ACTUALLY went in and did anything.

Fast forward to August, shit slips, he finds out in the worst way, and our friendship is on the line currently, and I’m given the ultimatum of either her or him.

In my POV he made the decision on whether he cared about her or not when he cheated on her multiple times for a year out of their 2yr relationship, so there would be no reason for him to be upset, the only thing I can see him being reasonably mad at me for is the fact that I did not consult him about it before I did anything drastic.

all the friends I had found out, cut me off, and he is the only one I still talk to (the girls ex) and who is willing to rekindle things regarding our friendship, and the way I see it is I lose both ways, the ltr could possibly sink in a few months and I have no friends, or I leave her and my friend ends up dropping me due to trust issues, and I lose both of them, I lose either way.

Just looking for some thoughts, if anyone cares enough to ask any questions I’ll answer accordingly

DNR: best friend cheats on girl, after a few months I swoop in, friend gets mad, tells other friends, all of them drop me, friend wants to rekindle things on the term it’s her or him, unsure of what to do now.
Choose ur friend not the girl cause both will leave you but the girl will do it much more painfully
 
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story time

This all started on July 3rd when my homie decided to invite me over to his girls house to hangout w them for 4th of July, even tho it was the third there was a firework show goin on nearby so I just decided to tag along, now I had a little bit of a crush on my friends girlfriend prior to this but would I have ever stepped in between their relationship while it was going on? absolutely not.

we go to the firework show blah blah n that happens, I try to fake being NT the whole night but around the end of it I’m extremely fuckin plastered and can’t control my emotions, I start crying but my face is hidden so it just looks like I’m passed out drunk for the most part, the reason for this is I felt like if I could have something like he had then maybe life wouldn’t be as fucking shitty as it was, and that was the thought consistently in my head, everyone was too drunk to notice what was going on so I locked the fuck in and continued my nt larp n everyone was too drunk to realize anything so they bought it.

This woman he was with is low-mhtb and my friend is mid mtn for the most part, she’s extremely sweet and caring which is what I’ve longed for for a while now, for the longest time prior to this she made it seem a bit like she was practically coming onto me while she was in a relationship with my friend so of course I didn’t act on anything, or read into it as much until i developed my micro crush for a bit, and that’s where I got to the point of thinking about it more often, at any hangout between the 3 of us it was always me that she’d interact with more than her own boyfriend and she was awfully playful with me n chatty, in ways where if I had a girlfriend and she was doing that with another man I’d look at it suspiciously, maybe my friend did at the time too but just didn’t let me know it.

Back to the 3rd of July, me and him are hanging out both plastered drunk in said girlfriends room with a couple of her friends over and they’re nowhere to be seen, at some point she pops back into the room and asks her then boyfriend for his phone to play music (lie) my homie was too drunk to do anything about it so he handed his phone over willingly and thought nothing of it, neither did I, until I’m out scavenging for something to eat in her kitchen later on where the girlfriend of my friend walks over to me and starts a conversation, we get on the topic of him and what he’s like, and then she hits me with the question “is he cheating on me” and at this point I don’t really know what to say so I kinda dodge the question (I knew he was the whole time, but wasn’t gonna say anything) I play it off as very unknowing and oblivious until she reveals she went through his phone, and saw MULTIPLE pictures/videos spanning over a year and a half (they were in a relationship for 2 years) of girls, AND boys that he’s cheated on her with.

Fast forward to the next morning, we have a long talk and she sums it up that she’s gonna confront him about it that night, she does, and when she does around 30 minutes later after their talk he says we’re leaving and I go with him, end of the beginning.


Fast forward after a couple weeks, me and her start talking and I reveal a little bit about what I know, and she drops so much embarrassing shit about him that I never could’ve even guessed was true, and it was absurd.

