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I receive almost no positive feedback from people and I almost only receive negative feedback (because of my looks, lack of social skills, etc.). What can I do to develop a confidence without any kind of validation from most people? How can I stop caring about my looks?
 
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You need to warm up first, build positive energy and approach some random people enthusiastically giving them compliments like "nice shirt, man!", "I like your shoes!", etc. - watch how this guy builds his confidence in just a few minutes:

I'm taking about having self-worth.
 
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Are you saying that when I blush like crazy, look down and act submisive, I'm being like a girl?
no shit bro. Thats not confidence.
 
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That's ego. I mean, confidence for one self. Knowing your own worth without caring about people.
Literally impossible. Humans are tribal creatures. We are evolved to care about what people think. The only way to get confidence is to get so much external validation from people, that the opinion of one person doesn't matter to you.
 
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Literally impossible. Humans are tribal creatures. We are evolved to care about what people think. The only way to get confidence is to get so much external validation from people, that the opinion of one person doesn't matter to you.
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Literally impossible. Humans are tribal creatures. We are evolved to care about what people think. The only way to get confidence is to get so much external validation from people, that the opinion of one person doesn't matter to you.
Then how do I begin to get validation? Girls call me ugly behind my back and people from here have told me that I need surgery but I don't care enough to get it. Isn't there any to dehumanize the people who give me negative feedback?
 
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Then how do I begin to get validation? Girls call me ugly behind my back and people from here have told me that I need surgery but I don't care enough to get it. Isn't there any to dehumanize the people who give me negative feedback?
Can you link me a photo pls.
 
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I receive almost no positive feedback from people and I almost only receive negative feedback (because of my looks, lack of social skills, etc.). What can I do to develop a confidence without any kind of validation from most people? How can I stop caring about my looks?
You can't be confident if you aren't satisfied with yourself, you can try to fake it but it's easy to tell.
Also some drugs might help but not an expert on it tbh
 
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I'm taking about having self-worth.
Power poses, chest thumping, screaming, howling, watch how athletes motivate themselves before working out.
 
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You can't be confident if you aren't satisfied with yourself, you can try to fake it but it's easy to tell.
Also some drugs might help but not an expert on it tbh
True. I'll try to be satisfied with myself.
 
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Careermax and get your validation there. Basically find an outlet to excel in.
 
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