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Why Should I Become Toxic?
Many studies have proven time and time again that women don't like the nice and emotionally available guys.
www.newsweek.com
www.psychologytoday.com
www.psychologytoday.com
pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
As seen from these studies there doesn't really seem to be a disadvantage to having toxic behaviors, at least for when determining sexual success.
What Makes People Toxic?
Mental Illness
Toxic traits can stem from a form of mental illness. For example, people with anxiety will tend to be more needy and force your partner to show their loyalty to you or people with depressive tendencies may use a victim mentality as a form of toxic behavior (I'm not going after people with mental illnesses here, calm down).
Being a Pathological Liar
Telling constant lies to make yourself seem like a victim. Being able to lie well and consistently also means you will be much better at hiding your toxic traits or brushing people off if they call you out for being toxic.
Having Dark Triad Traits
What are the Traits of Toxic People?
Here I will go through traits that you can use to your advantage and tips on doing them.
Being Demanding
Almost forcing the other person to do things for you with a lot of time and effort on their part.
Tips
en.wikipedia.org
www.neurosciencemarketing.com
Not Apologizing
Don't apologize for things, even if you're in the wrong.
Tips
Being a Victim
When someone tries to point something out or say something about your attitude, play the victim.
Tips
Putting Others Down
Making fun of things like their body, jobs, voice etc.
Tips
Lack of Contact
Not communicating with the person for extended period.
Tips
Not Talking about your Emotions
being emotionally closed off
Tips
Don't offer to help with stuff
If asked to help with something of reasonable effort, don't help
Tips
Threaten to Break things off
When you want to have more control over the person or want to see how much control you have, threaten to break things off with them.
With Who Should I Use This On?
Make sure that you only use this on sexual partners that aren't close to your social circle. You do not want to be ousted as a toxic person in your social circle otherwise you'll get a bad reputation and lose that social circle. Also, go out of your way to be nice to people you aren't sexually attracted to, this will make it seem like you have no ill intentions and make it less believable if somebody called you out for toxic behavior.
Many studies have proven time and time again that women don't like the nice and emotionally available guys.
Study Finds That Men Like Nice Women, But Not the Other Way Around
Research suggests that if you want to charm a woman at the bar, you may want to turn down the niceness.
www.newsweek.com
Why Do Women Fall for Bad Boys?
Why do the wrong men feel so right? A new study offers some answers.
Why Do Women Fall for Serial Killers?
Women frequently betray a strong erotic preference for dominant males.
Narcissism and newlywed marriage: Partner characteristics and marital trajectories - PubMed
Despite narcissism's relation with interpersonal dysfunction, surprisingly little empirical research has been devoted to understanding narcissism's effect on intimate relationships in general or marital relationships in particular. The current study addressed this gap using longitudinal data...
pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
As seen from these studies there doesn't really seem to be a disadvantage to having toxic behaviors, at least for when determining sexual success.
What Makes People Toxic?
Mental Illness
Toxic traits can stem from a form of mental illness. For example, people with anxiety will tend to be more needy and force your partner to show their loyalty to you or people with depressive tendencies may use a victim mentality as a form of toxic behavior (I'm not going after people with mental illnesses here, calm down).
Being a Pathological Liar
Telling constant lies to make yourself seem like a victim. Being able to lie well and consistently also means you will be much better at hiding your toxic traits or brushing people off if they call you out for being toxic.
Having Dark Triad Traits
- Narcissism - Lack of empathy means you don't feel bad for your toxic behaviors. Additionally, egotism will mean you see yourself favorably even with toxic traits.
- Machiavellianism - Higher level of self interest means you'll be more open to the manipulation that comes with toxic behaviors.
- Psychopathy - Being unemotional, selfish and unremorseful will make you completely numb to the damage your toxic behaviors cause.
What are the Traits of Toxic People?
Here I will go through traits that you can use to your advantage and tips on doing them.
Being Demanding
Almost forcing the other person to do things for you with a lot of time and effort on their part.
Tips
- Use the Foot in the door technique. This is a tactic whereby you make someone agree to larger requests by starting off with small and modest requests. For example, you can start off by asking them things like "Hey, pass me that bottle of water" or "Why don't you cook tonight?" make sure you increase the demands slowly, don't go from asking to pass you something to asking for money, you need to make it so it isn't noticeable.
Foot-in-the-door technique - Wikipedia
- Demanding stuff from people also is good to build a subconscious rapport with people, namely through the Ben Franklin effect. This is by where a person who has performed a favor for someone will generally have a more favorable opinion of them.
How to Use the Ben Franklin Effect to Increase Loyalty
If you want to increase customer loyalty, the Ben Franklin Effect is a counterintuitive but effective technique.
Not Apologizing
Don't apologize for things, even if you're in the wrong.
Tips
- Blame someone else, even if it is not their fault. Don't blame people too close to you though cause this can have dire consequences.
- Always make excuses, i.e. "I'm late cause I got held up by someone else, i'll be there soon".
- Avoid saying Sorry
Being a Victim
When someone tries to point something out or say something about your attitude, play the victim.
Tips
- Don't overuse this method, people will start to get annoyed very easily. You probably know a person who is like this, they will always talk about how life never goes right for them and things like that.
- Mainly use this method for blame reversal. If someone starts to blame you for something, start to play the victim, make them feel bad about what they said, say things like "I try my hardest, but it never seems good enough for you" or "Don't you realize how much that hurts?" even when it isn't your true feelings.
Putting Others Down
Making fun of things like their body, jobs, voice etc.
Tips
- Hide behind the facade of sarcasm. Though you are being "sarcastic" they will still feel insecure from your comments. You can probably relate to this if someone said something about your appearance then said "haha I was just joking"
Lack of Contact
Not communicating with the person for extended period.
Tips
- Spend 8-12 hours not contacting the person, you can have a valid reason or you can make a reason up.
- Don't be upset if they do the same to you, a lot of people nowadays like to play a messaging game of "they didn't respond for 2 hours so I wont" even if they saw the message.
- Be sudden. Don't slowly pull away contact, be normal or maybe even excessive in communication then cut it off suddenly for a few days. The idea of this method is to make them ponder while you aren't contacting them. Make them think they did something wrong. Be sure to make a good excuse when you message back , maybe say a relative died or you were changing phone provider.
Not Talking about your Emotions
being emotionally closed off
Tips
- Don't talk about how you feel with someone, keep them guessing about how you feel. Don't be a dead pan psychotic emotionless person, still talk about emotions sparingly.
Don't offer to help with stuff
If asked to help with something of reasonable effort, don't help
Tips
- Don't flat out say "No", make a good excuse like you're busy.
- Even smaller things you can "Jokingly Refuse" to help, e.g. if someone asks you to pass something in reach you can be like "My arms are too tired"
Threaten to Break things off
When you want to have more control over the person or want to see how much control you have, threaten to break things off with them.
- This works especially well with people who have abandonment issues, they will absolutely dread this and will do anything in their power to keep you.
- When first trying it out don't say "I think we shouldn't see each other" outright, that only works at later stages when you can gauge if someone will take those threats seriously. Initially, say things like "We don't seem on the same wavelength" or "We always seem to argue", don't directly talk about it at first but elude to it.
- This is really the ultimate test, only start to use this if you know they are addicted to you and can't get enough.
With Who Should I Use This On?
Make sure that you only use this on sexual partners that aren't close to your social circle. You do not want to be ousted as a toxic person in your social circle otherwise you'll get a bad reputation and lose that social circle. Also, go out of your way to be nice to people you aren't sexually attracted to, this will make it seem like you have no ill intentions and make it less believable if somebody called you out for toxic behavior.