Since this thread is long as fuck I’ll sum up a bit more, we talk over the span of a few weeks, which turns into months and we start developing a bit of a liking to eachother, (more than friends) which is all behind my homies back btw, which is fucked up of me for not consulting him before I did anything, in which I began pursuing her

a lot of beating around the bush with him, asking him if he still cared abt her without getting to the point, with every response I got from him he seemed more and more cold, and disregarding of her so I took it as a green light before I ACTUALLY went in and did anything.

Fast forward to August, shit slips, he finds out in the worst way, and our friendship is on the line currently, and I’m given the ultimatum of either her or him.

In my POV he made the decision on whether he cared about her or not when he cheated on her multiple times for a year out of their 2yr relationship, so there would be no reason for him to be upset, the only thing I can see him being reasonably mad at me for is the fact that I did not consult him about it before I did anything drastic.

all the friends I had found out, cut me off, and he is the only one I still talk to (the girls ex) and who is willing to rekindle things regarding our friendship, and the way I see it is I lose both ways, the ltr could possibly sink in a few months and I have no friends, or I leave her and my friend ends up dropping me due to trust issues, and I lose both of them, I lose either way.

Just looking for some thoughts, if anyone cares enough to ask any questions I’ll answer accordingly

DNR: best friend cheats on girl, after a few months I swoop in, friend gets mad, tells other friends, all of them drop me, friend wants to rekindle things on the term it’s her or him, unsure of what to do now.
Get everyone together and manipulate them into understanding

Shouldn't even require manipulation,

You get everyone in the same room they will be more amicable
 
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Choose ur friend not the girl cause both will leave you but the girl will do it much more painfully
that’s what I’m leaning towards, just a pain to go about
 
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Choose ur friend not the girl cause both will leave you but the girl will do it much more painfully
True homies are forever

Hoes are temporary, after all she was flirting with you while she had a boyfriend

But if I were you I'd try to resolve it with a hail mary:
Get everyone together and manipulate them into understanding

Shouldn't even require manipulation,

You get everyone in the same room they will be more amicable
 
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Get everyone together and manipulate them into understanding

Shouldn't even require manipulation,

You get everyone in the same room they will be more amicable
sounds good on paper but it doesn’t realistically sound like it could work out well, who knows though
 
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sounds good on paper but it doesn’t realistically sound like it could work out well, who knows though
You can do it mane

Think about it, you could have it all

You'd end the night a champion, enflamed with pride over your intellectual victory

It's possible, you need to think it through

All or nothing, it can work. Plan the debate, plan your talking points

You can do it, I'd be proud of you :Comfy:
 
make sure to read between the lines too bro, easy 30 second read :lul::lul::lul:
Your friend sabotaged your social circle. I don't consider him to be worthy of your kindness. So don't get back with him. This depends on how good that social circle was, of course. If it sucked, then get with the girl and tell your friend to fuck off.

If you need the friends, then forget the girl, but it sounds like your friends are not really your friends, but his friends, instead (because they all dropped you without asking for your side of the story). To me, it sounds like you should get with the girl and find other surface-level friends (should be easy).
 
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You can do it mane

Think about it, you could have it all

You'd end the night a champion, enflamed with pride over your intellectual victory

It's possible, you need to think it through

All or nothing, it can work. Plan the debate, plan your talking points

You can do it, I'd be proud of you :Comfy:
Thank u brother, you’re so right, definitely need to plan ahead more for this 🙏
 
True homies are forever

Hoes are temporary, after all she was flirting with you while she had a boyfriend

But if I were you I'd try to resolve it with a hail mary:
You can do it mane

Think about it, you could have it all

You'd end the night a champion, enflamed with pride over your intellectual victory

It's possible, you need to think it through

All or nothing, it can work. Plan the debate, plan your talking points

You can do it, I'd be proud of you :Comfy:
You didn't read shit nigga :ROFLMAO:
 
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Your friend sabotaged your social circle. I don't consider him to be worthy of your kindness. So don't get back with him. This depends on how good that social circle was, of course. If it sucked, then get with the girl and tell your friend to fuck off.

