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This thread is a come-back to a thread i made yesterday, in which over 2 pages of people admitted they ALSO didn't looksmax at all, and are there only to rot on offtopic.
This was pretty eye opening.
A lot of admins like saying that this site ISN'T a rotting place.
But.. obviously this couldn't be away from the truth, i mean, even the person writing this thread, has 20000 posts with 19000 of them being in offtopic, and there's countless of users just like me.
Countless of users with thousands of reps, thousands of post, that completed barely any looksmaxes and barely any effort at life in general.
I want to make an analogy that will make starting this topic easier:
A lot of us saw an animation about drugs, called 'nuggets' - It's main message was "drug addiction is basically constantly chasing the high"
Well i'd like to compare that to the offtopic section of this site. As a user you're constantly chasing the high of this little thing right here:
- but wait.. that doesn't look like the big DOPAMINE hit you always want..
how about this?
Now we're talking! Imagine the numbers of replies, the reps, the quotes! The so many mentions that you can reply to.
All that is to say, you think that you're addicted to the content of the site, when it couldn't be further from the truth. You're addicted to the rewards:
The reputation points.
The notifications.
The quotes.
The reactions.
The feeling of opening the site and seeing a red number in the top corner.
At some point you stop making posts because you have something to say, and you start making them because you're chasing the next hit of your sweet notification dopamine..
And when the bell button looks like this:
You hit this point:
And the high stops.. so you sit more on the site, make another post, another comment, another 5 notificaitons, maybe 10, maybe 20? who knows, the suprise is half the fun right?
And this is why offtopic is the best dopamine simulator for your brain, aka. the best drug.
Imagine you post a detailed, 10000 word guide on looksmaxing sub forum.
No replies?
first bump
second bump
still no replies? maybe i should give up, it's embarassing aleady..
nah, third bump
finally, someone replies, your brain floods with dopamine, just for the reply to be 'dnr'
This is the lowest point you can be, so you go to offtopic chasing that high there instead of looksmaxing.
And then, ask yourself this:
Which thread gives more dopamine?
- A detailed guide that gets 3 replies?
- Or a low effort bait thread that gets 150 notifications, 40 reactions and 10 pages of arguments?
The anwser is obvious.
And of course, the 'viral' posts are never related to looksmaxing.
Why would they be?
Nobody gets 50 notifications from posting "remember to floss."
Nobody gets 10 pages from posting "eat healthy and sleep well."
The dopamine is in the arguments.
The drama.
The bait posting.
The negativity.
This is exactly why offtopic is the most popular subforum here, despite it being a looksmaxing site.
It's all deeply embedded in the endless 'doomscroll' dopamine, the endless slop.
I also frequently compare offtopic to a slot mashine. The same way in a slot mashine most pulls give you jackshit, but the one in a 100 pulls gives you the jackpot, the same way in offtopic most of your posts don't fulfill your dopamine desires untill the offtopic gods bless you with 50 notifications, and that's what you're truly chasing, that's what keeps you coming back.. (funnily enough i also say the same comparison about league of legends)
So, why should you stop?
Because one day you'll wake up and realize that absolutely nothing changed. Yeah your post count went up, maybe you even hit your big goal of imaginary forum post to rep ratio!..
But.. did you make any progress in real life in that time? Do you truly think the 50 hours you spent on offtopic helped you in any way? Yeah maybe you gained some information, maybe some meaningless conversations.. but you also gain information on tiktok, and that's one of the worst dopamine addictions out there.
The worst part about offtopic isn't that it inherently ruins your life or is painful, it's that it's actually comfortable. You can sit here for hours chasing the high and feel absolutely nothing, yet the first thing you'll do in the morning is check your org notifications.
And you joined because you wanted to looksmax. You wanted help with a gym schedule or maybe learn a thing or two, but then you sit down on offtopic for '20' minutes, have a few laughs, have a few meaningful conversations, some cool notifications.. and suddenly it's been 6 hours.
Then, suddenly it's been a month
Then suddenly a year, and thousands of posts.
And you've done no meaningful progress. You didn't talk to that one girl, stopped going to the gym regularily, and maybe even gave up on your diet, in favor of rotting. I mean what's the point anymore right? Might aswell rot some more after you're done reading this thread.
I know this feeling, because i've been there myself.
The reality is that nobody is going to care how many reputation points you had on Looksmax.org in ten years.
Nobody will care that you were a lookism legend.
Nobody is going to care about your post count.
Nobody is going to care that your eviscaration thread got 105 pages.
But people will care if you're healthy.
People will care if you're successful.
People will care if you're confident.
People will care if you built something.
And most importantly, you'll care.
Because at the end of the day, a notification is gone after 5 seconds.
The things you build in real life stay with you.
The forum should be something you use.
It shouldn't be something that uses you.
I'll most likely be self banning after this thread finished it's rounds to focus on IRL activities. Hopefully people that struggle with IRL use this as an incentive.
You might think to yourself that it's just a forum, but it's much more than that. At first i wanted to say that it's an escape from reality, but it's much closer to the replacament of it. Before this forum i had a girlfriend, i had 20000 steps a day in deep forests, and i was at the absolute peak of my looks - after a few months on this site i have none of the above.
Think about how you want to spend your hours. Actually improving your life, or being addicted to offtopic.
Self ban for a week, maybe a month, and see how much your life improves. You might not want to listen to me, but why not test it yourself?
