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this is my first "guide" let me know if it is helpful, hopefully the information included is not some retard reddit "just be yourself"
if you think
im so lonellyyy, i fucking hate my life i have no friends im constantly socially osctraized
there is hope for you, it is never over
WHY?
if you think, i am so smart and different, these normies dont understand anything, i dont need to talk to them, we have all been there, however you are a fucking retard faggot and you dont realize it
having friends and people to talk to will make your life better, itll also highly increase your chances of getting some pussy, which feels better than jerking off
there is also the broaden and build theory, essentially broadening your life, which is espiecially done through friends, helps "build" your life, creating lasting resources which can further help broaden your life, in the end making you happier and a more complete person.
ontop of that having friends has many physiological benefits and can help ascend you, better cardiovascular health, enhanced immunity, and mainly, the most important, an upregulation of oyxtocin, which can actually grow your bones " Oxytocin promotes osteoblasts differentiation and function, leading to an increased bone formation with no effect on bone resorption and an improvement of bone microarchitecture." (source: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8395200/)
HOWEVER, most people, most likely including you reading this does want friends, and just doesnt know how, maybe you are socially osctraized anytime you talk to someone, have high anxiety, etc, to achieve this, we must understand what makes you have friends, and what makes people sociable.
REQUIRMENTS
if you are any of these, its over for you, until you change this people will not want to talk to you
genuine physical deformity
EXTREME, and i mean EXTREME reccession (if your recessed dont worry about it)
unhygienic, this is pretty self explanatory, if you look dirty, smell bad, etc, you are automatically gonna have a worse reputation and not pleasant to be around.
cut your nails, get a clean, well put together haircut, get some deoderant, wash your clothes, wear cologne, doing this does not mean your gonna have girls flocking to fuck you like your a pharoah, but it will at the minimum allow people to be near you
NOW THE REAL INFO
the reason it is hard for most people to be social, espiecially those with autism, self aware, or genuinely above average iq, is that socializing revolves inherently around what is not real, their reactions, emotions, opinions, its all made up, social interactions at their foundation are based on something real, but the real socializing is not real, perhaps you think its "performative", that this socializing "game" is corny and retarded, which it is, but to be honest you genuinely just have to ignore this, maybe this is cope, but their is a certain childhood innocence in the logic of this socializing, in the same sense of kids playing with toys, when your around kids, and you have fun with them, you play with them or whatever, even though you subconciously know their idiots, you have fun with them for the sake of their innocence, socializing with normies is similar.
once you get past this idea of disdaining socializing, what makes you socialable? what makes people want to talk to you?
firstly, you must show reaction and be "present", if your constantly monotone, and "nonchalant" people are not gonna want to talk to you, afterall their talking to you to get a reaction, no one wants to talk to a brick wall.
you also want to be welcoming and not cold, simple as just engaging with people, whether thats waving back, laughing with people in a group, etc, will help alot.
second (humor, what makes people like to talk to you), be funny, if your above average iq its not hard to be funny, generally, ironizing situations makes most people, aslong as their not deppressed doomer suicidal fags, laugh, lets say a teacher, or someone does something, their talking, or doing something random, even just pointing this out in a playful tone "wtf are they doing??" and ending it with a laugh or smile or something like that could make people crack a smile, another thing, people socialize and base themselves off the people around them, if you laugh people around you are more likely to laugh, so talking in a playful, laughter, or whatever joyous tone is more likely to be recpirocated in the people around you.
HOWEVER, you dont wanna be too extreme, if you are ALWAYS playful, people will not take you serious, and theyll limit their view of you to only that, you generally do not want, afterall the end goal of socializing is to be seen and treated as human,
even more important, you dont wanna be too aware, those who constantly point out irony, espieciailly if that irony is directed in a social sense, is detrimental to your reputation, an example if you say "why are you laughing so hard", or basically always making peoples behavior aware, people will see you as ruining the game of socializing, one which is generally supposed to be carefree and playful, you can think about this as if, for example as a kid, your doing some pretend play with your friend, like the sith vs jedis, and someone says "what are you guys doing its not real fag retards" that takes all the fun out of it, constantly ironizing social situations espiecially your friends does exactly that, taking the fun out of the imaginery.