If you need the friends, then forget the girl, but it sounds like your friends are not really your friends, but his friends, instead (because they all dropped you without asking for your side of the story). To me, it sounds like you should get with the girl and find other surface-level friends (should be easy).
THIS!!! THEY SUCKED, there was ONE loyalist out of the group who continues to stick by me through and through, could maybe form other surface level friends through them, the friends I had were fun to party with, not true friends due to the fact they dropped me no question as you said, if it were anyone else in this situation they would’ve done the same to, high iq comment
 
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THIS!!! THEY SUCKED, there was ONE loyalist out of the group who continues to stick by me through and through, could maybe form other surface level friends through them, the friends I had were fun to party with, not true friends due to the fact they dropped me no question as you said, if it were anyone else in this situation they would’ve done the same to, high iq comment
What I'm saying, what you did wasn't really immoral

All you're guilty of is taking your homeboys sloppy seconds

The only issue of contention is that you and this foid exchanged dirt and gossiped, unless your friends are aware of the extent you can get away with it

Pull the incel card too
 
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Your hb cheated on her with dudes??
 
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What I'm saying, what you did wasn't really immoral

All you're guilty of is taking your homeboys sloppy seconds

The only issue of contention is that you and this foid exchanged dirt and gossiped, unless your friends are aware of the extent you can get away with it

Pull the incel card too
“Friends” are not aware of this, and incel card has been pulled, the friend I did this to understands this in which he says he “forgives me, and understands my situation” in which I took with a grain of salt, he DOES understand because I know his history, but if he truly forgives me or not is another thing to be fully determined
 
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Wait I didn't peep that part :lul:

Bro I'm telling you getting it done irl face to face is significantly more favorable

Hail Mary and dm me the results :ogre:
 
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story time

This all started on July 3rd when my homie decided to invite me over to his girls house to hangout w them for 4th of July, even tho it was the third there was a firework show goin on nearby so I just decided to tag along, now I had a little bit of a crush on my friends girlfriend prior to this but would I have ever stepped in between their relationship while it was going on? absolutely not.

we go to the firework show blah blah n that happens, I try to fake being NT the whole night but around the end of it I’m extremely fuckin plastered and can’t control my emotions, I start crying but my face is hidden so it just looks like I’m passed out drunk for the most part, the reason for this is I felt like if I could have something like he had then maybe life wouldn’t be as fucking shitty as it was, and that was the thought consistently in my head, everyone was too drunk to notice what was going on so I locked the fuck in and continued my nt larp n everyone was too drunk to realize anything so they bought it.

This woman he was with is low-mhtb and my friend is mid mtn for the most part, she’s extremely sweet and caring which is what I’ve longed for for a while now, for the longest time prior to this she made it seem a bit like she was practically coming onto me while she was in a relationship with my friend so of course I didn’t act on anything, or read into it as much until i developed my micro crush for a bit, and that’s where I got to the point of thinking about it more often, at any hangout between the 3 of us it was always me that she’d interact with more than her own boyfriend and she was awfully playful with me n chatty, in ways where if I had a girlfriend and she was doing that with another man I’d look at it suspiciously, maybe my friend did at the time too but just didn’t let me know it.

Back to the 3rd of July, me and him are hanging out both plastered drunk in said girlfriends room with a couple of her friends over and they’re nowhere to be seen, at some point she pops back into the room and asks her then boyfriend for his phone to play music (lie) my homie was too drunk to do anything about it so he handed his phone over willingly and thought nothing of it, neither did I, until I’m out scavenging for something to eat in her kitchen later on where the girlfriend of my friend walks over to me and starts a conversation, we get on the topic of him and what he’s like, and then she hits me with the question “is he cheating on me” and at this point I don’t really know what to say so I kinda dodge the question (I knew he was the whole time, but wasn’t gonna say anything) I play it off as very unknowing and oblivious until she reveals she went through his phone, and saw MULTIPLE pictures/videos spanning over a year and a half (they were in a relationship for 2 years) of girls, AND boys that he’s cheated on her with.

