How to have a self-steem without validation?

[Deleted member 10699]

How can someone have a self-steem without any kind of positive feedback/validation from people. With mostly negative feedback, I mean. It's possible?

 

[everythingisacope]

no.You get self esteem through experience and maybe validation from others.If both negative === low self esteem

 

[Growth Plate]

You're going to have more self-esteem as a gymmaxxed guy than being a skinny guy that's more likely to be picked on for sure

 

[Deleted member 4797]

mogging women

 

[Looks234]

Tell yourself you love yourself every night

 

[Deleted member 10699]

no.You get self esteem through experience and maybe validation from others.If both negative === low self esteem

I know that. Will looksmaxxing benefit me, socially speaking? I'm looksmaxxing because of that, I want to develop a good self-steem and confidence.

 

[JustAFewMM]

i have 0 because rarely get validation

 

[everythingisacope]

I know that. Will looksmaxxing benefit me, socially speaking? I'm looksmaxxing because of that, I want to develop a good self-steem and confidence.

looksmaxxing gets you more atrention,validation, thus more self esteem and better experiences

 

[sergeant blackpill]

How can someone have a self-steem without any kind of positive feedback/validation from people. With mostly negative feedback, I mean. It's possible?

The truth about this question is unfortunate, and that is why PUA/redpillers are so popular.

The truth is your self esteem is hardly within your control at all, it is an automatically regulated process. The more you set your mind to something and it works out in your favor, the higher your self esteem will naturally rise, and why wouldn't it, you set your mind to something and it worked out the way you wanted to, things are within your control, the opposite is true if everything you do is always a disaster. and even the baseline of people's receptiveness to your desireability or lack thereof plays a big role, whether people smile at you genuinely when they see you etc.

 

[Deleted member 3323]

How can someone have a self-steem without any kind of positive feedback/validation from people. With mostly negative feedback, I mean. It's possible?

Self esteem is your relationship with yourself, not with others.


If you're honest, hard working, and nice to yourself but realistic then you have good self esteem.


You need to self-accept, be assertive, be consciously aware - never operating in a fog, and you need to be self-responsible for your own life. If you aren't any of those your self esteem will crumble.


If you're relying on the feedback of others then its already low as shit.

 

[aussielooksmaxxer2]

Liquor normally makes me feel like I’m the fucking shit so try that

 

[Effortless]

Self esteem is your relationship with yourself, not with others.


If you're honest, hard working, and nice to yourself but realistic then you have good self esteem.


You need to self-accept, be assertive, be consciously aware - never operating in a fog, and you need to be self-responsible for your own life. If you aren't any of those your self esteem will crumble.


If you're relying on the feedback of others then its already low as shit.

This.

This is true self-esteem, needing feedback/validation to feel good is ego.

 

[Deleted member 4123]

Dont you need validation for self esteem?

 

[Deleted member 5746]

Self esteem is utter cope. People always slightly overrate themselves/hyoe themselves up if anything. If a man gets rejected he blames it on anything but his looks in order to conserve his self esteem. If u have low self esteem that just means ur ugly and u suck at coping with it

 

[Mongrelcel]

Self esteem without results is arrogance and delusion

 

[Deleted member 756]

Self esteem is utter cope. People always slightly overrate themselves/hyoe themselves up if anything. If a man gets rejected he blames it on anything but his looks in order to conserve his self esteem. If u have low self esteem that just means ur ugly and u suck at coping with it

hypergamy is a cope

explain this?

 

[Mastermind]

How can someone have a self-steem without any kind of positive feedback/validation from people. With mostly negative feedback, I mean. It's possible?

You get it
That's what this whole "blackpill" meme stuff is about

 

[DatNibba11]

Look at the mirror and tell yourself how ugly you are daily, sooner or later your gonna rope which will solve the problem

 

[Deleted member 11143]

i have 0 because rarely get validation

me 2 tbh