thirdly, (indifference and group harmony)
you dont wanna be too indifferent to the group, however you dont wanna be a complete sheep, the best way to really do this is to not be a pussy but also dont be a retard, if the people around you are drinking, go drink, not only will you not be seen as indifferent, thats also a way to open up convorsations, example "oh can i get a sip of that", small interactions like that over time will make people have a better view of you. but being a sheep makes people think your dependant and weak, you dont wanna be seen as that because in their mind, youll have alot less value as a person, trying to find a balance is the best
IF YOU HAVE SOCIAL ANXIETY
the truth is, and youve probably heard this before, but people really dont care about you that much, get out of your fucking head, the ideological belief that social anxiety stems from is judgement, your going to be evaluated, judged, its in our biologigy as sentient creatures, but people dont care, everyones going through stuff, if something embarresing happens, people may laugh at you, but in a few minutes theyll be onto something new, however, if you cause genuine pain, fear, or trauma to people, they wont forget, thatll leave a scar on their impression on you, so dont be a weirdo, when your in the zone of interactions that can cause that pain fear or repusilveness, dont push your limits, (that doesnt apply to all interactions, sometimes you must push your limits to be more social), honestly if you have social anxiety get out your head, stop being a narrcicist and so self absolved, and go try to have fun, be carefree, people like that.
KEEP IN MIND (important)
sometimes people are not gonna want to talk to you, people get tired, some people might think your too low of a "social reputation" or whatever else retard shit, but the way to react is to not push it, you can tell they dont want to talk to you if their dismissive, if theyve walked away from you (dont be a gay sheep and follow them unless "cued"), if their not asking you about anything (although this could just mean their obsessed with their self, not nessescarily they dont wanna tlak to you), etc, just take it and go talk to someone else, whats worse than being dismissed in a social sense through the cues i stated, is being dismissed forcefully through speech "yo can you stop fucking talking to me bro".
HOW TO APPROACH PEOPLE
approaching people is hard, but its nessescary to make friends, generally you should focus on them to start it, you can compliment their outfit and follow with questions, or you an ask them a question about yourself for example "hey, ive never seen you around here before where are you from?" (warning, if you do this to anyone to good looking or with too high of a smv they might dismiss you and think your a weirdo, but dont think about that), the goal to keep in mind when approaching people is to make some sort of connection between you as a person and them as a person, whether thats location, state of mind, hobbies, fashion, opinions, emotion, etc.
PHARMACEAUTICALS
in my opinion, i dont think anyone needs serious pharma to go socialize, socializing is in our blood its one of the core fundamentals of our evolution and society, for most people its more of an ideological problem (which yes physicological changes through pharma can overcome), than an actual physiological problem, but if you truly insist here is what is best
alchocol
PROS: very common, and initself is an activity with your friends, (participating in common activities is important because its fundamental grounds for socializing to arrouse)
lowers social inhibition, creates sense of euphoria, and less fear/anxiety through increased GABA activity
nicotine
nicotine is the best drug, but why is it good for socializing?
studies have found, nicotine greatly boosts socializing
specifically (source:https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6162172/#S7)
"There was clear evidence that nicotine ingestion improved social functioning. Twelve of the 13 studies found that nicotine administration enhanced social functioning by either increasing positive aspects of functioning or decreasing negative aspects of functioning. Ten studies reported increased positive features of social functioning after nicotine ingestion, such that participants displayed higher self-reported friendliness, extroversion, or composure around others after nicotine ingestion compared to abstinence or low nicotine doses"
however, i would not suggest smoking, its very carcinogenic, and lowers test+hgh and general hormonal function, dont think about ascending if your smoking everyday, instead opt for pouches, good flavor, more convenient, and nicotine effects are more prevalant.
also common knowledge but nicotine is addictive
SSRIS (like sertraline or escitalopram)
these are the best pharmas for socializing, they greatly reduce social anxiety
Improvements include increased social interaction, eye contact, and participation in social settings.
source:
Betablockers (Propranolol, Atenolol, Metoprolol, etc)
Studies show reduced physical symptoms (heart rate, tremor), which increases confidence in social performance.
used to reduce fear of judgement
SUMMARY:
dont be physically repulsive, (smelling bad, extremley ugly to point of repulsion) people will not want to be around you
dont be socially repulsive, react to people when they talk, be there, allow them to talk, when you allow for that socializing to continue theyll like to be in your presence
be playful, socializing is an imaginery game, have fun, dont take it too serious unless the situations calls for it, talking in a happy, exicted, kind of tone will be recpriocated in people around you generally
dont be too aware, again, socializing is an imaginery game, being too aware of your self or others ruins the fun of it
get out of your head, no one cares that much about you, just like you dont care that much about other people, be carefree, you dont have social anxiety, social anxiety has you, through having fun and not caring you can be stronger than it
by the way, let me say i was a social looser last year, i ate lunch alone every day, had 0 friends, whenever someone talked to me id murmur to myself,
this year, i tried to stopped caring, i started trying to have fun when around people, i reacted to them, and try to give them the time of my day, startde being more hygienic, i am still a reccessed sub5, but ive now been able to go to parties, hangout with friends, and i was able to loose my virginity somehow, for the first time in my life, i feel like sometimes i am a normal teenager,
i hope this helps, as i said this is my first time making a "guide", i apologize if its messy but this is simply what helped me
if you think
im so lonellyyy, i fucking hate my life i have no friends im constantly socially osctraized
there is hope for you, it is never over
WHY?