Fast forward to the next morning, we have a long talk and she sums it up that she’s gonna confront him about it that night, she does, and when she does around 30 minutes later after their talk he says we’re leaving and I go with him, end of the beginning.


Fast forward after a couple weeks, me and her start talking and I reveal a little bit about what I know, and she drops so much embarrassing shit about him that I never could’ve even guessed was true, and it was absurd.

Since this thread is long as fuck I’ll sum up a bit more, we talk over the span of a few weeks, which turns into months and we start developing a bit of a liking to eachother, (more than friends) which is all behind my homies back btw, which is fucked up of me for not consulting him before I did anything, in which I began pursuing her

a lot of beating around the bush with him, asking him if he still cared abt her without getting to the point, with every response I got from him he seemed more and more cold, and disregarding of her so I took it as a green light before I ACTUALLY went in and did anything.

Fast forward to August, shit slips, he finds out in the worst way, and our friendship is on the line currently, and I’m given the ultimatum of either her or him.

In my POV he made the decision on whether he cared about her or not when he cheated on her multiple times for a year out of their 2yr relationship, so there would be no reason for him to be upset, the only thing I can see him being reasonably mad at me for is the fact that I did not consult him about it before I did anything drastic.

all the friends I had found out, cut me off, and he is the only one I still talk to (the girls ex) and who is willing to rekindle things regarding our friendship, and the way I see it is I lose both ways, the ltr could possibly sink in a few months and I have no friends, or I leave her and my friend ends up dropping me due to trust issues, and I lose both of them, I lose either way.

Just looking for some thoughts, if anyone cares enough to ask any questions I’ll answer accordingly

DNR: best friend cheats on girl, after a few months I swoop in, friend gets mad, tells other friends, all of them drop me, friend wants to rekindle things on the term it’s her or him, unsure of what to do now.
if he's saying its you or me he's a faggot bastard like any normal human male would just never speak you again idk go slay his bird and make some new friends I would say I know its easier said than done but
 
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This all started on July 3rd when my homie decided to invite me over to his girls house to hangout w them for 4th of July, even tho it was the third there was a firework show goin on nearby so I just decided to tag along, now I had a little bit of a crush on my friends girlfriend prior to this but would I have ever stepped in between their relationship while it was going on? absolutely not.

we go to the firework show blah blah n that happens, I try to fake being NT the whole night but around the end of it I’m extremely fuckin plastered and can’t control my emotions, I start crying but my face is hidden so it just looks like I’m passed out drunk for the most part, the reason for this is I felt like if I could have something like he had then maybe life wouldn’t be as fucking shitty as it was, and that was the thought consistently in my head, everyone was too drunk to notice what was going on so I locked the fuck in and continued my nt larp n everyone was too drunk to realize anything so they bought it.

This woman he was with is low-mhtb and my friend is mid mtn for the most part, she’s extremely sweet and caring which is what I’ve longed for for a while now, for the longest time prior to this she made it seem a bit like she was practically coming onto me while she was in a relationship with my friend so of course I didn’t act on anything, or read into it as much until i developed my micro crush for a bit, and that’s where I got to the point of thinking about it more often, at any hangout between the 3 of us it was always me that she’d interact with more than her own boyfriend and she was awfully playful with me n chatty, in ways where if I had a girlfriend and she was doing that with another man I’d look at it suspiciously, maybe my friend did at the time too but just didn’t let me know it.

Back to the 3rd of July, me and him are hanging out both plastered drunk in said girlfriends room with a couple of her friends over and they’re nowhere to be seen, at some point she pops back into the room and asks her then boyfriend for his phone to play music (lie) my homie was too drunk to do anything about it so he handed his phone over willingly and thought nothing of it, neither did I, until I’m out scavenging for something to eat in her kitchen later on where the girlfriend of my friend walks over to me and starts a conversation, we get on the topic of him and what he’s like, and then she hits me with the question “is he cheating on me” and at this point I don’t really know what to say so I kinda dodge the question (I knew he was the whole time, but wasn’t gonna say anything) I play it off as very unknowing and oblivious until she reveals she went through his phone, and saw MULTIPLE pictures/videos spanning over a year and a half (they were in a relationship for 2 years) of girls, AND boys that he’s cheated on her with.