Peace out.
@Jason Voorhees @Daddy's Home @Starborn @Gargantuan @tuberculosisinmybal
This was pretty eye opening.
A lot of admins like saying that this site ISN'T a rotting place.
But.. obviously this couldn't be away from the truth, i mean, even the person writing this thread, has 20000 posts with 19000 of them being in offtopic, and there's countless of users just like me.
Countless of users with thousands of reps, thousands of post, that completed barely any looksmaxes and barely any effort at life in general.
I want to make an analogy that will make starting this topic easier:
A lot of us saw an animation about drugs, called 'nuggets' - It's main message was "drug addiction is basically constantly chasing the high"
Well i'd like to compare that to the offtopic section of this site. As a user you're constantly chasing the high of this little thing right here:
how about this?
Now we're talking! Imagine the numbers of replies, the reps, the quotes! The so many mentions that you can reply to.
All that is to say, you think that you're addicted to the content of the site, when it couldn't be further from the truth. You're addicted to the rewards:
The reputation points.
The notifications.
The quotes.
The reactions.
The feeling of opening the site and seeing a red number in the top corner.
At some point you stop making posts because you have something to say, and you start making them because you're chasing the next hit of your sweet notification dopamine..
And when the bell button looks like this:
You hit this point:
And the high stops.. so you sit more on the site, make another post, another comment, another 5 notificaitons, maybe 10, maybe 20? who knows, the suprise is half the fun right?
And this is why offtopic is the best dopamine simulator for your brain, aka. the best drug.
Imagine you post a detailed, 10000 word guide on looksmaxing sub forum.
No replies?
first bump
second bump
still no replies? maybe i should give up, it's embarassing aleady..
nah, third bump
finally, someone replies, your brain floods with dopamine, just for the reply to be 'dnr'
This is the lowest point you can be, so you go to offtopic chasing that high there instead of looksmaxing.
And then, ask yourself this:
Which thread gives more dopamine?
- A detailed guide that gets 3 replies?
- Or a low effort bait thread that gets 150 notifications, 40 reactions and 10 pages of arguments?
The anwser is obvious.
And of course, the 'viral' posts are never related to looksmaxing.
Why would they be?
Nobody gets 50 notifications from posting "remember to floss."
Nobody gets 10 pages from posting "eat healthy and sleep well."
The dopamine is in the arguments.
The drama.
The bait posting.
The negativity.
This is exactly why offtopic is the most popular subforum here, despite it being a looksmaxing site.
It's all deeply embedded in the endless 'doomscroll' dopamine, the endless slop.
I also frequently compare offtopic to a slot mashine. The same way in a slot mashine most pulls give you jackshit, but the one in a 100 pulls gives you the jackpot, the same way in offtopic most of your posts don't fulfill your dopamine desires untill the offtopic gods bless you with 50 notifications, and that's what you're truly chasing, that's what keeps you coming back.. (funnily enough i also say the same comparison about league of legends)
So, why should you stop?
Because one day you'll wake up and realize that absolutely nothing changed. Yeah your post count went up, maybe you even hit your big goal of imaginary forum post to rep ratio!..
But.. did you make any progress in real life in that time? Do you truly think the 50 hours you spent on offtopic helped you in any way? Yeah maybe you gained some information, maybe some meaningless conversations.. but you also gain information on tiktok, and that's one of the worst dopamine addictions out there.
The worst part about offtopic isn't that it inherently ruins your life or is painful, it's that it's actually comfortable. You can sit here for hours chasing the high and feel absolutely nothing, yet the first thing you'll do in the morning is check your org notifications.
And you joined because you wanted to looksmax. You wanted help with a gym schedule or maybe learn a thing or two, but then you sit down on offtopic for '20' minutes, have a few laughs, have a few meaningful conversations, some cool notifications.. and suddenly it's been 6 hours.
Then, suddenly it's been a month
Then suddenly a year, and thousands of posts.
And you've done no meaningful progress. You didn't talk to that one girl, stopped going to the gym regularily, and maybe even gave up on your diet, in favor of rotting. I mean what's the point anymore right? Might aswell rot some more after you're done reading this thread.
I know this feeling, because i've been there myself.
The reality is that nobody is going to care how many reputation points you had on Looksmax.org in ten years.
Nobody will care that you were a lookism legend.
Nobody is going to care about your post count.
Nobody is going to care that your eviscaration thread got 105 pages.
But people will care if you're healthy.
People will care if you're successful.
People will care if you're confident.
People will care if you built something.
And most importantly, you'll care.
Because at the end of the day, a notification is gone after 5 seconds.
The things you build in real life stay with you.
The forum should be something you use.
It shouldn't be something that uses you.
I'll most likely be self banning after this thread finished it's rounds to focus on IRL activities. Hopefully people that struggle with IRL use this as an incentive.
You might think to yourself that it's just a forum, but it's much more than that. At first i wanted to say that it's an escape from reality, but it's much closer to the replacament of it. Before this forum i had a girlfriend, i had 20000 steps a day in deep forests, and i was at the absolute peak of my looks - after a few months on this site i have none of the above.
Think about how you want to spend your hours. Actually improving your life, or being addicted to offtopic.
Self ban for a week, maybe a month, and see how much your life improves. You might not want to listen to me, but why not test it yourself?
Peace out.
@Jason Voorhees @Daddy's Home @Starborn @Gargantuan @tuberculosisinmybal