if you think, i am so smart and different, these normies dont understand anything, i dont need to talk to them, we have all been there, however you are a fucking retard faggot and you dont realize it
having friends and people to talk to will make your life better, itll also highly increase your chances of getting some pussy, which feels better than jerking off
there is also the broaden and build theory, essentially broadening your life, which is espiecially done through friends, helps "build" your life, creating lasting resources which can further help broaden your life, in the end making you happier and a more complete person.
ontop of that having friends has many physiological benefits and can help ascend you, better cardiovascular health, enhanced immunity, and mainly, the most important, an upregulation of oyxtocin, which can actually grow your bones " Oxytocin promotes osteoblasts differentiation and function, leading to an increased bone formation with no effect on bone resorption and an improvement of bone microarchitecture." (source: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8395200/)
HOWEVER, most people, most likely including you reading this does want friends, and just doesnt know how, maybe you are socially osctraized anytime you talk to someone, have high anxiety, etc, to achieve this, we must understand what makes you have friends, and what makes people sociable.
REQUIRMENTS
if you are any of these, its over for you, until you change this people will not want to talk to you
genuine physical deformity
EXTREME, and i mean EXTREME reccession (if your recessed dont worry about it)
unhygienic, this is pretty self explanatory, if you look dirty, smell bad, etc, you are automatically gonna have a worse reputation and not pleasant to be around.
cut your nails, get a clean, well put together haircut, get some deoderant, wash your clothes, wear cologne, doing this does not mean your gonna have girls flocking to fuck you like your a pharoah, but it will at the minimum allow people to be near you
NOW THE REAL INFO
the reason it is hard for most people to be social, espiecially those with autism, self aware, or genuinely above average iq, is that socializing revolves inherently around what is not real, their reactions, emotions, opinions, its all made up, social interactions at their foundation are based on something real, but the real socializing is not real, perhaps you think its "performative", that this socializing "game" is corny and retarded, which it is, but to be honest you genuinely just have to ignore this, maybe this is cope, but their is a certain childhood innocence in the logic of this socializing, in the same sense of kids playing with toys, when your around kids, and you have fun with them, you play with them or whatever, even though you subconciously know their idiots, you have fun with them for the sake of their innocence, socializing with normies is similar.
once you get past this idea of disdaining socializing, what makes you socialable? what makes people want to talk to you?
firstly, you must show reaction and be "present", if your constantly monotone, and "nonchalant" people are not gonna want to talk to you, afterall their talking to you to get a reaction, no one wants to talk to a brick wall.
you also want to be welcoming and not cold, simple as just engaging with people, whether thats waving back, laughing with people in a group, etc, will help alot.
second (humor, what makes people like to talk to you), be funny, if your above average iq its not hard to be funny, generally, ironizing situations makes most people, aslong as their not deppressed doomer suicidal fags, laugh, lets say a teacher, or someone does something, their talking, or doing something random, even just pointing this out in a playful tone "wtf are they doing??" and ending it with a laugh or smile or something like that could make people crack a smile, another thing, people socialize and base themselves off the people around them, if you laugh people around you are more likely to laugh, so talking in a playful, laughter, or whatever joyous tone is more likely to be recpirocated in the people around you.
HOWEVER, you dont wanna be too extreme, if you are ALWAYS playful, people will not take you serious, and theyll limit their view of you to only that, you generally do not want, afterall the end goal of socializing is to be seen and treated as human,
even more important, you dont wanna be too aware, those who constantly point out irony, espieciailly if that irony is directed in a social sense, is detrimental to your reputation, an example if you say "why are you laughing so hard", or basically always making peoples behavior aware, people will see you as ruining the game of socializing, one which is generally supposed to be carefree and playful, you can think about this as if, for example as a kid, your doing some pretend play with your friend, like the sith vs jedis, and someone says "what are you guys doing its not real fag retards" that takes all the fun out of it, constantly ironizing social situations espiecially your friends does exactly that, taking the fun out of the imaginery.
thirdly, (indifference and group harmony)
you dont wanna be too indifferent to the group, however you dont wanna be a complete sheep, the best way to really do this is to not be a pussy but also dont be a retard, if the people around you are drinking, go drink, not only will you not be seen as indifferent, thats also a way to open up convorsations, example "oh can i get a sip of that", small interactions like that over time will make people have a better view of you. but being a sheep makes people think your dependant and weak, you dont wanna be seen as that because in their mind, youll have alot less value as a person, trying to find a balance is the best
IF YOU HAVE SOCIAL ANXIETY
the truth is, and youve probably heard this before, but people really dont care about you that much, get out of your fucking head, the ideological belief that social anxiety stems from is judgement, your going to be evaluated, judged, its in our biologigy as sentient creatures, but people dont care, everyones going through stuff, if something embarresing happens, people may laugh at you, but in a few minutes theyll be onto something new, however, if you cause genuine pain, fear, or trauma to people, they wont forget, thatll leave a scar on their impression on you, so dont be a weirdo, when your in the zone of interactions that can cause that pain fear or repusilveness, dont push your limits, (that doesnt apply to all interactions, sometimes you must push your limits to be more social), honestly if you have social anxiety get out your head, stop being a narrcicist and so self absolved, and go try to have fun, be carefree, people like that.