Fast forward to the next morning, we have a long talk and she sums it up that she’s gonna confront him about it that night, she does, and when she does around 30 minutes later after their talk he says we’re leaving and I go with him, end of the beginning.


Fast forward after a couple weeks, me and her start talking and I reveal a little bit about what I know, and she drops so much embarrassing shit about him that I never could’ve even guessed was true, and it was absurd.

Since this thread is long as fuck I’ll sum up a bit more, we talk over the span of a few weeks, which turns into months and we start developing a bit of a liking to eachother, (more than friends) which is all behind my homies back btw, which is fucked up of me for not consulting him before I did anything, in which I began pursuing her

a lot of beating around the bush with him, asking him if he still cared abt her without getting to the point, with every response I got from him he seemed more and more cold, and disregarding of her so I took it as a green light before I ACTUALLY went in and did anything.

Fast forward to August, shit slips, he finds out in the worst way, and our friendship is on the line currently, and I’m given the ultimatum of either her or him.

In my POV he made the decision on whether he cared about her or not when he cheated on her multiple times for a year out of their 2yr relationship, so there would be no reason for him to be upset, the only thing I can see him being reasonably mad at me for is the fact that I did not consult him about it before I did anything drastic.

all the friends I had found out, cut me off, and he is the only one I still talk to (the girls ex) and who is willing to rekindle things regarding our friendship, and the way I see it is I lose both ways, the ltr could possibly sink in a few months and I have no friends, or I leave her and my friend ends up dropping me due to trust issues, and I lose both of them, I lose either way.

Just looking for some thoughts, if anyone cares enough to ask any questions I’ll answer accordingly

DNR: best friend cheats on girl, after a few months I swoop in, friend gets mad, tells other friends, all of them drop me, friend wants to rekindle things on the term it’s her or him, unsure of what to do now.
 
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if he's saying its you or me he's a faggot bastard like any normal human male would just never speak you again idk go slay his bird and make some new friends I would say I know its easier said than done but
Homeboy doesn't want his girl back he wants OP :what: didn't clock that
 
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if he's saying its you or me he's a faggot bastard like any normal human male would just never speak you again idk go slay his bird and make some new friends I would say I know its easier said than done but
definitely my viewpoint and yes true way easier said than done
 
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Hoes before bros nigga
Correct in this context.

Choose ur friend not the girl cause both will leave you but the girl will do it much more painfully
His friend is a dickhead and is cheating on her anyway. He should take the girl and have some fun. Maybe even have the girl hide the fact that they're together.

Seriously, just get laid.
 
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story time

This all started on July 3rd when my homie decided to invite me over to his girls house to hangout w them for 4th of July, even tho it was the third there was a firework show goin on nearby so I just decided to tag along, now I had a little bit of a crush on my friends girlfriend prior to this but would I have ever stepped in between their relationship while it was going on? absolutely not.

we go to the firework show blah blah n that happens, I try to fake being NT the whole night but around the end of it I’m extremely fuckin plastered and can’t control my emotions, I start crying but my face is hidden so it just looks like I’m passed out drunk for the most part, the reason for this is I felt like if I could have something like he had then maybe life wouldn’t be as fucking shitty as it was, and that was the thought consistently in my head, everyone was too drunk to notice what was going on so I locked the fuck in and continued my nt larp n everyone was too drunk to realize anything so they bought it.

This woman he was with is low-mhtb and my friend is mid mtn for the most part, she’s extremely sweet and caring which is what I’ve longed for for a while now, for the longest time prior to this she made it seem a bit like she was practically coming onto me while she was in a relationship with my friend so of course I didn’t act on anything, or read into it as much until i developed my micro crush for a bit, and that’s where I got to the point of thinking about it more often, at any hangout between the 3 of us it was always me that she’d interact with more than her own boyfriend and she was awfully playful with me n chatty, in ways where if I had a girlfriend and she was doing that with another man I’d look at it suspiciously, maybe my friend did at the time too but just didn’t let me know it.

