How to act more NT under girls and people.

[Itsnotover77]

I am most likely a aspie; there is a suspected aspergers, but I am still in the process of getting checked precisely and more professional for an OFFICIAL diagnosis.

The thing is I really don’t know how to act perfect NT in partys and mainly when writing with girls I like.

Although I grew up not knowing that I might be a aspie, therefore acting in the thought of being NT, I have the skill to feel if a behaviour is getting to strange, but despite that I have mild problems in social interactions being symphatic and NT.

I have some questions and also would be very happy, if someone could give me mlre of his opinion and individual advices.

1. Is it bad, if I use commas, capital-/ lowercase spelling, periods in sentences, while writing with a girl I like or new friends?

2. Is it bad, if I write very eloquently like a poet or a scientist. It‘ll sound strange, but I am not sure, if they might admire and respect me a bit more or if I just seem strange.

3. How should I respond in chat and real life, when talking about a topic in similar patterns . for example
a: yeah did you go to this yearly festival in your town.
b: yes, I did, it was beautiful.
a: ???

4. And also I sometimes feel strange, when I am in social situations with people I have rare been with, but somehow I came to an situation to chill with them at a cafe, party or etc.
What can I do against it? How should I act; talk to much or be silent and talk when its necessary?
Like how should I behave at such situations.

I am thankful about every serious advice.

thanks​

 

[cash.org]

dont use any periods or they think ur old

 

[pslgod15]

im asperger too

 

[saff]

watch romcoms religiously and take videos of yourself reenacting social scenes

 

[pslgod15]

dont use any periods or they think ur old

gay.org

 

[luuk]

I am most likely a aspie; there is a suspected aspergers, but I am still in the process of getting checked precisely and more professional for an OFFICIAL diagnosis.

The thing is I really don’t know how to act perfect NT in partys and mainly when writing with girls I like.

Although I grew up not knowing that I might be a aspie, therefore acting in the thought of being NT, I have the skill to feel if a behaviour is getting to strange, but despite that I have mild problems in social interactions being symphatic and NT.

I have some questions and also would be very happy, if someone could give me mlre of his opinion and individual advices.

1. Is it bad, if I use commas, capital-/ lowercase spelling, periods in sentences, while writing with a girl I like or new friends?

2. Is it bad, if I write very eloquently like a poet or a scientist. It‘ll sound strange, but I am not sure, if they might admire and respect me a bit more or if I just seem strange.

3. How should I respond in chat and real life, when talking about a topic in similar patterns . for example
a: yeah did you go to this yearly festival in your town.
b: yes, I did, it was beautiful.
a: ???

4. And also I sometimes feel strange, when I am in social situations with people I have rare been with, but somehow I came to an situation to chill with them at a cafe, party or etc.
What can I do against it? How should I act; talk to much or be silent and talk when its necessary?
Like how should I behave at such situations.

I am thankful about every serious advice.

thanks​

1) I generally recommend going no punctuation all lowercase with girls it seems to work better, proper grammar seems overly serious/ND. For guys YMMV its generally less important just adapt to what others in the group do
2) Depends on your execution. If you sound genuinely poetic and interesting it might help but it probably just makes you look aspie
3) It's VERY important to give them something to bounce off of, like another question or a personal experience. Saying it was beautiful isn't bad and probably invites a response but you might be better off asking them about it, being more specific about what you liked or even leading onto the idea of going to it next year with them or smth its all contextual
4) Make small talk and try to break the ice without being overbearing. Again use context to your advantage. If they seem hostile or uninterested then back off for your own sanity. Learn to read social cues to adapt your responses
Merry Christmas

 

[cash.org]

gay.org

its gay to not use periods

what are we doing

 

[ybuyhgui]

Poor guy, do and act the way you want. Stop autistically analyzing every subtlety, it’s about looks and authenticity (trying to force different mannerisms will come off unnatural/ ND).

 

[Itsnotover77]

1) I generally recommend going no punctuation all lowercase with girls it seems to work better, proper grammar seems overly serious/ND. For guys YMMV its generally less important just adapt to what others in the group do
2) Depends on your execution. If you sound genuinely poetic and interesting it might help but it probably just makes you look aspie
3) It's VERY important to give them something to bounce off of, like another question or a personal experience. Saying it was beautiful isn't bad and probably invites a response but you might be better off asking them about it, being more specific about what you liked or even leading onto the idea of going to it next year with them or smth its all contextual
4) Make small talk and try to break the ice without being overbearing. Again use context to your advantage. If they seem hostile or uninterested then back off for your own sanity. Learn to read social cues to adapt your responses
Merry Christmas

I am really thankful. Kiss your heart and marry christmas.<33

 

[Restitutor Orbis]

Okay, I'll bite:
>1. "Does it matter how I text, format wise"
No. Just don't look illiterate or pretentious. If you wanna make sure, just mirror the styles of the people you're texting
>2. "Should I be verbose over text?"
No. Sounds pretentious. Save your wits for speech, some bitches dig it.
>3. "How to keep a convo going when your opposite gives you non-answers?"
Ask for clarification or show interest in something else that's tangentially related. In your example, you could ask "What did you like about that festival?" or "Did you meet new people there?" or "Did you run into somebody you know?" or something along those lines
>4. "How to deal with awkwardness concerning people you barely know but somehow have something to do with?"
Initiative and smalltalk. Something like "I didn't expect to run into you, how have you been?" or "What's [mutual friend] up to?" or "How's school/your job/hobby/[whatever you remember about that person] going?" If they like you, it'll naturally develop into a good conversation. If it stays awkward, there will be disengagement signals, mostly flatness of tone, short answers and closed body language. Atp cut it short and go along with your day.

 

[Itsnotover77]

Okay, I'll bite:
>1. "Does it matter how I text, format wise"
No. Just don't look illiterate or pretentious. If you wanna make sure, just mirror the styles of the people you're texting
>2. "Should I be verbose over text?"
No. Sounds pretentious. Save your wits for speech, some bitches dig it.
>3. "How to keep a convo going when your opposite gives you non-answers?"
Ask for clarification or show interest in something else that's tangentially related. In your example, you could ask "What did you like about that festival?" or "Did you meet new people there?" or "Did you run into somebody you know?" or something along those lines
>4. "How to deal with awkwardness concerning people you barely know but somehow have something to do with?"
Initiative and smalltalk. Something like "I didn't expect to run into you, how have you been?" or "What's [mutual friend] up to?" or "How's school/your job/hobby/[whatever you remember about that person] going?" If they like you, it'll naturally develop into a good conversation. If it stays awkward, there will be disengagement signals, mostly flatness of tone, short answers and closed body language. Atp cut it short and go along with your day.

thanks very much<3