KEEP IN MIND (important)
sometimes people are not gonna want to talk to you, people get tired, some people might think your too low of a "social reputation" or whatever else retard shit, but the way to react is to not push it, you can tell they dont want to talk to you if their dismissive, if theyve walked away from you (dont be a gay sheep and follow them unless "cued"), if their not asking you about anything (although this could just mean their obsessed with their self, not nessescarily they dont wanna tlak to you), etc, just take it and go talk to someone else, whats worse than being dismissed in a social sense through the cues i stated, is being dismissed forcefully through speech "yo can you stop fucking talking to me bro".
HOW TO APPROACH PEOPLE
approaching people is hard, but its nessescary to make friends, generally you should focus on them to start it, you can compliment their outfit and follow with questions, or you an ask them a question about yourself for example "hey, ive never seen you around here before where are you from?" (warning, if you do this to anyone to good looking or with too high of a smv they might dismiss you and think your a weirdo, but dont think about that), the goal to keep in mind when approaching people is to make some sort of connection between you as a person and them as a person, whether thats location, state of mind, hobbies, fashion, opinions, emotion, etc.
PHARMACEAUTICALS
in my opinion, i dont think anyone needs serious pharma to go socialize, socializing is in our blood its one of the core fundamentals of our evolution and society, for most people its more of an ideological problem (which yes physicological changes through pharma can overcome), than an actual physiological problem, but if you truly insist here is what is best
alchocol
PROS: very common, and initself is an activity with your friends, (participating in common activities is important because its fundamental grounds for socializing to arrouse)
lowers social inhibition, creates sense of euphoria, and less fear/anxiety through increased GABA activity
nicotine
nicotine is the best drug, but why is it good for socializing?
studies have found, nicotine greatly boosts socializing
specifically (source:https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6162172/#S7)
"There was clear evidence that nicotine ingestion improved social functioning. Twelve of the 13 studies found that nicotine administration enhanced social functioning by either increasing positive aspects of functioning or decreasing negative aspects of functioning. Ten studies reported increased positive features of social functioning after nicotine ingestion, such that participants displayed higher self-reported friendliness, extroversion, or composure around others after nicotine ingestion compared to abstinence or low nicotine doses"
however, i would not suggest smoking, its very carcinogenic, and lowers test+hgh and general hormonal function, dont think about ascending if your smoking everyday, instead opt for pouches, good flavor, more convenient, and nicotine effects are more prevalant.
also common knowledge but nicotine is addictive
SSRIS (like sertraline or escitalopram)
these are the best pharmas for socializing, they greatly reduce social anxiety
Improvements include increased social interaction, eye contact, and participation in social settings.
source:
Betablockers (Propranolol, Atenolol, Metoprolol, etc)
Studies show reduced physical symptoms (heart rate, tremor), which increases confidence in social performance.
used to reduce fear of judgement
SUMMARY:
dont be physically repulsive, (smelling bad, extremley ugly to point of repulsion) people will not want to be around you
dont be socially repulsive, react to people when they talk, be there, allow them to talk, when you allow for that socializing to continue theyll like to be in your presence
be playful, socializing is an imaginery game, have fun, dont take it too serious unless the situations calls for it, talking in a happy, exicted, kind of tone will be recpriocated in people around you generally
dont be too aware, again, socializing is an imaginery game, being too aware of your self or others ruins the fun of it
get out of your head, no one cares that much about you, just like you dont care that much about other people, be carefree, you dont have social anxiety, social anxiety has you, through having fun and not caring you can be stronger than it
by the way, let me say i was a social looser last year, i ate lunch alone every day, had 0 friends, whenever someone talked to me id murmur to myself,
this year, i tried to stopped caring, i started trying to have fun when around people, i reacted to them, and try to give them the time of my day, startde being more hygienic, i am still a reccessed sub5, but ive now been able to go to parties, hangout with friends, and i was able to loose my virginity somehow, for the first time in my life, i feel like sometimes i am a normal teenager,
i hope this helps, as i said this is my first time making a "guide", i apologize if its messy but this is simply what helped me