Back to the 3rd of July, me and him are hanging out both plastered drunk in said girlfriends room with a couple of her friends over and they’re nowhere to be seen, at some point she pops back into the room and asks her then boyfriend for his phone to play music (lie) my homie was too drunk to do anything about it so he handed his phone over willingly and thought nothing of it, neither did I, until I’m out scavenging for something to eat in her kitchen later on where the girlfriend of my friend walks over to me and starts a conversation, we get on the topic of him and what he’s like, and then she hits me with the question “is he cheating on me” and at this point I don’t really know what to say so I kinda dodge the question (I knew he was the whole time, but wasn’t gonna say anything) I play it off as very unknowing and oblivious until she reveals she went through his phone, and saw MULTIPLE pictures/videos spanning over a year and a half (they were in a relationship for 2 years) of girls, AND boys that he’s cheated on her with.

Fast forward to the next morning, we have a long talk and she sums it up that she’s gonna confront him about it that night, she does, and when she does around 30 minutes later after their talk he says we’re leaving and I go with him, end of the beginning.


Fast forward after a couple weeks, me and her start talking and I reveal a little bit about what I know, and she drops so much embarrassing shit about him that I never could’ve even guessed was true, and it was absurd.

Since this thread is long as fuck I’ll sum up a bit more, we talk over the span of a few weeks, which turns into months and we start developing a bit of a liking to eachother, (more than friends) which is all behind my homies back btw, which is fucked up of me for not consulting him before I did anything, in which I began pursuing her

a lot of beating around the bush with him, asking him if he still cared abt her without getting to the point, with every response I got from him he seemed more and more cold, and disregarding of her so I took it as a green light before I ACTUALLY went in and did anything.

Fast forward to August, shit slips, he finds out in the worst way, and our friendship is on the line currently, and I’m given the ultimatum of either her or him.

In my POV he made the decision on whether he cared about her or not when he cheated on her multiple times for a year out of their 2yr relationship, so there would be no reason for him to be upset, the only thing I can see him being reasonably mad at me for is the fact that I did not consult him about it before I did anything drastic.

all the friends I had found out, cut me off, and he is the only one I still talk to (the girls ex) and who is willing to rekindle things regarding our friendship, and the way I see it is I lose both ways, the ltr could possibly sink in a few months and I have no friends, or I leave her and my friend ends up dropping me due to trust issues, and I lose both of them, I lose either way.

Just looking for some thoughts, if anyone cares enough to ask any questions I’ll answer accordingly

DNR: best friend cheats on girl, after a few months I swoop in, friend gets mad, tells other friends, all of them drop me, friend wants to rekindle things on the term it’s her or him, unsure of what to do now.
Youre weird for liking her in the first place while she was dating your friend but i guess him being a pos and cheating makes up for that. If possible pick your friends and then keep a relationship w her on the dl
 
Youre weird for liking her in the first place while she was dating your friend but i guess him being a pos and cheating makes up for that. If possible pick your friends and then keep a relationship w her on the dl
was thinkin that, but this dude was out here sayin girls n dudes were cute while he was inna relationship w her even before I had a thing for her so, ig if u look at it that way it’s tha same shit ☠️
 
was thinkin that, but this dude was out here sayin girls n dudes were cute while he was inna relationship w her even before I had a thing for her so, ig if u look at it that way it’s tha same shit ☠️
ya the dudes shit was weird asf lmao, lowkey is it even worth being friends with a fag jester when u can get some play?
 
ya the dudes shit was weird asf lmao, lowkey is it even worth being friends with a fag jester when u can get some play?
eh even though all my friends were lame and fake as fuck it was still fun to party wit em, gonna miss that cus I absolutely hate being fucking alone at the house 24/7, gfs work schedule is so fucked I don’t get to see her that much throughout the week, might just work on making new friends
 

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